#Unwelcome-ozian is a groomer

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@justforratkings

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Everything Unwelcome Ozian has done regarding this situation are abuser tactics. With the pure arrogance they have, seems like they're someone used to not having any accountability and getting away with hurting people. Who's comfortable hiding behind the internet and feeling superior because of their privacy, while violating others.

They are planning on attacking the teenage victim again and tumblr, and everyone who supports/follows/boosts that blog are giving them a platform to do it. What they did was cruel and pedophilic and they have no remorse. Abusing an already traumatized kid and leaving them even more vulnerable. From what they post and write they know the damage this does, the trauma this causes, how abusive it is. Its sick and they know it, they don't care. The more people who report the more likely tumblr takes action.

"The abuser starts the story where you hit your emotional, mental, and spiritual breaking point"

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Specifically women, and an even weirder pattern with teenage girls

terfs suck

Edit : speaking of, kindly block @snow-and-shadow-fairy (is a terf)

And @unwelcome-ozian (has a tendency to dox people and manipulate and abuse them)

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The Groomer Doc - unwelcome-ozian/ UWO/ U.W Ozain is a predator

All the screenshots and posts regarding the grooming allegations against unwelcome-ozian (UWO / U.W. Ozain) in one place. Its a Google doc.

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ozian has allegations of predation and abuse, too https://www.tumblr.com/silence-iz-violence/760665498770964480/the-groomer-doc-unwelcome-ozian-uwo-uw-ozain?source=share

the document is literally a manual to abuse people, i expected nothing else

it actually calls itself that.

what non-abusive person is writing manuals on how to severely abuse and traumatize children?

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So unwelcome-ozian posted a teenage girl's identifying information along with stories of her being sexually assaulted after she came forward about getting groomed by them.

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Hey I see you rebloging from this person a lot so just letting you know there are grooming allegations against them. They aren't safe. Tw they posted a teenage girls identifying information along with stories of her being sexually assaulted after she came forward about their behavior. It's pretty sick and disgusting.

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Unwelcome-ozian doesn't want or care about supporting survivors. If he knows someone, a kid who's actively being subjected to TBMC and RAMAOA he will make it worse, and publish stories of them being raped online. Along with their identifying information and location. He doesn't care if you're a kid. He will put that on the internet for you to deal with for the rest of your life, for anyone to find.

 He will publish your triggers and mental and emotional weaknesses, personally (re)traumatizing you purposely. As well as putting you through having each of those triggers brought up. He will make aspects of your life and trauma, the names of your abusers and their professions public before you're ready. He will threaten you and leave you in fear and in pain and he will gloat about it, and avoid any accountability or responsibility for how he treats the people he's supposedly here for.

He does this after he gains your trust, and asks you to tell him things. He's an abuser and a child predator who likes the supply of attention and validation and prestige he gets online, who sadistically tears down anyone who threatens his ego. He acts with extreme cowardice and childishness. Don't infantilize a grown man for his trauma history, remember his victims have a very similar history.  remember his hypocrisy.

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@justforratkings "Unwelcome-ozian posting my sexual history, and sexual traumas in great depth and detail on the internet along with personal identifying information was retraumatizing. I felt extremely violated, robbed of autonomy. Talking about this situation with others IRL it sounds like I've had my nudes posted, while I've never had that experience I think it might feel pretty similar in the sense of having my sexual privacy violated. I once trusted him with my life and he threw me away like trash after I did what he asked, and then asked for more consistency in return.

It was MY story, and he took it. I was so sad to have my life and insecure unfiltered thoughts put out on display, I was scared of the criticism and scrutiny I'd receive, blame and ostracization and stigmatization for being victimized. Scared of all my weaknesses and triggers being available for anyone and everyone to use against me the same way he did, tear me down and hold me back with. I was scared for my future.

I know that document is floating around forever, I've received harassment over it here on tumblr and through my mobile #. Probably what he wanted. I've been victim blamed several times even though I'm a teenger and this is a 50+ year old man. He groomed me and got information from me and I have a lingering fear of what Oz has done and will do with the information next, exacerbated by his current threats.

I felt so vulnerable and unable to protect myself, helpless to and scared of the abuse he was knowingly, purposely setting me up for, devastated that he betrayed me in such a traumatic way. While also dealing with our trauma bond and his abandonment. I felt like this abuse was going to permanent and life long, I felt so confused and overwhelmed about how old he is and that he did that to me and betrayed everything he claims to support and advocate for. The truth of him was revealed in such a sadistic, terrifying, heart breaking way.

Oz will abuse you. He admitted to monitoring me but I won't hide the damage he did and further empower that pedo. Social vulnerability is a distressing and traumatizing for any human being, Oz left me no choice but to be in a vulnerable position, purposely. He is still threatening to post more under the same title he originally released the document under.

One quote thats always stuck with me is "a narcissist will ruin their life to ruin yours", which I apply here to mean they do not care about making a fool and an ass out of themselves, as long as they can hurt you. Its ironic the way he is acting like a child. A scared child hiding from themselves and what they've done.

Why was he talking to and reading that stuff about a teenage girl anyway? He's not a therapist, he's not qualified or trustworthy or supportive. I'll tell you why, its cuz he's a pedophile."

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@justforratkings "Stalker: A person who stalks: a person who pursues someone obsessively and aggressively to the point of harassment.

The Stalker Papers

Thank you to those who know the truth and suggested I share.

Oz



sure-i-can-wait-just-gimme-a-sec

I was not aware that I would be used as some kind of evidence. I blocked @unwelcome-ozian for a reason, and as such do not wish to have my username shown here. I do not want this here, and just because you're unable to ask does not mean you have free reign to use our DMs without some sort censorship.

I also find the way this was name interesting, like it's some sort of Netflix expose. This person is barely an adult, and anyone who reads these "papers" will know that. This isn’t The Twitter Files, this is a personal issue. Since you did not take care in censoring information, particularly their location, you put them at risk of being targeted and hurt.

To make it clear, I am not RAMCOA. This does not put me in direct danger. However, the fact that this was put up without my knowledge is telling. It tells me that you don't care that I or anyone else gets harassed online for supporting a supposed "stalker."

People trust you. People will still trust you after this. But be objective, and practicewhat you preach. I want to be as fair as possible to both sides, but this makes it hard for me to support you. "

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@justforratkings "What my intentions are and to those wanting me to “give proof” or “receipts” 

This is not a troll. I'm not politically motivated. I'm a survivor of extreme abuse and torture who wishes to have safe accessible resources and support. Oz's betrayal broke my heart. When I learned of another survivor of his abuse I knew I couldn't stay silent. People deserve to know what they're capable of. This is meant to be the warning I feel like I really needed. It's part of my healing to break the cycle of silence. 

As for the @’s, How else was I supposed to get eyes on it? I'm not sure. I'm not your perfect victim.

His defenses are carefully crafted. Once you see it, you can pick up on how manipulative and gas lighting he is. If sharing my personal experience is baseless to some people, then they should reconsider their approach to survivors. 

I'm afraid whatever proof I post won't be enough. People will want more and more. I don't have to prove my abuse to people to warn others. I'm not looking to prove myself or what happened to anyone. I'm not gonna put myself through that and reveal personal details and triggering info.

I knew people wouldn't believe me, I know he has loyal followers. It's important that I speak my truth and don't stay silent. Even if people hate me for it. It could be much worse if I put more personal and triggering info out there.

Who is really doing the silencing? 

This is my experience. It's up to you whether you believe this is coming from a genuine place. Stay safe"

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@justforratkings "Unwelcome ozian, UWO, nwo, was taught how to trauma bond others to them. They groomed me for years starting when I was barely 15 years old, and then doxxed me, and posted softcore csam. They knew my age. I've posted screenshots on this blog. This is a message of caution, I wasn't sure how to warn people, especially minors. stay safe. 

@michaelmyersbignaturals @nessieac @apexriftologist @hey-pretty-mama-its-johnny-bravo @buttercup-smile-afternoon @dual-domination @some-teeth-in-a-trench-coat @rbjr @pieisnotreal @chibi-blue-scapula @krozakerie2 @selkies-song @ragebot @dragons-under-the-bookcase @ships-bynoa @ramita730 @dejdreamer @eggingtontoast @realisticflyinglesbian @hypergamousangle @snacklepack @madhatterene @strangeharmonyharmony @jaretths @yeuleist  @unlucki @absent-still @icrimsonium @just-a-pansy @for-the-love-of-flowers @classicrockmusic7625  @h-ika75 @bbcphile @pathfinderswiftpen @betterthanakickintheteeth @nastyblasty @hearth4days @globalconsciousevolution  @aditipanchal @strkid @somewherenothingcaneatyou-blog1 @tatisthoughts @illimitable-freedom @furiousgoldfish

Another user told me unwelcome ozian is "known to groom". My experience interacting with them has been horribly traumatizing. "

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@justforratkings "To anyone who sees this please be understanding as I go at my own pace sharing this story. 

These are screenshots of the beginning of our conversation and some from later on. Oz knew my age. I was sharing things with him of a sexual nature, abuse/harassment I was enduring or experienced. He set no boundaries, which an adult talking to a minor about their sexual experiences should know better than to do (Pedo). Asked me to keep talking to him, and give him updates. Mentioned me having transference. The level of sexual details I shared became quite extreme, please understand why its hard for me to share more right now.

Unwelcome Ozian has yet to address this, or try to make things right. Let that speak to his character and how he handles (manipulates) situations. I've never seen an innocent person have a problem saying they are innocent."

@rainbow-fairylandsystem

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@justforratkings "Unwelcome ozain, UWO, nwo, was taught how to trauma bond others to them. They groomed me for years starting when I was 15 years old. They knew my age. This is a message of caution, I wasn't sure how to warn people, especially minors. stay safe. 

@michaelmyersbignaturals @nessieac @apexriftologist @hey-pretty-mama-its-johnny-bravo @buttercup-smile-afternoon @dual-domination @some-teeth-in-a-trench-coat @rbjr @pieisnotreal @chibi-blue-scapula @krozakerie2 @selkies-song @ragebot @dragons-under-the-bookcase @ships-bynoa @ramita730 @dejdreamer @eggingtontoast @realisticflyinglesbian @hypergamousangle @snacklepack @madhatterene @strangeharmonyharmony @jaretths @yeuleist  @unlucki @absent-still @icrimsonium @just-a-pansy @for-the-love-of-flowers @classicrockmusic7625  @h-ika75 @bbcphile @pathfinderswiftpen @betterthanakickintheteeth @nastyblasty @hearth4days @globalconsciousevolution  @aditipanchal @strkid @somewherenothingcaneatyou-blog1 @tatisthoughts @illimitable-freedom @furiousgoldfish @royal-specialty @dreamstuff @goodnastygirl @reba-sheba @fatedprophetess-perfectstorms @entbloesst

Another user told me unwelcome ozain is "known to groom". My experience interacting with them has been horribly traumatizing.



herr-surgeon

I am reblogging this on my main ad well as my alternate account (@cuteboysbite )

this post was made by a close friend of mine who I trust very much, and unfortunately their experiences can be corroborated and backed up by many users.

while I was not groomed by Oz, I can back up the facets about his carefully crafted persona, his avoidance of any blame and his gaslighting behavior.

I do not have screenshots as our interactions occurred in the DMs of an old throwaway account of mine, that is long since defunct. However, I remember clearly that I would ask him questions since he posed himself up as an authority on systemhood, trauma recovery and recovering from toxic relationships. When I would ask him a question, he would either avoid it completely, or answer in the most condescending way humanly possible. He would tell me I didn’t know what I was talking about, that my experiences couldn’t be real, and that he was the older, wiser authority so he knew best. I was lucky to get the ick and block and run before it got to the point it did for OP, but I saw the warning signs of what it could’ve become.

Oz is not a kind individual like he paints himself as. He is rude, vindictive, predatory and demeaning. He doesn’t care for the people who follow him loyally or try to be his friends. He cares for control, and a good reputation. Oz is not a kind individual like he paints himself as. He is rude, vindictive, predatory and demeaning. He doesn’t care for the people who follow him loyally or try to be his friends. He cares for control, and a good reputation. He aims to trigger people with his content, to demean and invalidate, and to appeal to a crowd that does not have the majority of the DIDtumblr’s community at heart. He has historically sympathized with alt right groups, refused to answer when asked about SUPPORT of them, has posted antisemitic and homophobic remarks? And he’s swept it under the rug claiming people just want to silence him. I do not want to silence him.

people in the notes suggested that this is politically motivated due to his support of Palestine or disparaging the US government. It is not. Check my own blog, I do both of those things while managing not to be like Oz.

it isn’t fucking political. Get it through your head. So many other users have talked about similar experiences and not been believed. When is enough enough?



herr-surgeon

In so many discord servers, tumblrs, chats, etc, he is hailed as a resource and an authority. In so many trauma recovery and DID discords, he is in the important resources and his opinions and writings are hailed as the only correct takes ever.

he is not the perfect victim he paints himself as , he is not an activist, he is not honest and he is not kind. He is imperfect as we all are.

He is not an activist, he is a grifter. he changes his opinions to whatever gets him the most damn attention. He changes his opinions to whatever will be accepted by the majority. He changes his opinions to look holier than thou.

he is not honest and he is not kind. His history is not genuine. His replies are not kind.

unwelcome ozian is not a safe or trustworthy member of our community.



the-monarch-effect-official

This was a hard thing to come to terms with, but I'll speak on it. I've had to do some thinking, and realizing the red flags, but it's been so long it can't effect me that much.

@unwelcome-ozian My trust has been broken.

I began writing The Monarch Effect around 2020, when I was still in high school. At the time, I had just discovered I was a system while researching D.I.D. and dissociation, as well as RAMCOA. Reading through material was hard and confusing, and, of course, I had questions. However, as I was still new to the D.I.D. community and the concept of being programmed, I had this unfortunate conception that I could trigger someone and hurt them at any random time. Since UWO was seen as an authority, I went to him, hoping that I could understand the concept better.

Sooner or later, I felt safe enough to ask him for help with my own issues. I did not have a solid support system at the time, and I thought he could understand what I was going through. But, looking back, boundaries were not put in place. This is the internet, you cannot trust everyone you meet with your issues.

I can't say I was groomed per say, as I never brough up sexual things and neither did he, but I definitely feel like I had to treat him as this celebrity type person, someone who took pity on little 'ol me. This was similar to another experience I had with a person (a man in his 40s) on HelloTalk, but by then, I had people in real life that I could go to and warn me.

But it wasn't him that actually helped me understand RAMCOA and DID, but the writing process itself. Sure, I used research materials as a guide, but from what I understand now, "programming" is not as clear cut and has different definitions and connotations depending on the context. People are complex and all have unique experiences, and just because you are a victim doesn't automatically make you a good person, especially if you perpetrate abuse, intentionally or not.

Instead of encouraging me to talk to an adult, such as a parent or my therapist (who I've since come to understand her perspective), he instead affirmed me and my hardships, speaking in a way that made me feel like I had someone who had my back. However, I also felt like I was bothering him, and would apologize profusely. It was a while after (sometime last year) I realized I was depent on him and soon stopped talking to him since. A yes-man will only get you so far in life, but I didn't know who my real friends were at the time. UWO was not my friend.

Thankfully, I did realize who my friends were over the past few months, particularly since my Tumblr hiatus (I love this site, but it's called a Hellsite for a reason). In that time realized that I was dependent on a particular friend of mine, but only after they abruptly cut me out of their life entirely. I am glad that I kept my distance with UWO, or NWO as @justforratkings referred to him as, because Lord knows what would have happened then. Instead, I was too afraid to bother him, and eventually realized I needed to just focus on myself and not rely on the opinions of others as much. I have also since gotten better at journaling my thoughts in a physical notebook, as well at the negative effects of venting out into the open void of the internet, hoping for someone to come and make me feel better (yeah, don't do that).

UWO did not help me, only gave me small bits of things that seemed pretty clear, but still left me confused. I just wanted straight answers that didn't resort to reading through harsh things just to find what I needed. My system ended up being more helpful in understanding, since many of my alters appear as my characters, and help me at times as "actors." (It's also the likely reason I have so many that look like Samuel in different outfits).

I've since talked to @justforratkings and also asked UWO about the situation. UWO called them a stalker and told me to contact the authorities, which was strange considering their ages. The last message to me was "do what you feel is best for you." So, I did that by blocking him on the account I talked to him with, my main. I never really got any responses on this account anyway.

It's an ironic parallel to Samuel, the main character of The Monarch Effect. He used to be a sad puppy type character until I realized he works better narratively if he starts off as a villain, at least from the perspective of Carlos, the detective who wants him in jail no matter what. In the beginning of this journey, Samuel was once a victim of circumstance and has since evolved into someone much less empathetic and good natured, and more selfish and a perpetrator of generational abuse. I thought this would be him straying away from UWO, but now it's almost as if they've become more similar. Write what you know, I guess?

TL;DR Unwelcome Ozian is not as helpful as he seems. He'll say he supports you, but won't actually help you move forward all that much. He's just another person on the internet, and should regarded as such. It took me until now to realize that.



herr-surgeon

I appreciate another’s’ perspective on UWO/NWO. I am reblogging to boost the original post, and to boost your words.

The whole situation has honestly jaded me. I have not had experience with cult activity, so much of his advice was never applicable to me. This could be positive or negative.

I see a pattern of the same behavior, breaking boundaries or switching to sudden aggression.



the-monarch-effect-official

I appreciate yours too. Seeing both helped me step up myself.

In regard to him being agressive, I don't remember anything specific right now other than his accusations that one's programming experience wasn't actually programming, but nothing really towards me. He's gatekeeping a specific trauma that likely varies from person to person on different levels. From a writing perspective, that was one of the things I realized when I couldn't fit everything in the context of a victim born to German Neo-Nazis. A system based on Oz or Wonderland directly just wouldn't make sense, being that they aren't German stories.

RAMCOA can happen anywhere greedy people are willing to lie and hurt others to protect themselves and those like them.



justforratkings

Unwelcome ozian decided to address the situation in private DMs with another user. I wanna say thank you for the support I've been getting moving through this. I've learned that nwo has talked to several young women and girls (minors) online being aware of their ages.

Unwelcome ozian never asked me to stop messaging him, or blocked me. Instead he encouraged me to keep talking to him, even when I said I didn't think it was healthy for me.

Where did the survivor's advocate persona go? Since when must someone report / go to police to be valid?

Unwelcome Ozian states he wants to create a space for people to share or ask questions, and he's suggesting I put everything I shared on the line to take issue with his predatory behavior? Why doesn't he hold himself accountable or take responsibility?

"I knew this accusation was coming" is an admission. Full stop. Unwelcome ozian does not care about his followers or their well being. His motives are selfish, egotistical and narcissistic."

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Unwelcome-ozian's book selling step by step instructions on how to sexually assault a child. Including which sex positions to rape a child in and what to say to a child while raping them. As well as how to gas light, trauma bond, and abuse the child.

Link to free copy of Rules of Programming - you can see for yourself.

In light of unwelcome-ozian publicly abusing a teenage girl I wanted to put a spot light on this. This comes from someone who claims to have been taught how to abuse children, and is now teaching other people I guess? Presenting it as raising awareness for the sake of survivors of child abuse, but after what been brought to light about them this is a lot more disturbing.

It provides step by step instructions on how to gas light and trauma bond a child to you after / as you sexually abuse them.

They are currently threatening to post stories of a teenage girl being torutured and sexually assaulted, along with her identifying information without her consent, again. In retaliation for her coming forward about her experience with them.

They are undeniably well aware of the damage and trauma they are inflicting.

They openly give "tips" on how to abuse children.

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Unwelcome-ozian is an abuser

Here is a check list of common abuse tactics and Unwelcome ozian's perfect score. Reminder as of writing this the victim is a teenage girl, and was 15 when she began chatting with nwo.

Emotional abuse:

Silent treatment - refusal to communicate.

Gas lighting - playing victim after coercing a teenage girl to tell him more and then ghosting her. He implied he didn't want anything to do with her publicly after privately pushing her to talk to him .

Blame shifting / victim blaming - calling the girl obsessed after he manipulated her and trauma bonded her to them by love bombing and alternating between validating and ignoring her. Ignoring her for weeks and months after asking for updates, and then talking to them for 3 days, promising to read everything, then back to ignoring them despite her pleas to be acknowledged. Then using this trauma to further gas light and harm her by painting her as the aggressor.

Intentionally humiliating a teenage girl - putting her on blast, along with her deep personal traumas and thoughts, intimate details, and identifying information to his follows and the entire internet.

Manipulation:

Calculating - not responding to use the victim's emotional upset against her instead of asking her to stop. Using his followers to dox and humiliate her.

Hypocrisy - wanting others to respect his boundaries while violating other people's boundaries. Wanting others to compasionately consider his condition and mental emotional state while ignoring that of others, or better yet using it to insult and dismiss them.

Excuses - using sympathy for his trauma to avoid responsibility. Avoiding criticism (and growth) by acting as though anyone who takes issues with his behavior are trying to silence him, which is a disgrace to all that is being silenced, and further hypocrisy because he is the one who dismisses and silences so many other survivors.

Threats - saying he will post the (dox) stalkers papers again to another website multiple times after staff removed the content for violating community guidelines. Possibly suggesting he may sue the victim.

Stalking / hoovering - admitting to monitoring the victim's accounts, and saving their posts.

Validation/ supply - the people he is the warmest to are teenage girls who validate and adore him. I say this after speaking to many users. He gets a supply of validation and attention online and likely uses this justify himself and or soothe his extremely low self worth.

Lack of empthy - Cruelty and vengeance in his response. Not caring about the trauma he may have been inflicting or the long term damage to his young victim. Score keeping by looking for payback with a malicious attack on his victims reputation.

Lack of remorse - no accountability or acknowledgement of the pain and damages he inflicts. Instead of changing or growing for the better, this is a pattern continuing to develop and escalate.

Grooming:

Inappropriate boundaries - setting no boundaries on what the teenage girl can say or talk about with him one on one. This intimacy was wildly inappropriate.

Breaking boundaries - pushing her to continue when she wanted to stop.

Inappropriate displays of sexuality - responding to her and encouraging her after she calls him "Daddy", says "I love you", and "another part of me think you could never resist reading what I send you" directly after talking about experiencing sexual feelings. He replied saying he will not reject her

I don't like the pop psychology demonization of NPD, but Unwelcome-ozian himself explained there is a category of abuse specifically classified as 'narcissistic abuse', and this fits his behavior the best. Pedophilic narcissistic abuse.