#Short Term Accommodation for People with Disabilities

[achievedisabilitysupports]

How To Choose The Right Short Term Accommodation for Disabled?

Understanding Your Needs

When it comes to selecting short-term accommodation for individuals with disabilities, a thoughtful and comprehensive approach is crucial. Achieve Disability Supports, an NDIS STA provider, offers a unique and inviting space in Redcliffe, providing insight into the factors that make short-term accommodation truly suitable for people with disabilities.

1. Location and Accessibility

Proximity to Amenities: Achieve Disability Supports' four-bedroom Queenslander house is strategically located in the center of Redcliffe, providing easy access to amenities, restaurants, pubs, clubs, and the beach.

Accessibility Features: Evaluate if the accommodation meets specific accessibility requirements, ensuring it caters to the needs of participants and support workers.

2. Recreation and Community Integration

Diverse Recreation Options: The separate Recreation Room, back yard, and various activity options, including a pool table, ping-pong table, basketball hoop, trampoline, and videogames, contribute to a vibrant and engaging environment.

Community Engagement: A veranda setup encourages interaction and community spirit, providing opportunities for participants to connect, socialize, and enjoy local events.

The Home Environment

3. Living Space Amenities

Facilities and Space: Consider the available facilities such as the number of bedrooms, bathrooms, and common areas. Achieve Disability Supports offers a spacious four-bedroom, two-bathroom Queenslander with additional recreational spaces.

Activities and Learning Opportunities: Cooking lessons, crafts, and daily living skills activities enhance the overall experience, creating a well-rounded and enriching stay.

4. Onsite Staff and Certifications

Safety Assurance: Knowing that all staff have undergone Police Checks, possess Blue Cards, and undergo NDIS Worker Screening provides a sense of security.

Qualifications and Certification: Ensuring staff are qualified or in the process of certification ensures that they have the necessary skills to cater to the diverse needs of individuals with disabilities.

Transparency and Communication

5. Programs and Events

Engaging Programs: The availability of school holiday programs for kids up to 18 years showcases a commitment to providing a holistic experience, catering to various age groups.

Open Communication: Transparent communication about the events, activities, and the overall schedule during the stay is essential for participants and support workers.

Conclusion: Making an Informed Choice

Choosing the right short-term accommodation for people with disabilities involves considering various elements, from location and amenities to staff qualifications and community integration. Achieve Disability Supports, as an NDIS STA provider, emphasizes a holistic approach, ensuring that the accommodation not only meets the immediate needs but also fosters a supportive and engaging environment for individuals with disabilities. Making an informed choice contributes to a positive and transformative experience for everyone involved.

[metalheadsforblacklivesmatter]

Why not make this because I'm just a filthy commie.

My thoughts on Disability (getting paid because you can't hold down a job due to your disability).

Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI) and Supplemental Security Income (SSI)

It should at least be minimum wage. (And minimum wage should cover average cost of living in that region.)

Housing, electricity, and plumbing should just be covered. Also accessible transportation.

Medical costs should be covered. 100%

It should supplement food (and restrictions shouldn't be so limiting to the point where people with food allergies can't eat)

You should not lose any amount of your disability just because you make a little income (if you can't make enough to live off of or hold down a full time job due to your disability, you should qualify)

Marriage should have zero impact on your disability.

You should be allowed to own a home (why the fuck can't you own a home? That's dumb shit.)

It should cover any changes that you need to make to your home to make it accessible.

If you rent a place and you suddenly get a short term disability (like cancer). Your apartment should be covered until you recover.

If you rent a place and you suddenly get hit with a long term disability (like long covid or certain types of cancer) and you have to be moved (like if you're renting a condo for $1million a month. It's a bit of an exaggeration but it gets the point across for its reasonable to not expect the government to cover that). Then moving costs should be covered.

Before the capitalists (derogatory) come in my comments "You're just mad because you're too dumb to work so you want free shit." (Because they always do when I post a commie take).

I am disabled, and I have a full time job that pays me quite well (and is very accommodating to my disability). I just don't think people whose disability are more limiting than mine should suffer. Especially because every single disabled person knows that stress exacerbates symptoms.

Like the stress of being forced to live off what is the equivalent $2/hr for full time work, being forced to find a living space that covers that, and trying to find food you're allowed to eat on supplemented income with dietary restrictions (because most disabled people have to eat what most people consider "unhealthy" to manage our disability).

Before capitalists (derogatory) say "Your disability doesn't make you eat unhealthy food". You just want an excuse to eat junk food. People with cystic fibrosis often require calorie counts similar to Olympic athletes because they can't digest food right. People with POTS often require ridiculous sodium intakes to help manage the symptoms of low blood pressure. And people with migraines often need high carb "junk foods" to help manage the low blood flow that comes with a migraine flare-up.

The disabled body is fucking WEIRD and what's healthy to most people isn't necessarily healthy to us, and we've found our ridiculous ways of eating through trial and error to find out what best helps us function. If you don't live in our body, you can't tell us what's good for us.

-fae

[msfcatlover]

Reverse!Robins thought

What if… Tim wasn’t adopted… until after Jason. What if Tim didn’t pull his whole fake relative shtick until after he got shot. Is this anything? I feel like this is something.

…I feel like I might’ve just cracked open Tim’s entire character arc for this AU, actually.

It does rely on making Jack Drake a thousand times more of a dick than he is in canon. But Jack not wanting to look after his disabled son, Tim getting a stipend to find some sort of accommodations for himself, Tim not letting the Waynes know (because Tim Drake fucking hates asking anyone for help, hates letting other people see his weaknesses, does feel a level of shame about both his new disability & his father’s reaction to it, still thinks that if Tim just works really really hard at it that he’ll eventually regain full mobility in his legs so all of this is temporary, and also the idea of being taken in out of pity while Jason runs around as Shadow… yeah.) And then Damian finds out and is so horrified & worried about Tim (and so incapable of expressing that himself) that Damian’s response is just to immediately rat Tim out to the rest of the family so that Cass & Duke & Bruce can work on getting Tim to move in with them—

OH! Alternatively: keep Jack closer to canon, but he becomes suffocatingly overprotective of Tim. Treats Tim like a glass doll, infantilizes the hell out of Tim, and in the process of “protecting” Tim from any possible danger Jack ends up completely cutting Tim off from every single relationship Tim has. It’s not malicious, Jack’s not trying to be abusive or isolate Tim, but it’s demeaning. It’s humiliating. No matter what Tim says or does, his dad just will not let Tim have any sort of life, because Jack’s seemingly convinced that Tim will shatter into a million pieces if Tim so much as looks at the ground wrong.

So Tim ends up running away. Just empties his bank account over the course of a few weeks, researches available apartments with both functioning elevators & landlords willing to take cash under the table, catches a bus to Bludhaven, and silently hates the fact that the only reason anyone is going to even know Tim’s gone missing is because Jack is definitely about to throw a tantrum about it. And Tim finally gets to use his crutches outside of PT (because Jack would certainly never risk Tim doing something as dangerous as falling down,) and has a landline to call his friends (because private conversations just were not possible when Tim’s dad never left him alone, and Tim had to leave his phone behind to avoid being traced,) and Tim has 2 glorious weeks of freedom (and one pizza party) before going down to get his mail one day and Damian is standing outside of the door scowling. (Tim even thinks he successfully blackmails Damian into keeping quiet about Tim’s new living arrangements, but Tim vastly underestimated Damian’s levels of concern, and Damian’s guilt for both being a terrible brother to Tim when Tim first became Shadow and also being off-world when Tim got shot. This does not improve their relationship much, at least short-term.)

Tim sues for emancipation, because he cannot bear to live with his dad again after the last couple months of coddling. Jack tries to get Tim permanently placed under his guardianship, effectively stripping Tim of the ability to leave even after Tim turns 18. Bruce gets all up in the middle of it, offering himself as a potential guardian given how close his kids are to Tim, his own resources to provide for Tim, his spotless over-a-decade-long record as a foster parent, and Jack’s less than stellar parenting record even before Tim got shot.

The judge refuses to let Tim go fully independent. Tim, somewhat desperately, points out that at 17, his own opinion should matter in this; if the children of divorcees get to have a say in how much time they spend with each parent by the time they’re Tim’s age, then Tim should have a say when he says he absolutely will not under any circumstances be living with Jack Drake again as long as Tim remains disabled. That if they make him go back, Tim will just run away again—and this time, he’ll go further & be a lot more thorough in disappearing. That the only way they’ll be able to stop Tim is to tie Tim down 24/7, and at that point there’ll be a solid case for abuse, now won’t there? (Tim’s plan: get Kon to fly Tim to Hawaii to avoid plane records & cameras, set up a new false identity there.)

Anyway, that’s how Tim ended up living in Wayne Manor.

[a-little-revolution]

My understanding is that you live away from your family, when you were looking for a place to live, were there a reasonable amount of accessible properties? Were the Canadian government willing to help make an apartment or house more accessible for you? Or are you kinda forced to make do with stools and stuff? Here in the uk we have a real shortage of accessible housing for physically disabled people, so I was wondering what it's like in Canada

Hello! Yes I currently live on a farm with some friends and my nesting partner (i'm poly). Sofar my accommodations within my apartment have not required assistance from the government - mostly I use stools, I have a section of counter that's lower in the kitchen, and my partner helps out. Since where I'm living belongs to a family friend and is sentimental to him, I haven't made any long-term adjustments.

Accesible housing is indeed in short supply in Canada, and housing at all is hard to find in my area. And what with ODSP only giving me $525 for rent, I'm surviving off of the grace of my landlord. The Canadian government fails it's disabled citizens.

[fandomtrumpshate]

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[amidnightqueery]

The thing about growing up an undiagnosed "twice exceptional" kid* (a term that didn't exist when I was young) is that you have to struggle against the reality of everyone telling you you're not living up to your potential, despite said potential not actually being achievable for you and your hidden disability because it was developed by other people and their standards for how you should be coping. You have a history of things being easier for you, but it's getting harder and harder. You keep trying anyway, usually succeeding but also falling short of your own expectations, seeing everyone crow on about how amazing and smart you are; you're performing for them, and they're giving you love for trying and doing so well, so you better not let them down. Your successes mask your needs, so your accommodations start to fall away (if they were ever given in the first place), but it's only because of them (inclusive of baseline respect of you as a person and not a machine, or challenges to your intellect) that you were able to succeed at all. So the failures start piling up, dwarfing the successes. And then you give up, or you go into burnout, and everyone asks where that amazing mind went. And you wonder the same yourself, because you feel broken, and you don't know who you are anymore.

*Obviously this may also be true for diagnosed "twice exceptional" kids, but I can only speak to my experience as a person who got no recognition whatsoever beyond how I made my parents look good, and diagnosis did not count within that. Support was never an option, so falling flat on my face was always going to be the end result.

[olderthannetfic]

Lately, I’ve been struggling to navigate a social situation, and y’all give good advice.

Broad strokes:

I love to hike. It’s one of my favorite things to do with other people. I have a physical disability that sometimes interferes, but the friends I hike with are good about accommodating me. If I have a flare on a day we planned to hike, we shorten the excursion, take longer breaks, change the activity, or reschedule. We do the same for two other friends whose physical disabilities are similar to mine in terms of energy levels and the activity types they tend to limit.

In our friend circle, there is another friend, A, who we don’t usually invite to hike with us. A’s partner, B, has a physical disability that prevents them from being able to hike in 100% of cases, though short walks closer to home are not entirely out of the question on a good day. In the past, we’ve gone on many such walks, and we always plan around B’s access needs when the larger friend group hangs out. I have a special chair in my living space for them to use when our tabletop group meets there, for example. 90% of the time, we only hang out with A in circumstances where B is also present.

Recently, friend C and I were discussing a planned hike in front of A, and A mentioned that it sounded fun. I said that she was welcome to come if she wanted, and she said she’d think about it and left. C, who is very close with B, told me that they thought it was a jerk move for me to invite A on an outing B can’t participate in.

I guess my questions are:

—Was it a jerk move?

—Regardless of the answer, how can I invite A to things more tactfully in the future? I like her a lot, and I want to see more of her if I can.

My partner and I have different access needs, so we often attend friend outings without each other. I tend to assume that it’s okay to invite one partner and not the other as long as it isn’t an exclusionary pattern. So how do I make sure it isn’t that? I love B. I don’t want to make them feel shafted.

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I don't think it was a jerk move.

I think whatever feelings partners have about different access needs can easily lead to resentment, but that's something a couple works out if they're going to stay together. I think it's on A to be aware of B's feelings and B to speak up if A is making them feel too left out. I don't think this is on you as an outside party even if you're friends with both A and B.

Frankly, I think C is weird for treating couples like an indivisible unit in all cases, and if B feels left out by A attending, they might also feel left out by their friends enjoying activities they cannot do. We don't know how B feels without asking B. It's quite likely they'd feel bad for being the reason A is not invited to things.

B feeling included is less likely to be about whether other people go on hikes ever and more likely to be about how much quality time you spend with them how regularly. If hikes started taking over from your tabletop group time, sure, they'd probably feel excluded. But it doesn't seem like that's the situation at all.

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: Hello mbti-notes, 28F ENFP here. I have written to you a few times, one of them about my relationship with my 27M INTJ boyfriend and the other about my childhood trauma regarding my ENTJ mother and how it was keeping me from pursuing my art career.

I have been on the road of Fi development and lately I have started to develop Te. Some major life events happened since the last time I wrote to you; I had gotten diagnosed with ADHD after suspecting having it for years; then, my younger cousins got diagnosed with level one autism (Formerly known as Aspergers), and after my mother conversed with their mothers, we reached the conclusion I and other members of the family are also autistic and ADHD, since I displayed symptoms of both as a child.

With this new knowledge, I have been making all the changes necessary to accommodate myself and do the best I can and pull my own weight. I am almost finishing University, and my boyfriend (he’s pretty much my husband at this point) started his doctorate and is now an art teacher at our local arts University. (those issues I had written to you prior were resolved and we have been very happy together and supportive of each other since).

I have been slowly tearing down my perfectionistic tendencies; I am no longer unhappy about my work or extremely self-critic to the point I put myself down. I have gained confidence and trust in myself and handling problems, crafting solutions, planning (even if short-term) and improvising. I have been re-enganging my Ne in a healthy manner, focusing on my projects and progress instead of being scattered and wanting to do everything and anything.

Despite that, and all the growth I have done already, I feel that I have an unsurnamable mountain of obstacles to pass through. Over the last year, I have realized just how little my ISTP, probably autistic and bipolar father and ENTJ, probably ADHD mother completely failed to prepare me for life. I was emotionally neglected, made a scapegoat for their problems, made to pick up after myself because of my autism and ADHD being seen as failures of character instead of disabilities.

They saw I was intelligent, and rationalized it as “not needing help”; then, when my problems with executive disfunction and organization started flaring up due to their neglect, they yelled and blamed it on me, worsening the situation. I grew up with no understanding of boundaries; I wasn’t allowed to advocate for myself and everytime I tried I was yelled at; I wasn’t allowed to discover myself and my identity properly so I clinged to my special interests like a moth to a flame; I was shamed for my way of functioning and that impeded me of developing proper knowledge of myself and what I needed.

I now notice my social differences, my trouble dealing with and regulating emotions (and why I put off dealing with them), and my lack of social skills and differentiating levels of relationships. I feel angry that the time I needed to be using to deal with these issues, during adolescence and early adulthood, was taken away by autistic burnout, depression, and dealing with a disfunctional family who had no idea how to care for me and never tried to, and spent pursuing bad relationships, hyperfixations and changing interests, all the while not being able to put effort into what I really wanted because of the shame and judgement they placed on me.

I have been trying my best to pick up the slack, but it’s hard. I can see now how I was unjustly punished for my differences my whole life. I finally understand now why people get upset with me with things like being unable to regulate tone or asking clarifying questions (when I’m just trying to understand them).

I have accepted myself; I know my difficultities now and I know what I have to do to regulate myself, but I still can’t stop feeling angry at this injustice. I do my best to be proactive and helpful in the communities I join and make friends, but people will turn on me the moment I do something impulsive like vent to chat about my parents doing something rude to me that day (which happens regularly). The bridges I put effort into building get destroyed in minutes, and I feel like all my progress is undone.

Family is a tricky issue for people, I get it. There are different times and places to say things, I get it. But It still happens. I know the way to fix it would be to leave, but due to the housing crisis, inflation and my expenses of trying to finish my degree, I can’t move out of this place and still currently live with them. Rent is unnafordable, my boyfriend is going through his degree and busy, and I’m already at capacity fully comitting myself to art and doing the best job I can with chores and house stuff.

I know my parents have issues and I try my best do understand and be empathethic, but they aren't doing anything to get better or to resolve them. My dad is on disability and unemployment aid right now, he does minimal chores and watches TV and sleeps all day. My mother is a pre-school teacher and constantly overworks herself because that's how she learned to get through life.

A few months ago, my mom almost ended her marriage because in her words, she developed a "platonic crush" for another man. It was a huge fight, and one they tried to drag me into. When they're not having outright fights, they act lovey-dovey; but they soon have another nasty fight, and the cycle goes on.

My dad is extremely misoginistic, judgemental, and cynical. Everytime he tries to engage me in conversation, I act uniteresting so he leaves me alone. I am uncapable of building a relationship with them after all they did to me.

I just can’t stop feeling I got dealt a sh*tty hand in life and there is nothing I can do about it. I realize this is Si grip talking, but this enviroment completely kills all my optimist, motivation and will to move foward in life, and I’ve been doing this dance for way too long and just want it to end once and for all so I can keep progressing. I know I’ve already come a long way, but I can’t stop feeling it still isn’t enough, and I’m afraid that feeling won’t ever go away. So I turn to you for guidance on what to do.

Currently I am sitting on a few unfinished projects (a comic and animation) that will be my portfolio só I can start working while I finish my degree. My parents are paying for the remainder of it (honestly, the least they could do after the horrible lifetime they gave me) but I plan to start paying for it myself as soon as I get some work. I guess what I'm trying to get at is that I'm doing everything to try and make things better, but I feel like they never will, and I don't know how to deal with that.

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Whenever people tell me about how they're making progress, even trying to develop lower functions, but also suffering from inferior grip, the alarm bells go off in my head, because it usually indicates some form of troublesome denial. In terms of type development, inferior grip is one of the most serious signs that something is not right psychologically.

I never want to poopoo on people's efforts to improve. I definitely believe that you've been putting forth your best efforts. However, if the outcome is inferior grip, it means there's a problem with your approach or method.

The way that you're stuck in blaming your parents for your misfortunes is not just a sign of Si grip, but also Te loop. If you're suffering from Te loop, it means Fi development hasn't progressed to the point where you are ready for Te development. Being a lower function, trying to develop Te when you're not ready is only going to exacerbate Te loop and eventually lead you into Si grip.

I won't deny that the people around you every day have a big influence over you. As a Feeler, their moods can easily affect yours. When that happens, the best thing to do is to draw up boundaries, to try to shield yourself from those negative influences as much as possible. However, what you've done is the opposite.

You've been drawn into the negative influence through blaming them, fighting back (mentally), judging them for their flaws, indulging pointless "what if" scenarios about your past, etc. In short, you have been swallowed up by the negativity partly because you didn't do enough to protect yourself from it. This is related to Fi development because Fi should inform you about what is needed for self-protection.

Now, since you find yourself in a hopeless place and can't accept the feelings of helplessness, the recourse is Te loop. You wish to actively "correct" everything that you perceive is "wrong". However, this is a futile endeavor. Why? Because those things are not for you to correct. You have overstepped/violated boundaries by wanting to solve problems that aren't your responsibility. This only serves to entangle you in them.

You mom and dad's flaws, your mom and dad's relationship, are none of your business, but you are all up in there. Even if they try to involve you, as an adult, you have the power to refuse. Because you care about them, it's hard for you to refuse, but refuse you must. That's what it means to draw healthy boundaries.

Yes, it's tragic to have been deprived as a child. One thing you realize more and more deeply as you get older (especially if you have children of your own) is that parents are human, their knowledge is limited, and people can only do the best they can based on what they know. Many, many people are ignorant about psychological issues because they have had no opportunity to learn about them. What's worse, sometimes what they have learned is misinformation or outdated information based on what was being taught when they were growing up.

I say this not to excuse the bad things that parents do, but to foster empathy for the fact that people can't do better when they don't know better. You are the same. You didn't think to change your behavior or didn't know how to do it in the right way until you learned about ADHD. You live, you learn.

Empathy for others starts with empathy for oneself. Instead of pitying yourself or being angry about your past, healthy Fi should prompt you to express empathy for your struggles today. There aren't enough signs that you possess this depth of empathy, which indicates Fi development has a long way to go yet. It's hard to feel empathy when you're in the thick of negativity, but that's the time when it's most important to practice it.

An important part of having empathy for yourself, aka self-compassion, is allowing yourself to move at a realistic pace in life, a pace that takes your challenges into fair consideration, rather than always trying to live up to unreasonable ideals. Feeling "not good enough" and being afraid of that feeling never going away is directly related to Fi development and lack of self-acceptance. You must accept the truth of yourself and the facts of your situation before you can move forward in a meaningful way.

Also, if you find yourself speaking inappropriately or not giving enough consideration to social context when your feelings get too big, it means you haven't done enough to set up a good social support system and create more appropriate opportunities to explore your personal issues. Expecting parents or colleagues to give you support that they are not capable of giving is basically wasting energy barking up the wrong tree. In other words, don't look for love in all the wrong places. This is related to Fi development in terms of doing what it takes to care well for your well-being.

You are well into adulthood. At some point, it has to be fully your responsibility to craft the life you want. By continuing to blame your parents for not living up to your ideals, you are the one keeping yourself tied to past unhappiness, rather than moving forward. It is a choice you make.

I always say that forgiveness isn't about other people. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. It's not good for you to live in a state of resentment, anger, or hate. It's not good to keep revisiting and rehashing such emotions on an endless loop. Therefore, you have to learn to forgive the mistakes of the past so that you can have the emotional stability necessary to focus on improving your life today and into the future.

Forgiving your parents for being the imperfect human beings that they are is difficult but necessary, not for their sake, but for yours. You can set yourself free from the past at any time through learning how to be more accepting, empathetic, and forgiving, which is very much tied to Fi development. This would be a healthy way of lifting yourself out of Si grip and mending your mental health.

[disabled-is-not-a-dirty-word]

Hey guys! I've been doing some research into how best to accommodate screen reader users with regards to image descriptions and alt text. Over time, you may have seen that I have been experimenting with different ways of providing IDs, whether that be in plain text in the body of the post, entirely in alt text, or with the ID duplicated in the alt text and body text. I've also been reading through the comments and posts of people who use screen readers to get their input on the subject, and I believe that I have finally come to the best solution. From now on, I will put a short, very basic description in the alt text, while more detailed descriptions will be placed in plain text in the body of the post. This will hopefully provide better clarity and accessibility.

I will try my best to go back and edit any posts that I have made without any ID to help make my blog more accessible. When I originally created this blog, it was mostly just a way for me to shout into the void about how I felt coming to terms with disability. I never imagined that my silly little posts would gain so much traction in the community, and I am so grateful to have all of you here with me! I know our boat is not always a fun one, but it is so good to not be steering alone.

[brightlotusmoon]

Frequently, over time, euphemisms themselves become taboo words, through the linguistic process of semantic change known as pejoration, which University of Oregon linguist Sharon Henderson Taylor dubbed the "euphemism cycle" in 1974,[24] also frequently referred to as the "euphemism treadmill". For instance, the place of human defecation is a needy candidate for a euphemism in all eras. Toilet is an 18th-century euphemism, replacing the older euphemism house-of-office, which in turn replaced the even older euphemisms privy-house and bog-house.[25] In the 20th century, where the old euphemisms lavatory (a place where one washes) and toilet (a place where one dresses[26]) had grown from widespread usage (e.g., in the United States) to being synonymous with the crude act they sought to deflect, they were sometimes replaced with bathroom (a place where one bathes), washroom (a place where one washes), or restroom (a place where one rests) or even by the extreme form powder room (a place where one applies facial cosmetics).[citation needed] The form water closet, often shortened to W.C., is a less deflective form.[citation needed] The word shit appears to have originally been a euphemism for defecation in Pre-Germanic, as the Proto-Indo-European root *sḱeyd-, from which it was derived, meant 'to cut off'.[27]

Another example in American English is the replacement of "colored people" with "Negro" (euphemism by foreign language), which itself came to be replaced by either "African American" or "Black".[28] Also in the United States the term "ethnic minorities" in the 2010s has been replaced by "people of color".[28]

Venereal disease, which associated shameful bacterial infection with a seemingly worthy ailment emanating from Venus, the goddess of love, soon lost its deflective force in the post-classical education era, as "VD", which was replaced by the three-letter initialism "STD" (sexually transmitted disease); later, "STD" was replaced by "STI" (sexually transmitted infection).[29]

Intellectually-disabled people were originally defined with words such as "morons" or "imbeciles", which then became commonly used insults. The medical diagnosis was changed to "mentally retarded", which morphed into a pejorative against those with intellectual disabilities. To avoid the negative connotations of their diagnoses, students who need accommodations because of such conditions are often labeled as "special needs" instead, although the words "special" or "sped" (short for "special education") have long been schoolyard insults.[30][better source needed] As of August 2013, the Social Security Administration replaced the term "mental retardation" with "intellectual disability".[31] Since 2012, that change in terminology has been adopted by the National Institutes of Health and the medical industry at large.[32] There are numerous disability-related euphemisms that have negative connotations.

[feminist-pussycat]

man i was talking to a woman in one of my classes about adhd, and how I had only been diagnosed in my late teens after recognizing my symptoms from a psychology class.

and she told me she learned that she had adhd from tiktok. that the all-knowing algorithm had shown her videos from people who talk about adhd and she related, went to her doctor, and in two hours got a diagnosis. it took me three months to get a diagnosis because of all the tests and tests i had to send to people who knew me as a child and report cards from before the age of 12 etc.

at this point i’m kinda sceptical. adhd symptoms are similar to the focus- and attention- disrupting effects of heavy tiktok usage. so we start discussing symptoms, the practical ones that i incur in everyday life.

and she kind of doesn’t have them? granted, she said she was diagnosed with inattentive adhd (ADHD-IN) and I have combined (ADHD-C). but she isn’t late for things, and she doesn’t have time blindness. she couldn’t relate to the roadblocks of basic tasks (sorry if you can easily send emails or pay bills and you say you have adhd i don’t trust you). she doesn’t struggle with the constant forgetfulness and abysmal short-term memory loss.

we talked more and she absolutely has a history of trauma. i don’t want to go into details but basically she doesn’t talk to her family and there were incidents of harassment and terror campaigns and abuse. but trauma and adhd have some overlapping symptoms.

for example: symptoms for both include disorganization, poor self-esteem, problems concentrating and being inattentive, irritability/ hot temper. there’s emerging scientific research about how one of the epigenetic factors that contribute to developing adhd is early childhood trauma.

so my theory is that she was recklessly diagnosed, and has now made it like a personality trait. when i talk about adhd, it is and always feels like a disorder. it’s negatively impacting my brain, primarily the PFC and the symptoms constantly interfere with my well-being and functioning as a person. but for her it was like a quirky personality trait that she was happy to talk about.

anyway this is a long-winded way of saying i’m worried about how publicized mental health conditions are, and how quickly people will assign a disorder to themselves because of the influencers on tiktok. it frustrates me so much when people cheerily say “adhd isn’t a disorder! it’s just a different way of thinking / a superpower/ only a disability under capitalism!” and it’s always people like this, who either have mild adhd that isn’t that hard to deal with or accommodate, or were misdiagnosed with something else. and it contributes to this “woob-ification” of mental illness where it’s cute and quirky, and severe symptoms are disapproved of because everyone has this sanitized version of how people with mental disorders behave.

[heard-nsfw-is-back]

Everyone's a disability advocate. Everyone's pro mental illness care/recovery. Until they're not. Until something or someone comes along and dares to make you question or think. Or makes you slightly uncomfortable. Or makes you feel in danger (even when you're not). Less masculine or feminine. Less like you think you know better. How dare you say that you can be around people who need accommodations or long term or even short term care and yet when they need it in that moment suddenly it's an inconvenience to you. 'How dare people demonstrate why they need care, and put you out of whatever you were doing' awww (/hostile sarcasm). Grow. Up. Tired of this. Tired of you. People need. And people deserve what they need. It's a need.

[thefinalwitness]

speaking of aetherytes i have headcanons of varying canonical founding bc of course i do:

you can be traced through the aetheryte system if you use it. this is explicitly why l'aiha doesn't use it after the waking sands ambush or after the bloody banquet at the end of ARR.

based on that last post and the concept of "you can't transport things that 'aren't yours'" i'm reminded of similar lore regarding the wol and hopping from the first to the source and back. there was a convo about it around the part in ShB when you're taking the scions' soul vessels back to the source, where you have to really concentrate on the vessels as "an item you own" and not "your friends" or something of the like.

the above implies to me that, in addition to items you don't own, it is at minimum dangerous to try and take animals or any living thing that cannot consent across through an aetheryte with you. "group travel" where only one person pays works because everyone is an intelligent person who can conceptualize where they're going and agree to it. this might also make it unsafe for small children! what that actually means i'm less certain about. (does the unconsenting party get left behind at the original location? does their atoms get remixed or whatever the crystal exarch said would happen to the scions' soul vessels if we didn't do it right?)

this isn't a headcanon so much as a deep curiosity regarding why garleans CAN use aetherytes and thancred CAN'T. it's mentioned garleans need to do it a bit differently, which makes me wonder, does this difference also accommodate thancred? can he use garlean aetherytes? if so, do you know how much the story could cash in on this in terms of garlemald earning back its independence? how many average people around the world have an aether-related disability that prevents them from using aetherytes? garlemald could basically invent wheelchair ramps for ppl who otherwise can't access aetheryte travel. hello!!!!!!

i wonder about the details of 'aetheryte travel takes a physical toll on you, and cannot be overused'. personally i like to think a trip straight through the lifestream, the place all loose aether is pulled to, just strips aether off you as you pass. so doing it too much in a short amount of time is equivocal to like, donating blood too often? does the guard force in charge of this have anti-lawsuit measures for this? do you have to sign a consent form? do they keep records of who passes through when and if you try too often they turn you away? do you have a little punch card you gotta replace every month? compels me

[compassionatereminders]

And there’s not a thing wrong with it. Benefits are really hard to get in the US on a short or long term basis and I think it should be standard like medical insurance. You’re a source of joy and wisdom in our community and it really fucks with people.

I'm not American but I still appreciate it. But like even in Denmark, reaching a point where you get approved for disability benefits instead of receiving accommodations means you be fucked up beyond repair.

[threadsun]

That’s very nice !! Also a really nice way to think ! Completely different from me cuz like

-jda here I might cri while writing this-

The first time I used one was for like a school trip or something and my teacher knew I couldn’t walk very well but she really wanted me to go so she just— she started asking for money to buy a wheelchair just so I could go,,, DUDE I FELT HORRIBLE like I was putting too much pressure on my poor teacher she was so nice too so I just felt like the worst human being in the planet, I said I was cool with not going but she kept insisting and it came to that level—

The school managed to get a wheelchair btw and through the trip I could just feel the judging faces of idk people???? My classmates were just looking at me cuz haha bullied people problems !! Luckily I was with some friends so they were very much supporting and always looking after me— and somehow I felt like a burden to everyone and no I wasn’t lying when I said I wanted to cry right there,,,

I mean the trip was fine and I appreciate the thoughtfulness of my teacher but tbh I just couldn’t focus on anything, my mind was being a mess :( so not so much of a fun experience—

I MEAN ANYWAY YEAH HOLLOW KNIGHT IS GREAT !! Even if it doesn’t seem to be everyone’s type of game, just looking at it is fun cuz there’s so much detail in everything so yeah pretty game I lieky

Awww I'm sorry darling <3 no one ever deserves to have a bad experience with mobility aids. But it's not uncommon, I felt very self-conscious the first time I used a wheelchair. And honestly, I feel kinda self-conscious about it still. I always worry that people will think I'm faking my need for it because I can stand and walk short distances.

But at the end of the day, you eventually learn to sort of say fuck it. And to realise that being disabled is more inconvenient for you than anyone else, and that actually the way to make things easier for yourself and those around you is to take care of yourself. Asking for help when you need it, using accommodations when you need them, treating yourself gently.

Even if people act like you're causing more problems when you ask for help, in the long term it means you're not hurting yourself more and therefore they won't need to take even more care of you. Not to mention that the more of us who use the accommodations we need, the easier it'll be for other people to get the same accommodations, and the less awkward they'll feel about using them. Like any other student at your old school who needs a wheelchair now will have access to one thanks to you! That's a great thing!

Idk it's never easy to be disabled, it doesn't feel good physically or mentally. It's really easy to get weighed down by the way people treat us and the fact that there's things we can't do. But at the end of the day, the best thing we can do for ourselves and others is take care of ourselves. And whatever you can do to keep your mood up will help as well! It makes things much more liveable when you learn to have fun with whatever bullshit your body throws at you.

Anyway lots of hugs and kisses for you, I love you so much and I hope things get much much easier for you 💙

[cripple-culture-is]

Hi! 50k-attending anon here. The event is a massive comic convention I go to twice a year. I strive to cosplay and enjoy myself like any other able-bodied person does because I’m entitled to it! It does affect my short-term health poorly and I do suffer for it, but I know my body well and understand the risks I undertake.

I’d really appreciate it if people didn’t try to act as if participation in a large event is some cardinal cripple-sin. A large part of this movement is the narrative that our bodies are ours to decide what to do with and how to manage. I’m not lording it over anyone else who can’t attend or do things like me; I’m just doing me and I’m well within my rights to be outraged at poor disability accommodation at an event that I have every reason to be at. Thanks! :)

Hi! That sounds really fun! Only a disabled person knows their bodies' limits, so definitely ho for it, if you can handle it! Cosplay always seems interesting to me. I just don't have the means, money, or the energy to go to those types of events.

You're right, it isn't a cardinal cripple sin. And yes, that is what some of the Cripple Punk Movement stands for. You have every right to attend whatever event you wish to ❤️ And you deserve to be accommodated, everyone does 🙂 You are always welcome in this space.

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