#OthersOpinions

[quotesdir]

Albert Einstein

"Great spirits have always encountered opposition from mediocre minds. The mediocre mind is incapable of understanding the man who refuses to bow blindly to conventional prejudices and chooses instead to express his opinions courageously and honestly." Read the full article

[shawnlevande]

I’m gonna do it anyway #janathancrossley #talktoshawn #shawnlevande #talented #talent #liverpool #liverpoolpodcast #podcastuk #singer #songwriter #producer #doitanyway #othersopinion

[troubledontlast1]

🔥Subscribe to my YouTube channel and podcast, "Uplift Past Crossroads"🔥 Befriend me on Facebook/LinkedIn = Sean Christopher Jenkins 🔥Follow👉🏾@troubledontlast 👈🏾IG/Twitter/Snap for more🔥 Turn on Post Notification - Like - Comment - Share - Save ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ . . Follow my other Instagram pages: Subscribe to YouTube(in bio)👉🏾@my_daily_bible👈🏾 Subscribe to podcast(in bio)👉🏾@upliftpastcrossroads👈🏾 YouTube👉🏾@upliftwithdrj👈🏾 Fashion👉🏾@glamourmeetsgq👈🏾 . . 👤 Tag a friend who would like this page ⬇️ ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ #opinions #opinion #opinionsdontmatter #unpopularopinions #opinionsofsheep #opinionsofothers #opinionsdontpaymybills #fuckopinions #opinionsareirrelevant #othersopinions #opinionsdontpaybills #whatpeoplethink #itdoesntmatterwhatyouthink #whattheythink #peoplesopinionsdontmatter #peoplesopinions #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #stopcaringwhatpeoplethink #stopcaringwhatothersthink #dontcarewhatpeoplethink #dontcarewhatyouthink #dontcarewhatpeoplesay #dontcarewhatothersthink #idontcarewhatyouthink #liveforyourself #liveforyou #createthelifeyouwant #createthelifeyoulove #seekingapproval (at Nashville, Tennessee) https://www.instagram.com/p/CGwiLYRlHU6/?igshid=1jki728fs55f7

[angelauniversalsky]

#michigangirl #sadfeelings #realpeople #loveyourself #betruetoyourself #brave #insideout #dreamer #destinies #othersopinions #thoughts #ｔｈｏｕｇｈｔｓ #heartsleeve #cadillacmichigan #traversecitymichigan #wednesdayvibes #rainfalls #fallout #artist_sharing #artistsmatter #wordsmatter #wordsarepowerful #red #ripedapart #stillhope #stilllearning #stillirise #ashesofcreation It's tough, the opinions of the world drive us deep into despair, but somewhere others see what they don't. It doesn't mean it aches any less. 💗🌈-AKC https://www.instagram.com/p/CBRn1aeDEUH/?igshid=1q64tm5izu5uq

[mind-balm]

Other peoples’ opinions, why do they matter so much?

What other people think of us is a preoccupation driving our anxiety and overthinking. As a coach and (self proclaimed) recovering people pleaser, I talk to many women who come to me about their careers, families and relationships, they want to explore why they don’t feel like they are able to navigate their life with ease. I have noticed that one of the biggest mind blocks for my clients is what others think of them.

People are willing to exist in really painful situations because they think it is what is expected of them. Upbringing and society has taught them it’s important to please other people even at a cost to themselves, in order to be acceptable. Many of my clients are shocked when they realise what they have actually been tolerating in order to avoid any negative evaluation from others. Things like not spending time with the people closest to them because they are too polite to say no to invitations, or not applying for a promotion because it might appear too pushy. Spending time with people who bully them because they don’t want to be confrontational or appear difficult.

Why do we care so much about other peoples’ opinions? It is because our brains are ‘social brains’ they have evolved to make connections to others through reciprocal interactions – give and take. You offer goodwill in order to receive it, which makes a lot of logical sense. Humans have evolved from a tribal culture, back when we were hunter-gatherers, we had to conform to the tribes’ norms because not doing so meant certain death, no individual could make it out in the wilderness alone without the protection of the tribe.  In order to survive, we needed to be seen in a positive light by our pack or we would be rejected and left alone. Other peoples opinions could be a matter of life or death.

This is why social rejection can actually stimulate the same part of the brain that is activated by physical pain. No wonder we are driven to distraction trying to fit in and to avoid rejection. Although our bodies are well designed to deal with stress, it was predominantly intended for physical rather than psychological threats. In modern life we are mostly faced with psychological threats, which manifests itself through our anxieties for example about how our bodies look and how we dress or behave.

Our desire for harmonious consensus can also be explained through the psychological phenomenon of Groupthink. Poor decisions can be made collectively in groups due to each individual’s desire to conform, especially if they fear being shunned. This is commonly seen in politics or the military where the consequences of groupthink can potentially be catastrophic.

Worrying about what other people think is quite a natural impulse, however it can be quite maladapted to modern life. Social media has heightened its affect. We now have this complicated and hyper connected world to attach our insecurities to, where once we would have had little or no idea what other people were doing, now we can find out all sorts of live information about their activities. While there can many advantages to this level of connection, there is also a feeling of needing to compete and be seen to be ‘living our best life’. When we think that’s what we should be showing others in order to validate our existence within the pack, it has us questioning how we look, act and behave. However the modern day ‘pack’ is not just smaller groups of 10-20 individuals, it now extends to unnaturally large groups, depending on how big your social media network is.

A negative assessment by another person can lead to shame, which makes u feel worthless, incompetent or immoral. People will go to great lengths to avoid feeling shame. The fear of shame manifest itself by thinking people will reject you based on your values, beliefs, what you wear or how you look. To a certain extent the beauty and fashion industry feeds off of this fear. Fear is the most raw of emotions because it has the highest survival value for humans, but in the absence of fear all possibilities lie open, because fear has the ability to overpower any other emotion.

So how can we overcome the worry of what other people think?

People don’t care!

Remember that people don’t care nearly as much as we think they do, it is something we habitually overestimate. Most of the time people are far too busy worrying about themselves to be thinking about what someone else is doing. In the event someone does judge you, they hardly every do it your face so you wont even know about it. If you do come to know, it barely has any real tangible consequences for you. Lucky for us, someone rejecting you no longer means death by lion attack. So you feel the sting of rejection because your brain is wired that way but the good news is that there’s no physical consequence, hooray!

Reject shame

A bit of shame is a healthy safety check to keep your integrity in place and to be a generally good human being. For example not hurting other people with harsh words or actions will be filtered through your shame lens. But there are so many situations where it really doesn’t matter, for example tripping up or having your skirt tucked into your knickers is not going to fundamentally change anyone’s opinion of you.

Being more open and authentic will clear the cobwebs in your shame closet because what are you really hiding anyway? Remember that showing vulnerability doesn’t make you weak it actually makes you stronger than someone who hides behind bravado to mask their insecurities. When you’re willing to face the fear of shame and rejection its because you know it wont kill you and the consequences are never as bad as you imagine them to be. Brenè Brown has researched and written extensively on this subject, I would recommend you look up her ted talks about it.

Stop judging other people

“Judge not, that ye be not judged” (Jesus)

Notice when you’re unfairly evaluating someone else. Try to demonstrate more understanding and compassion, even in situations you wouldn’t ever personally experience. You will start to notice the things that you judge others for is usually rooted in what you don’t like about yourself.  When you see others through a lens of compassion you naturally start to direct more compassion towards yourself.

Walk out of the prison

The prison of other peoples’ approval can be truly maddening. In truth its impossible to be all things to all people and if you try to attain a perfect approval rating, you will probably fail and the anxiety that comes with that is deeply hurtful.

Ultimately you cannot control what other people really think about you, you just have to let it go, easier said than done I know, but empowering to know that you have much more control over how you choose to feel about it.  What might help you to let go, is to know that most of the time criticism, judgment or dislike from someone else it isn’t really about you at all. It’s totally about their own view of the world and perhaps a reflection of how they feel about themselves, something we call projection. Have you ever disliked someone and you couldn’t quite put your finger on the reason why? Well it’s probably because they remind you of someone you hated at school and now this person is innocently triggering you, they have no idea (you might not have any idea either).  You are projecting your own insecurities onto someone else, it would seem silly for that person to ruin their day, week or month worrying about why you seemed off with them when you bumped into each other wouldn’t it?

Worrying about what other people think about you, is mostly a fantasy created by overthinking that’s triggered by our evolved nervous system, which was nurtured by our upbringings. Its not easy to change the way your brain is wired, it is notoriously stubborn but its certainly not impossible with a little awareness, clarity and practice.

[coachbo]

Good Morning! What other people think about YOU is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! #TodaysVideo http://ow.ly/yjV750JkmqW #Life #Goals #Dreams #Success #BeAllYouCanBe #OthersOpinion #LetsMakeThisAProsperousDay (at Last House on the Left At the End of the Dead End Street) https://www.instagram.com/p/CeI7RdrORbA/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[living-for-a-change-blog1]

Journal Entry #1

Today was hell. I worked for 9 hours and dealt with enough mean customers to last a lifetime. It doesn’t help that we haven’t had the best week mood wise. It felt like the shift would never end. While I was closing the bakery I put on some of Johnathan’s music and luckily he was willing to front for the time and clean up the bakery for me. It’s hard for me with having DID and not letting my co workers know because I typically walk with the help of a cane due to severe chronic pain but when I switch out with one of the alters the pain isn’t really felt at its whole capacity so they will go off and do whatever without my cane. It just makes me feel like they think that I am faking needing a cane for sympathy and I’ve even been asked by coworkers if I “really” need my cane. The alters doing this also results in me being in pain a lot once I come back because I feel the pain that they themselves do not feel. Tonight because Johnathan fronted the last hour or two of my shift I can feel the consequences of his actions. Luckily for me though I don’t have work tomorrow or anything I have to leave the house to do so I can stay in bed if I am in too much pain tomorrow to do anything.

Until tomorrow,

Host

[drfredina]

(Wonderfully Made Inc.)

Whose opinion matter the most? #wonderfullymadeinc #selfworth #othersopinions

[motivatepix-blog]

Stop caring #whatotherpeoplethink #othersopinions #independencequotes #strongmentality

[troubledontlast1]

🔥Subscribe to my YouTube channel and podcast, "Uplift Past Crossroads"🔥 Befriend me on Facebook/LinkedIn = Sean Christopher Jenkins 🔥Follow👉🏾@troubledontlast 👈🏾IG/Twitter/Snap for more🔥 Turn on Post Notification - Like - Comment - Share - Save ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ . . Follow my other Instagram pages: Subscribe to YouTube(in bio)👉🏾@my_daily_bible👈🏾 Subscribe to podcast(in bio)👉🏾@upliftpastcrossroads👈🏾 YouTube👉🏾@upliftwithdrj👈🏾 Fashion👉🏾@glamourmeetsgq👈🏾 . . 👤 Tag a friend who would like this page ⬇️ ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ #opinions #opinion #opinionsdontmatter #unpopularopinions #opinionsofsheep #opinionsofothers #opinionsdontpaymybills #fuckopinions #opinionsareirrelevant #othersopinions #opinionsdontpaybills #focusongod #godscalling #godswill #whatpeoplethink #itdoesntmatterwhatyouthink #whattheythink #peoplesopinionsdontmatter #peoplesopinions #godspurpose #whatgodthinks #godovereverything #godoverall #livingforgod #livingforgodnotman #pleasegodnotman #pleasegod #liveforgod #audienceofone #liveforgodonly (at Nashville, Tennessee) https://www.instagram.com/p/CGvwnTLlkQK/?igshid=q3lwdi4qh4ft

[jennhope12-blog]

I put so much worth in others opinions on wether someone likes me or not or what they say about me true or not. I hate that!! I hate my I put my self worth in others hands. If I could wish one damn symptom away first it would be that!!! #boldlybpd #selfworth #othersopinions

[mydamnnself]

#JustBe #GoodPeople #WhoDoes #RadThings #AwesomeAdventures #HoneyBadger #DontGiveAshit #OthersOpinions #JustBeHappy #FindPeople #CoolStuff #KeepThemAround #ChancesAre #TheSituation #TurnOutCool

[spirit-strong-free-soul]

#whocares#behappy#livelife#cantchange#othersopinions#beyourself#staytrue#stayyou#

[troubledontlast1]

If the righteousness of Christ allows me to stand before a Holy God utterly unafraid, why should I be haunted by what you think of me? #opinions It's not your job to like me, it's mine. #whatpeoplethink The trick is that as long as you know who you are and what makes you happy it doesn't matter how others see you. #dontworrywhatothersthink If you are on a continuous search to be offended, you will always find what you are looking for; even when it isn't there. #peoplesopinions The sharpest critics and those most known for pointing out flaws or weaknesses in others, are most often the ones who are blind to their own shortcomings, insecurities and mistakes. It's best to take a mirror and examine ones self, before riding a self righteous high horse and accusing others of what you think they do wrong. #peoplesopinionsdontmatter For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.- Galatians 1:10 #opinionsdontmatter The fear of man is a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is set securely on high.- Proverbs 29:25 #opinion 🔥Subscribe to my YouTube channel and podcast,👉🏾"Uplift Past Crossroads"👈🏾🔥 Befriend me on Facebook/LinkedIn = Sean Christopher Jenkins 🔥Follow👉🏾@troubledontlast 👈🏾IG/Twitter/Snap for more🔥 Turn on Post Notification - Like - Comment - Share - Save #repost @myfavahquotes @faizal_mammar ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ . . Follow my other Instagram accounts: Subscribe to YouTube(in bio)👉🏾@my_daily_bible👈🏾 Subscribe to podcast(in bio)👉🏾@upliftpastcrossroads👈🏾 YouTube👉🏾@upliftwithdrj👈🏾 Fashion👉🏾@glamourmeetsgq👈🏾 . . 👤 Tag a friend who would like this page ⬇️ ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ #opinionsofsheep #opinionsofothers #opinionsdontpaymybills #fuckopinions #opinionsareirrelevant #opinionsarentfacts #othersopinions #opinionsnotneeded #opinionsdontpaybills #negativeenergy #negativity #negativitynotneeded #whattheythink #itdoesntmatterwhatyouthink #stopcaringwhatothersthink #stopcaringwhatpeoplethink #dontcarewhatpeoplethink #dontcarewhatyouthink #dontcarewhatpeoplesay #dontcarewhatothersthink #idontcarewhatyouthink #loveyourself (at Mount Juliet, Tennessee) https://www.instagram.com/p/CG1Fs24l4CZ/?igshid=1wwnvv8j4ycmb