#adult life 🤢

[jossambird]

BRO!!!!!!! ARE YOU GOOD!!!!!!!!

HELLO ANON, YES!! I AM ALIVE AND OKAY!!

Life is still after my ass like the IRS was after Martha Stewart (which is alot), but it’ll hopefully be getting better soon! Im just trying to find a better job to support myself, which is always hard and stressful.

Ive been TRYING to relax at nights, enough to be able to try and write but alas, my caca brain goes “hehe no, sleep 💕”

[steevejr]

im almost 30. this makes me want to PUKE.

[tevanbuckley]

some low points from the ry*an g*zman interview because i need you all to feel my pain.

when talking about his celibacy (yes he uses that word): "I haven't entertained any interactions with any other females" — gave me the ick 0/10

uses the phrase "a woman's touch," to explain why women are inherently good at interior decorating(?) and that this skill is how women are able to enrich a successful man's life — side note: at no point do they talk about how men enrich women’s lives.

immediately after this the religious imagery takes a left turn and exits my frame of reference, bc instead of just asking "do you think you still have things to work on?" like a normal person, the host says "I want to know what one Thorn is in your flesh." — someone raised more religious than i was needs to chime in on if this is normal christian doctrine or a sign he might be in a cult. (is it a reference to the thorns in jesus' crown?)

ryan makes a weird comment about how "you've seen civilizations built on [a man in love]" — genuinely idk what the fuck this means — but it leads into a tangent about like, men as providers and how "I would do anything for my women."

"peace is key yeah we got enough problems in the world outside the house and so long as I come back to the house and I get peace," — maybe i'm being pedantic but the way he keeps framing woman as belonging in the home is 🚩🚩🚩🚩

"for the next woman I would have in my life I can see that they navigate their their problems and still offer peace to their men." — again 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

surprisingly claims he has been to therapy, which assuming is true, idk it worked.

the host: "women may be fighting internal battles you know kind of themselves do you believe that a woman still fighting those battles are able to still bring peace" — because remember ladies, no matter what you're going through your job is to bring peace to your man's home.

there's some more brief gender essentialist bs where ryan talks about how men "like to fix things," but are bad listeners, and how "problems within women are so specific to women that I wouldn't even try and and say that I have a grasp on them."

then the host randomly asks him if he thinks men need to be financially stable before entering a relationship or if dating a broke guy is a way to "present loyalty."

weirdly ryan actually kind of dodges this question, but ends up suggesting social media is a good place to get "great examples of what does and what doesn't seem to work." in relationships — and no. no it isn't.

oh and then he starts talking about conor mcgregor for some reason? and how it's bad he disrespected his wife by stepping outside their marriage — and i mean sure, although infidelity feels second to the rape accusations??

says it's harder for a woman to come into a man's life when he's already established because "now the man has proven to himself that he never needed a woman." — which, interesting given how later he talks about how women need to stop trying to do the independent woman thing.

he also gets weirdly possessive over his daughter at one point. does the classic "God forbid I find out that man disrespects my little baby." — idk, on the surface he talks about how he wants her to know her value, but it seems like he has a pretty limited view of what that value is.

the host drops lore about how she moved out of her parents house at 14/15 and how she had to "stop thinking like a woman and start thinking also like a man," but stay feminine and "know what a man wants and how to cater to that but also still be soft." — i mean good lord, i don't even know where to start 🤢.

this btw is the preamble to ryan's rant about "independent women."

and god the more i read the more i am deeply concerned about the woman hosting (i saw someone earlier say she's 21). this woman is barely an adult and has so much internalised misogyny, talking about how "us women don't know how to direct our emotions." and "in today's generation a lot of men are deprived of even the small things because a lot of women are takers."

this whole interview is utterly bizarre and i feel like it's taken years off my life. like i said earlier, this isn't a normal podcast he got weird on, this is straight up christian propaganda

[2well2water]

sorry but i actually cannot get over this fucking poll. i hate this website so much it’s unreal. quite frankly if i found out someone i know had a neo nazi “phase” (🤢) not only would i not forgive them but i would actively pray for their life to get worse. if you had a neo nazi “””””phase”””” as an adult i hope your life is miserable until the day you die?? the fuck?? i hope every person who voted yes on this poll breaks their fucking foot on christmas day and has to spend hours in the emergency room in complete agony with no painkillers and no one to keep them company GET FUCKED. i’m not even contributing anything to this conversation i’m just so mad. not even surprised just furious. they need to invent a button that lets you get into real actual physical fights with people online there are roughly ten thousand individuals on this website i want to smack HARD

[melodi-jackson]

✨🌈🩰 PRISM 🩰🌈✨

Basic info

species: animatronic

gender: female

age: ageless adult (3 years younger than Aeolus)

pronouns: call them whatever you want (they don’t what pronouns are)

sexuality: pansexual, pangender, Demi-girl, neongender

personality: outgoing, cheerful, energetic, optimistic, enthusiastic, loyal, sociable, friendly, empathetic, playful, funny, naive, and incredibly positive

She’s a daycare assistant and helps do daily tasks such as cleaning, caring for children, making sure everything stays in place, her job is mostly to keep the kids entertained and perform fun activities so once they’re all tired out, she pretty much does whatever she wants.

Her whole personality is all childish and acts like one to get what she wants. They are secretly very insecure about themselves but they try to cope with it by making people happy with their happy go lucky self. It…..doesn’t always work out that well, at least with the adults and staff. The kids are all easy to handle with.

she’s the shortest but only taller than lunar and slightly more than jack. Despite of her physical appearance and size, she has super abilities. She’s decently strong and can lift up heavy objects, they supremely flexible and can easily fit into tight spaces. She’s also agile and can quickly move, jump, leap or even dodge opponents.

Facts

They are a HUGE attention seeker. The love to soak in all the attention that it gets them. Their need for attention often leads to them being touched starved and incredibly clingy.

They have separation anxiety. They can’t be alone for 5 minutes without having someone or something to cling with. They have a plushie collection for comfort.

They treat life like a game. What’s the point of living life if you’re not having fun?

loves listening to hyper pop music.

Does parkour a lot

They love makeovers and likes to dress up in bright colors. They HATE plain colors. Dresses either frilly or jester like

They love animals. They’re favorite animals are axolotls

They are a HUGE collector. They collect just about anything they come across and theres a chance things could go missing.

Likes to go on shopping trips with earth and ballora

Gets excited easily and stims with flappy hands

Sugar sugar sugar sugar sugar SUGAR ‼️‼️‼️

Hates vegetables 🤢

VERY talkative. Once you started a conversation, there’s no going back.

Very in love with solar 💘💘💘 (wasn’t revealed until “the big event”)

Rivals and enemies with miku. She hates them for canonically existing and for harassing her friends and family

[imbecominggayer]

Writing Advice Part 2: Disability And EVIL

Disabled adults are adults and because they're adults they have a wide variety of morality and characters since humans are an exceedingly diverse group with even more diversed existences.

WRONG!

No. No. In reality:

👿👿DISABLED ADULTS ARE EVIL, ALL EVIL!!!!!!! 👿👿 According to certain writers!

When writers take communities and existences such as the facial difference gang or the intellectually disabled doers this results in horrific portrayals of "demonization". Obviously, people with physical disabilities are often portrayed horribly. I will mention them in the facial differences saga. The only reason I am specifically talking about facial differences and intellectual disability is because physical disability and facial differences tend to overlap while intellectual disability is a common yet undertalked form of representation.

Demonization: it's just like what it sounds like. Disablity always equals evil

However, the ways that facial differences gang is demonized is different to how intellectually disabled doers are demonized.

THIS BECAUSE OF A COMMON ASSOCIATION aka

Good = Beautiful/Handsome, Evil = Ugly

For future reference, when I say ugly I mean "not conventionally attractive" and when I say beautiful I mean "conventionally attractive". Afterall, Harvey Dent is attractive. That's a fact.

A popular example of this is the James Bond franchise which has stocks full of villainous characters with various limb differences, scars, and other such things. These ugly and bad characters fight against the cool and handsome James Bond

Literally, the association between evil and "ugly" is so ubiquitous that when a character becomes disabled they also become evil. The transition between being law-abiding handsome attorney Harvey Dent and evil insane "ugly" Two-Face is marked by fire/acid.

Let me tell you, there is no link between being a bad person and being not conventionally attractive. I'm not saying you can't write bad people with facial differences but they're not bad people because of their facial differences.

Secondly, Facial differences aren't only scars. They are often congenital. There are hundreds of different kinds of facial differences. This was just to talk about the fact that most people hear "facial difference" and think "scar".

FOR INTELLECTUALLY DISABLED DOERS, their evilness comes from their supposed "mental status as a six-year old". For the purposes of clarity, I am just going to say that's not how intellectual disability is labeled and move on.

Because of their supposed "mental status" 🤢, they have no ability to guage morality. They're " *derogatory term* who does evil out of ignorance"

Firstly, intellectually disabled people can learn things, like morality. Especially, if we are talking about the majority of intellectually disabled people who have to mild-to-moderate intellectual disability. Either way, there are hundreds of education prgrams designed to help people in learning about things from periods to childrearing to reading to everything necessary for life.

Secondly, intellectually disabled people aren't children. I talked about that in Part 1 named Writing Advice: Disability And Infantilization. Check it out, it's fun.

Thirdly, intellectually disabled people exist in the real world. If you want to write a character who is intellectually disabled, you can ask them for assistance. There is nothing stopping you.

CONCLUSION: No matter what disability someone has, that shouldn't stop them from being human. You can write disabled characters as evil but disabled characters should be evil not because of disability but regardless of disability. Evil Doesn't Equal Not Conventional.

[rootytootypie]

❤️💨🫘😳🤢🦸‍♂️for Spiderman please. Uhhhh not the Tom Holland one, the adult versions just to be clear hehe

💨: On a scale of gassiness, Peter is definitely a reticient seven. He doesn’t go around tooting his horn at all, but his Aunt May knows this (other) little secret. She thinks it’s the sweetest thing her nephew is so polite, but she always makes sure there’s Gas X, ginger ale, and mint around the house to settle his poor stomach. She also definitely makes sure Mary Jane is in on it once Peter moves out, so even at ESU, he’s well stocked with remedies for his tummy troubles. MJ is super subtle about it, making sure he doesn’t realize she knows until he’s ready to tell her (mostly because he’d be mortified if he know his aunt told his crush all about how he’s not actually an avid tuba player, and in fact has never even owned the instrument). Peter’s actually more shy with friends and family than strangers, mostly because he finds his loud gas so embarrassing, but also because he doesn’t want to worry anyone with his stomach problems.

🫘: Peter and beans have a dangerous, odiferous affair going. He knows he shouldn’t touch them in any form, but in one of the culinary capitals of the world, how can he resist refried beans, bean dip, bean chips, and all the forms it takes that have Peter swinging home tooting like a tugboat? They just smell so good going in? How can they stink so much coming out? Yes, they require a retreat to a fortress of solitude (his bedroom at May’s, the dorm room at peak party times so Harry’s out, or his apartment), but the taste makes it worth it. He pines, he perishes (mostly because he’s a little afraid Triple J will declare Spidey a gaseous menace).

😳: When you’re gassy like Peter, you definitely have a few embarrassing farts in your memory banks. But there only one that can be decreed the worst.

It was Peter’s first college party at ESU, in the extreme ostentatious Alpha Mu Pi mansion on campus. The place was cavernous, with no doors clearly marked and most of the freshman being as clueless to the layout as he was. This was very bad, because his nerves had driven him to packing in the chips and bean dip abandoned in the corner. And after about fifteen chips, Peter’s stomach was bubbling. He was sure it was brewing something nasty.

His lack of direction led him to a door another random guy thought might be the bathroom. Instead, as Peter flung the door open and saw two guys making out, he let out a *BBBBBBRRRRRRbbbbbblllllrllllrllrllllllBBBBB!* that rang out louder than the music pumping on the stereo. Everyone was looking at him, including the gay couple, one of whom happened to be Rodney Worth, the starting quarterback who just transferred from Crofton University.

Peter and his fart had just accidentally outed the quarterback to a packed frat party. For weeks, he hung his head in shame, especially as the news hit the school paper. He not only embarrassed himself, he’d ruined some poor guy’s life (I’m partly picturing the Spideyverses of the past films, so it’s technically always the 2000s/early 2010s in their universe; i.e. Rodney would NOT be in for a fun time). He finally sighed, gathered up his courage, and went to Rodney to apologize.

He found Rodney under a tree in the quad, openly reading James Joyce to his boyfriend. “Can I talk to you, Rodney,” Peter asked nervously. The broad shouldered football player nodded and stood up, following Pete a few steps away.

“I’m really sorry for outing you,” Peter said. “It was an accident, but I know that doesn’t make things better, so I’m just plain sorry that the news spread so much, and-”

“Sorry,” Rodney said, perplexed. “I’ve been wanting to thank you. I’m finally free to be who I am, and fuck anyone who thinks badly of it. Because of you, I’m not burdened by any secrets. I’m gay and proud.”

“Oh,” Peter said, surprised. “Well, that’s great. I’m glad there was a positive side for you.”

“Do me a favor, though,” Rodney asked with a grin. “Lay off the bean dip, okay?”

❤️: Peter was downright terrified to fart in front of MJ. He was afraid one toot would be the thing to make her snap out of dating him and remember him as a geeky neighbor boy instead of a boyfriend. He held it pretty steadfastly…until one night when they end up on the coach together watching a movie - and the popcorn mixed in his belly with the bean chips he ate as a quick snack. Peter shifted, ready to head for the bathroom - just as she rested her head on his shoulder and wrapped her arm around his waist. She looked up at him, and her eyes made him want to melt. “I’m so glad we get a night to ourselves,” she said. “No urgent crimes to interrupt, no crazy missions, or jacked up supervillains. Just you and me.”

“Same,” Peter squeaked, his voice breaking from nerves.

“Are you alright,” MJ asked. “You look kinda feverish. Can you still get sick?”

“I’m fine,” Peter protested. “Just…happy. Content. Can’t believe how lucky I am.”

“Yeah…okay,” MJ said. “If you’re sure.”

“Sure as shootin’,” Peter heard himself say, and blushed. Where the hell did come from? At least his embarrassing little problems is under wraps-

*PrrrrrooooooBLLLPBLLPBLLP!*

“Oh, God, MJ, I’m so sorry, I can’t believe I-”

“Finally showed me your tuba playing,” MJ snarked, giggling.

Peter pouted. “Just for that, I’m gonna point out you toot in your sleep,” he groused.

“Aw, Pete,” she said. “Is it really bad? There’s some ginger ale in the fridge I can get you.”

“…Okay,” Peter agreed. “But if I have to fart more, will you still cuddle me?”

“Duh,” MJ said. “Just stand up if you have to shoot webs out of your butt, because I just bought this couch from Pottery Barn.”

“…I love you,” he said, giving her puppy dog eyes. “And I’m sorry.”

“You don’t have to be sor- Oh, my God, that’s vile! Talk about silent but violent. Apology accepted! …Now come back here, I’m cold.”

🤢: Peter is very easily grossed out by certain people’s farts. Certain people being Flash Thompson on a power trip farting in his general direction. Other than that example of fart torture (not really my scene), Peter is sorta ambivalent to farts. Well, the one exception is when he sneaks up on criminals and one of them farts in surprise. That cracks him up. He’s definitely as much of a worrier as his friends are about him, and happily give out tummy rubs and forehead kisses to any of his girlfriends who are gassy for whatever reason, but especially period cramps.

🦸‍♂️: He doesn’t fart web. That said, his sudden bean intolerance only came after he was bitten by the spider. Before that, he didn’t struggle with any food. There have been times the resulting farts propelled him forward by a few extra centimeters as he swings through the city, so the gas has also definitely gotten more powerful since he became super. It’s as if the bite gave him extra protein farts as a consequence of his newly developed bod.

[nightcolorz]

HI CUTIE PIE ARMANDTOLOGIST THE LOVE OF MY LIFE I have a question and it’s really important

Does Armand like Dr Pepper yes or no

(But also actually thoughts on the way they changed up Armand’s backstory in the show? Cuz now he’s kinda like musical Armand and ik you love that guy real, I JUST WANT UR THOUGHTS)

HI BELOVED HUSBAND LOML SECOND IN COMMAND ARMANDOLOGIST 😍😍😍😍😍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

thus is an amazing question….Armand loves doctor pepper and he has a crippling addiction to it (I know this bcus he told me). The fizzy texture makes him tweak out like cats do when they go crazy randomly and his eyes go huge and dilated and he rolls around wildly for like ten minutes straight 🥰

My thoughts on how they changed up Armand’s backstory in the show is that I LOVE IT!! 🙏🙏so so true so true I love musical Armand he is so funny and real, that is such a good comparison. What I love about musical armand is that in making armand a very visible explicit adult while keeping his backstory relatively the same they kind of lean into this alternate reality where by growing up Armand sort of experienced living “past his prime” and was turned in less of a preservation of his beauty and youth (🤢) and more of in a panicked, pathetic last ditch move, which rlly kind of hammers home the sad kicked dog vibe he has ❤️. Like, I love the thematic value of Armand being an eternal child so much. It’s just so so sad and effective, picturing him as this visible child who is yknow, torturing and killing ppl and leading cults, and even owning property and running businesses, but no matter what he is doing he is always displaying this very apparent physical reminder of his stunted growth and his trauma, that will always be anyone’s first impression of him, that causes him active inconveniences and insecurities. He’s a physical embodiment of the most vulnerable time in his life, trying despite it to gain respect and instill fear. He’s like a child ghost!! I love how his stunted growth manifests as a disability, I love how he is often perceived as a girl bcus of his appearance which adds a trans layer, i love how when Armand’s sad he appears for a moment like the child who was abused, I love love love it.

And that version of Armand will always be my favorite, but I still LOVE the way in the show (and musical before her) is doing it. Back on the topic of the musical, while I don’t think it can carry the same layer of tragedy and depth as the books, the musical frames Armand in a way that’s very upsetting in a different way. He’s like, very pathetic 😭. This grown ass man still stuck in time as a “beautiful youth”, longing for the man who sexually abused him when he was fifteen, stuck in the mindset of the child he was, looking for his past in everything he does and everyone he meets. It’s different, but still carry’s that tragic weight 😭. But the musical wasn’t interested (or maybe didn’t have the time) in exploring that tragedy in any depth, so Armand’s pathetic past his prime vibe is framed more as almost comedically embarrassing then sad. And on the note of the show!!!!! What I love so so much about show Armand’s backstory changes is that they take what the musical was putting down but didn’t have time for and explore it with all the weight it needs, and it’s SO GOOD!!!

Armand as not of a literal external youth but instead a metaphorical one, a technical adult who was kept as a slave and treated as a child for his entire adulthood until he was eventually thrust into vampirism and subsequently abandoned, so he carry’s this internal stunting, is AMAZING. He was raised in a way that instilled in him and prevented him from ever being a functioning, independent person, and then forced into roles of dire leadership and horrible loneliness. In one of my fics I compare him to a pampered lap dog who’s been abandoned on the streets. Amc Armand reminds me of the song memory from cats, which has always reminded me of Armand but hits harder in this version. He’s so 😭😭 abandoned elderly cat who is longing for his past (which for Armand was super shitty, but remains the only time he was loved) and just looking to experience that love and comfort again 😭. The “love and comfort” that was sexual and physical abuse and literal enslavement 😭. It’s so sad.

I love that amc iwtv doesn’t necessarily change Armand’s backstory of being sold into slavery, but rlly hammers home in the details that he was and continued to be a slave. The racial element is just, ugh, omg, so mf good. They take Armand’s trauma in the books of being deprived of his cultural background by being sold into slavery and bought by Marius, and basically cut off from his religious beliefs and made to feel alienated from religion bcus of his sexual trauma, and by making Armand a person of color rlly elevate that in a super sad super meaningful way. I also love how they add little horrific traumas to rlly instill that Armand was a slave to Marius, that he was his property. Rlly sad!!! 😭 I love it.

the only thing that I don’t like about the changes in Armand’s backstory (which r not a lot, and r mostly based in Assad zaman’s casting whom I love as Armand, they stay surprisingly faithful to the books) Is the thing where Armand’s parents (apparently) willingly sold him into slavery. Part of the huge tragedy with Armand being sold and loosing himself to that is that his parents were not perfect, and not especially good to him, but they loved him so so much, and he looses his memory and connection to two parents who love and miss him, and are devastated by loosing him. Which even tho it’s technically a better reality for Armand then, he had parents who betrayed him, it hits sm harder imo. But, I don’t resent the writers for that bcus I have a theory that I think it’s very likely that the reality of the books is true, and Armand believes that his parents sold him bcus that was a lie Marius fed him to ease his own guilt about keeping Armand from his family so that he can sexually abuse him. If my theory is wrong, and Armand’s parents rlly did sell him, I will be disappointed and wish they stayed more faithful to the books, but I won’t be super mad cuz I love everything else they r doing so much, and it doesn’t retract from that too much.

On the subject of amc and musical Armand comparisons, I hope the show adapts/ takes inspo from a change that the musical made that I love a lot and think could rlly rlly work in the show. In the musical, during the scene where Armand throws Lestat off the tower, Lestat pushes Armand into doing this by mockingly telling him that Marius is alive and has not only chosen to not reconnect with armand bcus he’s not as important to him as Armand perceives, but also he has told Lestat how Armand was a mistake and he should have never made him bcus Marius thinks he’s crazy and beyond hope. And musical armand screams at Lestat that he’s lying, shouts HE LOVED ME!!! And pushes lestat off the tower, bcus he refuses to accept the reality of his fucked up relationship with Marius. Which, dude, I literally love that change in the musical sm and almost wish it was in the books. I sometimes forget that in the books Armand finds out Marius is alive from Lestats book offscreen and we don’t see his immediate reaction at all, just his reaction to reuniting with Marius after already processing that he’s alive. I RLLY HOPE that amc iwtv takes this change the musical made and elevates it, bcus I am the only guy who talks about it and I need everyone else to care 😭. It would translate so perfectly in the show amc pls hire me.

THWNK U SM FOR THE ASK BBY I LOVE THESE QUESTIONS I LOVE YAPPING!!! ILY

[metanarrates]

on fandom parenting talk, i think it would be cool to see more single fathers in fandom. like i really enjoy kidfic but 90% of stories about men with kids are actually just romantic fantasies where the kid is symbolic of a successful love, and it seems like most of the stories about single dads that aren't about him falling in love with someone who will help him coparent are. some kind of incest thing. it's just very weird and discouraging to see where people's priorities are

oh yeah the treatment of motherhood in fandom is just 100% pure unfiltered misogyny but the way fatherhood is treated exposes something deeper, imo. being a parent is a state of responsibility where you have the burden of making sure a small, developing person stays safe and healthy and grows up to be a functional adult. it's something that inherently requires that you have a relationship with a child. and one that goes both ways! just as you have thoughts and opinions and emotions regarding your child, your child will have thoughts and opinions and emotions regarding you. it will be a relationship that defines much of who you are and how you treat the responsibility you have towards the vulnerable.

but the reason that fandom doesn't typically write any of this well is that children in fiction are often written as props, not as characters. they exist purely for the sake of making their parents look good, or for furthering aspects of the plot, or to look cute for an audience. it's why depictions of parenthood in certain stories are often a miss for me. it's fine if the plot is primarily about someone being a parent, of course, and the way they feel about that. but you have to have the essential ingredient of making the child a person! even a newborn infant has a personality and will sometimes react negatively to things they don't like!

parenting is interesting because the relationships adults have to children, and the relationships children have to adults, are interesting. if a story about parenthood fails, it is probably because it cannot understand the ways that those relationships are complex in real life. (or is being nasty. ive seen the incest thing before. Ew. 🤢🤢🤢)

[sharklovingaquarist]

Ok guys so this is gonna be a long one but Im going to talk about

Male apathy during pregnancy and post partum

Post partum mental distress

How the medical system fails women

How men should do their part

So I just saw a post by a man talking about how men downplay the process of reproduction, and yeah, duh - BUT I've come to a conclusion. There are two types of expectant/new father in this world: the type that treats his wife like a toy or the type that treats his wife like a cute pet and claps for her from the sidelines. "Yeah babe ur so strong" while not doing shit. So in this post, the guy is like "errrrr fellow males, did you know that the nutrients actually come from your wife's body?!?!" Like how is that not common knowledge? The uterus doesn't have little claw arms building a fetus. An embryo is created by a male and female, and that embryo attaches to the uterus and LEECHES from the female bloodstream.

He then he goes on to talk about how much blood we can lose during vaginal birth and c-sections, and Imma just say here and now that the medical system sucks ass. Yeah, birth sucks. Pregnancy sucks. But I kinda hate how people pass of a lot of the pain as a fact of life. The fact is that the medical system is vastly male, and males who put their poorly hidden fetishes into practices (I did veterinary science in highschool, and it was even prevalent there... vaginal speculums and artificial insem- 🤢) I'm sure we've all heard humans should stand to deliver a child. The high death statistic for women in childbirth (also explained by more black women dying than white), the lack of knowledge on the female body, and the priority of babies over women all tells me one thing: Birth is certainly painful, but it may be more dangerous than it should be. My honest opinion is that death rates exploded once men infiltrated our care due to their view of us as a vessel. Maybe if the medical system focused on helping us rather than letting a fetus escape its "flesh box", then we'd be somewhere.

And finally... he talked about post partum mental health... so I've been wanting to talk about this. It has recently become noticeable to me that human females have a hard time mentally after the birth of children meanwhile most animal females don't. Sure, there are cases where animals abandon offspring, but I chalk that up to not being prepared to care for offspring. Nature usually prioritizes an adult over a newborn. Also the abandonment of offspring is something I only really hear about in domesticated animals (and animals in zoos so environmental distress or lack of knowledge), of whom we have fucked over in so many ways through selective breeding. Shit even domestic bettas and angelfish, who are usually good parents, have this issue in domestication. But why is it that other animals don't have nearly as many post partum issues as humans. I'll say it, I believe post partum mental distress is largely due to societal dynamics. Sure, hormones are off, but the society we live in only fuels this. It's like when you're on your period. You feel off but it's more a loss of tolerance. The rise in estrogen near and after birth can cause you to already be a bit unbalanced, but let's add some situations onto it. You're going to be the primary caretaker because of modern male incompetence, then you're going to lose sleep which causes more instability, then you're expected to still cook and clean, and men in most countries don't get paternity (ohhhh I wanna tell yall a story about that so baddddd... its in the comments if ur up for it) so youre left alone with a screaming child while trying to heal and getting no sleep and probably not seeing the sun because youre busy and thats a major mood stabilizer (as someone with a mood disorder) all for the father to come home and play with the infant and pass it right back to you. And we haven't even gotten into the culture surrounding it. Women are expected to put on a loving maternal persona while fathers remain the same. For men being a father is prideful and gives you all these positive characteristics like strength... but for mothers your mind is deemed more simplistic, your identity is erased. People see pregnancy and motherhood as a performance and you are the lead actress. Youre treated differently, percieved differently, and thats fueled by bioessentialism. New moms do not feel more "loving" towards an infant than new fathers. Both secrete oxytocin, it comes with the monogamous, biparental animal package dumbass. Why would I be more loving towards something that sucks my boob off and ripped me open. So while I'm not trying to discredit post partum depression, I'm absolutely saying that societal issues are the pushing force. Im also pretty sure post partum statistics fluctuate based on country, and that in countries with paternity and a more equal dynamic have lower cases. But I'm not mentally stable enough myself to look into it, I know "trust me bro" type shit.

In conclusion 🤓 I'm tired of people seeing female pain and not finding ways to help it. The female body is strong, but it also needs care. You wouldn't expect a person with a broken leg to win a marathon. That's the whole reason males stay with females is to. Do. Their. Part. Idc if I'm picky, but literally, any talk on kids or pregnancy leaves me so dissatisfied. Expect men to start acting like an expectant father and partner during pregnancy. Your job is to comfort, provide, learn how to ease pains, provide emotional labor, drive and GO TO appointments (I think if it was even really "about life" they would look into male health too but that's a convo for another day), pay for appointments, be ready to help in case an emergency, so much more. Cuz it's always "don't drink while pregnant!" But how come the baby daddy can be at the bar with his friends? What if I go into labor? He needs to stay sober too I'm not his broodmare! The way men act like it has nothing to do with them because "well uhhhh I not carry a baby 🤷‍♂️" makes me so mad. As a new father too, they think "well man don't feed baby 🤤" like there isn't so much more. Imo, the man should be doing housework, taking care of the infant besides breastfeeding, and caring for a post partum partner. Even with breastfeeding, you can be involved. Take the infant when it's done eating, sit with your partner, provide company, and bond with your family. I've come to the conclusion that men don't want partners they want a collection. Men cannot accept that they have a weaker role while still being involved. Either he's big strong man or it's weak and my business. And the men that cheer from the side see it as "well she does most of it so that obviously means it's all her business but I'll just tell her she's soooooo strong" not like... telling other men how to do their job. Men are pathetic. Want credit for zero effort.

[kissycat]

Decided that since im turning 25 this will be my hot adult summer where i radically figure everything in life out like how to save money properly and get all health checkups and establish a workout routine (already doing this) and learn about insurances. And then if it looks like I'm not getting a phd position soon after september I will even get my (🤢) dr*ver's l*cense

[homemakinghippie]

I bet you watch Nara Smith. Being a mom at twenty-three sounds like a nightmare! Like enjoy your twenties! Travel! Do you ever think you'll end up a regretful parent? Why did you have your son? Because you want to "have a family" or to "continue your legacy"? 🤢

I've only seen one Nara Smith video in my life. She really doesn't interest me.

I'm not really sure why being a young married mom sounds like a nightmare? I'm almost 25 so not quite that young, but I have lots of energy to play with my son all day and I recovered from my C-section relatively easily. Pregnancy is really hard on the body and when you're younger, your body is able to recover a bit faster. That's not to say there's anything wrong with having kids later, but your 20s are your prime health biologically. My mom had my sister at 21 and me at 23. She's not even 50 yet and has two grandkids. Unless something tragic happens, she has 30 years before the average age of death for women in the US. She's likely going to get to see at least one great grand kid. I'm not sure how old my great grandma was when she started having kids, but she's met two of her great great grandkids.

The only regret I could've had in life is not having my son. I will never regret the years I get with him. I will also never regret being at home with him. I recently saw a news post about how kids at an elementary school were being drugged for nap time. I've heard more than one abuse story about daycares. I will never regret having my son with me so I can do my best to protect him.

Not sure why have a family is in quotes like that. Do you know that humans are animals? Do you know that we're mammals? Do you understand basic biology? It seems as if you don't, so let me explain this to you. Humans are animals in the class Mammalia. Every living being in general has the biological urge to have offspring. Nature wants to continue. The thing about mammals though, is that we keep our young with us for a while to raise them until they're able to take care of themselves. It's a different amount of time for every mammal. Some mammals like primates, felines, canines, really any pack animal continue to stay together as adults. I'm going to assume you don't know this either, but even monkeys (I use that in a very general sense) spend time with their mothers as adults. So yes I had a child so I could have a family....why else would you have kids? They're not little pets to show off and they're not little slaves to do your work.

[mistytwooo]

I unfortunately understand both sides of the whole Neteyam debate and let’s speak on it.

On one side I get it, hes a dead 15 y/o alien who doesn’t have a future, meaning he doesn’t have an aged up version.

On the other side, on pandora, 15 is considered an adult once you complete your rituals and what not

On the other side, let’s compare it to anime right? As you know, japans old consent law was 13, right? So naturally (the fucking weirdo ass animation people) sexualize children- well adults who have child like bodies. Just because it’s okay over there, doesnt mean it’s okay in America or wherever you live, right?

On the other side, he’s a blue fiction alien , who at first I thought was 18 ngl 💀 nigga old as hell in the face LMAO and mannerisms. Who are you to tell these people they can’t be attracted to an fictional alien, THEY AREN’T LISTENING, BECAUSE THEY AREN’T ATTRACTED TO REAL LIFE KIDS.

Let’s go back to the anime thing. We see it as weird when the “over powered” “1000” year old characters are… built like 5/6 right? Because people see it as, okay well she’s over age, this is okay… when in reality it’s weird, that’s a fucking toddler let’s be serious for TWO POINT FIVE SECONDS 😭 now, THOSE NIGGAS ARE ATTRACTED TO KIDS IRL 😭

When they see blue alien man with an okay built and matured features, they could give two shits about what’s right or wrong in THEIR world, because it’s okay in the fictional world 💀

Having the mindset of “well he’s not real he’s fictional” is I guess understandable, BUT LETS APPLY THIS SAME LOGIC TO THE CHARACTERS FROM SEVEN DEADLY SINS RIGHT?

Just because she’s not real, and that she’s “legal” doesn’t make this not weird. It’s weird. I guess when people look at anime they’re like “this looks like an human, I cant be attracted to this 🤢(even tho some are 🤢)” but when they see blue alien, who has no human features other than the fact they walk on two legs, they go “hey it’s okay, it’s not real 🤷🏽‍♀️”

But it’s also like, you think this character is attractive enough you want to age up?

So yeah, like I said, I understand both points

Will be adding to this, I would love to hear personal opinions.

[ubblemon-kibb]

About Me •••

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unbblemon-kibb • cobi

01/2024

SUMMARY • Everything you need to know about me and my content — I am an internet stranger so I’ll keep it short and sweet. My page is better viewed (aesthetically pleasing) in Goth/Rave color palette - trust me, I checked with the other palettes 🤢

DISCLAIMERS • This blog will contain NSFW content and possible themes that will shiver your timbers. I am a dark romance writer, it’s to be expected. Be responsible, respectful, and mindful of your limits. If you are a minor in your region, then please understand that you are not welcome to view such content, however, if you proceed them do at your own consequences!

ME:

I love writing and doing anything associated with creating something.

I started fan-fiction so I can better practice illustrating romance and intimacy.

RULES:

No bad behavior, it will not be tolerated

No pedophilia/zoophilia

No bathroom-waste related topics

Nothing I am uncomfortable with - if you’re unsure of if I’ll do it or not, then PM me and I’ll discuss it with you.

WRITING:

Requests

You may request character x character and reader x character content for the fandoms I write for - I would just prefer there to be chemistry between characters/a situation that would reasonably place them together.

In terms of OCs, they will ONLY be shipped with reader.

I write for a couple different readers; Male, Female, GN, FTM, and MTF — I will attempt to cater to all..

Fandoms

FNaF • William Afton: Michael Afton/Schmidt:

I will only write for those two because they are the closest things to adults — I will also not write for the movie, but if you want to invasion that, you are welcome. I am just uncomfortable associating a real life actors face with a character - it ruins the mood for me. Idk.

KNY • Tomioka Giyu: Kocho Shinobu: Iguro Obanai: Uzui Tengen: Rengoku Kyojuro: Mitsuri Kanroji: Muzan Kibutsuji: Kokushibo: Doma: Akaza: Daki: Gyutaro:

These are the characters I’m comfortable writing for in a NSFW manner -

CREEPYPASTA • Jeff the Kilker: Jane the killer: Eyeless Jack: BEN drowned: Slenderman: Offenderman: Masky: Hoodie: Ticci Toby: Nina the Killer: X-Virus: laughing Jack: Laughing Jill: Candy Pop: Jason the Toymaker: Clockwork: Kate the Chaser:

As the widest cast, it is also the most problematic in the sense they are fictional serial killers- hey, I don’t make the rules for them.

OC CONTENT:

None as of now…

ENJOY

If anyone has requests in terms of characters or Fandoms them PM me - I’d rather do it in private so we can properly discuss it, especially bc I don’t branch out typically in the sense of fandoms.

NAVIGATION •••

FNaF :

William Afton: •

Michael Afton/Schmidt: •

“Caught” - NSFW w/Male Reader

KNY :

Tomioka Giyu: •

Kocho Shinobu: •

Iguro Obanai: •

Uzui Tengen: • (and his Wives)

Rengoku Kyojuro: •

Mitsuri Kanroji: •

Muzan Kibutsuji: •

Kokushibo: •

Doma: •

Akaza: •

Daki: •

Gyutaro: •

CREEPYPASTA :

Jeff the Kilker: •

Jane the killer: •

Eyeless Jack: •

BEN drowned: •

Slenderman: •

Offenderman: •

Masky: •

Hoodie: •

Ticci Toby: •

Nina the Killer: •

X-Virus: •

laughing Jack: •

Laughing Jill: •

Candy Pop: •

Jason the Toymaker: •

Clockwork: •

Kate the Chaser: •

OCs :

None as of now …

[2009phan]

The people on twitter are right. They are saying you post about dnp’s sex life, which you do and which is indeed gross. I never understood why people in this phandom fantasise about two real people fucking, it must feel so weird and violating to know people think about you like that.

omg did you see there are these two guys (who are full grown adults btw!) on youtube who made several videos speculating about dnp's sex life. they said phil was a p*werb*ttom which is like soo disrespectful. like thats literally none of our business. and then in another video one of them mimicked a bl*wj*b 🤢🤢 implying that dan did you-know-what with phil in the golfhat. i hope dan and phil never see these guys' content, it must be so violating!

[youremyheaven]

Do you think it’s possible for a solar man to be loyal? My ex turned boyfriend and I are going long distance and it’s not that I don’t trust him but like…gulp. He’s a Krittika sun and his atmakaraka is in Mrigashira he’s also a revati rising😶. He said he’s committed but we can’t see each other for three years😭 he was a senior when I met him as a freshman(in college) and now I’m entering sophomore year and he’s graduated. Apparently when I graduate, moving in together and marriage is what he wants. I’m just scared tho😞 like he’s super blunt and honest sometimes to a fault so if he did anything he’d tell me?? Idk 😭

i think anybody regardless of their naks can be a good, honourable person who is loyal, faithful etc. what naks show us and what their purpose is, is to reveal the innate tendencies of a person. anybody can attain self-mastery and rise above their nature though. (yk the whole enlightenment business hehe)

that saiiiiidd,

i dont think a combination of krittika + mrigashira + revati sounds like husband material stuff to me. thats my honest opinion.

idk what your placements are and how ya'lls synastry looks like but you clearly already have your doubts, which is why you're telling me about it 👀

this isn't only tied to astrology but as a psychic-intuitive person, im getting bad vibes from this man. 🫢🫢

you can make any decision you'd like to and its up to you. im not trying to fearmonger or falsely accuse a man i dont know of anything.

BUT

as a grown woman, i'll tell you that seniors who hit on freshmen and get into relationships with them are more often than not, predators. he was in that uni for a good 4-5 years and yet he was single in his final year and the only suitable woman was a girl right out of highschool???

if you're in your 20s you would know how hard we find it to connect to someone in their teens. a 21-22yr old is entering the work force/studying further etc and is an actual adult with real responsibilities whose life looks vastly different from an 18yr old fresh out of highschool. this is not a relationship of "equals". there is a power dynamic here (and with that krittika + mrigashira + revati 💀💀💀the power is most definitely in his hands)

i say this as someone who has male friends who have done the same thing and dated freshmen. they've all talked about how "innocent" the girls are and how "naive and cute" they are 🤢🤢🤢🤮 i would never let my daughters around these men. so that should tell you something.

idk how many relationships you've had but trust me, the guy you meet in your first year of university is not The One

another thing that reallyyyy bothers me is how, he expects you to wait for him for 3 years. it SCREAMS revati + krittika/solar influence. he's had a whole college experience and is now graduated and onto other things but he wants you to remain committed to him until you graduate college even though he knows there's no way you can see each other for THREE YEARS???

my june talking stage (Venusian man) was Revati Sun & Venus and him & i used to run in the same circles in school etc and reconnected after nearly a decade. after days of flirting, proposing marriage, him wanting me to have his babies etc he "accidentally" revealed that he's planning on migrating abroad in the next several months 💀💀💀 and i asked him why tf would u then plan ur entire life with me and he said "bc it would be nice to have a plan ready when we meet again in the future" 💀💀💀bro was basically trying to make me hopeful for a life with him, give him my time and energy and stay waiting for the day that may or may not come lmao

its different when a guy who is already your boyfriend promises these things (marriage, moving in etc) but you're 19 baby, you have your whole life ahead of you. do you really believe that this man is the love of your life? do you think you can put up with him every day until the day you die?

at 19, love and romance will feel very do or die and intense af,, you think this is your only shot at true love but that's not true. there is SOOO much wonderful stuff waiting for you in your future and you shouldn't throw it all to the side for a Solar/Martian/Mercurial man 🤢🤢🤢

life changes so dramatically after u graduate college, u have no idea!!! u will become an entirely different human being. you're still a kid right now and you should be focusing on yourself, having fun and doing well in college. men come and go but this degree can change your life!!!

as someone who has been in long distance relationships, lemme tell u that it takes A LOT of time and energy. and at 19, i think that time and energy will be better spent elsewhere. i also generally dont think long distance relationships work except in veryyyy rare cases.

your man loves the idea of you saving yourself for him, waiting for him, needing him, belonging to him. he loves to gives you ideas, fill you up with images of a future together because he relishes having that power over you. this is literally what Solar men are like. sprinkle some Mercurial manipulation on top of it. Martian men can be reallyyy violent and abusive (if imbalanced). he's already harsh with his words as you say, do you really want to stick around and find out what else might happen???

again, not trying to fear monger but i dont get good vibes from this guy

plenty of girls i knew in my first year of college started dating seniors and entered into the most destructive and life changing relationships.

none of them are still together. and this is coming from an indian pov where people still used to date to marry.

all im saying is, this looks bad from many different angles and i dont want you to ruin your college experience caught up with some guy who isn't even there. your friends will be out there making memories of a lifetime, acing their classes and you'll be arguing with him on face time and crying yourself to sleep

ik that sounds dramatic but im trying to be realistic here

cut this man out babe , you can do so much better<3333