#Younger butch

[cowboyjen68]

hey idk how to start this

i just wanted to thank you for being the amazing person you are. I started identifying as butch at 15 but due to some. messed up. things happening i kinda "walked away" from that part of my identity (which obviously didn't work). but it's been years, and my femme sent me your videos when i started talking about how much i missed my butchness. the way you speak about it and about yourself and your experience helped me understand and embrace my own. your videos shine a light that reminds us of a better future. thank you for reminding me of so many things that are so important

and sorry for not being very coherent lmao

You were perfectly coherent. I did something similar and as I was embracing the word lesbian I was pushing away butch. I thought I was not "checking all the right boxes". I would hear terrible words applied to butch making me think I didn't want to be one (like I had a choice in the matter :) ) OR that I couldn't be one because I was not the traditional and mythical mean, aggressive, etc personality that was oft portrayed in media and conversations. Meeting other butches who showed me that it is not a personality but more of a natural energy and an experience in the world. Although we certainly all seemed to share many traits like being protective of women and having the desire to help women feel better in a world that puts them down.

Owning who you are and letting your femme appreciate you in all your butchness and uniqueness has set you on a path of a hopeful and happy future.

[spartalabouche]

sometimes its really obvious how much people dont actually believe presentation=/=gender when they see their nonbinary friend go from extremely masculine to relaxing back into femininity once theyre comfortable with their gender and every time they call it detransitioning with zero indication thats what their friend is calling it. i dont know how to tell you this but sometimes you present a certain way for social reasons and not because thats how you actually feel. sometimes you experience dysphoria about your body that is actually related to how people view you and not how you feel about your body. i really dont think its that uncommon for trans people to swing really hard in one direction for the affirmation and then relax back into a different presentation once they are more comfortable in their gender

[evenmyhivemindisempty]

The way I get so feral when I remember that this guy

is the same guy as this guy

[civetcider]

love your art. do you have any strong opinions on Donkey Kong or any of the Kongs? if you butchified funky kong i would be indebted to you forever

so just normal funky kong? teehee

[boytransmission]

Wanna feel me?

Top surgery fund + Wishlist

[sunshades]

that new meme that's going around....

[pillowprincessgwen]

"I'm old enough to be your mother" is only a problem if you're too weak to make it a pickup line

[cowboyjen68]

hiii!

i'm a younger butch lesbian, but there's a bit of a roadblock: i live in a very cis/heteronormative place, so i have no butch role models. i have no idea how to...well, be butch.

tips and tricks?

This is an easy and simple answer. Just be you. Dress in what makes you feel confident and comfortable.

Being butch will come as natural as breathing to you.

The best butch role models will live life as their honest selves whether that be an outgoing smiley extrovert or a quiet stoic introvert or anything in between. She won't need to put on a facade of toughness or act in any certain way to appease the outside world. We are perceived as butches just by existing so we might as well live life in a way that makes us happy.

You don't need to subsribe to any roles or rules as expected by society. IF you are butch you are butch. Be you.

Now some less woo woo advice. LOL Boy shorts or boxer under wear are almost universally comforting to butches. (NOT all by many) so try some Wal Mart boxers on for size. They seriously made me more comfortable and confident in my younger years.

IF you want to shop in the men's (boy's section) go right ahead. Rarely does anyone look twice because, frankly, men's clothes are accepted, in general, as more gender nuetral than women's clothes. Thrift stores are great places to try different clothes on to see what you like. It is a chaotic grouping of all kinds of styles and sizes for much less than retail (in many cases but beware over priced items larger second hand stores ). Once you find a style you like you can go to new or stick with used.

Shoes... I wear women's Columbias because they are good for my feet, affordable and suit my manual labor jobs. DO not neglect your feet for fashion. Find and spend the money on good shoes. Men's are just too large for me and sporting or outdoor activity shoes tend to have similar quality in men's and women's as opposed to dress shoes were women's are crap and men's are sturdy.

Flannel at big box stores are pretty affordable. Estate sales and garage sales, auctions and thrift stores can be a great place to find vintage, unique men's clothing at a fraction of on line or retail. I have found some very cool ties and belt buckles and dress shirts by taking a Saturday to check out estate sales. If you don't like them down the line you are only out a few bucks.

It warms my heart to see young women embrace the word butch and their own butchness because with that acceptence can come a wonderful community and a source of support in life.

Butch hugs from me to you.

[pussyluvr2000]

I still remember the first time i met a butch woman. My mom and i were picking up a ham at the Convenient Food Mart. We took the hog up to the register. I, in a bored trance, watched it slowly, comically roll down the conveyor belt until a strong hand suddenly stopped it. My eyes traced up the tattoo-sleeved arm until they rested on a face entirely unframed by hair. She must've been super tall, though everyone seems giant when you're a kid. Her earlobes were modestly stretched and her eyebrow donned a spiky barbell. Her reptilian neck tattoo kissed her buzzed hairline. Under her uniform polo, I could only see a faint suggestion of her breasts. She smiled down at me, asked us how our day was. My mother smiled and said fine, tiring, cash, thank you. When we got in the car, I was still starstruck. "Mama, was that a boy or a girl?" I asked quietly, feeling embarrassed by my need to know.

"A girl, sweetie," she paused. "But sometimes it can be hard to tell."

Her non-judgmental response excited me. Now this, I thought, is something I want to know more about.

She squeezed my hand, smiled at me, and said nothing more.

6 years later, at age 14, I'm sitting in a waiting chair in the strip mall Great Clips.

"You know, you don't have to cut your hair short to prove you're gay or anything. I mean, you can. And I love you. But you don't have to. You can be however you want." My mother said, cooly.

"I want this." I did. I wanted to feel differently. The bubbly young hairstylist lead us back to the chair. She nodded slowly as I explained what I wanted. "Like my brother's hair," I added, hoping to get the point across.

My mother, though supportive, bristled a bit. "Maybe leave a little on the top longer. So it's a little feminine, you know?"

I glared at her in the mirror and she stepped away.

We drove home with the windows open. I felt the wind on my scalp.

[chemicalsymbol]

What should a girl do around here to have pretty girls in her ask box?

[kookiekult]

Can someone explain how the shit someone can go from this

Monstrosity, right?

To this

He looks like a 70s serial killer in the first Pic but he looks like a Greek god in the 2nd.

[teddysize]

me bc my sister has a hot butch math teacher and i don't </3

[bat-besties]

Butch/femme Bat ships

[elliesbelle]

yeah i’m never getting over this look

[cowboyjen68]

hello, jen! i just wanted to say thank you because it is so comforting to have you around especially when you don’t have older butch women to look up to. i live in a third world country and that is why sometimes it gets too hard to imagine that i’ll get to mature from a baby butch into a full grown one and your presence is what makes this hellsite so home-y. thank you ^_^

Hi from Iowa. I can imagine, only in the most slight way, how hard it is to feel isolated and wanting to find mentors and friends who have been where you are now but not having any access those people. Growing up, and it is NOT the same thing as what you are going through, there was not much representation out there. The butch women I came accross were not vocal, or out so I could only guess that we shared something in common. I could not be sure.

I went from a tomboy to an awkard teen who didn't really fit in with the girls and the boys were outgrowing being friends with me as they hit puberty. I really did figure I would outgrow whatever it was that made me hate dresses, walk "like a man" and "act like a boy". I would often be told, "try to act more like a lady" or "Young women don't do that". I tried to conform but in my head I was constantly rolling around the thought of "why am I like this/" and "what is making me act different"? I knew that it took effort to be "same" but no work to just be me. This led me to believe I was broken because i had to try so hard to NOT be myself in order to gain cultural approval.

As I grew older, became more confident and met actual butches in real life, especially older ones who shared stories with me and let me know I was not alone or an outlier, that others were just like me, I became comfortable it just being me and stopped attempting conformity.

I hope that with the power of the internet, even on places like Tumblr, where I know things can be weird, you find some community and build your own confidence. It is for young butches like you that I maintain this blog and my other social media. I know how important it is to see your "future" in others and to have hope for a life free of constantly battling your own comfort for the expectations of others. I wish for you a life where you are free to just exist without the work to fit in or even to keep yourself safe.

[punkeropercyjackson]

I don't think all these simp writers are going all out like they should because well i always see them talking about loving unhinged as fuck goths who have a mean surface with hidden softness and goofy balls of sunshine that're actually huge badasses and have secret trauma and being horny over them but they never talk about Steph and Cass from Batman despite like 65% of the fan content being x Readers so if you're a self-proclaimed slut then listen to the voice of god and make good on your word.Fuck Stephanie Brown and Cassandra Cain