#THAT’S HEALTHY LIKE
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Why wasn’t friendship as good as a relationship? Why wasn’t it even better? It was two people who remained together, day after day, bound not by sex or physical attraction or money or children or property, but only by the shared agreement to keep going, the mutual dedication to a union that could never be codified. Friendship was witnessing another’s slow drip of miseries, and long bouts of boredom, and occasional triumphs. It was feeling honored by the privilege of getting to be present for another person’s most dismal moments, and knowing that you could be dismal around him in return
- A Little Life (2015)
#I was just reminded of this quote during a conversation#People don’t get this#There’s just an hierarchy of relationships that allos have and I don’t really agree#Cuz EVEN IF you are in a relationship you must have AND KEEP your friends#It’s part of keeping your personhood#Of existing as an individual outside of a relationship#THAT’S HEALTHY LIKE#I don’t get it#Amatonormativity#A Little Life#Maybe that’s just me being ace but STILL#Friendships X Relationships
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#love#to be loved like this#partner goals#relationship goals#relationship#couple goals#healthy relationships#obsessive love#high standards#princess treatment
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inevitable anders dragon age qifrey wha cover redraw
#dragon age#dragon age 2#anders#anders da#da#i loveeee this comp. shirahama kamome my love. its like when people hold portraits of their dead loved ones.#justice > anders > grey warden > awakening > circle. so many layers. like an onion (affectionate)#i think i’m at the end of act 2#ily anders. i can’t say fully with my chest that. u did nothing wrong. but i love u anyways#u deserved a writer who didnt hate u and wasnt ableist LMAO#why can’t he have beautiful princess disorder and be able to deal with it and get a happy ending?#for once can a character have a scary disorder and cope with it in a healthy way….#LIKE… whatever i think writers should just zip their mouths and not say shit LMAOOOOO#anyways !#can u tell im projecting :)#seeing myself in him during his romance as a person with [REDACTED] and starting to avoid him bc of it 🤪#i gotta unpack that#ok that’s enough yapping
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i cant even properly explain how it emotionally affects me when my cat comes up to me for cuddles. small creature walks up to me, a giant, in search of a gentle touch, because he trusts me completely. that is what love is. that is what the universe is built for. i want to cry
#i've been really sick for a week and haven't had the energy to play with navid for a while#and i feel like he's been so understanding about it??#like he gets it that im not well so he's not being pushy to play as he usually is when im healthy#i love him so so so much#jamble ramble#navid#my cat
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found out about the existence of this pairing like a month ago and im already in love with these two <33
#transformers#tf#maccadam#tf g1#starscream#jetfire#skyfire#jetstar#skystar#my art#genuinely funny that i knew about starscreams existence all my life but i NEVER heard of skyfire#so it was insane to find out that scream all this time had a big kind bf😭😭#i thought people shipped scream only with megs but oh my god... scream can actually have a healthy relationship with someone🥺#its not a diss on megastar from time to time i kinda shipped them xd (i didnt know about the possibility of other ships)#but yeah ive known about skystar only for like a month and they already destroyed me with how cute theyre while still having SO much angst
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i hate to say it because i'm neurodivergent and a chronic-pain-haver but like... sometimes stuff is going to be hard and that's okay.
it's okay if you don't understand something the first few times it's explained to you. it's okay if you have to google every word in a sentence. it's okay if you need to spend a few hours learning the context behind a complicated situation. it's okay if you need to read something, think about it, and then come back to re-read it.
i get it. giving up is easier, and we are all broken down and also broke as hell. nobody has the time, nobody has the fucking energy. that is how they win, though. that is why you feel this way. it is so much easier, and that is why you must resist the impetus to shut down. fight through the desire you've been taught to "tl;dr".
embrace when a book is confusing for you. accept not all media will be transparent and glittery and in the genre you love. question why you need everything to be lily-white and soft. i get it. i also sometimes choose the escapism, the fantasy-romance. there's no shame in that. but every day i still try to make myself think about something, to actually process and challenge myself. it is hard, often, because of my neurodivergence. but i fight that urge, because i think it's fucking important.
especially right now. the more they convince you not to think, the easier it will be to feed you misinformation. the more we accept a message without criticism, the more power they will have over that message. the more you choose convenience, the more they will make propaganda convenient to you.
#personal#this also applies to ai art and stuff. like#artists and crafters and non-ai users took the time space and energy to learn things#bc we are actually LEARNING them. and it takes actual SKILL.#i know the skill is long to learn and often annoying. i still get frustrated about my art bc it's not good#but i do it myself. bc i respect that it IS a skill.#ai writing a book for you is not YOU learning how to write a book. and it took me a lifetime to write a book. i get it.#ai drones running a marathon don't run the marathon for u#there are things i cannot due to my disability. lol marathons being 1. there are things u can't do either#this is about stretching yourself in the ways that are healthy and good for you.#ai learning for u in ur classes is NOT healthy. u are not learning.#''but otherwise i won't pass''#first of all that's a self-defeating prophecy. and many of us who thought we wouldn't pass DID pass#and secondly. CHALLENGE urself. ur paying for college anyway. don't pay just to let AI learn for u.
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ok but what if we normalize having a party where you dress up & are the center of attention & all your friends congratulate you on your divorce. more unhappy couples would hurry up and pull the plug, i will bet you
#kinda crazy how our wedding-obsessed capitalist culture pressures couples to over-commit & marry before building healthy foundations#'putting on a fancy dress and being celebrated on your special day' sounds so harmless but we teach young girls that it's#something you have to 'earn' by marrying some guy. ANY guy. by an arbitrary deadline of like 27 or whatever#and if you don't get married or get married too late? no party for you!!!#that's insane and we should talk about it more#babe you don't want a wedding you want a quinceañera
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not spoiling your gf is wild like couldn’t be me I’m at your service and in your cervix babey
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Belphie is so small. for sure, he's smaller than a molecule.
#Belphegor#Grim#like grim is not a large cat#she's 9 pounds (when at a healthy weight. currently she is plump)#belphie is a tiny 4 pound microorganism#are 7 month kittens always this little????
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So I'm leaving work and something darts in front of me, maybe 10ft away, too fast for me to see what it is. Peek around the tree blocking my path and I see this

Just like... a whole ass hawk. Dude's gotta be about 1.5ft tall. Massive fucking bird. And it's just staring me straight in my soul like this, even as I try to move ahead. It didn't budge. And there's only this path back to my car unless I want to walk on a busy highway. So I have the option of Death By Raptor or Death By Truck.
So I walk in the poison ivy filled patch off the sidewalk. Guy still isn't moving. Still staring me directly in the eyes. And I do this thing when animals are behaving strangely where I'll talk to them, so I'm just like, "Hey, man. I don't know you. You don't know me. This feels really threatening. I'm just trying to get to my car, dude. Can I get some space please? You're a big fucking bird. I see those claws. You could kill me right now, but I'd appreciate if you didn't, ok?"
It didn't move until I was about 2ft away. Again: I'm as far from it as I can be without walking into the street. It clearly wasn't going to budge. I walk past, thing flies up (silent, btw. Scary) and lands on a brick wall a little further ahead

Anyway. Weird guy. Nearly shit my pants when I noticed a bird big enough to carry off a fully grown cat was just... there, staring me in the face, unwilling to move away from me, a human, something it should see as a threat. I watched behind me the whole rest of the way to my car, just in case this bird decided to help me shed this mortal coil. 10/10 experience. Super cool guy.
#not vc sorry#bird#birds#aves#raptor#hawk#red shouldered hawk#i think. might be wrong on that id#accipitriformes#birds of prey#honestly a really cool guy so close up#I'm happy i wasn't attacked. i would not want to fight a guy that big.#talons on this bird were huge. big scary.#I've never heard of large predatory birds just landing in front of people like that so i don't know what gives#it didn't catch any food or anything. just landed near me then stared me down.#I don't know a lot about bird behavior so i tried to not look back at it but still.#it also didn't look injured. seemed like a healthy bird#if anyone has any idea why this thing would act the way it did I'd love to know
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CONSIDER. Consider. Based on that last ask. Orca Jazz technically has vaguely fine vision in terms of human ranges. And he doesn't really have a problem with anything as is because everything is always so CLOSE to him in the tanks. But compared to other mers? His vision is SHIT. He cant see through water like he should, can't see as far as he should, every mer has way better vision than he does. And nobody figures that out UNTIL he's out of the aquarium because in the AQUARIUM his vision served just fine. But now that he's out in the ocean, Prowl realizing so quick that he can't see for dick diddly. Bringing him to the fish doctor and getting confirmed "yep you have bad vision" and Jazz proceeds to get prescribed the fish visor
I propose a bit funnier option.
Jazz has shitty vision but he doesn’t realise that something is wrong because he has no one to compare right? And then he meets Prowl and Prowl JUST as fucking blind as him so they both are clueless now and keep using echolocation instead of eyes if they need to see something far from them.
That is until Prowl takes Jazz to a proper hospital and they do aaaaaalll kinds of tests and checks on him. Which leads to an eye doctor (fish-Ophthalmologist?) pointing at Jazz “You need glasses young man!”
And Prowl is like “Huh? why? His vision isn’t any worse than mine?” and eye doctor slowly turns in his direction like in horror movies

#don’t ask me how those visors are kept in place#I drew this for shits and giggles my brain wasn’t involved#apocalyptic ponyo#jazz#prowl#jazzprowl#Prowl: swims fast#Jazz: ooohh. this is what normal moving speed looks like#Prowl: has more blubber#Jazz: oooohhh so this is what healthy weight looks like#Prowl: can’t fucking see#Jazz: oh! So this is normal for orca mers? Phew~#eye doctor: N O
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Hair
Bonus, he got to see it, but...

#stobotnik#dr ivo robotnik#agent stone#sonic movie universe#gothic phase ivo you were something else#stone likes all versions of the doctor#but he would rather the doctor be happy and healthy
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honestly i have to kinda disagree with that post thats like “being knightcore doesnt mean pro monarchy just swear ur undying loyalty to ur bff or ur crush or smth”
no. thats not what makes it sexy. either grapple with your beloved master’s role as a symbol of the state or choose to ignore it entirely and remain their loyal hound to whatever end, uncaring of the structures of power which you serve. become naught but a blade, the burden of your choices left to settle in the hand that wields you. it’s not about being besties forever it’s about OWNERSHIP and DUBIOUS MORALITY and FRANKLY QUESTIONABLE POWER DIFFERENTIALS
#blazie speaks#ok maybe this is more weaponcore than knightcore but to me personally they are sort of inextricable.#i dont Care abt knight/ruler when its normal and healthy.#whats the point of fucking ur liege if not to create a power dynamic so intense it’s unclear whether meaningful consent is even possible#if ur swearing an oath to ur normal bestie u can just like. get married or smth
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beating artblocks ass with a more steampunk-y tango
#nics art#kinda wanna give my normal tango design his create mod prosthetic arm#now that i kind of know how i wanna draw it#tangotek#tangotek fanart#hermitcraft#hermitcraft fanart#hermitcraft s10#hate that now that i've got time to draw ive been really struggling to#whaaaaaaaaat#anyway i gave it a rest for a few days hopefully ill get back into the swing of things (it is not often i stop drawing for multiple days)#(in fact its often a sign of me feeling like shit if i haven't drawn in more than 3 days)#(im fine though this was a conscious decision to do other shit to give myself a break. healthy . i think.)
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jason todd is never going to admit that he is an extremely jealous man. that’d scare you off and he knows it. but he cant help that his left eye twitches when your friend calls you. he hears a deep voice on the line and he just stares.
its not that he doesnt trust you, but he does fear the day that you realize he isnt enough for you. too damaged, too brooding, too mean. it all boils down to not wanting to be replaced.
the jealousy calms down (slightly) when you turn to him with an smile and roll your eyes playfully. “drama queen!” you mouth while pointing at your phone. jason chuckles silently and lays his head in your lap, studying you while you speak.
your hands instinctively move to comb through his hair, finding your own comfort in the movement. his feelings are well hidden, he thinks. but you can see it in his eyes. the pretty blue orbs cloud over, wheels turning behind them at a speed you couldn’t match.
when your friend finally hangs up, you set your phone to the side and cup his cheeks with both hands. “y’okay?” he grumbled as his arms snaked around your waist. “nothin’ you gotta worry about.” there it was. “i’m your girlfriend, that’s like the whole point.”
if he was honest with you, you may run. hide from him somewhere he’d never pull you back out of. he couldn’t lose this, lose you. after years he’s finally found something to feel safe in- someone. but he couldn’t keep pushing you. he could see it in your eyes any time he swept his own feelings under the rug and locked you out of his mind.
he huffed, pausing for a moment before finally opening up with a mumble. “i dont like sharin’… just wanna keep y’to myself.” you hum and nod, waiting for him to continue. “‘s hard. everyone loves you, everyone wants your attention. just wanna keep you in my pocket.”
he scans over you, waiting for the snap- for you to get up and run. it doesn’t come. you kiss his forehead and shoot him a comforting smile.“thank you for telling me that, baby… am i doing enough for you?” it was just like you to start trying to fix it for the both of you. what else was he supposed to expect from you other than kindness?
“you’re doin’ enough, don’t worry about that, it’s just…” he drones off, not sure how to explain it. your finger taps his forehead gently. “all up here?” he nods once. “y’aren’t the only one who gets jealous, jayce.”
“it’s different.” he pouts, its adorable. “you… you’re not-” your hands cup his cheeks, forcing him to look up at you. “gonna stop you there. isnt different, and you don’t get to keep playing the ‘you aren’t broken’ card. you’re allowed to feel jealous and not feel like a monster.” he gives you a silent nod, still moping. “should i feel like a monster every time some girl looks at you while we’re out?” that was the first time you’ve admitted it, and honestly? you’d prefer he got cocky over you being jealous. he shook his head. “when it comes to us, if you wouldn’t be pissed at me doing it, don’t be pissed at yourself.”
there was a long road ahead, but he’s worth it. he’s worth it all.
#— bambi posting#jason todd#red hood#jason todd x reader#red hood x reader#jason todd imagine#red hood imagine#i want to communicate with him… i yearn for healthy communication with jason…….#fucking him about being jealous? NO. communicating like an adult………. slowly working towards making him feel more comfortable…..#but also jealousy sex
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people saying louis should be on his own and go to therapy and get a healthier sense of self outside of relationships. well where's the fun in that
#or even worse him finding a healthy relationship#louis only likes crazy dick! you want him to date some nice midwestern boy? no way baby!
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