#THAT’S NOT HOW FUCKING AUTISM WORKS
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god almighty (non-religious), i wish i wasn't low empathy. it sucks so much when a friend is not okay but you can't find the right script for how to handle that right now and you can't make yourself care as much as you feel you should. maybe if i was less tired and generally depressed myself, or if there was an active problem that could be solved, then i could actually figure out what to say. i can listen to venting fine, but i'm not about to promp it or anything because i don't really know if it's prying or prompting sometimes.
like, darling, i don't mean to just not answer you but you're clearly in a bad mood and not lending yourself to a normal conversation structure because of it, and i don't know what to say so i'm not saying a damn thing. sorry you aren't doing well, i wish you were and stuff, but i also don't naturally have the pieces that make me able to respond to that shit so i've elected to simply not.
#npd#actually npd#autism#actually autistic#low empathy#hes done a shitty job at responding to me objectively not doing well too#so im not sweating being a shitty friend#i wish i could do better but he should understand not knowing how to respond#otherwise hes a hypocrite#because hes watched me cry and have a panic attack at work and literally say “if i cant step away soon i will fucking walk out” thru tears#and his response was “lol alright” and not taking my spot or anything to get me a smoke break#when i was specifically telling him that i needed to step away for a minute#so his responses arent top notch or anything either#itd be cool if i had the energy to figure out a proper response#i want to be a good friend#id do anything for him if directly asked but im bad at guessing at how to help/care about people unfortunately#so theres that
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#i finally snapped today#at a couple of coworkers after work#who were referring to bad behavior by another person and speculating that they might be on the spectrum#and was like#no. fuck you. I'm actually autistic and this is really not fucking cool#I am so fucking tired of people attributing bad - or even just weird or unusual - behavior to someone possibly being on the spectrum#just talk about the behavior! You don't need to speculate!#and not only is it none of people's fucking place to speculate#it's just ableism#like not intentional#but if you sua sponte speculate like this about other people being on the spectrum for positive behavior#or in terms of 'this person may need accommodations'#(other than a general - well we should be forgiving of him (almost always him) being an asshole)#it's really obvious how you think about autism and autistic people
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to all the rhaenicent haters out there.. I love rhaenicent very dearly.. does anyone want to start like an enemies to lovers arc with me
#the enemies part is how you hate something i love and i love something you hate#LMAOO sorry im sorry#aye i mean who knows love works in mysterious ways am i right#no but first i need to finish my enemies to lovers trope with my fucking assignments and work im backed up on#house of the dragon#hotd#rhaenicent#enemies to lovers#alicent x rhaenyra#rhaenicent meme#like i love them in an autistic way and maybe you hate them in an autistic way we could fight via our autism and then fall in love TRUE#okay ill stop im sorry
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Just went to the dunmeshi tag. Disappointed.
#of fucking COURSE PEOPLE WILL CALL THEM AUTISM OR SOME SHIT#my fucking GOD IT’S A COMEDY#and people shipping marcille and falin#DO YOU NOT KNOW WHAT FRIENDSHIP IS??? HAVE YOU EVER HAVE ONE??? BC I DOUBT YOU HAVE#what do I expect from this site honestly#it's a shame people label those characters with just one shallow trait and not as something deeper#i guess it's how the communities in this site work now#WHERE'S THE MEMES???????
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I got.... my official adhd diagnosis....🥺🥺🥺🥺
Had my appointment where she went thru all the different parts of the testing and what they found by it. All sorts of things that I didn't even Realize what it was testing. And they pointed to combined type adhd!!!!!
There was also an iq test involved, specifically to test working memory in comparison to other categories, bc that's smth that adhd people tend to score low on. And I did too!!!! Compared to my other scores, at least. It was still average overall, but I scored "high average" on verbal comprehension and "superior" on perceptual reasoning and processing speed. WHICH MEANS!!!! Working memory was my low thing!!! Another thing pointing to it!!!!
Also the weird X test I took was the CPT-3 test and apparently it was geared Specifically towards adhd stuff. Which bc of my "atypically fast" reaction speed + "very elevated" commissions rate (which in this context means incorrectly hit space bar, aka I clicked when I wasn't supposed to) it showed a strong indication of impulsivity & some indication of inattentiveness and vigilance. That impulsivity is the big one here tho.
I'm just really excited now. I have a long report talking about all my brain stuffs that says I Do have adhd and that it would benefit me to take stimulants. AND!!!!! That I DONT have depression or anxiety!!!! That's a fuckin big one!!!!!! Bc they've avoided giving me stimulants in the past bc of the "anxiety" except I don't got it!!!! The examiner said exactly what I thought about it, which is that the prior disgnoses of depression and anxiety probably stemmed from effects of the untreated adhd. Aka I had Feels Bad Disorder. Ykno? Except not actually a disorder bc it was just a byproduct.
SO! Hopefully that can help me to get proper meds as soon as possible. Gonna be contacting my doctor to set up an appointment... soon!!!!!
#speculation nation#also i dont believe in iq being a good measure of overall intelligence bc there are many kinds of intelligence#.... that being said. it Does feel good to get a good score on it.#my overall iq according to this test is 122. which is pretty good!!93rd percentile. 'superior' as it states in the classification.#verbal comprehension had a 116 aka 'high average'. perceptual reasoning had 125 aka 'superior'#working memory had 108 aka 'average'. and processing speed had 120 aka 'superior'#ultimately it told me what i figured out during the assessment. that my visual based intelligence is high. but auditory is not.#since the working memory deals in short term memory. attention. concentration. and ability to manipulate attention heard.#which that all's why it's a good indicator of adhd when it's low. and it was Definitely my worst skill during the test.#she recommended that i come back in a year to get a followup exam. to see how well medication is helping me.#according to her there was a woman who went 11 years thinking she was functioning Wonderfully on her meds#only to find it was only helping One aspect of her adhd when she went in for re-evaluation.#so if i do go back. i wonder if she'd do the iq test again. and i wonder if id score better when on meds 🤔🤔🤔#i really. reaaaaaally want to get on meds so i can fix my brain. for the love of fucking god Please.#also the only diagnosis i got was for adhd. no mention of autism. which i dont know if she was even testing for it at all#i didnt mention it in the initial thing bc i didnt want to get it diagnosed. bc i dont think a diagnosis for that would help me.#so this is a good thing. especially the lack of depression or anxiety. it's exactly what i was thinking i had.#diagnosis... i got my diagnosis...!!! wahoo!!!!!!
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jla: welcome to the working week
[ID: Batman and the Flash talking about a recent mystery case. Batman info-dumps, “...‘Strawberry Letter 23.’ The song itself is number 23, because the lyrics refer to ‘Letter 22.’ So the symbol on the crucified cop was a response, or a reaction to something earlier.” Flash (who seems slightly bored) comments, “Batmam knows his Shugge Otis. Wow.” END ID]
#‘batman has no powers!!!’ you have failed to take into consideration the power of his turbo autism.#also listening to Shugge Otis because god i forgot how much his music fucks <333#c: jla: welcome to the working week#crypt's panels#batman#the flash#wally west#autistic bruce wayne
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what is the deal with college classes assigning stuff that is due on days when you dont have that class???? like huh???? is this a covid thing????? like bc of everything moving online they were just like “ok now that everyones used to turning stuff in online lets make things 20x more confusing now”?????? i hate it i hate it i hate it they didnt do this shit when i was in college the first time around
i hate learning that my homework for my Tue/Thu class was due like,,,, 10am on Sunday so i missed it and that happens multiple times so i have a D in the easiest class known to man
and if one of you fuckers even thinks the words “get good” or “skill issue” or whatever im manifesting in your walls with a glock
#lime rants#about me#i hate it i wanna cry#is this just how my adhd/autism manifests???? i just get worse at school as i get older?????#i honestly hate homework as a concept in general#when class is over tgst should mean class is FUCKING OVER#IN MY HUMBLE ONION#at a job if you have to work outside normal hours they pay you overtime#if im doing work outside of class i should be getting more credits#bitch i could be sleeping right now & ur ass is making me calculate buoyancy
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having another one of my job-related crises
#where are the jobs for blokes that do fuck all. where are they!!!!!!!#i am quite literally looking for jobs where you do nothing. you do not understand how much i dont want to do anything#granted my current job has a certain amount of doing nothing in that i have the time to look for jobs where i do nothing#but i want to do even more nothing. do you understand#if i lived on my own i probably would consider some weird night shift job#but its probably better i have the routine i have living during the day like a normal person#despite the drawbacks of my cursed routine#where are those jobs i see people making tiktoks about where you do fuck all in the office and send like one email a day. id kill for that#my dream is to be paid for like. mostly sitting somewhere where i can work on my needlepoint#id even do mindless data entry. PLEASE pay me for mindless data entry i love repetitive tasks. if you let me listen to music im unstoppable#ive come across a couple data entry jobs but i think they always require a college degree#and its like oops sorry i never had the time or money for that! still dont! however i can promise you my autism is qualification enough#my dad talks about the market research jobs he used to have and how for like the entry level jobs there#there was clearly so much goof off time they were playing early computer games and shit#but there were like so much more data entry jobs that i guess are obsolete now bc of technology#and its like yes technology good but theyve destroyed an important job category: jobs where you do fuck all#whenever i have one of these crises i also check out gigs n jobs on craigslist and unfortunately everything there seems so sketchy#like every 'personal assistant' job sounds either super pervy or like im going to get serial killed#i should get paid a million dollars a year for doing nothing at all i think#anyway once again my only option is my successful director dreams. would be great if theyd actually happen#<- guy that doesnt spend enough time actually working on creative works in progress#well anyway. such is my mental state today thank you for your time
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No I'm fine it's cool I'm just
#jane journals#vent#negative#ugghhhh today fucking SUCKS#WORK ALWAYS SUCKS#im on my period and my head hurts and im just tryna do my job!!! but theres people!!!!!#I HATE THEM#i know its my job to serve them and whatnot but when im the closer its ALSO my job to get the store tidy#HOW CAN I DO THAT IF THEY DONT FUCK OFF!!!!!#i know its not their fault theyre just coming in for coffee. for a service this business provides#ugh i think if anything its 1 the hormones from my period#and 2 my autism making me irrationally angry about my routine being disrupted#that being the routine i use to methodically get this place clean the quickest by the tasks i broke it up into#yea maybe its a bit of the tism ajfjgkgkg
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I haven't seen this take a WHOLE lot, but I have seen it enough to get. Frustrated. About it.
So for anyone who doesn't get it: no, symptoms of mental illness are not, in every case, majorly or solely the result of Dealing With Capitalism. Sometimes, they can be! Sometimes the symptoms are situational, and those situations are heavily related to how much capitalism sucks! But many times they are not. I am sorry, but mental illness and trauma and neurodivergence are still going to exist even if capitalism completely goes away. We still have a responsibility to treat the people affected by and experiencing these things with compassion and understanding. We still have to. You know. Acknowledge that their life experience is going to be a lot different than many other's is.
#I promise that when my ocd onset happened at 10 years old I was not thinking about capitalism#germs are still going to exist post-capitalism. the concept of a good person vs a bad person is still going to exist post-capitalism#which means. if those are your OCD Themes™. then. you're still going to have OCD post-capitalism.#and this is true for. you know. EVERY INSTANCE OF THIS.#you take things that are rooted in trauma like did or ptsd. I hate to tell you this but mistreatment and the trauma that results from it#are still going to exist in a post-capitalist world. bad people who do bad things WILL ALWAYS EXIST. so those illnesses are likewise still#going to exist. plenty of anxiety-based symptoms are related to fears that. have nothing to do with capitalism or financial security.#they are DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS. THAT IS THE POINT.#if someone has anxiety that isn't completely situational. or if someone has paranoia. that disproportionate fear does not have to#have capitalism to exist. meaning. you know. those will ALSO still exist.#adhd and autism have nothing to fucking do with capitalism lmao.#the existence of. for example. schizophrenia and psychosis HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH CAPITALISM????????#like. we can talk about how much easier it would be for people to get care/accommodations under a non-capitalist system. we can talk about#how divorcing personal worth from the concept of 'productivity' would help the people who experience the things I've mentioned.#I'm not disputing that. but I've seen...a not-insignificant number of people downplay or outright DENY the existence of these#illnesses/experiences outside of 'languishing under the pressure of capitalism/tying your worth to productivity/worrying about financial#security' and that is simply not how it works my friends!#tw: suicidal ideation#like. sorry. I did not seriously consider killing myself at age 10 to escape The Disorder™ for you to tell me that all my issues with this#illness would go away forever if capitalism stopped existing LOL!! LMAO EVEN!!!!!#In the Vents#the real horror was the ableism we found along the way
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Me at 3 AM:What if I'm faking being autistic?
Me today at work: I'M GONNA RIP MY SKIN OFF BECAUSE I WORE ANKLE SOCKS
#i always wear crew socks on work days#i fucking HATE how my work shoes feel against my ankles#the material is so gross#and it feels weird when i sweat#fuck ankle socks#AUGHHHHHH#autism#autistic#actually autistic
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dad had to teach me how to ask why someone is asking me if they could take something im using because i was supposedly rude to my mom (which i didn't intend to be). someone bring me a diagnosis i feel like i'll cry
#how do they INSIST to tell that im only gifted#i don't even feel like im gifted give me a fucking break!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#ive always had this voice tone problem where i dont know how things come out of my mouth and have to be explained to why ppl are mad at me#explained like im a toddler bc indirect signals WON'T FUCKING WORK#please be patient#autism spectrum disorder#autistic#audhd#neurodivergent#autism things#autistic life#autistic experiences#asd#actually autistic#actually audhd#autism#adhd#adhd problems#actually adhd#giftedness#actually gifted#neurodiversity#actually neurodiverse#danaë speaks
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How the fuck did I learn how to efficiently help my partner through his autistic meltdowns thanks to a vashwood fanfic .what
#me reading ww help w vashs meldowns: oh well I . ?? oh ???? wait It does look similar to - OH ?? IT WOULD HELP MAYBE OH MY GOR#I followed fucking fanfic wws steps next time my bf had one#i used his way of asking and talking#the question that fictional bitch asked#and it WORKED#Fun fact were both autistic#just .completely different breeds of it#plus I cant understand ppls physical reactions to save my life#thought process ?? im a fucking expert . the BEST#but PHYSICAL oh hell naw#I just understand what I physically need but absolutely nothing more#NOW I CAN HELP HIM#U DONT UNDERSTAND HOW HAPPY AM I ABOUT THAT#autism#fanfiction#vashwood#ao3 fanfic#we had obv talked about it b4 but he didnt understand how it worked either so we left it at “dw if u dont know. ure trying and i love u”#(i wanted to eat his face and cry bc I HATE NOT UNDERSTANDING SHIT I SHOULD UNDERSTAND)#oh and I couldnt do what works for me bc my body is 100% uncapable of being vulnerable in anyway in front of ppl for more than .5 min prob#so I just loose my mind a lil bit w laughing randomly and moving compulsively like rocking on the chair or slamming things etc for that time#and the close off until im alone and gave the full needed meltdown#so ive never been actually comforted or helped so I dont know what it would help bc Ive never experienced it#rant ended lads now SORRY
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v7k fans we all already unanimously agree that hugo is cringefail and loserboy now kindly hop on the train that nuru is just as insane and reckless as yong
#nuru and yong feed dangerous ideas into eachother#the only thing giving nuru her guise of responsibility is her royalty status#she merely appears sophisticated#put her in this group and she won’t know how to act#freedom !! FFFIIRREEEE 😈😈😈😈#nuru discovers her inner adrenaline junkie on this quest#AND she’s learning to use her magic all the while… shits destructive ! USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE GIRLIE#vat7k#varian and the 7 kingdoms#varian and the seven kingdoms#vat7k nuru#princess nuru#erm sign off follow me for more tips and tricks#idfk iv been working on 7k in my brain since 2021 the autism is Fucking EXPANSIVE
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Just saw a comment along the lines of "weird how all those people identified as DID systems for a while and then suddenly never mentioned it again" so uh
Funny story. I don't know what happened but what it felt like from my end was that my system kind of unexpectedly fused (as in most or all system members became one person), I was fine with it and getting used to being Just Me for over a year, and then most recently I started experiencing symptoms of dissociation again (emotional amnesia mostly) and now everything is in shambles 👍
If anyone has moused over my username lately or visited my blog on mobile, now you know what that was/is all about. I don't understand what's going on yet so I can't tell you if I'm about to start referring to myself as plural again but what I can tell you is that I didn't make that up and get tired of my lies or anything, it was just not relevant for over a year 😎✌️
#fake claiming still fucking sucks#if someone's spreading misinformation then correct them but there's no need to announce you think they're faking#because like. people can be wrong about things they actually have. they don't even need to be self-diagnosed for that#hell sometimes people get professionally misdiagnosed and then spread misinformation about this condition they don't actually have#i probably said some wrong things about bpd back in the day because i was just describing my experience#and trying to relate it to my official diagnosis. lol#but real autistic people can be wrong about autism and real systems can be wrong about how exactly plurality works that's just life#brain stuff#chaos particles
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One of my favorite things about being in my early 20s is that I'm starting to understand that I can use things not for their intended purpose. When you're growing up, you get told what an object is and what its intended purpose is, and as a kid/teen, I just accepted all of it at face value. As a young adult it's finally clicking that I can simply do things a different way if it makes me happier. Sure, I was taught that you stand to take a shower, but there's nothing stopping me from just sitting if I don't feel like it, ya know? I might have always had my medication in the kitchen, but if I'm no longer remembering to take it, I can just move it somewhere where I can remember. You don't have to specifically store all food in the kitchen, you can have a little snack cart or snack station in another room.
The downside to finding out the various ways you can use objects is that you develop habits that would probably go on an r/relationships post where everyone says you're a little freak.
#simon says#i just developed a new habit (it's too tmi to put here) and I just know that it's some weird shit#it works and it makes me feel better so I'm gonna keep doing it#but it's some shit that would end up viral where everyone would go 'yo op you should break up with them thats weird' 😔#i was just thinking about this though because every week or so I learn that I can just do what I want#because there's no fucking object use police I can do what I want#i HIGHLY suggest getting into this habit. if you find something annoying or frustrating you can just do it differently#'I hate washing the dishes because my legs hurt from standing for so long' you can bring a chair and sit or you can break it up into chunks#like on the one hand I'm learning this because I have autism and a plethora of other mental disorders#and it's FINALLY clicking that I can self accommodate whenever and however I so please#I'm just sorta learning that if doing something makes me feel better/happy/gets the job done to do that thing#even if it requires using an object in an odd way#hell there's even some little things I've been playing with#for example: my whole life we sorta just lifted blinds only about halfway up#just sorta how we did it ya know#well recently I decided I wanted more natural light in the sunroom/my office so I wouldn't have to turn on the lamp#and I lifted the blinds all the way up to the very top#and honestly?? it fucking rules. the room looks nicer; i get natural light; i can see the forest out back and it's quite calming and nice#like for ages I just never thought about doing that because it just never occurred to me that I could#i just always put blinds about halfway up because that's about how high blinds do in my household#another little one I learned is that I can just... wash my hair#sometimes when I get too depressed or if my body doesn't need a shower but my hair is greasy#I just shove my head under the bathtub facet and wash my hair#it's just a small thing but for years if my hair needed to be washed I would just take a full shower#now I just fix my greasy hair. bc greasy hair is a huge ick for me but sometimes my body is still clean or im too tired to fully shower#like there's nothing stopping me from doing that and it doesn't hurt anyone. it's just a way of bathing that I wasn't taught#but yeah those are some recent examples of me learning I can just... do stuff differently#the free will is kicking in babes and it has decided I love finding ways to use things differently#it's why im doing a bg3 run where I just press loot all no matter what and use whatever I can in odd ways#anyways I might delete this later might not who knows
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