#USERS & ABUSERS

[star-anise]

I get how it's not actually paradoxical or surprising but it's eternally hilarious to me when the same people who say "But they're your FAMILY! You can't turn your back on the people who raised you!!!" also think it's a-ok to disown your children for the high crimes and misdemeanours of like. Smoking pot. Getting pregnant. Sucking dick.

[incognitopolls]

"Abusive" includes forms of abuse like physical, mental, emotional, or any other form.

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[vetteldixon]

seblr vs the world

[bisexual-neco-arc]

the jokes write themselves on twitter dot com

[fauvester]

[willgaham]

SUCCESSION | 2018 — 2023 Roman Roy + love as violence 3.09 / ada limón, the carrying / 4.09 / ada limón, lucky wreck / 2.06 / margarita karapanau, rien ne va plus (translated by karen emmerich) / 4.10 / erin slaughter, i will tell this story to the sun until you remember that you are the sun / 4.02 / traci brimhall, come the slumberless to the land of nod

[blue-rose-soul]

Vaggie: Alastor, what the hell!?

Charlie: You can't hit a kid!

Alastor: That child was acting like an insufferable brat. Someone had to set it straight.

Charlie: It doesn't matter! You don't hit kids, that's no way to teach them to behave!

Alastor: Well, that's how I was raised.

Vaggie: Who the hell raised you?

Alastor: My mother's murderer.

Charlie: ...

Vaggie: ...

Everyone else in the hotel: ...

Husk: ...Yup, that tracks.

Alastor: ??? :)

[oceanwithouthermoon]

imo everyone who insists that saikis life was perfect and he was a spoiled brat complaining about nothing are just purposefully ignoring and misinterpreting the whole manga simply because they like other characters better and want to make up scenarios to make their fav seem like a precious little victim in every situation

its hard to explain but i see it happen a lot with specifically people who have dedicated accounts for other characters and constantly misattribute every issue to "saikis such a baby, my character has it way worse!" "saiki hurt my babys feelings once so i hate him!" "saikis such a spoiled brat, my baby has a way shittier life and never complains about it!" "saiki hurt my poor precious fav once so hes an abusive monster!"

and said "shittier life" that they "never complain" about is either the persons headcanons (literally made up) or... the character DOES complain about it and the person takes those words at FACE VALUE but ignores everything else, including things that actually HAPPEN right in front of our eyes

[agnesandhilda]

you really can't lose no matter what you interpret the mystery beverage kaiser is drinking in his supervillain monologue scenes as. if it's not alcohol then he's a child acting out the image of adulthood and adult power and if it is alcohol then he's, uh. becoming his father

[lunar-years]

I think that if I fell into an Amsterdam canal and a cute man in his houseboat saw me fall and offered to let me come onto his boat to dry off I’d have done it too. So jot that down!

[sevenfactorial]

Any algorithm can be a black box algorithm if you're too lazy to read the documentation

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[sysboxes]

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[neopronoun-user-culture-is]

neopronoun user culture is seeing stuff like "neopronoun users arent discriminated againts" and suddenly im 10 again talking to my dad about transgender people and neorpronouns and he asks if I use them and im too scared to say yes because i'm worried he'd hurt me, so I lie and say no and he responds "good". (if your uncomfortble w/ posting this you dont need to. im in a safe place. if you do post this please tag #abuse mention)

Neopronoun user culture

[museaway]

There are better posts about this floating around, but if you've missed them, tumblr has changed anonymous asks. They have to be sent from logged in accounts. If you receive an anon, you still won't know who has sent it, but tumblr does! This will help them deal with abuse reports. I'm sorry this change is coming so late, but I'm thrilled for people who will benefit from it

[aboutmercy]

thinking about how dongsik and joowon are the inverse of each other. thinking about joowon's journey realizing that blood is not thicker than water, ties can be severed from abusive family members (no matter how painful that is) and that among many things, his father's cruelty is what took away and destroyed dongsik's family who actually were a positive force in his life. many things about beyond evil appeal to me, but i mainly want to put a pin on the central themes of the show, particularly the failures of adults and parental figures, how that ripples through the lives of their successors in an especially vicious and self-destructive manner. this is a commonality found between multiple characters in the show (minjeong, joowon and jeongje) - but i want to put emphasis on joowon's struggle with this because his path to freedom was walked to completion, in comparison to minjeong whose life was cut short and jeongje who we part with carrying the painful knowledge that he may never achieve absolution, as his journey has only begun.

the show, technically starts at the beginning of joowon's journey/arc. unfamiliarity and discomfort force him to adapt and self-reflect, because the only way joowon was able to free himself was by breaking every rule his father set for him, going beyond his selfish confines and breaking down the walls he built. joowon is unable to get his physical body dirty, he is emotionally closed-off and is incapable of understanding why the people in manyang, particularly dongsik, would look out for anyone other than themselves. he is selfish, rigid, guilt-ridden and bashful; but it is exposure to dongsik's unwavering faith in and patience for others (for jeongje, for sangbae, for the people of manyang that have wronged him for years) that erode his harsh edges. dongsik, although not without flaws and contrary to what his outer appearance and manner of speech radiate, is kind and forgiving. that kindess, that forgiveness, as well as joowon's own guilt and shame is essential to getting him to a point where he is comfortable bloodying his hands, his clothes, and his face to protect dongsik (+ jihwa and her partner. to protect his friends).

dongsik recognizes joowon's pain too ("i know what it's like to be blamed for something you didn't do"). he sees his guilt, it's not inordinate to what joowon's done per se but a large portion of it brings so much shame to joowon ("please, stop doing unnecessary things out of guilt.") how could i have been so self-righteous when the man who bore me is responsible for so much misery? how do i rectify this, how do i absolve myself from the guilt? all dilemmas joowon grapples with, and dongsik, knowing pain and shame all too well does not grant joowon mercy when he is bowed down, forehead to cuffed hands while joowon's own are also cupping dongsik's, begging for it. mercy is letting joowon go, it's lifting the burden of responsibility off his shoulders - but instead, dongsik’s final request ensures that joowon truly atones ("i ask you to arrest me" - "no, how could i do that? i have no right") by informing him that the only way to live with guilt is to try and do right by the people who expect something from him. "joowon-ah", dongsik says as he softly picks up joowon's clenched fist, the look they share informs joowon that going through with the arrest is how he'll do dongsik right. it's what dongsik, his now friend, expects from him. that's what their final scene as partners is all about, in my opinion.

and something good does come out of dongsik's firm but tender confrontation. joowon gradually becomes a better person who seeks community and whose life, in return, is enriched by the friends that forming community gave him. dongsik and joowon's parting is bittersweet, but in letting joowon know that his actions matter to others and that he is wanted and expected by others - (jihwa, as part of the larger collective whose feelings towards joowon are influenced by dongsik's, texts him and checks in - that expectation to show up and empathy for when he does not respond is an invitation letting him know that there is a place for him if he chooses to occupy any) - dongsik sets him free.