#Respect Boundaries

[sunnythedawg]

Next part of the silly thing

[squidflavoredsoup]

HEY REMINDER THAT NOT EVERYONE YOU MEET ON THE INTERNET IS YOUR FRIEND

and you shouldn’t force that label onto people!!!!

it’s weird

if somebody tells u that ur making them uncomfortable or that they don’t want to be ur friend or even want to TALK to you

RESPECT THEIR BOUNDARIES

bit of a rant

[glowsticcc]

general fandom consensus over the past couple days

[steviewashere]

I know that I've technically already talked about this when the conversation began arising surrounding Chappell Roan's boundaries—alongside other celebrities' boundaries when they're not making/performing art—but I just need to fucking get this out of my system:

"Joseph Quinn rare picture" "Joe Keery rare picture" "other celebrity name placeholder rare picture"

THEY'RE NOT RARE PICTURES FOR FUCK'S SAKE!!!

You deliberately went out of your way to find these celebrities' families on social media, stalked their pages, found the photos you wanted, and then reposted onto other social media accounts that are outside of the comfort zone of those celebrities' families. You didn't find a rare picture. You found a photo of Joseph Quinn when he was twelve, hanging out with his schoolmates on like his mother's Facebook page and claiming it as rare, when it is indeed not.

And you may be like, but Stevie, how do you know it's from a Facebook page?

Are you really going to look me in the eyes, in front of my fucking salad, and tell me that Joseph Quinn or Joe Keery or some other celebrity went out of their way to scour through their pre-fame photo albums and posted them online for the whole world to see? Are you really going to look me in the eyes and tell me a picture that does not show up on these celebrities' own social media pages—(Quinn's Instagram or the Djotime Instagram or what the fuck ever)—are some rare, dime a dozen photos from like 2013 on the Wayback Machine or something?

No, you aren't. You aren't going to just outwardly confess to me that you found these by breaking boundaries. Because some people are fucking weirdos who want to omit where they got these pictures.

I think of it as this, too (and not to make it all trauma dumping bullshit or whatever), but like—

Both of my parents are deceased. If I, somehow, rose to fame later in my life—let's say I follow through with my dream of becoming a graphic novel author/illustrator—and some pictures of me from my 8th grade dance just popped up one day on Pinterest, I would know immediately that somebody went scouring through my mom's Facebook page. It would be so fucking weird to me that somebody went out of their way to deliberately research who my mother was, found her Facebook profile, bypassed all the in memoriam posts, and downloaded a photo of me when I was fucking thirteen to claim as a "rare" photo.

That should be a breech of privacy, right? That's what I would view it as. I'd fucking delete all my social media pages and tell you all to stay the fuck away from me. What I share on my pages is what I want to share, I'm not going to go around and show off my middle school photos for the entire world to see—those are for my friends and family who I share in the privacy of my life.

How is this not the same for celebrities? How is it suddenly different to do this to J.Q. or somebody else? Those aren't pictures he's openly shared, and I know that just by scrolling on his Instagram page, the only social media page he has, mind you.

Stop bypassing boundaries, you fucking weirdos. It's online harassment and stalking. And it makes you look slimy and disgusting. And I wish you the worse if you disagree.

[slayqu-33-n]

Loving Joost Klein and Chapel Roan advocating and speaking up for their boundaries rn 🤞🏼

Need more artists like them who are unapologetically themselves and will say it how it is.

#RESPECT fr

[trashpandaperson]

hey guys!! I'm back. i have a message for everyone. RESPECT PEOPLE'S BOUNDARIES!!!!! I saw a fanfic on AO3 where the author said that they don't care if they cross boundaries and that it's "not their problem if people don't like certain things". THIS IS NOT OK!!!! IT'S NOT YOUR CHARACTER AND YOU DON'T GET A SAY IN WHAT YOU'RE ALLOWED TO DO WITH THEM OR NOT!!!! IF A CONTENT CREATOR SAYS THAT SHIPPING AND NSFW ARE NOT OK, RESPECT THAT!!!! DON'T DO IT ANYWAYS JUST BECAUSE "they will probably never see it". THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT IT DOESN'T EXIST!!!! EVEN IF THE CREATOR NEVER SEES IT, THAT DOESN'T INVALIDATE THEIR FEELINGS OR BOUNDARIES!!!! DON'T MISGENDER PEOPLE BECAUSE YOU'RE "uncomfortable with the it/it's pronouns" OR "neopronouns are weird and difficult to use in writing so I won't use them"!!! IT'S NOT YOUR IDENTITY AND YOU DON'T GET TO TELL PEOPLE WHAT PRONOUNS THEY CAN AND CAN'T USE!!!! JUST BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING AND RESPECT PEOPLE!!!

[moddymoon]

Mommy to love?

Got a chat, let's see if I can get it here this way:

Yeah, that does it... So this is the start... You'll note I'm *not* sharing who this is... Just an example, but it's an actual chat...

So, I guess... let's look how this starts...

I don't much to say a bit against the start of this. I get it, people do go in this direction. I'm not *that* bothered by it. It's still rude...

Now... I say where I stand... Which of course I feel should be fair...

OK, this literally is the next part... And yes... Asking again (demanding again...) where I'm from...

This is very much not on. So I make it very clear that it's not on...

And... It continues... And this is as far as this has gone... So here it is... Thank you for the content...

I hope that this is nice for someone.

[impeerpressure]

hi instagram made me angry

Hi I’m a mlm boy. I like dudes. I am a dude who kisses other men. Hi wsp what’s good.

If you aren’t aware, the term ‘fujoshi’ literally means rotten girl. It is used by girls who consume yaoi/bl content. They are calling themselves ‘rotten’ or ‘sinful’ for enjoying gay content. This is an issue, and if you are in fact capable of critical thinking I’m sure you can see why.

I want to be entirely clear with this: I do not have an issue with girls/non-mlm consuming mlm content. That is not a problem AT ALL. There are a lot of really good mlm stories and character out there and they should be appreciated. The issue comes when non-mlms start writing or romanticizing awful, abusive relationships in fiction just because it’s mlm. The biggest example of this I can think of is Killing Stalking, a mlm webtoon that showcased an absolutely horrid relationship.

It also becomes an issue when these non-mlm fujoshi (or whatever version of the term they decide to use) start carrying this mlm obsession over into the real world. There are countless stories of mlms being asked if they’re a ‘uke’ or a ‘seme’ after revealing their relationship or sexuality. There are hundreds of accounts of non-mlms obsessively shipping boys from their schools just because it’s gay and they think they’re so quirky and silly and goofy for it. Shipping real people is weird. Shipping real people just because it’s gay is weirder.

You should not be proud to call yourself a ‘rotten girl’ for liking mlm ships. Viewing mlm ships and people solely as a twisted form of entertainment is not support or allyship.

And if you’re a trans/non-binary/gender-questioning/etc person who’s using mlm content to explore your own gender and sexuality, that is okay! There’s nothing wrong with using content to figure that out because again, there is nothing wrong with non-mlms consuming mlm content as long it isn’t only harmful content or you aren’t bothering real people with it.

I can’t stress that point enough. Consume and create all the kinds of content you like! mlm content isn’t solely for mlm people! That being said, if you find an account that’s labeled as mlm only, don’t be an asshole and respect that. Some places are simply meant for support and as safe spaces. Just don’t cross any boundaries, don’t romanticize toxic and abusive relationships, and leave real people alone. And for the love of the stars, don’t call yourself a ‘rotten girl’ for enjoying mlm content or refer to your favorite mlm ship as ‘sinful.’ That’s just all kinds of harmful.

[stopitbehaveyourself]

Kind of long. Ranting about the ST fandom because I need to get this out of my system.

What I'm about to say doesn't really matter as such, because there's about 5 people here who I've somewhat befriended here anyway. But I'm done with this fandom and the people in this fandom. Not all of them, but a lot of them anyway.

The hatred, the absurdity, the creepiness, the toxicity. It's too much. I got into this fandom because I adored jamie (and I still do. Always will.) I've never really met him but from what I've seen, he's sweet, kind, and REALLY TALENTED. So as much as I'll continue to follow him, I've decided to part ways with this fandom. Through the blog anyway. Maybe being a silent fan was always the better option, because having this blog (and a now inactive page on Instagram) has burst my bubble.

When I say this fandom, I mean the ST fandom as a whole. Not just the jamie fandom. Where do I even get started?

Hating Millie Bobby Brown for talking too much and being too loud and rude when she was a literal child. As if you guys were real mature kids who'd behave at a press conference if you played a big character in a big fucking show.

All the hate grace van dien recieved for simply addressing the chemistry she thought Chrissy had with Eddie. Calling her obsessed with joseph- her actual real life friend- on a blog/page dedicated to Joseph Quinn - who probably doesn't know you exist. Who's more obsessed here? You're allowed to have a celeb crush or simp over a fictional crush or whatever but learn to separate reality from fiction and stop hating and hurting real people over fictional characters.

Knowing Joseph Quinn is a private person and yet so many people disrespecting his privacy at any chance they get.

The hate Eduardo Franco gets for talking too much or for his looks.

And an endless list of toxic things in the jamie fandom alone. (I probably missed out on plenty other shit that happened in the ST fandom in general because I wasn't ever involved with it in detail)

Jamie being asked to sign a marriage certificate by a fan. Even if it was fake, if he says he's uncomfortable you STOP. Just because you paid for an autograph doesn't mean you're entitled to get whatever you ask for. He has the right to deny, and when he does, you respect his boundaries and back the fuck off. You don't ask him for a refund when he doesn't even handle that shit.

Overanalysing everything he/the person he is around says/does. Breaking news: everything a person does doesn't have to have a masterplan behind it. They're people. Let them fucking breathe.

Leaking his music even when he specifically asked not to. Support his work ethically maybe?

The recent hacking: Jamie specifically asked not to engage and yet people went on and engaged and were surprised when they got blocked. It's common sense that sending hate to a hacker won't actually make them stop hacking when they have the option to simply block you. By pissing the hacker off you only make Jamie's work more difficult. Sit back and let him handle things by himself maybe? He's an adult with a good enough team who can sort the hacking out for him.

Shipping characters, having a celebrity crush, indulging in fanfictions. It's normal. But keep it to yourself maybe? Nobody wants to see a stranger on the internet showing them their sexual fantasies with them. Try imagining yourself in his shoes, it's uncomfortable as fuck. He is too polite to point it out directly, but some of y'all don't get the fucking hint when he indirectly expresses his discomfort, do you? You pass it off as a joke.

I could specifically list down at least 5 more things but they'd be an attack to specific people and I don't want to get into an argument with anyone or genuinely attack anyone personally either.

All I'm saying is that this fandom is fucked. I miss the times I was oblivious to all the drama going on, but my bubble has burst now, and I can no more look at a video/post related to stranger things and not remember the negativity attached to it. I need to get my head clear at least for now. So I call quits. Maybe I'll return some day but I hope it's not anytime soon. It doesn't matter anyway, apart from the few friends I made here. But I had to say this. It was in my system for way too long.

Please don't spread hate x

[chattersstuff]

You’re joking. Seriously A LOT of you guys in the TGC fandom need to watch this video and respect their boundaries.

And here’s a little add on for Grunk in case some people didn’t see his tweet. Don’t write smut about people or even write anything about them if they specifically said they feel uncomfortable with it or said not to. It’s just basic human decency.

[chrispineofficial]

advice on how to become a spnblr blog?

watch spn (at least 324 episodes. you’re allowed three No Thank Yous and that should include the finale)

blog about it

sleepover saturday

[glassnotesanddreams]

Title: Cedfia is Not Welcome in the Sofia the First Fandom

Body

What I’ve seen in this fandom the little I've seen because of a rude user is people pushing a toxic ship—Cedfia (Cedric and Amber)—and then expecting everyone to just accept it like it’s normal. Let’s be clear: this ship is not acceptable in the *Sofia the First* Fandom. It’s not something that can be justified or made “okay” with art, fanfiction, or any other medium. The age gap between Cedric and Amber makes this ship deeply inappropriate and borderline pedophilic, and the fact that some people continue to push it as though it’s harmless is concerning.

This isn’t about differing opinions on harmless ships or playful fan theories. This is about a clear line that has been crossed, and this fandom does not want to see or engage with content that romanticizes harmful relationships. It’s not up for debate. No matter how many fanfics or fanarts are made, it does not change the fact that *Cedfia* is not accepted or wanted here.

The reality is that the *Sofia the First* fandom does not want this ship, and anyone who continues to push it is disrespecting the community’s boundaries. People are blocking, muting, and reporting because this ship makes fans uncomfortable and goes against what the majority of the fandom stands for. You can’t expect to push a toxic pairing and then act surprised when people don’t want it in their spaces. It’s not just about “personal preferences”; it’s about creating a safe, respectful environment for all fans.

So, to anyone still trying to make Cedfia a thing: please respect the fact that the *Sofia the First* Fandom does not want this ship here. People are entitled to their boundaries, and pushing this toxic ship is not going to make it accepted. Let’s keep this space respectful and enjoyable. Period.

Thank you.

[onelonelyghost0]

Ok so.

I gave Mabel some trauma.

I gave Mabel some shit I have.

I gave Mabel issues with touch that she fights.

I did this on purpose bc I have said, the twins are both very fucking similar to me and will be having a couple of traits I have.

Yes you can have the responses I gave her if you go through something like she did.

Yes the twins are fucked up and traumatized and trying.

Yes I write based on my experience.

If you don’t like it, please fuck off, please do not ask questions I don’t wanna answer, please don’t ask me how I know about these responses.

Please just chill, read the fic (or don’t!) and also go respond to my poll bc I wanna know :)

[entorilovescutelewdity]

Heya y’all, this is a message to anybody and everybody who reads this. Don’t message people and treat them like shit. Even if somebody has a blog like mine that focuses on mostly sexual things, that doesn’t mean we want to suddenly be called slurs and treated like we’re emotionless because “oh but I thought you were into that”. Sure, some people can be, but that’s no excuse to going into a conversation and then right away trying to degrade somebody, especially somebody you don’t know. Check to see if they have an about me, see what they like and dislike, and then even after that, ask them to see what is and isn’t okay, and if they change their mind, respect that. Getting consent is HOT. There is nothing hotter than actually caring about a person and respecting them. I personally am fine with some play flirting, I really don’t mind, it can be fun. What’s not fun is when somebody tries to strip you of your humanity and act like you’re their toy and try to force you to do things. Boundaries exist for a reason. Always ask.

[jcalexandrewrites]

Yo! Forget just church!. We need this type of system in real life!

My fellow autistics/introverts: like and share if you agree! 👍🩷

[ayyy-imma-ninja]

If Sun or Moon were spotted by the kids did they ever tickle the kids or play with them while parents aren't watching?

They probably would've, but only if the kid was okay with it.

Still gotta respect personal space, after all. Some children don't like being touched in general.