#Management For Social Change

[indianschool-blog1]

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[swampthingking]

andrew’s definitely gotten in trouble with his pr manager for tweeting things along the lines of:

“no mania inducing medication will compare to the euphoria i will feel the day donald trump drops dead”

[thepersonalwords]

All Disruption starts with introspection.

Jay Samit

[petrichoraline]

I hate that I was kinda worried about what people on here were gonna say about the finale as if ultimately my own feelings about it are what should matter most to me. catching myself going "oh theyre not gonna like that" multiple times during the episode was so tiring and for whatt

[inga-don-studio]

New job jitters never really go away, do they?

Sunday was my last shift at the job I've been trying to get away from for over a year & a half, and today I start a new (but in the same field) job at a place I've been trying to get my foot-in-the-door for just as long lol.

Technically I'm ridiculously experienced in what I'm going to be doing starting out, but HA HA OH BOY that really doesn't reassure the anxiety brain gremlins.

[dawnthefluffyduck]

I drew this explanation post for why I was completely inactive for a week, but then felt too anxious and drained to post it, and subsequently disappeared for a second week

Two main blog drawings and one side blog wip later, I remembered I made this and still think it's funny, so even though I stopped being dead (TM) I still wanted to share lol

Brief series of events at work

^^^old, but I'm still taking it easy so posts on both this blog and my alt will continue to be scattered for now

[insipid-drivel]

Friendship and relationships are hard, I'm lonely and can't be loved by anyone, so here's some hard realities and wisdom from someone who's going to die sad and alone inevitably:

Many of you have got to try to put some effort in nurturing your relationships with your friends, or at least more clearly negotiate what your friends can and can't expect from you in the long-term.

Seriously, this whole 0-contact-aside-from-reacting-through-each-other's notes and proclaiming you're ride-or-die about someone for it? Is literally killing me. I've actually been dealing with suicidality because of how impossible it is to stay in touch with, or even on good terms with, people I thought were my friends but ghosted me, and then acted bewildered when I was angry with them for it or didn't acknowledge them as my friend anymore. "You can't be mad at me for not answering your DMs for 7 years! We're friends! I still reblog your reblogs!"

I am absolutely allowed to be angry, and I absolutely can demote you in my mind from "person I thought was a friend" to "mutual that ignores me until they need a dopamine fix or an answer to a specific question".

Months or years of unprompted, unbroken silence is not friendship - acquaintenceship, sure, but not friendship. It's a bad friend that expects love and loyalty by default no matter how long they've been ghosting their friends.

Love and loyalty are like a garden: they require cultivating and a commitment to nurture and grow, or else it gradually withers, and eventually dies. Earning the love and loyalty of a friend and then abandoning the garden of that relationship is how you find yourself locked out of your former friend's garden, or find them lonely, miserable, and exhausted from trying to keep the garden thriving when they themselves have slowly been dying inside because you haven't come back to the garden in years.

You have to learn to reach out and nurture your relationships. If you're autistic or otherwise have problems socializing, there are still some skills that you need to learn to avoid being isolated and friendless at the end of the day. Being autistic with trouble socializing is not an excuse to treat people you call your friends or that you claim to love like hobbies you can leave and come back to whenever you feel like - I learned this the hard way as an autistic person with shit social skills.

You have to negotiate what a friend can expect from you if you're an Outside Cat Friend that only drops in when you have specific reasons to reach out. It can be heartbreaking being the friend left waiting for a reply or a text without knowing the friend you're waiting for is an Outside Cat Friend.

Unless you have already agreed with your friend(s) that it's okay to ghost each other for extensive periods, spontaneously dropping out of contact with someone you've convinced is a good friend to you is really shitty and makes you a shitty friend.

"But I don't have the energy to reach out." Tell them.

"I have a lot going on and don't have time to talk." FUCKING TELL THEM.

"I haven't had anything to talk about." THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR.

"I've been too anxious to reach out." SAY THAT. JUST SAY THAT.

"I need a break from social contact for a while, so I don't wanna talk at all really." SAY THAT BEFORE YOU JUST DROP OFF THE END OF THE EARTH.

I've been the Reaching-Out Friend for most of my life, and in the past 5-10 years especially, I haven't been finding a whole lot of strength left to keep tending abandoned gardens that are thriving in name only. I've gotten fed up with self-professed friends that say they love me or view me as a sibling, but ultimately prove themselves to be bystanders when it's my turn to need someone to lean on and help me look after the garden.

Yes, there are absolutely friends you can have that can go years without hearing from you and still pick up where you left off when you do meet up again. They're awesome and worth keeping just as much as any other friends are.

There are also those friends that silently grieve your absence, that reach out to no avail, and wind up leaving the garden to die entirely after salting the soil with their own tears. Those are the friends that you've taken too much from without giving enough of yourself in return, and you've used them up and thrown them away without realizing you've treated someone that cared about you like a tool.

"I'm not the kind of friend that reaches out first."

That's your choice. No matter how you dress it up, when you decide it's time to neglect a friend, you're choosing to neglect them if they aren't prepared for what to expect from a friendship with you. You have the right to do that whenever you want to, but you cannot expect a warm reception with every person you do it to every time you do it. You cannot anticipate full amnesty in advance without full disclosure in advance.

If you're currently thinking of someone you've left sitting on read for a long time right now? It might be time to break your pattern and reach out for once.

Fall together, not apart.

[vaultlink]

The Bocchi the Rock Recap movies were so much fun. The way they reorganized things and how they cut stuff down without losing much, it was worth the watch.

Using the kessoku band songs that weren't apart of live performances as montage music to cut down the cute girls doing cute things to the important moments without completely losing them was perfect.

And how they used segments from the early episodes as flashbacks, love it.

I can't describe the feeling, getting to the end of the second movie, seeing the shot at the end of Bocchi getting ready to leave home with her new guitar and the movie going to a modified version of the post credits walk down the street where she suddenly stops to think and it starts rewinding EVERYTHING all the way back to the first scene in the entire anime that had been skipped completely in the first movie, of elementary Bocchi being lead away by a teacher.

Oh how far she's come.

[frances-kafka]

This is something that's a bit Third Rail to say and I want to make it 100% absolutely clear that yes, of course I think women belong in the workplace and anywhere else.

But I think a big problem that lots of NDs have experienced in the last twenty years is that a sub-population of women white collar workers belong to the social set that does most of the social policing of the smallest differences and tries the very hardest to make everyone The Same. And this sub-population has a massive amount of power in many spaces now.

And these people simply were not in the workplace 30 years ago. And 20 years ago, they were in non-profits. Now these people are the dominant tastemakers and the enforcers of corporate and bureaucratic culture. They're the same women who punish women for being NLOGs and the same people who enforce the most standards about Ladylikeness and propriety, via whatever the standard is of that time. They're the same people who as parents would've abused their daughters into "speaking PROPERLY" (which means prettifying everything you say) so how do you expect that dynamic would play out in the office? In the real world? That's their CULTURE.

And now it's yours, whether you want it to be or not. And of COURSE these people see anyone who is Not Them as somehow eugenically dysfunctional because it's always been that way.

It's just that the workplace used to be a more reliable place for a woman to get away from these women, because these women were generally staying home or they were in a volunteer position or in a non-profit. Either these people started working or the culture of what was once much richer people, has spread to the middle class. You'd still deal with other problems at work and male vs female dominated workplaces would present different problems. But the thing is, if you were white collar, you were once upon a time automatically NLOG just for having a job, in many cases. And sometimes that was a feature, and not a bug.

[quotelr]

You will have more regrets for the things you didn't try than the ones you tried and didn't succeed at.

Jay Samit, Disrupt You!: Master Personal Transformation, Seize Opportunity, and Thrive in the Era of Endless Innovation

[indianschool-blog1]

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[du-hjarta-skulblaka]

And YET AGAIN for the umpteenth shift in a row I'm with the kid I struggle the most with

Is it any wonder I'm exhausted and dreading work all the time

[obeetlebeetle]

ok first week of four tens is over...... My back and shoulders hurt so bad I started crying earlier, we had 1-2 security incidents every day and two bad closings in a row (single staffed bc one person has to leave before closing to start project work) (said project work is what is killing my back and also shoulders) PLUS I gotta do all my regular tasks and not let my work fall behind. which it did a little bit this week. I am so fucking TIRED

[thepersonalwords]

If you don't know where you want to be in five years, how do you ever expect to get there?

Jay Samit

[milkteawithrusk]

woww that was so awkward. we used to be best friends???

[thepoisonroom]

it's like i absolutely do not have the money to actually get evaluated for autism even if there weren't huge potential downsides to official diagnosis but could someone just tell me my swag's too different