#actually so tender
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inkskinned Ā· 1 year ago
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the thing is that they're so fascinated by sex, they love sex, they can't imagine a world without sex - they need sex to sell things, they need sex to be part of their personality, they need sex to prove their power - but they hate sex. they are disgusted by it.
sex is the only thing that holds their attention, and it is also the thing that can never be discussed directly.
you can't tell a child the normal names for parts of their body, that's sexual in nature, because the body isn't a body, it's a vessel of sex. it doesn't matter that it's been proven in studies (over and over) that kids need to know the names of their genitals; that they internalize sexual shame at a very young age and know it's 'dirty' to have a body; that it overwhelmingly protects children for them to have the correct words to communicate with. what matters is that they're sexual organs. what matters is that it freaks them out to think about kids having body parts - which only exist in the context of sex.
it's gross to talk about a period or how to check for cancer in a testicle or breast. that is nasty, illicit. there will be no pain meds for harsh medical procedures, just because they feature a cervix.
but they will put out an ad of you scantily-clad. you will sell their cars for them, because you have abs, a body. you will drip sex. you will ooze it, like a goo. like you were put on this planet to secrete wealth into their open palms.
they will hit you with that same palm. it will be disgusting that you like leather or leashes, but they will put their movie characters in leather and latex. it will be wrong of you to want sexual freedom, but they will mark their success in the number of people they bed.
they will crow that it's inappropriate for children so there will be no lessons on how to properly apply a condom, even to teens. it's teaching them the wrong things. no lessons on the diversity of sexual organ growth, none on how to obtain consent properly, none on how to recognize when you feel unsafe in your body. if you are a teenager, you have probably already been sexualized at some point in your life. you will have seen someone also-your-age who is splashed across a tv screen or a magazine or married to someone three times your age. you will watch people pull their hair into pigtails so they look like you. so that they can be sexy because of youth. one of the most common pornography searches involves newly-18 young women. girls. the words "barely legal," a hiss of glass sand over your skin.
barely legal. there are bills in place that will not allow people to feel safe in their own bodies. there are people working so hard to punish any person for having sex in a way that isn't god-fearing and submissive. heteronormative. the sex has to be at their feet, on your knees, your eyes wet. when was the first time you saw another person crying in pornography and thought - okay but for real. she looks super unhappy. later, when you are unhappy, you will close your eyes and ignore the feeling and act the role you have been taught to keep playing. they will punish the sex workers, remove the places they can practice their trade safely. they will then make casual jokes about how they sexually harass their nanny.
and they love sex but they hate that you're having sex. you need to have their ornamental, perfunctory, dispassionate sex. so you can't kiss your girlfriend in the bible belt because it is gross to have sex with someone of the same gender. so you can't get your tubes tied in new england because you might change your mind. so you can't admit you were sexually assaulted because real men don't get hurt, you should be grateful. you cannot handle your own body, you cannot handle the risks involved, let other people decide that for you. you aren't ready yet.
but they need you to have sex because you need to have kids. at 15, you are old enough to parent. you are not old enough to hear the word fuck too many times on television.
they are horrified by sex and they never stop talking about it, thinking about it, making everything unnecessarily preverted. the saying - a thief thinks everyone steals. they stand up at their podiums and they look out at the crowd and they sign a bill into place that makes sexwork even more unsafe and they stand up and smile and sign a bill that makes gender-affirming care illegal and they get up and they shrug their shoulders and write don't say gay and they get up, and they make the world about sex, but this horrible, plastic vision of it that they have. this wretched, emotionless thing that holds so much weight it's staggering. they put their whole spine behind it and they push and they say it's normal!
this horrible world they live in. disgusted and also obsessed.
#this shifts gender so much bc it actually affects everyone#yes it's a gendered phenomenon. i have written a LOT about how different genders experience it. that's for a different post.#writeblr#ps my comments about seeing someone cry -- this is not to shame any person#and on this blog we support workers.#at the same time it's a really hard experience to see someone that looks like you. clearly in agony. and have them forced to keep going.#when you're young it doesn't necessarily look like acting. it looks scary. and that's what this is about - the fact that teens#have likely already been exposed to that definition of things. because the internet exists#and without the context of healthy education. THAT is the image burned into their minds about what it looks like.#it's also just one of those personal nuanced biases -#at 19 i thought it was normal to be in pain. to cry. to not-like-it. that it should be perfunctory.#it was what i had seen.#and it didn't help that my religious upbringing was like . 'yeah that's what you get for premarital. but also for the reference#we do think you should never actually enjoy it lol'#so like the point im making is that ppl get exposed to that stuff without the context of something more tender#and assume .... 'oh. so it's fine i am not enjoying myself'. and i know they do because I DID.#he was my first boyfriend. how was i supposed to know any different#i didn't even have the mental wherewithal to realize im a lesbian . like THAT used to suffering.
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keychaintabithascarlet Ā· 9 months ago
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Spoilers for Lisa Frankenstein but the creature writing ā€œBeloved Wifeā€ on Lisaā€™s tombstone was the most romantic thing Iā€™ve ever seen, itā€™s driving me crazy
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gravelsong Ā· 6 months ago
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Sparkplug is pushing the dadimus agenda so hard
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ezralva Ā· 6 months ago
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Just like how nobody ever taught him about the concept of CE and any blood manipulation techniques, he still became the most powerful blood manipulation user and even invented his own CT.
Nobody ever taught him how to be a big brother, how the eldest big brother has to protect, comfort, care, and guide their little siblings. Yet it didn't deter him to be the best big brother there is. This man did everything instinctively, including being a big brother, and always be the best at them.
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kraftykelpie Ā· 2 months ago
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Little sketch of a sleeping Dinluke :)
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armandssawtrap Ā· 1 month ago
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I have SO MANY thoughts and feelings about Armand telling Daniel the ā€œshe wanted to say yesā€ bit because thatā€™s insane actually.
Assuming we take this at face value, right, no devils minion eraā€¦ Armand is still trying to soften Louisā€™ blowā€¦ heā€™s being kind to Daniel which is actually insane given the saw trap in the 70s and what Daniel is there to do (not to mention how he reacts to Daniel ruining his life and marriage). Likeā€¦ WHY is he being kind to Daniel? We know Armand has very little problem being cruel to people, and againā€¦ saw trap
And thenā€¦ how does he know???? how does he know what Alice felt in that moment because if he was reading Danielā€™s thoughts he would have seen it from Danielā€™s pov which was probably tinged with the humiliation and grief he was experiencing
genuinely insane and tender moment coming from Armand
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vaguely-concerned Ā· 6 days ago
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having seen at least the rough outlines of all the romances now I have to say that I think emmrich's is probably objectively the best in terms of coherence and completeness of story arc (with the understanding that ultimately the 'best' romance is whichever one makes YOUR heart sing anyway so objectivity is a silly thing to claim that way, it just felt like it's the arc with the most well-paced focused content and the least dangling threads)... but lucanis' is my favourite haha. just. the whole kneeling before your beloved full of reverence but without any of the distance that usually implies??? his complete undramatic certainty and calm in every scene with rook after this, having spent the whole game caught between fear and longing???? mr. lives in a pantry but it says nothing about my psyche don't worry about it it's purely for tactical reasons that I keep myself contained in a small dark room not entirely unlike a cell, love among the parsnips -- finally coming to rook in their room and it's so comfortable and comforting???? after all the times rook supports and comforts him through the game he's finally able to return the same to them when they need it while being so calm and steady and it's so fucking sweet and feels so effortless and with no price attached?????? he basically assigns himself the role of your bodyguard and he WILL stab a god over it??????????????? the turn to protector (which was in his heart all along longing to get out and find a place) of it all????? he sounds like he's found himself unexpectedly stumbling into such a soul-lightening state of revelatory existential relief, full on 'you only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves' mary oliver style, and he goes and he shares that with rook and protectively envelops them in it when they're hurting??????????????????????????? hello for the maker's sake hello can anyone hear me?????
#listen I was forged in the fires of garrusmancing. I went through two whole games just to get a gentle headbutt and some tender words#before me3 comes along and rewards you for your tenacity more fully#me? the reyes romancer???? I have the strength and headcanon game to bear the relative lack of content before the end#when the endgame is this good I am willing to hold out for it haha the way he looks at rook towards the end......#I also really liked taash' (it's really sweet) but I don't think I have any rooks ready to go right now who would go for that vibe#emmrich for sure is going to be my either crow or shadow dragon romance it really is very good! and extremely goth not unrelatedly#undeniably that old man has the most game out of anyone in this story. the move with the flower??? I'm sorry????#I actually like that lucanis' romance blooms out of the safety of an established friendship more than anything (again. avowed garrusmancer)#but emmrich... he's got some next level romantic stuff going on and is being both so wholesome and such a freak about it lmao#dragon age#dragon age: the veilguard#dragon age: the veilguard spoilers#dragon age spoilers#lucanis dellamorte#rook x lucanis#rookanis#all jokes aside I totally respect and understand that people are a bit disappointed and frustrated -- they're not wrong to feel that!#there really are some gaps in content there for the midgame#however I was personally custom built by experience to get the most out of this scenario as possible and by god I will#just as I feel that ryder and reyes go off and have some soul-shrivingly good sex after the first kiss#(it makes that arc make a lot more sense to me haha)#I think rook and lucanis Get Up To It after the second coffee date. weird of them to not show us that but okay I'll fill it in myself then
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benevolenterrancy Ā· 2 months ago
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@hereticcryptid I appear to be slowly but surely developing an entire series about how Hensheng and Baxia apparently get fed up with their owners' inability to express their feelings and take matters into their own hands...
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emergingghost Ā· 6 months ago
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i'm still here obviously
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whollyjoly Ā· 7 months ago
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i just have a feeling / you're better off than you think you are
(song insp.)
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color-beyond-lines Ā· 5 months ago
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Ok but when Peem asks ā€œwhy do you like me?ā€ and Phum actually replies>>>>
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And when Fang is having a difficult time and the first thing he does is call Tan and then they talk about about it>>>>>
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Like physical chemistry is great and all but I adore when couple get to have substantial conversations!
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I am so glad these brothers found people to light up their lives again.
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emptystreetsandcitylights Ā· 4 months ago
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we are, episode 15 & 16
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sunnibits Ā· 13 days ago
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potentially hot take but this is a pet peeve of mine
#listen. anyone can write whatever they want and idc I donā€™t have to engage with it. all power to them!!!!#itā€™s not even an automatic click-off for me or anything#i justā€¦ why. I donā€™t get it#likeā€¦ thatā€™s literally one of THE most iconic traits of the entire character. of the entire concept of the SHOW even#and youā€™re just gonna??? get rid of it??? hello????? the entire basis that John and Arthurā€™s relationship is made from????????#really????????? possibly the most tender part of their relationship???????#you donā€™t wanna write fluff about John reading him books and describing things and guiding him????? really?????????#itā€™s just so boring to me. I donā€™t understand the appeal#like yeah obviously Arthur as himself would definitely prefer to get his sight back#but as a concept likeā€¦.#something ab the whole ā€˜happy ending = the disabled character gets ā€˜fixedā€™ā€™ thing just leaves a bad taste in my mouth#why do u have to fix them. why cant they just be disabled. do you think people canā€™t be happy and be disabled???#idk maybe itā€™s not that deep. and still I donā€™t really care that much#itā€™s just the vibes. I donā€™t vibe with it.#and Iā€™m sure thereā€™s some actual annoying as hell discourse in the fandom ab it which I have zero interest in engaging in#but I had to have my little petty bitch moment#bc blind Arthur is everything to me. ESPECIALLY in a jarthur context.#anyways thank u for coming to my Ted talk#malevolent#arthur lester#if anyone wants me to tag this as smth Iemme know
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balee-art Ā· 5 months ago
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Still think about this scene a lot
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dukeofdelirium Ā· 6 months ago
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the WAYYYYY that they look at each other in this scene is forever going to be my Roman Empire. it actually makes me crazy. everyone else moved on but I never left this moment upon viewing it live fr. altered my brain chemistry forever
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zehl0w Ā· 2 months ago
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Zenitsu agatsuma has got to be the biggest egg I have ever seen in my entire life
#demon slayer#kimetsu no yaiba#zenitsu agatsuma#nezuko kamado#thereā€™s genuinely no way bro doesnā€™t have smth going on with his gender#nezukos bamboo necklace is chewlery btw hehe#I hope I was able to capture the expression of like#just genuine tender yearning#itā€™s something heā€™s always had the longing for but never quite understood where it came from#or even what it was#just a very empty hole in his body that he could only ever describe as self hatred and disgust even if he knew that wasnā€™t quite right#I think when theyā€™re older nezuko would rlly help him like#get comfortable w the idea of actually exploring his identity#heā€™s spent so much of his life just truly and bitterly hating himself to the core#he couldnā€™t stomach the idea of thinking about who he was beyond the surface level#I think nezuko would make him feel so much more okay with himself and help try to get him to a point of at the very least knowing who he is#itā€™s a very long road that zenitsu really honestly isnā€™t sure if heā€™s comfortable with#but he canā€™t help but at least try#if not for himself but for the ache of the child inside himself who has so desperately longed for comfort and love and belonging#he wants to know that child who was so brutally outcasted could eventually find a home#he wants to believe thereā€™s hope for himself#Zenko chan I love you so much#she is so important 2 meā€¦..#sorry transed your zenitsu. no yeah we canā€™t undo it. yeah heā€™s a she now. sorry nothin I can do.
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