#Proximity Effect

[sophiepsych]

근접성 효과(Proximity Effect)

가까운 것의 영향력

¶ 거리가 멀어지면 마음에서도 멀어진다. ¶ 가까운데서 정 난다. ¶ 먼 친척보다 가까운 이웃이 낫다.

이는 우리 주변에서 흔하게 들을 수 있는 말입니다. 대부분 사람들은 물리적으로 가까이 있을수록 더 친해지고 그 영향력도 커지기 마련입니다. 이처럼 가까운 사람에게 더 호감을 느끼게 되고 친해지는 심리적 성향을 "근접성 효과(Proximity Effect)"라고 합니다.

요즘은 어린 자녀를 해외유학을 보내며 멀리 떨어져 있는 경우를 많이 봅니다. 부모 입장에서는 아이를 위한다는 마음에 일찍 유학을 보내지만, 물리적으로 거리가 생기면 아무리 관심을 갖고 잘 보살핀다고 해도 그 영향력은 줄어들 수 밖에 없습니다. 곧 물리적 거리가 심리적 거리가 되기도 합니다. 회사에서도 사장을 중심으로 측근에 있는 이사를 비롯하여 중역들이 더 가까운 것도 예가 될 수 있습니다. 승진의 기회도 같은 점수라면 조금이라도 잘 아는 사람을 추천하게 되거나 기회가 높아져 유리해 진다고 볼 수 있습니다.

그러나, 반드시 가까이 있다고 해서 호감을 더 느끼거나 영향력이 크다고 할 수는 없습니다. 혐오감을 느끼거나 서로 이해가 되지 않는다면, 오히려 가까운 거리가 심리적으로 부담을 느껴 더욱 멀어지게 되고 불호감정은 극대화 될 수 있습니다. 그러나 이러한 혐오감이나 불호감정이 아니라면 가까이 있는 사람일 수록 더 호감을 갖게 되는데, 이렇게 물리적으로 가까이 있는 사람이 멀리 떨어져 있는 사람보다 더 영향력이 크고 호감도 역시 높아진다는 의미로 '근접-친호 효과"라는 말을 사용하기도 합니다.

나의 삶에 중대한 영향을 끼치게 되는 여러분의 주변 인물들은 어떤가요? 그들로부터 좋은 영향을 받을 수 있는, 좋은 사람들이 주변에 많았으면 합니다.

[biblically-accurate-girlie]

it cannot be coincidence.

[s-lycopersicum]

[isa-belle1367]

It's my headcanon that while Desmond was at the farm, he was the best at free running and target practice. Like freakishly good at climbing and running on stuff. Also, he could hit a bullseye on a moving target while sprinting from 100 meters away. But he absolutely sucked at everything else.

[girafficparka]

“Joining me for a nightcap?” Shepard asked.

“Until the Primarch says otherwise, one of us will be with you every hour of every day. Technically…” Garrus sighed, finally dragging his guarded gaze back to hers. “It’s still my night.”

Shepard raised a brow. “You can’t be serious? I just convinced Cassia to stop following me into the bathroom. And now you are telling me you’re going to be staying with me, in my apartment - my very last turian-free zone?”

His silence was answer enough.

“Well that’s just…great.”

The elevator opened to her floor and she stepped out, Garrus a breath behind.

“You’re not sleeping in my bed,” she called over her shoulder and was rewarded with his laugh. Her stomach did not flip at those low, rough twin notes.

“That won’t be necessary. I’ll sleep on your couch.”

“Sure, make yourself at home,” she muttered.

~~~

It’s here @admirelight :)

Palaven Rising Chapter 13: Pillow Talk

I wonder what they’ll ~talk~ about?

[radioroxx]

What do you think Odile does for a living? She feels teacher like to me. What do you think she would do post canon?

HMMMM THIS IS GOOD QUESTION…

ive seen a lot of people hc her as a teacher / professor so i!! think that suits her pretty well. specifically as someone who studies + specializes in different types of craft (that would be why shes so proficient in multiple craft spells. also how she was able to figure out the loops stuff, AND to find something that could prevent siffrin from looping back).

post canon i am not sure… i am always torn between how the party would handle things post canon. obviously they would keep travelling for a bit, odile alongside her family without the stress of. constant sadness encounters + a king to kill lol. i think maybe she would get to take her time, reeaally get to know vauguardian culture when not within. a crisis. as was her original intention.

eventually. EVENTUALLY. when the family settles down somewhere (i am a “they all get a big house together” believer lol) she would get back into craft stuff. maybe go back into teaching too—surely people would be eager to hire a saviour. especially though i think it would be neat of her to try looking into wish craft etc, as a long forgotten form of craft. to satisfy her own curiosity, for siffrins sake, or just as a way of preserving the countries culture in whatever ways possible.

[givemewallywestorgivemedeath]

I'm so fascinated by the extra senses speedsters have and what the world must look like to them because of those extra senses.

They have extremely localized electrolocation: meaning that they can 'see' energy if it's close to them, they are touching it or if it's extremely strong. So Wally can see the electricity firing in his wife's brain when he holds her hand. Bart can see the electricity coursing from the wall, into the TV and gaming console, before swirling around inside the controller in his hands. When the dust and smoke is too thick to rely on vision, Barry can still see the energy in Hal's ring, even from a block away.

They also sense vibrations. They can hear them, if you will. Anything they touch thrums a different note. Different dimensions sing in a different key, a just off pitch. Some objects, like an office chair or a blade of grass, sing so quietly that they have to be close and really focus to hear it. Others, like a moving train or a pot of boiling water, scream so loudly that they can hear them from quite a distance away.

Yet that's not all. They can also feel time. Like trained scuba divers feeling the flow of the current, the ripples as they disrupt the calm. They can feel the jetstreams of nearby time travelers and they can trace it back to its source with startling accuracy. If time is an ocean then we only perceive it drop by drop. They can see how it stretches out, in every direction, every place that drop could flow.

The final sense they have is their ability to sense the speedforce. Every speedforce user is known to them, is felt, is seen. Regardless of distance, they can always see the little stars dotting the horizon, each one the barely contained supernova of their friends and family. They can see the speedforce as well as it flows and cracks and bubbles around them.

It's fascinating to me that they have all these extra senses. We see them casually mentioned but we never really see what that would look like. What this influx of stimulation would do to them.

[izyuumi]

I love Carre he's so fucking funny

[smile-files]

i think the main issue in arguing with zionists is that, well, they believe in zionism! if israel did deserve to exist, then the genocide and injustice in palestine could be argued for (not like it should be, but it certainly could) -- and zionists believe israel deserves to exist.

i, unfortunately, have a large amount of experience interacting (personally) with zionism and zionists. most of those i've talked to feel for the palestinians, and the violence they are facing, but they fail to realize (or they staunchly deny) the very, very active part israel and the IDF have had in that -- and how it's representative of what the nation has always done.

at the same time, they focus more on israeli hostages than palestinian ones -- and i know, of course, that these zionist jews i've interacted with are either israeli or have loved ones in israel, and so have a very personal stake in the safety of israeli hostages (which may very well be friends or family members), but i find it strange how much emphasis they put on hamas' cruelty in taking hostages while the IDF is doing the same thing (in essence; the exact details of who's doing it worse are important to note, but not relevant right now, because folks should realize that their side is being at least as cruel as the enemy's).

recently i was drawn into an argument with an israeli zionist (who, unfortunately, is very close to the action and tragedy by being israeli), and she was incredibly offended by my anti-zionism and my opposition to israel's abject cruelty to palestinian citizens, as it seemed (to her) like i was bypassing the cruelty hamas has enacted on israeli citizens -- which is very telling. i've noticed that we as jews have the tendency, whatever the situation may be, of focusing more on our pain than the pain of others, even if we are the ones hurting them. that person has every reason to be scared and hurt, and i'd be lying if i said her response wasn't at least somewhat sympathetic, but her pain in this horrible, violent conflict does not invalidate the pain on the other side. jews, throughout this recent crisis, have consistently not talked in depth about the constant losses in palestine -- am i suddenly being callous by focusing on those losses, and not our own? (YOUR PAIN AND THEIRS AREN'T MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE, YOU DOLT! sorry...)

because it all comes down to believing in israel! my mom has always told me about how beautiful it is there, about her time living on a kibbutz... and sure, it might be nice. i can't argue with that. but why is it that our nationalism for israel is so strong, so virulent? i have not seen patriots as loyal for any other country. and when you criticize israel, israelis feel like you're criticizing their entire existence -- and many non-israeli jews do, as well. because zionism has been built so deep into the modern religion! it's made to be a necessary piece! belief in it is the default!

and, from the inside looking in, i can't be surprised that many jews take anti-zionism as being antisemitic -- because, to them, israel and zionism stand as the pinnacle of safety and support for the jewish people. it is impossible to argue with them about anything above that base layer, as the base layer itself serves as a foundation: so long as a jew thinks that israel is right, deserved, and necessary, no proof will sway them into hating israel. it's just impossible, and that's very frustrating.

for me in particular, i find it very frustrating, as this single idea has turned so many people i know to support a genocidal entity. they believe in and support israel, so they stand with it now -- even if they condemn its current actions, they neglect how those actions are just an extension of its inherent existence -- whether they think israel's doing the right thing or wrong thing right now, they don't really care at the end of the day, because israel, to them, is necessary in keeping the jewish people alive. they stand with it, thinking that jews can only stand at all if they do.

but a genocidal crutch is no crutch at all: it only breaks us more. zionist jews make me so mad, and the worst part is that i could never express that to them in a way they'll understand.

[mangostarjam]

i feel like kn8 hoshina soshiro doesn't... realize he's hot

[scrambleseggy]

“When I transitioned, I had all sorts of guys trying to get me to be misogynistic.” That sounds like a YOU problem, not a trans guy problem lol

[little-soldiers]

listening to a song out loud for the first time (instead of with headphones) and it sounds completely entirely different because theres entire vocals and instruments constrained to the side you cant hear from in the digital version

[snekdood]

Some of yall deeply underestimate how much some cis men are threatened by trans men and our masculinity. How theres so many cis dudes out there that want to rape us, thinking that will make us detransition. How many incels out there are mad at us for betraying womanhood and not sucking their dick. How much they want to force us to detransition, how much they want to kill us and force us into hiding which, to me, minus well be killing us since theyre smothering who we are for the sake of a status quo. We shake their fundamental understanding of the world. Its one thing for a GIRL to be a tomboy to them. They think its cute, like a baby pretending to be an adult. Its a whole other thing for someone percieved as a woman to try to actually be a man to them. They think thw fact we have the gal to assume we can escape their grasp, to escape the kitchen or whatever tf, means we're disrespecting them and trying to "destroy" them, rather than what it really is, us trying to be independent. We're the exact thing these types of cis men hate. Sometimes they tolerate (emphasis here bc im not saying they accept yall. Dont twist my words)trans women bc they fetishize them but they want to completely eradicate us becayse we threaten the patriarchy by virtue of deciding we dont need a man to take care of us, we want to be the man that takes care of ourselves.

[eye-of-yelough]

i haven’t even talked about his backstory yet and im currently tweaking it anyway but whatever here’s Aeryn’s foster parents, sister and the warlock who mentored him after he killed them

which i’m kinda on the fence about. on one hand, it gives him those fun gortash parallels, i mean obviously he didn’t grow up in The Hells like gort did, but it gives them enough “oh yes, that highly specific childhood experience from dealing with Infernals, i had that too!” and of course gives me an easier time figuring out how his pact came to be.

on the other hand. do i really want to give Yet Another authority figure who mistreated him. because a lot of aeryn’s uhh Whole Deal is because he’s just never been treated as an equal or shown unconditional love by anyone. which on its own isn’t too “cringy” of a character trait but like. another asshole? really? it’s getting a little unrealistic. (is coming up with a backstory for an alien child of the god of murder)

anyway i think if he DID spend a good few years with this warlock guy he would’ve found out about his Heritage way before joining the cult, which he doesn’t do until quite a bit later than most durges. probably around 20. and i think that heritage is why his patron (great old one in case you’re wondering) took interest.

[swinging-stars-from-satellites]

The Bear should needle drop a Fall Out Boy song bc they're from Chicago if nothing else

[violetlunette]

I don’t know if anyone ever mentioned this, but the actual name for the “Phineas and Ferb effect” is actually called, “Yhprum's law.” It’s literally the opposite of Murphy’s law.