#a bi experience

[inkskinned]

okay is she being actually immature or is it just a woman over 30 expressing a human experience you find to be immature.

like yeah. at certain ages... let shit go. im not defending the real immature shit. im not defending the karen you're picturing. i worked in retail i hate those people too. (once somebody got mad at me because she didn't like how our winter window decor was a snowman smoking a pipe. i wish i was joking).

but men at 57 will write books about how 17 year old girls are soooo sexy. they will invent worlds where women have to be naked for "armor reasons." they will write songs that treat women as objects. people rush to defend them. meanwhile a woman at 35 will be like "heartbreak is hard, actually" or "i feel betrayed by a friend" or "i am struggling with something emotionally." immediately people will say stuff like this woman is 35 by the way. by the way this woman is SO OLD to be experiencing this. BY THE WAY.

im 31, almost 32. the other day a poet was blasted online because at her "big age", she had written a poem about feeling unloved. top comment was "this woman is 29 by the way." this woman is too old to still be useful, by the way. she has to behave better . maybe if she was a good wife and mother she could stop existing loudly, and the story could continue on without her. this woman has served her purpose, by the way. she's so cringe, by the way. at 29 - so old! - she still hasn't figured out that her existence should be one of shame.

[sadisthetic]

the madness frustration loneliness of the dissonance of a mismatch of the rotten heart to the rest

allosexual aromantic swag happy pride *peaces out*

[vintage-bentley]

I do not feel comfortable being openly homosexual in the company of “queer” people. Even hinting that I experience absolutely no attraction to the male sex is stressful, because often this results in a bunch of questions that equally feel like bafflement and interrogation. “What about THESE men?” No, not them either. No men. “But this man identifies as a woman!” I am not wired to be attracted to pronouns. “What about this man? He’s femme!” He is still a man, and I am still a lesbian. “So just no men at all?” YES. What is so hard to understand about that? Why can’t you just accept that female homosexuality exists, that it isn’t an evil ideology, and that it’s just how I and many other women are born? Why can you accept and understand so many things, but draw the line at a woman having no interest in the male sex?

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

Throwback to that time that my (now) boyfriend made me completely and utterly rethink my capacity for romantic attraction.

[gay-otlc]

Actually I think we should talk about how incredibly fucked up it is for sapphic women to say shit like "I'm no better than a straight man 😔" when attracted to a woman in a way that isn't 100% pure and wholesome, or act like men's attraction to women is inherently dirty, predatory, or objectifying.

[failyaoi]

Khaos is Reigning or whatever

[deancasforcutie]

Dean complimenting fellow queer people on their game

Bonus inverse, trying to out-game someone to vicariously flirt for/with your presumed-but-not-at-all-straight friend who has no game whatsoever:

[our-queer-experience]

happy bi visibility day/month!!!! i wanna talk about biphobia and bi erasure WITHIN our community.

statistically speaking, bisexuals experience the highest numbers of rape, stalking, homelessness, self harm, and suicide, higher than lesbians and gays in our community. lets go through some of those

61% of bisexual women and 37% of bisexual men have experienced rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner. this is higher than the rates for both straight men and women, as well as lesbian and gay people

40% of bisexuals have considered suicide in the last year, almost double that of lesbians and gays.

this study is harder to read through, as its a meta-analysis opposed to just a cited number, but bisexuals do have higher numbers of mental health problems.

thse are just some numbers, not to play the oppression game but to make a point. theres a common idea amongst monosexual queers that bisexuals have an opt out, lesbian feminists see us as betrayers to the cause, theres an idea that the closet is some kind of privlege. then there’s how cishets treat us as sexual objects, the women are sluts and the men are undecided. bi+ people are abandoned by straight society and then by our own community. this kind of alienation is the reason we’re still lacking so much suppoer.

i still see this sentiment, that bisexuals dont suffer as much because we can “live as straight”, as if that doesnt mean we have the capacity to face homophobic intimate partner violence. there’s this idea that we see gay relationships as temporary fun before we live the rest of our lives as (gasp) heterosexuals.

and the people who tell you how great we have it will never aknowlage that no, most of the time we are struggling more, not less. your hypothetical scenarios of bi privlege is just that, hypothetical and not most of our lived realities.

i want to hear from monosexual queers a call for solidarity and support for one of the most suffering aspects of our communities instead of “bi women and their straight boyfriends at pride” and “bi girls who say theyre bi but would never date a girl”(just misogyny).

happy bi day of visibility 🩷💜💙

[swords-and-aros]

"You shouldn't teach teens aro and ace identities! What is they start identifying as ace instead of gay!"

Ah yes, how terrible indeed would it be for a teenagers to experiment with their identity

We all know that who we decide we are at 13 is who we end up being for our entire lives, regardless if it is authentic to our present selves

[cosmicredcadet]

I think queer stories would be better if people stopped assuming that queer representation hinges on if two characters are romantically involved at all. Like the moment you accept characters as being queer without needing romance to prove said queerness then i think we'd find ourselves with a lot more unique, nuanced, and interesting queer stories. but by limiting queerness to only romance you are stifling queer stories.

[rouge-the-bat]

QUEER LABELS VALIDITY & REQUIREMENTS MASTERPOST

have you ever wondered "is it okay for me to call myself this label?" "can i identify as [this] if im also [that]?" "is this identity valid?" or various similar sentiments?

well look no further! this post is compiling a list of specifications for different identities along with why you can or cant use certain labels along with other ones, so youll be able to make an informed decision on choosing your labels! (and not call yourself something thats very problematic and harmful to other queers)

As if!

you can do whatever you want forever <3

you know yourself best, only you can decide what labels fit your own experiences and identity :)

other people can offer their perspectives from their own experiences if you want to hear them to try to figure out what you relate to, but no identity has a universal experience! no one can tell you that you cant identify as something!

no one, i repeat NO ONE, ordains the details of queer labels and who can or cant identify as what, or if a label can be used at all or not! not even if they are of the identity theyre trying to enforce rules on!

just because some rando may walk up to the gate of a public park and begin trying to control who can or cant enter doesnt mean its their property!

go, be free and queer, even with the most complex and weird and confusing labels! nothing can tie you down! (unless youre into that)

💖❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[fizzy-dizz]

Lovecore Lumiere 💛

[despazito]

They split bisexuality into 300 dutchies like pre-unified Germany and they're all at war

[variousqueerthings]

asexual in a bisexual way

bisexual in an asexual way

[annabelle--cane]

I don't think it's quite so simple as "queer internet discourse doesn't matter/exist in real life" because in order for someone to be posting on the computer they also have to be a real life person who might sometimes exist in offline queer spaces, I think it's more. social media isn't actually for having real conversations where you learn and exchange ideas, it's for automatically picking a side on an issue and Being Right At All Costs, but if you're looking at someone face-to-face and they say something out of pocket you can usually talk to them for five minutes and then they'll say "huh yeah I guess I didn't think of it like that."