#Stay at Home Moms

[kiwimamasblog]

“what do you want in life”

[youllbeonmysleeve]

One day I realized I had whole bunch of random things collecting in an assortment of jewelry boxes and catch-all places so I just started gluing them on stuff I guess it's called mixed media of course everything has a name but I got really obsessed with that and taking pictures of inanimate objects that I had put all over my apartment anyway this is all stuff I made or photos I took myself.

[brokenlibrarygirl]

Unpopular thoughts as I grow older…

I am so sad that the smartest girls in my High School who went to elite colleges, that with my 80 percentile rank ass couldn’t get into, are either stay-at-home moms or are severely under-employed.

Again I will acknowledge that my suburban town was skewed to the evangelical religious right, but these girls had hopes and dreams. I’m just out here like….what happened?

I don’t have a problem with stay at home moms. They are elite level executive functioners. I worry about their identities, their work load, their dreams, their relationships, and their social circles. Like at some point the kids won’t need your daily supervision. What will you do then?

They will have this potential 20+ year gap. No additional training or education. No work experience. If their husband/partner were to lose their job, become unable to work, or die, they and their family ARE screwed.

One of them invited a bunch of us to brunch for a 30 year reunion thing…and like shit I’m the only single-no kids person involved . I noped out so fast. My bff was invited too, she didn’t get why I didn’t want to go.

AHEM

I’m unable to small talk without getting socially drained after 5 minutes.

I can only fake interest in other people’s kids for so long.

It was most likely a dry brunch so no social lubricants would have helped.

I will have little to no conversational input unless they want to hear about my job and dog. I just want to remain prone on my couch and not question my life choices, is that too much to ask?

[wildlife4life]

Being a stay at home mom is def a job and a half bestie. Idk if i could do it i cant even take care of myself most days

It is a true balance act that tips a different way each day. Honest to god if it weren’t for my fiancé and the support system I have, I wouldn’t have made it the first few months after becoming a mom. Post partum is a bitch. Tumblr is very nice escape though.

[loser-female]

Here is an awesome article from Zawn (so it's not a Man Having Radfem or a Childfree Spinster) about why you shouldn't be a stay at home mom.

Dear reader, if you are considering staying home, please know that I deeply respect your decision, and your desire to be with your children. I am not judging you. I am asking you to, for the safety of your children and for your own well-being, please consider the actual costs of stay-at-home parenthood. [...]

But stay-at-home parenthood presents many significant hidden costs. And if you can’t budget for these, then you can’t reasonably and safely become a stay-at-home parent. Ask yourself: Will my husband put money into a retirement fund for me each month? How much of our budget will we allocate for my continuing education, so that I can retain skills that enable me to eventually return to the workplace? What will my husband invest in my job search when and if I do eventually return to the workforce? What about the lost earnings I’ll face when I do return to the workforce? Is my husband prepared to compensate me for this? Will I have access to an emergency fund? Even feminist men can become abusive or develop addictions. How will you leave if this happens to you? [...]

Even if your marriage is rock solid, can you be 100% certain that your husband won’t weaponize the newfound power of being the sole breadwinner? No, you absolutely cannot.

The article is amazing and I really hope it helps a lot of people to gain more insight of the risks associated. I already discussed how society lies to women who are or want a relationship with a man - and this glorified martyrdom is one of these lies.

[kindsoulbuddy]

I’ve known many anti vaxxers in my years going to church and essential oils are held up as legit cure-alls.

I’ve also been in attendance at psychic Pokémon card burnings. Harry Potter was something I eventually read but I was an adult by then.

I’m in Hufflepuff btw.

One time I thought a fellow mom wanted to be my friend. She invited me to Panera for lunch. I packed up my youngest and his diaper bag, got him a high chair at the table. It’s a lot of work taking your toddler out to a restaurant by yourself.

Anyway. She showed up and started trying to sell me essential oils. She gave me some samples and I pretended that I was very happy to receive them. She was part of an MLM of course.

I was a bit disappointed. I have to say also, not too surprised.

so many moms at church were selling essential oils, and Lularoe, and fair trade stuff, etc.. And I’m not even blaming these women for falling for it. I get it; it’s hard to figure out a way to earn income when you’re a stay at home mom with multiple children.

Sometimes I wonder how on earth I could work from home too.

I’m angry with the companies that prey on Moms and make them think they can be their own boss and earn as much as 6 figures, maybe not as much as their husbands because he’s ordained to be the breadwinner.

[mommapaytana]

Bedtime - my favorite time of day

When Pregnant Me told people I was going to quit my tech job to stay at home with the baby, the responses from those who knew me well weren't surprising.

"You'll be bored and back in no time!"

"It's not as fulfilling as you think it will be."

"You're going to really miss talking to adults. Work is an escape from your kid!"

Quite a few people told me to thank my husband which I can appreciate and agree with.

Pregnancy hormones were raging when I made this decision and I fully expected myself to miss corporate life by the time the fourth trimester was over. Seeing reddit posts and pinterest blogs about how un-glamorous and downright hard being a SAHM is just confirmed my bias.

So tell me why

I am more fulfilled now than I ever was at any job (& I have had jobs I LOVED). Caring for this baby - MY baby - sparks creativity, fuels my drive, and ushers in buckets full of joy multiple times a day.

I am shocked. I didn't expect this to be for me. If this job was a meal, pouring into this baby is the main dish that gives me purpose. Side dishes include finding ways to save money, all the chores, and having an immaculate, functional home basically 24/7. I love that I have the flexibility to support my husband in his career and his hobbies and have time to visit my grandmother in her old age.

Friends and family have checked in to see how I'm getting on and laugh when I tell them bedtime is my favorite time of day. Of course I tell them I love being home and I feel incredibly fortunate for the opportunity to do so, but how can I explain the sheer magic of my day? My baby is noticing more, playing more, and developing so rapidly that I look forward to bedtime because I know he still fits in my arms. My embrace is still his safe space where he gets the most peaceful sleep. My heart expands every time he peaks an eye open and smiles to check that I'm still holding him.

I just wanted to throw this into the internet for the person that's thinking about quitting corporate to raise children and reading what I was reading and hearing what I was hearing.

Why did no one tell me staying at home would make me magic?

[lyndaanneshop]

What Does It Mean To Be A Proverbs 31 Wife?

Photo by Caio on Pexels.com We are all too familiar with the Christian cry for women to be a “Proverbs 31 Wife.” But what exactly does that mean? Well, most today assume it means to be a traditional stay at home mom, a house wife. Being a housewife is a 24/7 job full of rewards, but that “traditional” notion is actually a 1950’s concept. The nuclear family did not exists until the suburban…

[7loveneverfails]

I feel like the focus is off here. Staying home to raise your kids is a good thing. The thing that is bad and wrong is the husband who abandoned his wife and child. Rather than focusing on telling women to be both man and woman, why aren't we telling men to take responsibility for their families?

And yes, you should have an idea what you will do if something happened to your husband but that shouldn't mean not staying home as a default. And as part of taking responsibility for his family, the husband and father should be part of that. My husband has a dangerous job and we have plans for me and our kids should the worst happen.

Putting all the blame and responsibility on the woman just doesn't seem like that moves toward a positive change.

Found this on pinterest had to put it here

Tradwives need to realize the seriousness of the shit they are getting themselves into.

The society isn't all that kind to women.

[sisstarloop]

MOM FILM FEST RETURNS FOR SPECIAL FIFTH EDITION

AWARD-WINNING FILMMAKERS & NOMINEES VIE FOR $2K AUDIENCE CHOICE AWARD

New York City, July 2024 – MOM Film Fest returns for a special Fifth Anniversary edition of its annual online film festival. To mark this tremendous occasion, MOM Film Fest: Through the Years will celebrate a select number of its award-winning and nominated films and series that all feature a mom in a leadership position on the project.

This year’s film screenings will again take place online August 23rd-25th. A special in-person panel discussion will take place on Saturday, August 24th at the Elinor Bunin Munroe Amphitheater at Lincoln Center. “Moms In Crisis: Are We On Our Own?” will explore the media’s perceptions of motherhood and its impact on government policy. A networking mixer will follow the panel discussion.

Filmmakers will also be invited to attend The Business of Film Strategy, an exclusive workshop facilitated by Academy Award® nominated producer and business affairs executive, Sara McFarlane, founder of E/S Collab. The workshop will provide a detailed breakdown of each stage of the filmmaking business, from development to distribution.

In recognition of the festival’s fifth edition, MOM Film Fest is thrilled to announce a cash prize of $2,000 will be awarded to the winner of this year's Audience Choice Award. The winner will be announced the week following the festival.

For festival ticket information and complete festival details, visit the MOM Film Fest website, MOMFilmFest.org.

"As we celebrate our fifth festival edition, I am incredibly proud to be part of a vibrant community of moms who are filmmakers,” said Tonya Mollineau, Executive Director of MOM Film Fest. "Our advocacy efforts continue to make a tangible impact, create change across the film industry, and empower mothers to share their remarkable stories.”

About MOM Film Fest MOM Film Fest, Inc. is a nonprofit, 501(c)(3) organization that serves as a career development and advocacy resource for mothers working in film and television. Their mission is to amplify content made by moms and to create opportunities that will get #momsbackonset and back to work in the film and television industry. MFF supports a variety of year-round initiatives, including filmmaker workshops, child care grants, screening series, and an annual film festival.

MOMFilmFest.org

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Unveiling The Latest In Creativity And Crafting: Weekly Wrap-up #3

Creativity And Crafting There are affiliate links in this post. If you purchase through one of these links I will make a commission at no extra cost. Unveiling The Latest In Creativity And Crafting Welcome back to another weekly wrap-up, where we celebrate the joys of creativity, self-care, and community connection. This week has been filled with delightful discoveries and inspiring moments,…

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A Childless Single Man’s Opinion On Stay At Home Moms

[gettothedancing]

#if it makes you feel like a chump when she's cleaning your house and cooking your food and washing and folding your laundry the problem is #you #actually

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[notsomodernwoman]

I want at least 10

I think housedresses are a thing we need to bring back in a major way. Flowy, loose dresses are so comfortable and great for house chores. I also am of the opinion that if you take time for yourself to look good, you are more productive, happier, and confident. You also don't even need to do much to look put together, just wear a dress and put your hair in a ponytail and you look great. Also, almost all of my housedresses from the 50s-70s contain pockets.