#Social pressures

[four-pointed-leaf]

im obsessed with your art and head over heels for how you draw siffrin and mira. first of all. BUT i would particularly like to say that i really really appreciate your isabeau art. your design of him is soooo good and also i just really enjoy the personality you give him!! that is all. thank you for putting the would you bang your clone comic into our lives i think about it every day

bwahh thank you sm omg !! i'm so glad you like them aah

isabeau's such a fun character to me esp bc imo a lot of what we see of him is like. the kid-friendly side, kinda? he's definitely reeled himself back a bit for bonnie, i feel (not in a bad way just like. in the way an adult should lol) just to make sure they're comfortable and and as happy as can be given the circumstances, and Then when we see him solely with siffrin he's treading pretty lightly and kind of testing the waters with crush stuff and still kinda hesitant (irt to like. emotional intimacy). so i like having fun with imagining him when he's able to like. one, be fully comfortable with himself and the others once everything's in the open, and two, be an adult with other adults, haha. thus the clone comic

[gregor-samsung]

Ayrılık / Die Fremde [When We Leave] (Feo Aladag, 2010)

[femmilingus]

Do I Belong To You?

I was socialised as a girl; that soft, meek thing who unleashed sin on the world. Soft in body, soft in mind. I was raised to pander, placate, please. When introduced to strangers, I was taught to smile – even though they had done nothing to earn it. This set a dangerous precedent. Just as strangers were bestowed access to my facial expressions, they would perceive access to my body. Long before…

[vidacolectiva]

am i 'me' enough for you?

January 30, 2018 It’s no coincidence that the topic on language barrier keeps coming up in my day to day life. I personally struggle with the fluency of being bilingual as an individual who comes from a culturally diverse background. A very common problem others share with me who were raised on the border of Mexico and the United States. Since I turned eighteen and moved out of my parents place…

[idontmindifuforgetme]

I love Tumblr because nothing matters here truly. There are no influencers. Having followers doesn’t mean anything. It’s just a site where people post their sporadic thoughts and rb pretty pictures. Anyone who thinks any of this matters is woefully missing the point

[plague-theartist]

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

[nova-rpv]

a bunch of doodles to make up for my wips 👍

and dont forget your daily clicks!!

[hadesoftheladies]

making fun of girls and women because they are virgins is coercive, btw :)

[randomalistic]

Wait you guys are actually buying Disney products I thought it was a joke

(READ TAGS FOR FULL CONTEXT Sorry it’s long dies

[housecow]

So you tell your non-feeding friends about feedism? Like recently, or have they always known? Were you nervous to do that? Was it like, a huge weight off your chest? Did you get any weird reactions?

i told one of my best friends last summer, i think? and she was just like. “oh, so that’s why you always order so much food”

but when i mentioned feedism explicitly she did bring up some of the demonizing stuff ppl on social media see abt feedism. i brought up my point of view and experience as a feedee and in the last year her point of view has changed a lot? we were talking yesterday and she said something like “tbh being purposefully fat is punk” so i think she gets it

[positivelyadhd]

i have been reading through the diary I kept from ages 14-17 and realising how helpful it can be to keep a record of how you're feeling at different moments.

not only is it helpful to write down and process how your feeling and give yourself time to truly think about it, it's nice to have something to look back on. to not just remember how you felt about a certain situation but to actually have yourself from that time tell you.

and also, from an adhd perspective, it's really lovely to have reminders of things I'd almost entirely forgotten. it's easy to think that your life right now isn't interesting, but in 5 years time? to know what songs you were listening to or book you were reading or even that Thing that you were so worried about but now you can't even remember the details. it's nice to have a physical reminder that time passes and things really can get better.

[shzlpzz]

Playing Naruto Path of the Ninja 2 and you can send the adults to watch the Icha Icha movie, this interaction has no reason to be this funny

Also after the movies some characters increase their morale, what shocked me is that Kakashi's had to increase three times to be in highest while Iruka's went to highest just from rhis interaction lol

Also also last one sorry for the long post but there are three kinds of people

[black-rose-writings]

My mom, after spending an extended weekend with my dad's old college classmates and their families: It's so weird that all of these very weird, intelligent and structured men who got their masters in engineering in the late 1980s have sons that are all autistic and daughters who all have mood disorders.

Me: Yeah, very weird. Why could that be?

[sleepfight]

In DAI, Krem talks about how he had to bribe a doctor to sign off on his papers in order to enlist in the Tevinter military and that he had to flee after being outed and liiiike

I really want to know what enlistment was like for Tarquin. If he began his transition after the ultimatum from his father, he was presumably of or near the age to qualify for service but still young enough to rely on his family for survival. Just coming into adulthood, just finding the words to define himself, just grasping the magnitude of knowing.

And in a near parody of support, his father will only accept him as a son if he pledges his life away to a deeply patriarchal institution where stealth is not only mandatory to obtain the position in the first place, but enforced by the threat of legal prosecution. You want to be a man? Fine, if you are not a man here, you will be punished for it. As a soldier, your masculinity will be defined and held to account or you will face violence for your trespassing.

Or stay the course. Accept an adolescence of grooming to become an ideal wife and marry up in status, bring the family new opportunities. Bear children, play politics, repress, repress, repress. Swallow poison and choke on what could have been.

Be a man or be destroyed, either way.

[felikatze]

this has probably been said before but murderbot is interesting in how it's also a deeply intersex narrative.

murderbot exists as an inherently transgressive being by having aspects of humans and bots. initially, it pretends to be wholly a bot because being one or the other is more comforting to humans - the reality of its existence horrifies others, and they attempt to push it into one or the other categories. (e.g.: preferring to keep its helmet on in All Systems Red so the survey team see it as a bot)

Once it can no longer masquerade as a bot with its personhood uncovered, it rejects the notion of "becoming human" and is at every turn discomforted by having to put on a different ruse (e.g. its vehement refusal to ART's alteration of its body in Artificial Condition - it is literally subjected to surgery in order to better blend into society, because being recognized as a SecUnit could spell its doom.) Obviously the metaphor here is that "bot" and "human" function like the genders in our current society, deciding of a person's perception by society and their social standing and their bodily functions.

Augmented humans may be augmented but still slot entirely into the "human" category. Murderbot's existence (and the existence of SecUnits and constructs as a whole) is a transgression to this set binary. Even with people who accept its existence, it struggles to feel at ease because it is aware of this.

At one point in one of the books (I forget which), it also explicitly rejects the phrasing of being "half-bot half-human". It is not half anything, it is a construct, it is Murderbot, and nothing else.