#Maybe just straight or just cis

[juchily]

they called that shit straight up "werewolf conversion therapy" had Enid speaking about hoping that her mother could some day actually accept who she was

Oh man, that girl is not both straight and cis

[giddlygoat]

mario + peach is such a good ship istg they’re so good. straight ship so good it feels gay

[faaun]

last night i got home kind of tipsy and very much in tears and my mother told me the force you exert to keep someone in your life is proportional to the force with which they will leave your life. if you have to fight tooth and claw to keep them, their leaving will be just as hard, just as harsh, and just as definite.

[aromanticofficial]

ive befriended The Average Female recently and that's great and all, she's amazing and cool. but. I tried hinting that dating is really hard for me because I struggle with romantic feelings and. and she seriously said. that it's just because I'm a teen rn and it'll change

this wouldn't be so weird to me but I'm older than her. and the way she laughed like it was physically impossible for me to NOT have romantic feelings. I'm pretty sure she js doesn't know that it can happen but it made me kinda upset for a minute lol

i remembered I'm a very unseen minority of a minority umbrella 😔

look i'm sorry she said that to you bc the general public's perception of what being aromantic is like sucks but referring to someone as 'the average female' comes off as really weird. just say you made friends with a girl.

[selkie-tea-tin]

‘Danmei is mlm fantasy written by and for straight women’ is a lie. It’s written for transmascs and lesbians obviously.

[thanatologie]

honestly, and this is just my $0.02 so take it with a grain of salt, but the neve hate has some real heteronomativity cattiness bullshit tagged on to it, because i'm assuming (lurking in the tags as i do and chewing on bad takes - eventually they'll enrage me enough that i'll start pulling screencaps with dialogue and put together a here is why you're fucking dumb post - it will not be the first or last time i do that and i won't apologize) a lot of people - especially in the general fandom who don't create in the sense that rpers and fanfic authors do, project themselves heavily on their rooks, and there's a legit spark of jealousy when a companion romanced in a previous playthrough romances someone else (ie neve and lucanis).

and like. i get that's a thing and generally can be fine - i think it would be fun to do a playthrough with decisions i would make but i'd also be a mostly purple rook and that's...not a lot different than what i'm doing now anyway but. again. there's a cattiness to it and it's just like please go touch grass for a little while.

[kalisseo]

actually i think Topher's queernes is important for his character

[lokh]

oh wait. i just remembered that while i was getting my blood drawn and asked to have the sex indicator changed (kept fucking up the reference ranges) the technician asked if i was born male and when i was like uhh no she was like oh ok thats fine. so are you in the middle of transitioning or are you done

[thedovahcat]

@ the every sex scene in a movie is necessary post stop being a cringe whiney baby about it

That's all well and good. I don't go seeking out the stuff for sure, and if it just ends up shoved in my face I just mute or skip it till its over. no big deal.

But can we acknowledge the fact that so many of those shoved in (hah) sex scenes in movies or tv shows that aren't about sexual escapades are like.... so cringe?

It's done in poor taste? It serves no narrative purpose other than to show main cis man/woman chara horny hound dog wigglebrow they sure love gettin it its-so-integral-to-their-chara-and-then-we-never-see-this-brought-up-again?

Like you can have that kind of stuff just to have it, sure. Don't let people like me ruin your fun. But ONLY personally speaking, I would prefer a bit more tact and build up, and maybe a bit more artistry or purposefully well-done shots than a random wannabe porn shoot lol

[razzek]

More Pern thoughts: I want my fic where a young trans man with great organizational or leadership skills gets outed by his bronze on the hatching sands. I've seen some fanon rp sites that try to distinguish between cis and trans folks on this but in canon there's no reason it couldn't happen at least once. Trans men are men and that is the only canon requirement for bronze, so. Young fellow in the stands or sneaking onto the sands because nobody would let him stand over their ideas of him, gets his bronze and is just like "I told y'all so!" and goes on to be an awesome wingleader or even weyrleader with nobody remarking on it ever. :D

[mejomonster]

i'm stressed for the day the govt decides to make pronouns illegal, by which the law will actually be implemented as "if someone decides you don't look like the gender THEY think you are, you will be charged with a crime"

and how in some workplaces like mine, where people show their preferred pronouns in work emails, that'll result in many people with digital email trails that could get them arrested (which of course means trans people in the workplace get charged, people who look cis and use he/him and she/her in their emails to be supportive probably will just be told to stop putting it in their emails)

and like. i know i probably can't do anything, except maybe stay in the closet. i know the workplace is not guaranteed to fucking warn their employees to maybe remove the digital proof of their pronouns if there's a law at risk of existing soon. and i know people's gender identity is really personal and important to a lot of people, including cis people. But i kind of wish there was a widespread trend in these workplace situations of EVERY (or at least a majority) of cis people putting "they/them/their" in their email signatures. The cis people (particularly those who look very gender conforming) will be the ones in the least danger of being charged with a crime. They are at very low risk of being charged with a crime, so they're the perfect people to break the law by saying their preferred pronouns are "they/them" and then taking the law to court if such a law restricting preferred pronouns passes. And if a trans employee is charged with a crime, the cis employees all using they/them can say their trans coworker is only doing EXACTLY THE SAME THING ALL THESE CIS PEOPLE ARE (using a pronoun someone thinks doesn't align with the gender they're assumed to be), and then saying either ALL employees need to be charged with a crime (which can then go to court) or none of them should be. Yeah that would require solidarity... I know I can't convince a bunch of cis people to start putting "they" as a pronoun in their emails (or some other pronoun that would result in them breaking the same 'preferred pronoun' type of law like "ze/zim"). But god, I wish I could.

I think about this because in the last few years, my state tried to make a law against using preferred pronouns in schools and government jobs (you know... which likely won't charge any cis person using the pronouns that match their gender even though that's a preferred pronoun too). And now that my state govt is a majority republican, they'll probably try to pass it again. I worry about all my coworkers with massive email trails, because they were TOLD to tell people their preferred pronouns, because the workplace said it would respect them, but I doubt the workplace will Protect them if it's no longer legal. My workplace had the shittiest answer when I raised my concerns, they said "don't worry about it until it happens"... once it happens, a bunch of trans people will be breaking the law by existing, and they will not have had the chance to protect themselves in advance (and their workplace will have done nothing in advance to protect them - such as warn them not to leave proof of their preferred identity after X date, and promising the workplace won't consider any pronouns said before X date to be breaking the law as far as reporting goes).

[tricoufamily]

when taking care of yourself and caring about your clothes starts making you feel better and not the other way around

[koritea]

The "hear me out cake" trend on tiktok makes me really sad not because people have cold takes but the fact that we're bullying them for it.

Not everybody is a fucked up little weirdo (affectionate) like us. For some people, saying Simba's Mom is attractive IS weird and unconventional. Y'all understand that that's weird, right? Finding an ANIMATED LION attractive is WEIRD. That's a hear me out. That's a SOLID hear me out. Stop calling these people beige or boring or vanilla. Just because you're weirder doesn't mean you get to belittle people. They'll never get to experience the full scope of weirdness if you kill their desire to expand their horizons in the cradle.

[metaldevilll]

vivilly thoughts in my brained

[pa-pa-plasma]

look i'm gonna say it. some relationships are not queer, & that's okay. you don't have to cling to the idea that it's only okay if you can somehow make it queer. it's okay to be in a cishet relationship. the type of relationship doesn't make you less queer & it doesn't make cishet people inherently like. evil or something. chill out

[dragoninahumancostume]

My favorite part of being alive is that I've never felt welcome in any space except for that one year when I thought I was a non-binary bisexual asexual girl when I was 13 :)