#NO MEANS NO

[free-my-mindd]

It’s very valid

[magnetictapedatastorage]

there is NEVER a WRONG or BAD REASON to reject somebody. saying "NO" can NEVER make you a bad person or a bigot. harassing somebody for having sexual boundaries puts you on the side of RAPISTS.

I better not see any "but-" or "well-" or i'll go ballistic on your PRO-RAPIST ANTI-BOUNDARIES ASS

if you can't say "no means no, even if he identifies as a yes" then you're pro rape.

[nothing0fnothing]

Not letting your daughters develop a creep alarm is abuse.

Not teaching your daughter to uphold her boundaries when men make her feel uncomfortable is abuse.

Insisting your daughter be polite to creepy family members is abuse.

Expecting your daughter to cuddle and kiss family friends she barely knows is abuse.

You know one day you will be sending an eighteen year old girl into a world full of rapists, weirdos and creeps. You are intentionally training her to ignore her instinct to pull away from these men and intilling one where she puts male comfort over her own safety.

You know that dangerous men take advantage of the way women are socialised to be polite at all costs, to never even give a man a hint that they think he's a little bit creepy, and you are teaching her to behave in exactly the way these men look for in a mark.

She will go to college one day. Just her and 10,000 20 year old men. Do you really think the purity culture narrative you have instilled in her is going to protect her if she's drunk at a party and is starting to feel unsafe, when you've taught her that her saftey comes second to male comfort?

She will have a job one day. How hard do you think it's going to be for her to navigate creepy advances in a professional setting if you've taught her she's being rude when she so much as tells a man he's making her uncomfortable?

You have 18 short years to instill into her a sense of caution and a firmness in her boundaries that for the rest of her life the society she lives in will try to beat out of her. You know she won't learn it later if you don't teach her now.

You're intentionally setting her up for an adult life of silently witnessing her own abuse, why? So you don't have to have a slightly awkward conversation about no meaning no with another grown adult? So your perfectly obedient child can be used as an entertainment accessory at family gatherings? I'd genuinely like to know what the reasoning is to intentionally endanger your child by teaching her to be perfect prey to violent men for the rest of her life.

[classycookiexo]

[littlekittykatxxxx]

NO MEANS NO!!!!!!

to the guy in my dms, when I say to stop what you’re doing because I didn’t like the things you were saying and it made me uncomfortable I expect you to stop. Yet you continued to carry on and completely ignore my request.

I’m a person at the end of the day and what you were saying was just hurtful and not even remotely close to any of the kinks we were discussing.

Fuck you!

[viceandmature]

Sex Education Season 2 / Good Omens Season 2

[radifemsara]

My advice to young women is (because older women already know this from experience): Never be nice to men, Don't treat them like decent human beings, because whenever you do, they assume you want to sleep with them

[chicaotaku17]

PLEASE BE CAREFUL, I received this messages from this account. The screenshot speaks for itself

[miraculous-floconfettis]

"NO" means "NO".

I've been watching Miraculous again (because, why not?) and i feel like we haven't talked enough about this scene between Ladybug and "Adrien" in the Félix episode:

This scene could have happened between any other characters and wouldn't be less empowering, but the message conveyed here is even more powerful because it happened between Ladybug and (who she thought was) Adrien.

It's always easier to push someone away when the person is a complete a**hole, but even if the guy is your crush, even if he's the most awesome and sweetest guy in the world and you're in love with him, you shouldn't be afraid to ask for respect.

"NO" means "NO".

[strawberrypinky]

~ just because recent events have called for this again ~

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read my psa on consent (in fanfiction) HERE

[menagerie-politics]

"kill all men" is a disgusting message that doesn't actually contribute to feminism. Yes, all men benefit from the patriarchy, but NO, not all men should be killed or jailed just because most rapists and criminals are men. You cannot say "But if it's not all men then it's their friends" as if all men intentionally work together to hurt women. That's just not true. And you don't know everything your friends do, so don't expect the same from men (although yes, men should be taught to shut down sexist jokes and behaviors when they see it in their friend groups). Stop trying to justify it, even if it's a joke, it reduces men to their gender and supports violence on that basis. Any message that generalizes people for things they cannot control, and uses that generalization to justify violence will NEVER actually promote equality. I want to end the system; not the people. Free the oppressed; not eliminate the privileged.

It's not "kill all whites" it's black lives matter.

It's not "straights are sinful" it's love is love.

"Kill all men" doesn't focus on women, so why is it so prevalent in feminist spaces. Is kill all men the world you want to move towards? I cannot speak for all feminists, but I want a world where women get treated with respect they deserve as humans, simply because as humans, that is the default. I want a world where equality knows no gender. I want a world where empowered women get to empower the world. I want KAM as an idea to die out and I want "my body is my choice" to become as obvious a statement as "the sky is blue". I want "my place is wherever I go" to be so normal that it's redundant to say it. I want a world where "no" has no rebuttals, and that is simply a fact of life. I want a world where safe spaces are unnecessary because everywhere is safe. But until we get there, I want my message to tell the world exactly what I want. "Kill all men" isn't doing anything helpful, it's just helping feed the demonization of feminist movements. We should be focusing our energy on uplifting women and making sure abusive men are held accountable for their abusive actions.

And side-note in case terfs find this: I've lived most of my life with society assuming I'm a woman and treating me accordingly. I've been affected by misogyny (and misogynoir) for most of my life, and I've read books and taken classes on the oppression of women both in the past and present. I have researched the history of feminist movements in multiple parts of the world. I lived it, I've learned it, and I will not let anyone invalidate my knowledge or experiences.

[nobody-important099]

[axiseart]

No.

[crazycatsiren]

It boggles my mind that some of y'all in this day and age still can't seem to grasp that someone else's boundaries aren't about you, that another person's consent isn't decided by you.

Doesn't matter what your intentions are. Means nothing if you think what you're doing is right or good or helpful. No means no, and saying "I don't want you to do this to me/take this from me" is anyone's right. You can pro choice until the cows go home but how much are you for autonomy when you can't even take a simple "no" for an answer?