#Unlearn The World

[sonicziggy]

"God's Favorite" by UnLearn the World, Sean Price, Royce Da 5'9" https://ift.tt/AcU9PKI

[knifearo]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

[bacchuschucklefuck]

prayer of the day:

[cecoeur]

[sleepyminty]

Comparing reverse 1999 with genshin is like bringing a knife to a pristine tank to fight like:

JOE THE SAN FRANCISCO KID HAS DARKER SKIN TONE THAN ANY NATLAN CAST DONT DISRESPECT US LIKE THAT

[dengswei]

y'all have really got to stop undermining platonic relationships

[dirt-grub]

The way I see the charlie/allan/pim dynamic in terms of shipping is (in the beginning) pim likes charlie charlie likes Allan and Allan likes pim. Charlie is pretty sure he could never pull Allan and used to neg him and Allan 100% knows that’s what he’s trying to do and it did not work in the slightest. Allan’s crush on pim is mild and often overshadowed by how intense and high strung he can be (also Allan is a casual relationship only kinda person he doesn’t believe in soulmates which is antithetical to pim as a person. It keeps him from really pursuing it even if there’s somewhat of a mutual interest). And of course Pim is desperately in love with Charlie who is 100% oblivious to that fact. Over time though charlie and Allan realize they have more in common than they thought, and also bond over their feelings about pim- allan being vague but knowing exactly how he feels and Charlie has absolutely no idea but the way he talks about pim in private Allan fucking KNOWS but Charlie doesn’t seem to so he keeps his thoughts to himself 😭

[macaroni-and-pebbles]

*grabs your face* There is so much beauty and joy in this world I am begging you to see it

look at all things little or big, look at things you might’ve enjoyed as a kid that gives you such nostalgia now, looks at things the others look over, look at whatever makes you happy, focus on the details or the big picture, just PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE try to see it because this world has so much to offer you

interact with your closest friends or maybe people you haven’t spoken to in years!! play with your pet!! take a walk!! start a craft—finish a craft!! engage with media you like!! go do something fun!! do whatever you want that makes you feel good!!! just PLEASE let yourself feel that childlike wonder

[lazyveran]

rereading my own work realising i need to make azula WAY more mean and cruel and nasty. sigh. the things i must do for evil women

[watermelinoe]

hii. I feel really odd doing this but I have nobody to ask for advice in real life and I can't post to reddit because surprise surprise all the radical feminist/gender critical subreddits got taken down, and you seem like a kind intelligent individual who might have good thoughts

so, my best friend whose fake name will be Aspen, and who in all honestly I've been completely in love with since we were seated next to each other in seventh grade pre algebra when I was eleven years old (I have never told them although I'm kind of awful at hiding it) is female but identifies as non-binary, and uses they/them (which is what I'm using here because I use those pronouns for them in real life and it feels odd to change that just in this ask). I was raised by a radical feminist philosopher, and I am itching to say who but then my cover would be completely blown, and I share almost all of her views, including the gender-critical ones.

the thing is that when I met Aspen and became absolutely enamored with who they are as a person and for about a year after that, I too identified as nonbinary and was very anti-radfem. I have since detransitioned and gone back to my birth name and everything and Aspen has been incredibly supportive, but I have never told them how my views have shifted about "transgender" politics. I have brought it up without explicitly stating it, we had a conversation where I genuinely inquired about how they felt their "gender identity" was different from simply being a gender non conforming woman and how being trans is supposedly different from identifying with the gender roles of another gender. they did not dismiss me and we actually had a productive conversation which really shows you how kind and smart they are. I think I introduced some new perspectives that may or may not end up being actionable on their part because as of now they haven't brought it up again though they did definitely seem receptive and genuinely thought about it.

obviously, I think that their gender identity and subsequent trans politics have been heavily influenced by general patriarchy and societal values, but as most radical feminists do, I do not at all believe that this is their fault. but I feel like I can't try to help them without alienating them or making them feel as if I don't love them or that I believe them to be broken in some way, especially given that they've identified this way since before I knew them and were very severely bullied for it growing up. for me, their identity and politics do not change the fact that they're my first and only love, and hands-down the kindest and most compassionate person I've ever met.

I adore them and I do not know how to balance that and my commitment to radical feminism, both of which I would fight to the death defending but which seem to inherently contradict each other, and I feel like I cannot do this juggling act forever and need to somehow make them understand what's behind their identity, keeping in mind their background, without breaking their heart and their trust in me as a person and a friend.

I'm so sorry to leave this in your askbox and you are not at all obligated to respond to it but you seem like someone who might have some insight

xM

i think this is comparable to loving someone who is deeply religious when you are an atheist. do you see yourself single-handedly deconstructing their faulty belief system? you can't make someone come to the conclusions you want them to, especially not a deeply held and essentially spiritual belief that is not rooted in reality. of course you can love someone despite a fundamental difference in beliefs, but you can't expect to change them, and that's okay. your commitment to radical feminism isn't evangelical, you're not responsible for converting other women and you're not only allowed to associate with other "believers." the connections we make with other women, meeting them where they are, are material and vital. it's fine to gently press back against her beliefs, and you should feel comfortable being open with yours.

[tiercel]

Insane for years i began to ruin my own art to the point i almost gave up drawing entirely cause i became so obsessed with seeming perfect & was absolutely, positively certain everyone would look at every minute detail of my art to make fun of it and now that ive given up on all that my art has actually improved by tenfold

[pilloclock]

Do you condemn Hamas ?

FREE PALESTINE 🇵🇸 watch this video in full especially if you’re somehow still on the fence or disgustingly Pro Israel and think Hamas is the reason for this genocide against Palestinians. Hamas is not the reason.

[hussyknee]

Me, watching any brown person rise to fame or sympathy: please don't do or say anything antiblack please don't do or say anything antiblack please don't do or say anything antiblack please don't do or say anything antiblack please don't do or say anything antiblack please don't do or say anything antiblack please don't do or say anything antiblack

[gaminegay]

Like do people actually feel feelings in a normal healthy uplifting way or am I carrying water in a sieve

[mars-ipan]

the thing about making an au that involves catholicism when you live in a culturally christian environment that they don’t warn you about is you start to associate normal phrases with faggotry

[enypneion]

i keep thinking about ailun and his arc of unlearning everything his father had taught him because the abuse he went through had affected him to a point that he harbors both negative and positive emotions towards him, but there is also a lot to unlearn behavior wise. there is an internalized messages about weakness, shame and expectations that his father gave him. it taught him that affection or validation is only given conditionally or that love must be earned by enduring pain or mistreatment. these ingrained beliefs made it incredibly difficult to trust, to be vulnerable or even to feel deserving of kindness and respect in any of his relationships, both personal and political. there was also the challenge of detangling identity from what’s been taught. for ailun, a father’s role is pivotal in shaping his self - image and confidence, but in the context of his abuse, their relationship distorted self - understanding. he struggled to find his own identities, especially since he's been told (implicitly AND explicitly) that he's not enough and that he should be a certain way. this struggle was only intensified when unlearning as it required him to let go of the need for approval that has been deeply embedded since childhood. it's such a long process but !!!!