#adulting is bullshit

[country-n-sassy]

Well, in preparation for my birthday, I have decided to change to whiskey... lol.

Anyone care to join me?

I'm an emotional girl

I can't help myself

Sometimes I laugh

Sometimes I cry

Sometimes I do both and I don't know why

Birthday mood...🤣

[prepollent-coquette]

[imanalbertross]

We expect people to suddenly stop needing a lot of things as they age. Some are trivial, like fashion for men or colors in clothing. More are less so, like the need for regular breaks, time to decompress, or making friends. It's not healthy and I've decided to stop acting like it is.

[bananasfostergrants2]

When I was younger I wanted a pony

Now I want tupperware that fUCKING MATCHES WHERE IS THE GODDAMN LID

[brainfuzz]

On the best pieces of advice I got when I got married was to make sure my name was listed first on at least some of the bills/credit cards so we both have credit history.

My husband and I have a joint account, and we've always pooled our money. Both of us have always worked as well, so we each have always had income. However, when you set up joint accounts, people always default to putting the man's name first. What we did was set up some utilities in his name, and some in mine. We each had our own credit cards (that got paid out of the joint account) so we'd have our own credit history. Over time, we've divvied up the financial responsibilities where I handle the bills and general operating expenses, and he handles the long term investments.

Also, if your spouse works and you don't, you do qualify for social security, but its survivor's benefits, and is much less than if you worked, and will be less than the worker's normal SS check.

the funniest thing about the tiktok tradwife craze is people learning financial abuse exists but like, as a hypothetical. "wait what if the relationship doesn't work out and you have nothing of your own and nowhere to go?" congratulations you figured out a common reason people remain in abusive relationships and why it's important to maintain some level of financial independence

[merlin926]

I closed tonight and I open tomorrow. And I agreed to this so I can have Thursday off. Who let me be an adult? Who decided I am responsible enough to make these horrible decisions? Disgusting.

[teaboot]

Kind of a random hill to die on rn but "You'd eat this thing you hate if you got hungry enough" does not set a reasonable expectation of what "hungry enough" means for people with food problems.

Like, are we talking "stomach grumbling" hungry enough, or "can't stand up" hungry enough? Cause personally, I can make myself eat a bit of a pork chop if I'm barfy and shaking and can't see straight anymore, but if it's down to "black out for three days and wake up angry and confused" or "willingly swallow prosciutto", I'm having sleep for dinner. And I know this from experience.

People without food problems don't seem to understand this and it drives me insane. "Hungry enough" is for shit like chewing drywall because the alternative is death or cannibalism.

If I say I can't eat something, It means I can't eat it. It Is Not Edible To Me. It's not even appetizing. It literally does not register as food. You might as well hand me a rubber duck.

And it's frustrating!! Trust me, I wish I wasn't like this, too!! This isn't a choice!! I know it can be rude!! It's embarassing!! It's complicated and annoying and irrational!! That doesn't fix the problem!!

I just wish people didn't treat this sort of thing as "being picky" or lacking willpower or basic manners or something. I can't make myself eat certain foods the way you probably couldn't cut your own fingers off. Does that make sense? It's not just food. Fuck

[wiishopmenuspammer]

[unknown-cold]

THE MANIPULATIVE PARENT FIGURE HAPPENS AGAIN!!

It's sad to see so many people not understanding the complexity of what we have seen in Act 1 between Caitlyn and Vi. There's no fucking reason to hate on Caitlyn, she's a victim of the big whole, just like Vi.

Her grief, overwhelming and the manipulation of Ambessa is clearly shown in several scenes. Jinx kills people in every fucking Scene, she's literally a terrorist, noone bats an eye. Caitlyn breaks down under the weight that was put on her from one day to the other and snaps? Everyone's hating.

"Make it make sense" Of course it's wrong what she did. But almost no one would have been able to keep being rational after all this. And I'm sure will understand this soon.

No one can't make me hate her. Everyone who has gone through hard times knows that you've done things you realized later that they were wrong, or stupid or whatever.

(I trust the writers and the progress of the story.)

The show’s creators are known for nuanced storytelling, and Caitlyn’s redemption will likely involve acknowledging how her pain altered her actions and how she must make amends, especially with Vi

These people are too stupid to understand a complex character development with ups and downs.

Ambessa:

Plots the entire war escalation between Piltover and Zaun

Is behind the attack at the Memorial for Caitlyn's mother, to make her rage even more and put even more pressure on her

Uses her as a puppet in her plan by putting her in a position of power she's not ready for

Those people: Caitlyn is the problem 🤡

[ultimateblogform38902]

The darkness calls to me.

[pumpkinspicedmochi]

I see this so much so here it is :

just because you don't personally need tone tags/tone indicators doesn't make them 'stupid' , infantilizing, ableist or "making us (autistic people) look 'bad' "

why do y'all think that things that some autistic people need is infantilizing . "we understand sarcasm" well some of us don't and find tone tags useful. You can't erase other autistic people because you somehow think we 'make you look bad' ..man do y'all really not want certain autistic people in the 'autistic community' do you?

this goes for a lot of other things too , honest like some autistic people struggle with more ..how is it ableist to you for people to bring them up..? we exist , why do you want to erase our existence just because you don't struggle with those things..

[szethsmom]

Update: I have sent ONE email, made ONE phone call, paid ONE bill, and deleted some junk mail. I should not feel physically exhausted from that, and yet…

I hate you constant email spam I hate you guilt-trippy little “we’ll miss you if you unsubscribe” messages I hate you newsletters I never signed up for in the first place I hate you constant slurry of one-day-only “deals” designed to create a sense of urgency I hate you unfiltered capitalism making it impossible for me to use email like an actual form of communication

[turns-out-its-adhd]

[bugz-and-errorz]

[caitlinjohns77]

[crows-of-buckets]

Rook: I'm really worried about Davrin and Lucanis, they keep arguing with one another... Its very bad Varric, what if it effects them in battle?

Varric, remembering that one time Fenris broke Ander's nose then took a knife in the back for him in the same night: I'm sure they'll be fine kid. They're barely even arguing if you ask me