#Too Busy to Grieve.
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I know that people are rarely their best selves at a funeral, but do you ever just watch your family move through the process of mourning the Patriarch and have a sudden and violent and vivid understanding of Why Everyone Is The Way They Are
#it doesn't really matter if the answer is yes or no#because the thing is i am watching my family disintegrate in the wake and wreckage of disability/chronic illness#and i am feeling a grief and a rage that i cannot quite cope with#i am feeling many things and I am extremely drunk on vodka and tequila and red wine and i spent all day emotionally regulating#the worlds most fucking fucked up audhd genetic pool i've ever seen in my life#i don't quite know how to cope with the things that have happened today and as busy as my brain is given all that i prolly shouldn't have#had quite so many substances#the crossfade is far superior to being sober around my family and apparently despite it all i wasn't too incoherent#i was a blubbering baby the whole funeral tho#and i did spend the whole reception trying to manage a pots episode and the whole after party trying to stabilize my cousins#i don't know where in all this I will really be able to grieve my uncle himself#but honestly part of the issue on that is that i am feeling rather upset with and disappointed in the few people in my family who I had come#to trust over the years#chrissy and jenn are still everything i knew them to he#*be#and everyone else.....well#the people i knew before at least#fucking intergenerational trauma - the musical
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So I was thinking about Doriath again, and about how I'm pretty sure C&C never told any of their brothers anything except "we duelled Beren and imprisoned Luthien to stop her from interfering" (which is an obvious understatement, but the others would not compensate enough for it, I think they would imagine some unhonorable fighting and murde attempt, and that's it).
And I thought about Caranthir, who was there with those two (it's a common fanon that 3 Cs died in roughly the same time and place and the other brothers weren't there).
About Dior, charging at Celegorm and calling him out, and Caranthir, the always easy to anger Caranthir, yelling "How dare you!" and running at Dior and getting stabbed by one of the Sindar, and the last thing he sees is Celegorm's extremely guilty face confirming everything Dior just said, :(
And the other brothers never even learned (Elwing did not know, I think, it's not a story you tell to children), maybe Maglor learned eventually, from Elrond's historical notes (let's not even get into Elrond's feelings about it) compiled from fragments of tales of the Sindar who survived.
And then in the Halls of Mandos, "you tried to do what—"
#c&c should be glad that spirits can't punch each other#like assuming that maedhros even went there#eventually#...tbh their dad would say it too [unless he's too busy grieving and/or being offended about his jewels]#ok pretty much everyone would yell at them tbh#excelp eol#eol wuold laugh#the hypocrisy#...assuming that eol even went to the halls#anyway tags:#silm#silmarillion#tolkien legendarium#the silm#the silmarillion#doriath#caranthir#celegorm#but mostly caranthir
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oh im obsessed with this actually… who ever wrote this one i am kissing u on the forehead and hugging you real tight… inigo is such a loverboy im kkkhhhhhhijnsdnfng
#ann plays awakening#EDITING TO SAY I STARTED TAG VENTING HIT READMORE AT YOUR OWN RISK#anyways#LAST LINE IS A KILLERRRR WOW#‘ann werent you just pairing olivia with thar—‘ OLIVIA IS A BUSY WOMAN OKAY#but also i just had this old save file from when i wanted to see pink inigo and decided to get some more supports#im obsessed actually like#ok tag venting time maybe this should be its own post but u guys know who i am#not only does this support in my very educated opinion do a good job at emulating inigo’s way of speaking#but i think theres also a very underrated characteristic he has that not a lot of people talk about and its that hes honestly quite morbid#him spending hours talking to and dancing with his mother’s grave is very beautiful and moving but it is also not a normal way to grieve#which makes sense because duh nothing about his life is normal but its j like. you know#if robin is his father (and maybe j the normal convo i dont remember) in the hot springs scramble he’ll insist upon bringing—#severed risen limbs home as a way to remember the peacefulness (lol) of the springs#and he thinks absolutely nothing of it!!#i think he gets attached to things just a little too intensely and because his life is surrounded by death how he expresses that can be#very interesting. and he talks about death all time more than the other kids#bc while a lot of their coping mechanisms are based in fear and the need to instill confidence in themselves (think cyn or gerome or owain#or sev or yarne or noire)#and how their SCARED of death and of loss and adapt different behaviors to act like theyre not (to varying degrees of success)#i think inigo is much more accepting of the fact that death follows him and has made it a normal presence in his life#which is not a good thing it means that he hasnt let himself grieve. he lets death hang over him and follow him instead of pushing back#also guess which one of the awakening trio in fates has the canonical story death. just by the way lmao#anyways bc im writing this in the tags on my phone i cant actually see what the hell ive been saying im j stream of consciousnessing this#but my point is that inigo has a weird fixation on death and dying that stems from his inability to make peace with death and grieve#and i think him idolizing death in this support (this BRILLIANT fan support that made me ill) is so in character and so lovely#i miss him so bad (hes literally in the photos im posting) grghhhrgah#i wuv him :(
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i feel for this guy and having to get out of the house that reminds him of his dead wife, but telling his children "i didn't leave you" when he v much did is honestly so fucked up
#like noah fence but you left your eldest son to run an entire business and take care if his brother right as their mom died#like they were full of grief over their mom and then had to grieve you bc you left them too! just bc you struggled doesn't mean they didn't#idk that just pissed me off. poor oyei has the world on his shoulders and dad was like ''not my fault''#tea talks#wandee goodday
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Scroll down a bit...
Someone who works on CNN's front page did a thing, I bet.
(A little while ago these two headlines were close enough together to get them in the same screenshot, but the second one was moved down before I got around to actually taking the screenshot.)
#us politics#us healthcare#gun violence#gee what could the motive have possibly been#such a mystery#the guy's wife apparently said he'd been getting death threats lately#“something about a lack of coverage”#I mean yeah *technically* violence isn't the answer#but it sure would be nice if some other insurance execs would look at the reaction this shooting has gotten and do a moral inventory#you know ask the question “is there anything about the way I conduct business that would lead strangers to celebrate my death?”#and act accordingly#I mean I'm sure the guy's family are grieving and that's unfortunate#and if anyone is @ing the widow or otherwise shoving their schadenfreude in the faces of the grieving then that would cross a line#but these people have been systematically blocking the development of single-payer or even a public *option* for decades now#and *countless* people have died because of that too
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hey man. i'm just saying. why would we put inexperienced teenagers with over-inflated egos and obvious emotional issues into combat classes and make them claw their way to the top of their dorms and expect things to just run smoothly. who actually thought this
#the reason rsa doesn't have overblots is because they understand the joy and whimsy of life and friendship btw#LIKE. why is there no school counselor?? do you know how much time & resources & effort & TRAUMA we could have saved the students &#school from if ANYONE had reached out to riddle and was like 'hey are you alright i heard xyz and i wanted to let you know...' ESPECIALLY#since TREY LITERALLY TELLS US 'oh well here's the lowdown on her trauma this is Probably what is causing this'#or if someone sat down to tell leona 'hey! i'm rooting for you in ur magift(?) game! you're my fav player!!' AND LET HIM FEEL NOTICED#or if someone approached azul as an Equal to try to stop his plans. as a friend even. BEYOND A BUSINESS TRANSACTION#or if ANYBODY BUT ESPECIALLY KALIM was like 'jamil i think you should follow your passions and do something you enjoy today!!' or AT LEAST#let him know he was appreciated as a person NOT JUST FOR HIS WORK#'i know you're doing a lot today but i just wanted to thank you for how much Effort you put into this and..' etc etc etc#ERM.. IF ANYONE TREATED VIL LIKE A HUMAN BEING AND NOT A CELEBRITY??? or even 'hey i loved you in this film i was wondering if we could#do a play together or something..!!' AND LET HER TRY A TYPE OF CHARACTER SHE NEVER GOT THE OPPORTUNITY TO BE. and sing her praises.#if anyone reached out to idia beyond a 'hey the teacher said to come to class'/'get out of your bed and come to our housewarden meeting'#or even. IF ORTHO HIMSELF was like. 'you know it's not your fault... you didn't cause all of this. not really' OR SOMETHING#or if malleus ever got to experience a small firsthand loss AND WAS COMFORTED THROUGH IT. not just quick fix via magic. not replacing. just#GRIEVING SOMETHING??????? and wasn't feared by literally everyone#um. maybe the real twisted part is that all of this tragedy was easily preventable if we had a support system in place.#but idk. twst is a highschool. there's no support in real high school either. i'd probably overblot too if i could ajdjrjfinfdndjd#twst#chatter#LONG RAMBLE SORRY#yes overblots are essential to the plot. but also. do you know how frustrating it is watching the blot build up and sitting in silence.#I'M SORRY IK IF SOMETHING LIKE THIS WAS HAPPENING TO A GUY I JUST MET I WOULD PROBABLY NOT NOTICE.. but of it was my Friend or Housewarden..#I'D ASK BRO.... I'D ASK ... UGHHHHHUUUHHHH#not that anyone would notice if *I* was about to lose it tbh#speaks volumes about our society o think#OKAY NOW I'M DONE FOR REAL
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nelvas Problematiq*eyes roll back into my skull* *falls flat on my face with cardboard cutout physics* ((7 hours later)) *wakes up in barren wasteland* I know everything now.
#text#hold on having automated nelvas truths#i think if t*lvas ever got a girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever (actually he'd be ashamed of being gay ithink but i'll have to think -#- about it🤦♀️) n*loth would get so mad at that fact he'd try to hurt his feelings first by saying he's not doing well enough on his work a#- then belittle his relationship in general. The jaw clenching eye rolling white hot rage he feels in himself anytime he hears t*lvas -#- laughing is CRAYZ 😂😂😂😂😂 i fink he'd just hate seeing him happy for any reason because it makes him cringe (in a very broad way)#not because it's t*lvas but bc he just has inset problems that make him hate happy people but it;s worse when it's t*lvas 😊 you feel me#anyways he'd just kill dat girlfriend and spend an hour getting rid of her body. or actually he might be the type to stage it so that -#- t*lvas sees it and is insanely hurt :) so in turn he can use that hurt to soften t*lvas' feelings toward himself when he shows him very -#- very veeeery fake and mild 'support'. that'd traumatize t*lvas so bad that he wouldn't even be against being close to neloff in any way -#- cause he's too busy crying and grieving IO808ITORE5JUDFKGLK bye#nelvas is so powerful because they are the only people in each others vicinity and neloff's grasp on t*lvas is just strong#why are you holding his arm like that bro nobody is gonna take your elven twink away from U#anywasy Yeah.... *proud face* *looking @ my nails*#the natural tsundere to yandere character development pipeline is unrealllll#Neloff is a Jealous Sim
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home sweet home !!!
#tumblr sweetheart ive missed you#mommys been too busy grieving the election results to b reblogging trauma posts and fawns
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i dont think he is but i think there’s a possibility that coach ben is alive and is just in serious hiding because of the absolute social outcry and backlash that he faced when they were finally rescued and everyone realized these kids had a literal actual adult with them the whole time but he was too gay and useless to prevent a single atrocity
#and he couldn’t even Tell them he was gay#he couldn’t even be like sorry i was too busy hallucinating my boyfriend to prevent cannibalism#he could only rely on his missing leg and no way would that be enough for a grieving parent#yellowjackets#m
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obviously ganondorf can make mimics of other people who are alive/dead for fucked up reasons, but consider:
making a replica of someone who has died/disappeared as a tool of comfort. it's still fucked up but in a new, fun way!
i.e. in genshin, so long as he knows what they look like and has a description of how they act, he could make a mimic of the traveler's sibling. delightfully fucked up enrichment for a lonely heart!
#█ || » ♛ cat lady status over 9000 ┊✧ | OUT OF CHARACTER#i would say he'd do this for himself but he rly wouldnt#he's too busy getting revenge to grieve in other weird nonviolent ways
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the past two years ive been both employed damn near close to full time and going through a dense degree program, but my office internship is now over and I am hunting for a full time gig which does fill some of my days, but i still have not had this much free time in a long while. so im finally circling some of my fic ideas/drabbles like a shark that smells blood in the water and im finally developing the plot so it has an actual story that i feel good about...
#my classes take up a whole two days out of the week. tomorrow im going to write a report which will take most of the day yea but its insane#what do i do. like i finally have time for my hobbies again which is ground breaking. the last short employment gap i had i was too busy#grieving the job and failing interviews and also dealing with lots of tests and other stuff life threw at me to appreciate it#im still dealing with a lot of bullshit drama right now to be real. I can feel the stress shaving off years of my life. but damn man#this employment gap actually feels nice for now. like i can actually do things i enjoy (so long as i avoid the bullshit drama)
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do u ever have a Thought and ur like “well that was either a profound moment of self awareness or the most stupid bullshit i’ve ever come up with”
#marzi speaks#hi i was like. ‘damn why does art about grief hit me so hard even though i barely change when i’m actually grieving’#and then i was like ‘oh wait maybe i’m just always grieving. maybe i’m grieving the loss of everything that ever was and will come to be’#‘maybe i’m grieving the things that never will come to be. maybe i’m grieving like literally everything always and forever’#‘and art about grief hits me so hard because it forces me to focus on it’#and then after that thought came a new question. ‘did i just uncover something about myself or is that a GAD worry spiral’#either way. maybe i should go on anti-anxiety medication#NOT rn though i am too busy with all of my other meds. i have Enough
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when i die, don't look for me in the sunsets...
sirius — look for me in the sky. i know it's a cliché, but there is where you will see me. am i scared of death? no, of course not. i am endless, i am invincible, i am bright; i am the brightest star, actually. i will reach out for you, and i will light up your way. you will find me.
james — look for me in the sky. you will see the sun, bright and scorching. i will warm you up when you will grieve for me, and i will bring closure to you. i might be gone, but i haven't left you alone. i am here, still. and i always will be.
remus — look for me in the river. see the stones, smooth and cold. look at the water, running. its way is freedom, isn't it? it's all ended; it's over. however, that does not mean you can't go on. fall in love. live. without me. we'll meet again soon.
peter — look for me somewhere quiet. there is beauty in quiet, although some people can't see it. it's peaceful. come sit with me, won't you? death is imminent, of course; however, why won't we make the most of life?
dorcas — look for me in my lover's arms. i have been deceived so many times, death does not scare me anymore; it's the last bit of closure i have. look for me in the little things, where i hide. many do not see me, yet i am here. you just have to look for me.
lily — look for me at home. everything has a start and an ending, and i am always coming back. look for me where i can be myself, where everything is warm. look for me at home. maybe, one day, it will be ours to share.
mary — look for me somewhere bright. the sky, maybe. or somewhere colourful. it helps me forget how alone i am, really. i forget about the loneliness that aches in me. someday, i wish you'd search for me. for now, grieve.
marlene — look for me somewhere loud. it helps me forget. scared of death? of course, so i don't think of it. i let myself be washed away with adrenaline, pumped through my brain, and with a moment of pleasure. life is short, after all.
#aside this being an insight in the kind of people they are i think it is also an insight of the way they perceive death#sirius thinks he's for the most part invincible and endless and therefore no one can kill him#james knows he will die and he made peace with it however he does not want people to feel alone just because he's gone#remus knows people will grieve over him and he doesn't want them to. he wants them to continue living without them#peter is a bit scared of death and he would like to live to the fullest so when he doesn't die he can't regret not living#dorcas is not afraid of death and willing to welcome it if it means saving someone else from it#lily believes death and life are a circle that end/begin home and so it's her way of coming back to watch over her loved ones#mary knows she will be left alone in the end and she wants to forget it and shelter herself from grief and pain and so she tries forgetting#marlene is scared of death but would never admit it. so she keeps her mind busy. she knows she'll die but she's scared of the idea of death#anyways this got waaay too long in the tags sorry#sirius black#james potter#remus lupin#peter pettigrew#dorcas meadowes#lily evans#mary macdonald#marlene mckinnon#my writing
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well. if nothing else. at least we have akutagawa august
THANK GODDDDDDDDDD
#AKUTAGAWA AUGUST AKUTAGAWA AUGUST AKUTAGAWA AUGUST!!!!!!!#I think I'm the only one genuinely celebrating rn everyone else is too busy grieving#ask#witch-of-aiaia#hi aiaia!
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*chants in increasing volume* ghost AU ghost AU GHOST AU GHOST AU
#dolphin noises#wips#I love me a good ghost AU 😭💜🎉😁#Timeline-wise I'm thinking maybe Cedric succeeding in his coup and Asbel arriving at the catacombs too late#Asbel passing right by ghost!Richard like a reversal of that iconic richass shot in the opening~#initially only Sophie can see his spirit due to her own enhanced capabilities#and Asbel can see him when they're all 3 holding hands a la Friendship Pact 💙💜💛#but ghost AUs are pretty much inherently tragic since someone's already dead#and if you play this one right you don't even need Lambda. One malevolent spirit is plenty 🙃#Asbel feels guilty for being unable to protect Richard in time but gets a chance to redeem himself this way#by helping Richard with his unfinished business that keeps him from moving on#Initially it's to ensure that his kingdom is not left in Cedric's hands (and maybe get a little revenge)#but Richard's own resentment twists him into wanting to take back EVERYTHING he's lost including things he simply can't get back#Richard's nature turns vampiric as he needs more and more eleth to sustain his continued half existence eventually targeting the valkines#And Asbel who had been so ready to give anything to help Richard realizes his beloved friend is crossing a line. people are getting hurt.#Thus the theme of the story shifts from 'protecting the will to live' to 'learning when to let go'#Poor Asbel having to learn this lesson first. That the best thing he can do for Richard is stop indulging his tainted wishes#and instead grieve together w him over what could have been then move on. It wasnt fair it wasnt kind but neither is what Richard's doing#it's basically the canon story except instead of saving richard and bringing him back it's saving richard and letting him go#it's angsty and bittersweet AF which is how you can tell it's PEAK dolphin AU 😅 themes of grief and loss and loneliness#helping someone who's lost themselves to obsessive love#'cause that's where Richard's anger comes from. the loss hurts so much because he cared so much. he wanted to fix the world then LIVE in it#dammit this is a half-baked idea and im already weeping 😭
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i can’t believe louis didn’t get the ick from the pathetic way lestat was clutching that piece of wood
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