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My egg donor: *beats me up, pulls my hair, grabs my arm and violently jerks it around, tries to murder me in cold blood, calls me names, plays favorites with her kids, brainwashes me into her fucked up worldviews, forces me to live up to her unrealistic beauty standards, bullies me, harasses me, forces me to be her slave and do things for her, etc.*
Me: *defends myself and starts fighting back against her abusive tendencies*
My egg donor: Why are you so mean to me?!? Did school teach you to do this?! YOU'RE A BIG FAT MEANIE AND YOU KNOW IT!!!! YOU!!! HAVE!!! NO RIGHT!!! TO DO THIS!!!!!!!!!! You're supposed to be an imaginary version of yourself instead! A SWEET LITTLE GIRL WHO WOULD BE SO HAPPY TO BE ABUSED BY ME!!!!!!!!!!!!
#i hate my mother#child abuse#misogyny tw#enbyphobia tw#abusive mothers#abusive women#abusive parents#abusive family#dysfunctional family#narcissistic mothers#narcissistic parents#actually abused#actually traumatized#abusive childhood#traumatic childhood#childhood abuse#childhood trauma#trauma#ptsd#cptsd#actually nonbinary
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By: Ali Bracken
Published: Jun 9, 2024
A victim of alleged coercive control says there are different standards applied to male and female victims of crime in Ireland
A gardaí investigation into the alleged coercive control of a man by his wife is at an advanced stage.
It is understood officers in the south of the country have examined a litany of abuse claims by the man with text messages, voice notes and emails all part of the investigation.
Speaking to the Sunday Independent, the man explained the barriers he faced coming forward and his belief that many others are “suffering in silence” because of societal stigma about men having crimes committed against them by their partners.
David (not his real name) has split from his wife. The couple have three children and were married for more than a decade.
David alleges his wife’s controlling behaviour began soon after they married and gradually got worse over time.
She became “fixated” on a false belief that he was being unfaithful to her and she would routinely check his phone and accuse him on a daily basis of cheating on her.
He was the sole breadwinner in the household and said she would regularly “berate” him for not being a good enough financial provider.
He eventually decided it was in both his and his children’s best interests to separate from his wife.
“I spent a year on the couch and finally decided enough was enough. I physically couldn’t take it any more. It was daily, non-stop abuse,” he said.
“Initially I just felt very relieved after I left. I was able to talk about it for the first time to my family. I’d never told anyone about it before.
“I thought after we separated, things would get better. But unfortunately it got a lot worse.”
This narrative soon gained traction in their local community and some of David’s friends and extended family started to believe her claims.
“She victimised herself. And some people automatically believed her. I felt I shouldn’t have to defend myself but people in my community began to look at me differently and I was even physically attacked by one man about it,” he said.
David added that “by far” the biggest problem he has faced since the couple separated is his belief she has turned his children against him.
David now has a new partner but he said his ex-wife has repeatedly followed him around in her car, sometimes with their children in tow, while abusing him about his new relationship.
“She has said things to the kids like, ‘He has chosen a woman over you’. They’ve said these things back to me. She has completely turned one of the kids against me. And another one of my kids seems to be half-way there,” he said.
David alleges his estranged wife has used their children’s phones to abuse him.
“She’s also taken my kids’ phones and sent me abusive messages pretending to be them, saying things like, ‘you’re a shit dad, a deadbeat dad.’ It’s been very hard to take. Being followed around has been very unnerving. And it’s not fair on my partner either,” he said.
He has made a number of complaints to Tusla, the Child and Family Agency, about issues concerning his children while in the care of their mother. It is understood gardaí have been in contact with the agency in relation to some of these matters.
In recent months, David decided to make a complaint to gardaí about his ex-wife as he began to feel overwhelmed by what he describes as the “constant” abuse and her following him.
However, he said the garda he spoke to in his local station dismissed his allegations at the front desk, “telling me to sort it out myself”.
He said: “If the shoe was on the other foot, I think a woman telling gardaí about this kind of thing would be taken much more seriously from the beginning. But I was laughed out of it initially.
“I went home and called the charity Men’s Aid. They arranged for a garda sergeant to come to my house and take my statement. I’ve been happy since with how the matter is being handled by gardaí.”
It is understood that gardaí are preparing to send an extensive file to the DPP in relation to the investigation. Officers have been provided with text messages, voice notes and emails “of a highly abusive nature” as well as alleged evidence of online financial theft perpetrated by David’s estranged wife.
It is understood that a range of criminal charges are under consideration. These include coercive control, harassment in the form of stalking, as well as theft.
“I couldn’t get a protection order because it wasn’t physical abuse and the fact that I’m a man went against me essentially. But if this situation was in reverse, I’d already be locked up,” said David.
“There are two different standards in this country for men and women who are put through this. The issue is that there is not enough help for men.
“This is not about me trying to punish her or wanting to see her sent to prison at all. All I want is to stop looking over my shoulder. And a healthier situation for me and my kids. I just want the abuse to stop.”
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This must be part of that "male privilege" we hear so much about.
#Ali Bracken#male victims of domestic abuse#male victims of domestic violence#domestic violence#domestic abuse#abusive women#female abusers#coercive control#parental alienation#male privilege#religion is a mental illness
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Yep
#support male survivors#male survivors#sa survivors#csa survivors#abusive women#men are victims too#male victims#support male victims#wlw survivors#tw csa#tw sa#abusive women exist#female abusers
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women choose their choices, choose their lives. No 1 to blame but themselves.
I'm convinced that God put women's brains in backwards. They're not only illogical, they're anti-logic. Women are a lot of work. Plus, they choose to never change & listen. So why should men listen to them? Why should men change just for women. They shouldn't. Men, don't give away your power. Women are definitely not God or godesses. Any woman over 25 and single, divorced has issues they choose not to face.
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It is not lost on me that Charlie and Vaggie were initially not doing great against Adam and Lute...and then proved Carmilla was so fucking right.
Vaggie is absolutely FUCKED here. She's been in this position before, with Lute looming over her spitting vitriolic judgment, Vaggie's blood on the ground. Back then, she couldn't stop Lute from taking away her wings, her eye, her home, and her purpose. But now? She has more than that; she has love, because she has Charlie.
When Lute threatens Charlie, everything changes. Vaggie fucks her up immediately...and shows "mercy" knowing that being forced to live with part of herself gone (her arm was CRUSHED, no way was she getting it back), the shame of defeat, and the knowledge that someone she's been looking down on so completely is responsible for it all is a fate MUCH worse than death for Lute.
And Charlie? Charlie's insanely powerful but has no clue how to use her power to its full potential because she's never had a reason or desire to fight until now. Even when she's being strangled, when she's pissed-off and vengeful, she can't really tap into that power. But then Adam comes at her dad and is about to catch him off-guard.
He's about to hurt—possibly kill—her dad, who she's finally building a good relationship with; her dad, who just showed up to protect her despite the risk of politically turning this battle from an act of defiance by a willful princess to an act of full-on rebellion by the King of Hell himself. She reacts on instinct to protect her father and stops a hit that destroyed Alastor's shield. And she does it effortlessly.
Carmilla was right. For these ladies, at least, the need to protect someone they love, no matter what kind of love it is, is exactly what rallies them to come at enemies who were just kicking their asses and absolutely dominate.
#hazbin hotel#vaggie#charlie morningstar#chaggie#protective women being protective#the way they each always IMMEDIATELY reacted upon realizing the other was in danger in that battle was just <3#and lucifer and charlie's father-daughter bond?? love it#also reminds me of when charlie was about to wreck val for his abuse of angel#and when vaggie was ready to try and impale the fucking radio demon to protect charlie#and how charlie forgot anything else existed on the battlefield whenever she saw vaggie in danger
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Dumbing down a cunt is very effective. Even the so called smart women are just that: women. For sluts like you thinking is very hard since you evolved to shake your tits and make yourself fuckable. If I start thinking for you, your decision making will soon consist of thinking how to best suck my cock.
#bimbo training#bimboification#corruption kink#degrading k1nk#dumbification#dumbimbofication#fr33use#abuse k1nk#brainwashing#degradation k1nk#gaslighting kink#bimbo doll#bimbo girl#stupid slvt#women are stupid#dumb slvt#dumb wh0re
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my absolute favourite genre of transphobic propaganda is when the caption is like “look at this poor, confused little girl who was forced to mutilate herself :(” and the picture is just the hottest man you’ve ever seen in your life with a full beard and a body that would make thor weak at the knees
#ramble#also like. everything else aside calling any ADULT a ‘poor young girl’ is yucky af#we’re not delicate little flowers who don’t know how to think. i’m an adult with medical autonomy and a working brain#calm down you’re deranged#i won’t get on my soapbox today but it’s just funny how they think they’re the grounded sane ones#also the double standard drives me insane#with trans men it’s ‘delicate abused woman’ and with trans women it’s ‘creepy predatory man’#it’s almost like transphobia is just rebranded misogyny and they don’t actually care about equal rights#who would’ve thought
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I hope my egg donor dies a horrible death for all those things she has done to me TBH
#i hate my mother#child abuse#death tw#death cw#abusive mothers#abusive women#abusive parents#abusive family#dysfunctional family#actually abused#actually traumatized#abusive childhood#traumatic childhood#childhood abuse#childhood trauma#trauma#ptsd#cptsd
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My brother was with a girl who threw things at him and constantly hit him. And he would just stand there and take it because he didn't want to hit her back knowing what the result would be. My sisters didn't like that so they went after her. Huge fight among them, but my brother still didn't break up with her. She finally chose drugs over him and left. At least for my brother we all believed him. But I doubt other people would.
His current GF (might be an ex now, waiting to hear back), hit him and then threatened to tell the cops he hit her. She's an alcoholic and would fight everyone. She went after my niece and they called the cops, and the first thing the cops did when they got there was arrest my brother, who had just gotten home from work. My mom came out screaming at them that he didn't do anything. But that's how bad it is, they go after the first male they see for a domestic violence case when it was between two women,!
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I was 15, sexually abused by my manager at my first job, one of the biggest fast food joints, Not once, but four times. Someone spotted the abuse and reported it to corporate and she got a promotion. I quit and my father ignored it. Police said the company handled it. Men who are abused are ignored... because it’s not “supposed to be possible”
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I once had to do a presentation for a gender studies sort of course, and so having a friend who was abused by his girlfriend I chose to discuss the double standard in physical abuse. You'd think I was the devil incarnate - the women in the class glared and glared and glared for me raising the possibility that a woman hitting a man should be taken seriously.
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My dad went through something like this. She threw plates and a bunch of other random objects at him, he was bleeding in several places and she called the police.
Despite that me and all of her kids told police that she was the aggressor they didn't care. He was arrested and a restraining order was on him before he even got out a few days later. We ended up homeless and lived in an old boxing ring for about 2 weeks before our local church helped out.
It was also his 3rd time dealing with police completely ignoring him when a woman was aggressive. It made me feel like women could just do anything they want as I grew up and I completely avoided them and relationships in general for a long time.
I'm 38 now and it still makes me uneasy
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I lost my virginity bc a girl (who I had said NO to) mounted up and rode me while I was passed out drunk. I woke up from what I thought was a wet dream finishing inside her with no protection. It messed with me pretty hard because I'd been trying to save my virginity for a serious girlfriend or someone other than just some girl I barely knew. Not to mention the fact that I had no idea if I was about to be an unwilling father (thankfully that was not the case).
My friends just kind of said "well...at least you got laid, right?". I can't really blame them because it took a while (like, years) for me to even realize that what happened was clearly rape. Wrapping our college-age heads around the fact a guy could get raped was tough, I guess.
I also got sexually harassed by a pair of women at a job in college and telling people about it was met with attempts to high-five me.
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Laughed at, mocked, put down. Even had video of her hitting/kicking/ abusing me and people just made fun of me and the situation even worse. It was not real to them.
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The sexual abuse hotline counselor asked me if I was even into women when I told her what happened and then made excuses for her bc “she was drunk and acting on instinct”.
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Tried to tell a few people. No one really believed me in my circle of friends. They were able to convince their friends that I was the abuser. The last straw was when they used a taser. That shit hurts and left burns. That truly was the last straw because it left enough evidence that I could use to document the abuse and get out. Without physical evidence it was word against word and as the male, no one believed me.
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They didn’t believe me at first. And then they saw her do it to me. Her friends believed me before my own friends did. They said that they knew she was like that and that she was aggressive and physically abusive to them sometimes and her own mother.
I was with her for 18 months of hell. At first it was normal and cute and fun and then she started being really strange. First it was telling me I couldn’t have friends who are girls. Then it was I couldn’t have friends. Then it was the hitting and punching and kicking me. She said she was pregnant before she was pregnant and didn’t let me use protection with her and if I wasn’t into fucking her then she’d just fuck me anyways.
The kicker that really stuck with me all these years is when she was beating the fuck out of me and accidentally called her mom and she heard her yelling and screaming and thought I was hurting her so she called the police and her parents and police both showed up at my house asking if everything was okay and if I was hurting her. She said confidently “He didn’t hurt me I was hitting him” and the police and her parents both just kinda accepted that and told her to leave my house and go back to her parents for the night. No arrests. No talking to her about how wrong it was. Just a slap on the wrist after flat out telling police she was hitting me. Didn’t ask if I wanted to press charges. Didn’t ask if I was okay. Just were relieved it wasn’t me hitting her.
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I had been attacked by now ex wife. I said something that made her mad and it wasn't the first time. She hit me in the back of the head with a rolling pin. I yelled and the neighbors called the cops. When they arrived I was still beading. I was then handcuffed and sat on the curb while they investigated the issue. My ex eventually confessed she hit me because she was mad at me. I never raised a hand at her during the incident but I was then taken to the police station and I was booked. I was released the next day after they determined i wasn't the aggressor. I was told on my release that if I antagonize her again its my fault and I deserve what I get.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/jidoph/men_who_are_abused_by_woman_and_tried_to_tell/
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duluth_model
The feminist theory underlying the Duluth Model is that men use violence within relationships to exercise power and control.
According to the Duluth Model, "women and children are vulnerable to violence because of their unequal social, economic, and political status in society."
Criticism of the Duluth Model has centered on the program's sexist insistence that men are perpetrators who are violent because they have been socialized in a patriarchy that condones male violence, and that women are victims who are violent only in self-defense.
https://home.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/htdocs/assaults_bib343_201307.doc
Abstract: This bibliography examines 343 scholarly investigations; 270 empirical studies and 73 reviews and/or analyses, which demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. The aggregate sample size in the reviewed studies exceeds 440,850.
#SystemicSexism
#The Tin Men#intimate partner violence#abusive women#violent women#male victims#domestic violence#feminist theory#duluth model#systemic sexism#misandry#tHe PaTrIaRcHy#religion is a mental illness
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From twitter. Censored usernames to prevent harassment.
#csa survivors#mdsa#mother csa#support male victims#support male survivors#women are abusive too#abusive women#sa survivors#male survivors
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Unironically I have a solution to this - Encourage young women to also read Lolita by Nabokov in addition to these books.
#And you know also don't blame victims for their abuse#Promote education on consent and healthy relationships#Offer resources for abused women to be able to get out of those situations#No matter how they ended up there#But yeah Lolita is an amazing book#And saved me from some really bad shit
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This is off topic for my account, but I want to help spread this important information.
Korean women are experiencing massive sexual violence by men.
tw : rape, abuse, crime
Secret Man's Telegram rooms were discovered in over 70% of South Korean schools where female students' faces were photoshopped into porn using AI.
A feminist in South Korea has mapped out schools where deepfake child pornography was created by male students using photos of girls on Telegram.
South Korean journalists who wrote articles about telegram deepfake child sex crimes are also being blackmailed with deepfakes by the perpetrators.
They also speak aggressively and disrespectfully about Ukrainian and Japanese women.
updates!
#ukraine#south korea#korean#kpop#feminism#tw assault#korean women#please help#awarness#sexism#misogny#women rights#women#ukraine war#telegram#nth room#japanese#japanese women#tw abuse#anti feminism#crime tw
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Yes, trans men and mascs have historically been subjected to less public violence and ridicule than trans women and fems. Is having privilege really the only reason you can think of for that? Have you considered that they had less ability to be publicly visible in the first place? Please remember that the lack of autonomy women have historically been granted also applies to transmascs. They would have been considered the property of men. Spousal rape wasn't illegal everywhere in my country until 1993. How easy do you think it would be for forcibly impregnated transmascs to transition? For abused transmascs in general? Do you think they were all even allowed out of the house often without a man? There are so many stories of transmascs being forcibly institutionalized for being trans. Is that situation and otherwise being quietly abused and erased really so much better than hypervisibility?
#I guarantee you there are so so so many trans men and mascs throughout history that died being known as women.#it doesn't mean they weren't dying & going through other horrible shit just because we haven't heard about all of it#notice how now that women have more rights in society and are allowed to be more visible transmascs are getting more negative attention#I mean don't get me wrong most of that attention is still misogyny but now that we have greater ability to transition it looks different#transandrophobia#transmasc#transfeminism#intracommunity issues tag#SA tw#abuse tw#forced pregnancy tw#queue#mine#before anyone says anything this is NOT saying transfems have gendered privilege over transmascs or they've never been treated like propert#it's just different being treated like your main purpose is to make men happy and have their babies since the day you're born
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Actually I think we should talk about how incredibly fucked up it is for sapphic women to say shit like "I'm no better than a straight man 😔" when attracted to a woman in a way that isn't 100% pure and wholesome, or act like men's attraction to women is inherently dirty, predatory, or objectifying.
#like i mostly get impacted from this as a straight trans man#and the way people- even my friends- have acted like my attraction to women is now morally worse since i came out as trans#but this also affects like. bi/mspec men? it's shitty to shame them for their attraction to women!#and even cishet men. acting like objectification or predatory behavior is just inherent to male attraction to women#let's shitty men off the hook because 'they can't help it' or whatever#or victim blames anyone abused by a cishet man because 'what did you expect from being in a relationship with him'#yeah so like. sapphics stop saying this challenge#transhet#anti-transmasculinity#again i'm tagging because that's my personal experience with that sentiment but it has a ton of other issues too#antimasculism
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Women can be just as violent, abusive and murderous as men can be and whoever says that a woman would never hurt/abuse/kill anybody is a complete misogynist and a TERF.
Let that sink in.
#terfs and radfems either keep scrolling or block me i'm not in the mood for your stupid shit either way#misogyny tw#child abuse tw#abuse tw#abusive women#terfs do not interact#terfs do not touch#terfs do not derail#terfs fuck off forever
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