#Why We Broke Up

[beatricebidelaire]

i only saw gifs of DH interviewing people at grand central station about their breakups and chasing after people before but i didnt realize there's a youtube video .....

shaking at the part where this woman said her ex was bossy and DH's like. "you don't like a bossy person."

lady: no. not at all

DH: can you say that again

lady: i don't like a bossy person

DH: say it again

lady: i don't like a bossy person

DH: say it one more time.

lady: i don't like a bossy person

DH: seems like you follow orders pretty well

[pikminenjoyer]

After joining the tumblr votes with the #booktok haters discord votes, bable ended up winning

However I didn't really vibe with the book so I have dnfed it at 18%

The good news is, this means new book poll!

[aimmyarrowshigh]

Sapphic September 2023

076. Sugar - Min Green/Frankie Landau-Banks - Why We Broke Up & The Disreputable History of Frankie Landau-Banks

[inkskinned]

okay is she being actually immature or is it just a woman over 30 expressing a human experience you find to be immature.

like yeah. at certain ages... let shit go. im not defending the real immature shit. im not defending the karen you're picturing. i worked in retail i hate those people too. (once somebody got mad at me because she didn't like how our winter window decor was a snowman smoking a pipe. i wish i was joking).

but men at 57 will write books about how 17 year old girls are soooo sexy. they will invent worlds where women have to be naked for "armor reasons." they will write songs that treat women as objects. people rush to defend them. meanwhile a woman at 35 will be like "heartbreak is hard, actually" or "i feel betrayed by a friend" or "i am struggling with something emotionally." immediately people will say stuff like this woman is 35 by the way. by the way this woman is SO OLD to be experiencing this. BY THE WAY.

im 31, almost 32. the other day a poet was blasted online because at her "big age", she had written a poem about feeling unloved. top comment was "this woman is 29 by the way." this woman is too old to still be useful, by the way. she has to behave better . maybe if she was a good wife and mother she could stop existing loudly, and the story could continue on without her. this woman has served her purpose, by the way. she's so cringe, by the way. at 29 - so old! - she still hasn't figured out that her existence should be one of shame.

[dont-read-this-im-dead]

Imma be honest. I only went on...3, maybe 4 dates the whole of my high school career, so I don't know if I would have understood this back then, but as an adult who has had many failed relationships, I can definitely say I feel for this girl. I understand her.

[brightbeautifulthings]

Why We Broke Up by Daniel Handler

"A note, who writes a note like that? Who were you to write one to me? It boomed inside me the whole time, an explosion over and over, the joy of what you wrote to me jumpy shrapnel in my bloodstream. I can't have it near me anymore, I'm grenading it back to you, as soon as I unfold it and read it and cry one more time. Because me too, and fuck you. Even now."

Year Read: 2015, 2023

Rating: 4/5

Is it weird that I went through a breakup and this was the first book I reached for, or is that just bookworm things? It's been years since I read it, and I was curious to see the YA advice for having your heart broken. It turns out making a box of shit to get rid of from the relationship is actually kind of therapeutic, but I think it was less the physical act of making it than the not having to see the reminders around my house anymore that was truly helpful. In any case, this is why we broke up:

I have mixed feelings about Handler as a writer (and a human, but that's a separate issue), but in general I enjoy his John Green era of pretentious young adult narrators, so if that's your thing, this book is likely to work for you. I think the best thing it has going for it is its concept, and in that respect, it works very well. There's something fascinating about a history in objects, and it's lovely to watch Min tell the story of her failed romance through each item in the box, these trivial, saved, beloved things all coming together to represent something meaningful and now lost. I'm also a collector of trivial things (movie tickets, pretty rocks, a bracelet from an ex I haven't spoken to in more than ten years), so this resonated with me.

Unfortunately, it's not as strong in other areas. The artwork is, again, more interesting in concept than execution. They're sort of messy drawings/paintings of objects without context, and I strongly believe my fifteen-year-old niece could have done a better job with them. As far as character and plot go, it's fairly run of the mill, with little to separate it from other breakup stories. There's nothing that special about Min, her friends, or her boyfriend, and it occasionally dips heavily into "she's not like other girls" territory. It's a pretty classic artsy girl dates jock with predictable results story, with a side of the best friend was actually the love interest all along! As a side note: way, *way* too many uses of the word "gay" as an intended slur, despite Min's blatant commentary on why that's an issue. And that is why we broke up.

[asher-thinks-too-much]

We talked for the first time since we broke up

1 year later. I messaged you stupidly, you're the one who wanted to talk properly. There were so many things I knew I wanted to say before going in but I didn't one we were there...

Half way through I felt like I knew why we broke up. You were ranting about batting something that in the grand scheme of things is small but I kinda of liked. And rather than say anything, I went quite, just agreed with you even though deep down it made me angry because of all the other times we disagreed where your opinion was the only correct one.

I think thats the core of why it doesn't work. I get angry about something but then expect you to be a mind-reader and then it just makes me more bitter. Even now, Im ranting to an empty void online instead of telling someone actually in my life how I'm feeling. The truth is I know I hurt you when we ended things. But I was hurting while we were together. And its my fault for never saying so but I also guess you never noticed.

[miyamiwu]

How to say “I love you” in Blue Lock

I don’t really want to play soccer, but being with you isn’t a pain, so it’s fine.

Now that I can fight without you, being with you is even more fun

And then there’s this asshole...

I made it this far because of you. Since you allowed me to play soccer freely, I’ve grown this strong on Bastard München. But I can’t climb any higher that way. I figured that out in this match, I no longer need the freedom you give me. Forget about me, Ness. Find yourself a new king. It’s easier for me to live in restriction.

[scootarooni]

[each-uisge-enthusiast]

i do not have reasoning i just want to see the arthurian knights as coworkers in a grocery store bc i think lancelot n gawain would murder each other over the correct way to stock the shelves

[ivanttakethis]

Oh.

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[doux-amer]

[felsicveins]

Opening the asks again huh? Alright I’ll bite.

What’s your decision on Otto’s missing heart situation? Where is it? Does it exist? I want answers!

Not gone, just faded

[dont-read-this-im-dead]

"You should be taking a shower, but you're heartbroken on the bed, I hope so."

[eliotwaughdeservesbetter]

'buck's a grown up so treat him like one' lmao where was that energy when tommy was telling buck to put his phone away because it was past his bedtime lmao. people who care about you wouldn't encourage you to fight for somebody who dumped you lmao.

Are we talking about the time when Buck was definitely in a deep hyperfixation and couldn't stop surfing internet by himself? And when he was hurt and needed rest to heal? When Tommy was a caring boyfriend who brought him new ice pack, fluffed his pillow, asked what he needed, slept with him in the same room on a small couch in case of emergency, although could go home? This time? And remind me, did he took Buck's laptop away from him? I don't think so, he just told him to go to sleep because that's what Buck needed. So, all i see here a worried boyfriend.

Em, yeah maybe people shouldn't encourage their loved ones to fight for someone who dumped them. But shouldn't they care about their mental health? Buck is obviously struggling, he needs at least closure. And Tommy wants to reach out too, as we saw in the scene with babbling. So they really need to talk and people around Buck should see it and help him to have this talk. Considering none of them ever gave up on their loved ones. How many struggles Madney had? Henren? Athena&Bobby? And now they are strong. And shouldn't the fuck they encourage Buck to do something to get his happily after too? Even if just to talk to Tommy, understand why Tommy broke up with him, so even without their endgame Buck would know what the hell happend to the relationship he thought were good.

[demonslayedher]

I finished posting the unabashedly educational Sword Fic.

It includes a detailed (but hopefully beginner-friendly) explanation of all the steps of making a Nichirin blade from a sunny mountain like Mt. Youkou, a touch of swordsmith and metalworker folk lore (including demons), meta about what must make Kimetsu no Yaiba's swordsmithing methods different from real life methods, some character exploration for Haganezuka and his polishing method, vocabulary and additional resources in the chapter notes, and hopefully, an endearing, silly POV character to learn this all through.