#Lack of commitment

[howifeltabouthim]

. . . she felt them inhabiting some simulacrum of coupledom that was both torturous and enticing.

Curtis Sittenfeld, from Eligible

[raffaellopalandri]

Red Flags: A Buddhist Perspective

Daily writing promptWhat personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?View all responses In the Buddhist tradition, the concept of “interconnectedness” is paramount. Every action, every thought, and every choice we make has a ripple effect that influences not only the individual but also the community. Photo by ATC Comm Photo on Pexels.com So, while I do not tag people in any way, as…

[engineeringeconomicshub]

Unpacking the 5 Dysfunctions of a Team: Implications for Economic Success

In the intricate dance of organizational dynamics, the effectiveness of a team is often the linchpin that determines the success or failure of a venture. Patrick Lencioni’s seminal work, “The Five Dysfunctions of a Team,” provides a compelling framework for understanding and addressing common pitfalls that teams encounter. This article explores the profound impact that these dysfunctions can have…

[larothoughts]

shi wudu thoughts (tgcf spoilers)

ok so i don't look into fan stuff until after i finish a series and for some reason i keep having wildly different impressions of events than other people?? maybe i just can't read lol

for example: i always thought the reason shi wudu strangled shi qingxuan was to force he xuan to make the choice instead of sqx.

like, there this asshole is torturing sqx, forcing him to pick between two terrible options as a twisted way of bringing sqx down to he xuan and shi wudu's level. he wanted to make the only innocent party in this fiasco dirty his hands by choosing, because until now swd had always shielded sqx. he never had to face the two-men-one-cup problem as swd always bore the guilt of choice for the both of them. sqx's naive optimism (paid for by he xuan's tragedy) is therefore both infuriating and endearing to he xuan. and after days of trying to get sqx to not interfere, he finally decides that sqx must suffer for his ignorance.

so there he xuan is menacing the two of them: sqx crying and having a meltdown and still trying to find a way out of this with both his brother and best friend intact. swd powerless and at he xuan's mercy, snapping at sqx to pull himself together. i know the common interpretation is very face value: that swd would rather he and sqx die than be cursed to wander around with horrible fates.

i just find it more interesting to consider that swd's last act successfully took the choice out of sqx's hands.

my assumption when reading was that swd did not actually want sqx to die. he simply knew the best way to keep sqx from choosing was to force he xuan to kill swd first. remember, swd has watched over sqx and 'ming yi' for centuries at this point. these last few days have also made him aware of how he xuan consistently protects sqx even now. the best way to get him to abandon his plan and kill swd outright, then, is to threaten one of the few things he xuan still seems to care about: sqx's life.

swd's sudden beheading achieved everything he wanted: sqx spared the guilt and regret of having to make one choice over the other; swd cemented in the role of the ultimate villain even to his brother by his attempted fraticide; and the last leg of he xuan's plan derailed. even better, it was a sign to he xuan that shi wudu knew.

the main takeaway i got from the shi brothers' backstory was that swd would do literally anything to keep his brother safe. maybe that's why i figured the only way he'd try to strangle sqx to death was if he was absolutely sure he xuan would kill him before he succeeded. it was swd's final fuck you to he xuan, forcing him acknowledge the steep price of his revenge: his relationship with sqx, and the affection shi wudu knows he still holds for him.

[kindaorangey]

"are you asking me or making me?" is soooooo interesting to me because i think armand only asks it when he can't gauge whether he's letting louis down. it's barely even sexual - it's a hail mary. it's a show of trust, indirectly admitting that he wants to do something other than what louis expects of him, but that he's willing to obey louis anyway, for the sake of their relationship. it's sort of heartbreaking watching them at the sacré-cœur, because if louis had said "i'm making you" armand would've done it in a heartbeat. he would've taken it as a show of committment on louis' part, and he wouldn't have betrayed him. but louis takes the question just as an expression of disagreement, and so he doesn't play the game. ironically, he respects armand's independence too much to make him turn madeleine if he doesn't want to. and so armand isn't convinced of louis' commitment to him, and he betrays him.

and by the time we see them in san fransisco, louis knows what the question means now, and answers "no, arun, i'm not asking" without question. and armand accepts it without complaint, even as it pains him. companionship really is the most important thing in the world to armand, just like it is for lestat, and he's willing to do any number of horrible things to louis and himself just to keep him as a companion, just like lestat. louis' biggest mistake is not realising how to use that to his advantage sooner.

[omg-snakes]

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Edit: swapped out the graph because the title said, "Width" when it should've said "Weight." Sorry!

[invidiatechdemo]

did you forget?

that your sister is a human being?

that she's capable of being mad? mad at You, even?

[im-ovulating]

"I have centuries' worth of sinful knowledge that I'd like to share with you." Caius x "Oh no, where did my clothes go? They were just here..." Reader

[from-leviathans-coffin]

[mizgnomer]

Table Manners (or a lack thereof) - featuring David Tennant

[animentality]

[transmechanicus]

Oh so when powerwolf is on stage and everybody else is awoo-ong it’s fine to howl along, but when they’ve just walked off for the night, everybody’s starting to shuffle out, and a girl’s feeling a little sad to see them go, woe betide her for doing a mournful little awoo before turning to leave.🥺

[octodrawn]

LPS AU where everything is the same but Sunil is an evil sorcerer who commits Wizard Crimes on the daily (so no change actually)

[fromgoy2joy]

Tea Metaphor Gone Wrong

Rabbi: conversion is like making tea- you brew for-

Me: two minutes!

Rabbi: I, what? No. Depending on the type of tea, you leave it in for four to eight minutes. Sometimes longer.

Me: *nodding along when I don’t understand* yes.

Rabbi: how do you make your tea?

Me: depends if I’m in a rush or not. Sometimes I do like one minute for the flavor or sometimes I let the tea bag sit there for hours.

Rabbi: *looking faint like he is about to cry* Hours?

Me: so I’m being brewed like tea. The tea bag represents that it’s going to be a lifelong process-

Rabbi: the metaphor isn’t important. What in the world is your tea making?

[ftcatv]

2 | NEON from @falloutober prompts i swear im not gonna make all these prompts about nick

[umbraastaff]

It really is wild how much balance's Faerun is a victim of circumstance. Literally just a bunch of aliens came down and brought their war in with them. They totally overwrote the world's current political goings-on by injecting a new war for artifacts of powers beyond mortal comprehension, stopped that by wiping the minds of everyone on the planet, and then ended up luring in a massive eldritch presence that forced all the people of the world to fight against it again. The memory and agency stripped from every single person in a whole universe. Even the divine, their prophecies and paperwork twisted towards this strange new calling. Fuck, dude, the Moon's been fake for years.