#just had to get that off my chest

[weaselle]

listen. There's a whole mentality shift that needs to happen culture wide here, from the schools to the public infrastructure to pet ownership to the justice system

The proper response to your dog doing a natural behavior you dislike (digging/barking/protecting etc) it to give them an appropriate time and place to engage in that behavior

The proper response to skateboarders damaging infrastructure is to build more and better skate parks, or build skate elements into the public infrastructure on purpose.

The proper response to homeless people sleeping on park benches is to build them houses.

you see how there's like, a commonality at play here?

The proper response to a disruption is to address the root of the disruption directly, not somehow attack the disruption itself -

you don't invent a muffler by swinging a bat at the engine noise, you don't relieve your hunger by punching yourself in the stomach, you don't resolve public unrest by sending armed men to control them and you don't prevent homeless people using bus shelters as a roof by removing the bus shelters.

a whole ass shift in a basic mindset, i'm tellin' you. We need it.

[demilypyro]

The fact is that most “crossdressing boy” mangas we have nowadays can trace their lineage back to Stop Hibari-Kun (1982) which carried the same general premise of the male lead being confused by an amab love interest who dresses as a woman, but critically also had the context of Hibari explicitly being a trans woman who hid this fact from her peers. This gave her a real, grounded reason to be the way she is.

Without the love interest being trans, the modern crossdressing boy trope just functions entirely on make-belief scenarios of a guy just randomly deciding to come to school as a girl one day while skirting around the obvious trans implications with little more than a “nuh-uh he’s still male because I said so”, and once you recognize that’s what’s going on it becomes hard to see most crossdressing boys in media as little more than a kind of tourist version of attraction to trans women, letting cis readers live out a fantasy of trans sexuality without ever having to engage with the reality of the problems real trans people face. We saw this in action recently with the confirmation that Bridget from Guilty Gear is canonically a transgender woman: a lot of people were outraged at the idea of not being able to have sexual fantasies about her without acknowledging that she was transgender.

[musicsauce]

Does anyone else sometimes cry whilst realizing how deep their love for Nick and Charlie is and are just absolutely mindblown that a person could feel SO MUCH and SO DEEPLY for two fictional characters? I've never felt this before, to this level. I've never cried through so many fanfics from feeling actual heartbreak and pain to unparalleled joy, having such an attachment to them emotionally. Their love is just one of the most beautiful and pure things I've ever seen or felt. I feel like I'll never be able to adequately describe how much they mean to me. I don't have kids, but I think it's like that kind of love. Like I would go to the ends of the earth to protect them because they are that precious. No one is allowed to hurt them, so I will defend them with my life. Alice creates magic out of that beautiful, brilliant brain of theirs, and I will be forever grateful, so so grateful, that she shares it with the world. What a gift. ❤️

[420jimmyuso]

WHATEVER !!!! WHATEVER !!!! FINNDAMIAN I WILL KMS.

[trashpandaperson]

hey guys!! I'm back. i have a message for everyone. RESPECT PEOPLE'S BOUNDARIES!!!!! I saw a fanfic on AO3 where the author said that they don't care if they cross boundaries and that it's "not their problem if people don't like certain things". THIS IS NOT OK!!!! IT'S NOT YOUR CHARACTER AND YOU DON'T GET A SAY IN WHAT YOU'RE ALLOWED TO DO WITH THEM OR NOT!!!! IF A CONTENT CREATOR SAYS THAT SHIPPING AND NSFW ARE NOT OK, RESPECT THAT!!!! DON'T DO IT ANYWAYS JUST BECAUSE "they will probably never see it". THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT IT DOESN'T EXIST!!!! EVEN IF THE CREATOR NEVER SEES IT, THAT DOESN'T INVALIDATE THEIR FEELINGS OR BOUNDARIES!!!! DON'T MISGENDER PEOPLE BECAUSE YOU'RE "uncomfortable with the it/it's pronouns" OR "neopronouns are weird and difficult to use in writing so I won't use them"!!! IT'S NOT YOUR IDENTITY AND YOU DON'T GET TO TELL PEOPLE WHAT PRONOUNS THEY CAN AND CAN'T USE!!!! JUST BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING AND RESPECT PEOPLE!!!

[aneatlittlelemon]

I’m late to getting around to watching the newest episode of fantasy high but let me just say, seeing Buddy gave me such deep and uncomfortable feelings for no reason other than the fact he looks exactly like a missionary from the Mormon church which I grew up in

So basically, thanks Brennen I hate it :)

[otto-c-graves]

Hi Tumblr, Happy Pride.

I hate doing it, but I’m going to rant so TLDR.

I identify as asexual. I’m comfortable and okay with this. It’s what’s true to me and I’m sticking with it.

I recently came out to my new boss and I was very relieved when she knew what I was talking about. Hell, surprised even. However, she pulled all the usual cards in questioning after that. I honestly am not upset with her, I love her so much because she’s been so great and wonderful, but I am upset with the questions that she asked. And deep down I think she was just curious. Her as a person and knowing her they were just innocent in nature. But they’re the same questions that every single person who comes out as ace gets asked and I hate that they seem to have gotten to even her.

“Did you have trauma?”

“Is it a germ thing?”

No. I’m just repulsed, thanks.

But I am I guess also a bit upset with her for seemingly trying to convince me otherwise?

“Well, there are other ways to feel good.”

“Hormones and biology take over after a while in the middle of that.”

And just. Yeah. I guess for some people. But not me. I don’t want to be a in a relationship where sex is the main thing. And I have told myself that if it’s too important for any potential partners of mine, then we would just have to split.

I am a hopeless romantic. I enjoy and adore seeing others madly, deeply, in love. I do. I crave that as well. I do like physical contact like hand holding, kissing, cuddling, hugging. But I don’t want to fuck you and I don’t want you fucking me.

I want to be able to share the same values, help carry each other through burdens, be there for one another and be treated equally. Teamwork is how the dream works. I want to be able to comfortably sit in silence with a partner and admire how a specific wallpaper’s vibe makes us feel and reflect on that, for example. Having the same interests and being supportive of each other would fantastic.

But I know being ace hinders all that a lot. And I have come to terms that if I die alone then it’s my fault. And I’ll live with that. It’s not my ideal way of going out but if it happens it does.

But I still hold hope for all you other aces. I cheer you on and hope you find a partner, if you desire, and you all live and love long happily.

You got this.

[princessbrunette]

Rimming with the boys

i usually ignore these n i’m not tryna sound petty but the way some ppl on here send requests like im some kind of ai bot and not a human is rlly annoying ngl. ur not gonna get an answer with this kind of ask im just saying !! talk to me like a human or not at all pls

[unlenertitled]

I really don't understand why some "fans" are so disrespectful and keep jumping into the boats or keep rocking them! I'm really pissed off with these people and it's not even funny anymore. I don't understand how people can be so rude and disrespectful?! You are not friends with the guys!!

I also don't understand why some people are always judging the boys on their looks.They are not here to please you with their looks. All that matters is that they are happy, whether they dye their hair pink, gain 20 kilos, lose weight or get a tattoo on their face. If you don’t like Richard or his looks of his attitude you don’t have to. But please don’t be disrespectful. It’s possible to respect people even if you don’t *love* them.

Special mention to some „fans“ I saw wearing an „I survived Abelard“ shirt. Really?!? Again you don’t have to like them but how about ignoring them if you don’t like them instead of wearing such a stupid shirt ?!?

People.😒

[bbloveseevees]

Hey just gonna say that if you’re a blog that writes smut please don’t follow me. Smut makes me EXTREMELY UNCOMFORTABLE.

I saw a smut blog followed me and I just gotta say please don’t…

[risingsoleil]

Spy x Family's newest chapter gave me major Linzin vibes 🥺🥺🥺

Imagine Linzin dancing together at Varrick's wedding, and they just overshadow everyone. They're not together (yet 👀) but their bodies still know how to move with grace and elegance. The world disappears around them as they dance again and it feels like they're teenagers.

Nothing matters except this very moment and that no matter has happened...no matter what will happen...they love each other.

Lin was nervous that she would trip up, but Tenzin just guides her through the easier movements. All eyes are on them and they forget that this is a wedding. They forget that Varrick and Zhu Li are the newlyweds...they forget that Tenzin is married to someone else.

[ghoulierstudio]

Read this in slightly less than 2 days & what unnerved me most the reference to We Have Always Lived in the Castle as good or enjoyable - loathe that book so much

[420jimmyuso]

god forbid a man be a bit silly … god😒

[hersterical]

Every once in a while I remember this time a guy was explaining to my roommates and I (all women) his advice on how to have a conversation. What it boiled down to was him repeating ‘asking questions and listening to their answers’. No shame to anyone who this is actually helpful to, but again it was unprompted and a super basic concept that he was explaining over and over again for like ten minutes straight as though it was the secret to life, the universe, and everything.

Then when I said that this was a super basic concept and that he was coming across as kind of “manspain-y” everyone suddenly started acting like I was the only feminist character in a 90’s-00’s sitcom. You know, rolling their eyes and saying I was being unfair, overly sensitive, and making a big deal out of nothing.

I still don’t understand. This was blatant mansplaining and I added on like three qualifiers to soften the message but I apparently came out looking like the bad guy to everyone

[journeythroughtherain]

If there is one tag I wish existed in the buddie fandom it would be "Everyone is a Firefighter but Buck". Just so it would be easier to filter it out. I swear like 80-90% of AU's (canon divergent ones, especially things like "different first meeting" or "[character] is a [other job title]") writes Buck right out of his firefighting family, and I just wish I had a way to know that before getting invested. Particularly ones where Buck isn't the only one not a firefighter at the beginning, but he is still the only one that doesn't get to be a firefighter in the end.

It feels especially tragic if his absence is written as having little to no effect on the firefam dynamic, or that not having the firefam has little to no effect on him and his life. The 118 means so much to him!! He would not be the character he is if not for them! And he also meant so much for making the firefam a family in the first place!

(Even in canon Buck's own subconscious thinks he's integral to the family to the point where nothing would be the same without him, and that's really saying something.)

[junkissed]

makeup artists who don't cover juns moles i am giving you the sloppiest nastiest most disgusting orgasmic toe curling head rn