#Jules adults

[marvelingjules]

I have today off. Worked six days, and yesterday was actually a... *does quick calculation* 11? hour day.

Today is off to compensate for that, and it still leaves me 3 extra hours to flex somewhere. 1 will definitely be Friday, so I can leave at 3, but the other 2...? Hmm. Maybe I’ll sleep in on Thursday. lol

Anyway, I’m taking care of a few adult responsibilities re: my apartment. Figured out the rent thing, gave myself a little anxiety attack over my bank account balance would be after it came out before recalling I get paid tomorrow, so while it’ll suck it won’t be so bad as I almost panicked about.

Bailey woke me up this morning to feed him, and then later came and woke me up by PATTING MY EYELID WITH HIS PAW, claws juuuuust barely extended (enough to feel, not enough to hurt) so I would come out and open the fucking patio door for him to enjoy the morning fresh air and the birds lol.

At that point, I just stayed up. Lazed around. Made coffee. Got dressed. Then did some of the adulting stuff. I have one or two more to do, but it’s not even noon, so I feel very good about today. Might go visit my dad later tonight, since I need to give my mom some lemons a coworker gave us, and he’ll be home alone today while she’s at work. I can pick up some more of my stuff from the house, too.

Might gather up my DVDs so I can put them on the bookcase I got, see how much room’s left. Or bring stuff from the bookcase at home and see what I can find places for around the apartment now, and mentally calculate just how much more shelving I’m gonna need. (Should I get more shelving first, or the litter box furniture thing? Or maybe not get that at all and just get the fancy self-cleaning covered litter box? Hmmmm....)

[blackfemmecharacterdependency]

All the Black Femmes || Arcane

Mel Medarda: Toks Olagundoye, Imogen Faires

Ambessa Medarda: Ellen Thomas

Sevika, Apothecary: Amirah Vann

Shoola, Jules: Mara Junot

Sky Young, (Additional Voices): Kimberly Brooks

Other Additional Voices: Debra Wilson, Kimberly Bailey, Shondalia White

[librarycards]

The term “social transition” has a non-trans history in the psychology of adolescence. In the 1980s, it was an operative metaphor for describing adolescence through the American trope of a rocky period of self-making, what one psychologist in 1978 termed “the difficulty of adolescence as a transitional period.” The primary “transition” that concerned psychologists at the time was school, where social shifts in friend groups and hierarchies from middle school to high school affected a young person’s self-esteem and mental integrity, resulting either in positive self-actualization or, if the social transition went poorly, “problem behavior.”³

The term “social transition” was only later adopted by psychologists and psychiatrists looking to powerfully expand their jurisdiction over trans youth to include entirely non-medical practices that often spur parents to reject or harm their kids: wearing a dress, cutting or growing out hair, wearing a binder or a bra, wearing makeup, or adopting a new name and pronouns. Making those banal but concrete practices of changing gender into psychiatric events was intended to convince anxious and angry parents that they shouldn’t put down their children. By the same token, tying practices of clothing and self-description to healthy development overinflated them with a pathological degree of significance, upping the ante and creating a lucrative target, both for parents of trans youth who wanted to stop their children from transitioning and, now, politicians.

I don’t mean to imply that psychiatry directly caused HB 2885, just that it clearly holds one part of the blame for inventing the root vulnerability that Gragg has taken advantage of in Missouri. If anything, the attachment of sex offender felonies to a teacher complimenting a teenager’s haircut exposes, once and for all, how fraudulent the medicalization of transition has been all along. Gragg can claim the right of the state to control children’s dress and speech (masquerading as the rights of parents) through teachers and counselors, in part, because psychiatry and medicine first claimed the right to regulate trans youth’s practices of transition.

Still, the causal events that led to HB 2885 run far deeper than the shallow history of “social transition” as an especially foolish psychiatric fiction. Here lies the far bigger problem raised by this bill. Not only will psychiatrists prove to be the least effective political allies of trans youth in Missouri, but contemporary queer and transgender culture’s elevation of the private right to dress as the sine qua non of politics is also quite useless as a political strategy.

Part of what I gather stuns in bills like HB 2885 is their audacity. The law would target the most conservative, least politically subversive of all transgender practices: individual style, identification, and language-use. In the case of minors, “social transition” is also a cheap compromise offered to young people who are refused blockers and hormones by disapproving parents and doctors, but that compromise is offered in a broader queer and transgender culture that has elevated self-identification through style as the ultimate arbiter of being transgender, making it much harder to advocate for a genuine right to transition for anyone, teenager or adult.

[...]

Students have very limited First Amendment rights on school campuses, meaning that they cannot present themselves as private individuals enjoying the right to dress as they please.⁷Their self-expression is governed from the outset by a competing set of custodians, from parents to schoolteachers, to psychiatrists and doctors, to the Missouri House of Representatives. Trans youth’s interests are therefore materially extraneous to the mainline of contemporary queer and transgender culture, whose architects were wealthy, college-educated adults whose prior enjoyment of full-citizenship was the very reason they demanded only the affirmation of a right to dress.

I suspect that part of the genuine shock of bills like HB 2885 is that most people reasoned that LGBT liberalism’s elevation of the private individual over all other political concerns would inoculate dress and language from state interference. It evidently has not. What perhaps has been misunderstood, then, is how the state exercises power. The law cannot prohibit being transgender, for there is no such state of being. The state has no need to target people’s interior selves, either, for the law can seize people where it always has, in concrete social practices that it simply declares are the undesirable traits of transgender people—namely, practices of transition.

Jules Gill-Peterson, The Unimportance of Wearing Clothes. [emphasis added]

[babzyz]

juliet's milf makeover

[murdermost-foul]

not that anyone is familiar with psych or cares but season four had some Real banger episodes for such a silly show that I remember watching as a very young teenager & being Obsessed with like shawn gets a shot in the dark and mr yin presents... which in turn had me watch all of hitchcock's films to catch all the references

[bookquotesfrombooks]

“People labeled “high functioning” are those who can contribute to capitalism. They can usually speak, can conform to our society’s acceptable standards, and are allowed to achieve limited power. Those labeled as “low functioning” do not contribute to capitalism and are deprived of power and autonomy.”

Jules Edwards

I Will Die on This Hill: Autistic Adults, Autism Parents, and the Children Who Deserve a Better World

[vonlipvig]

oh, it's that time of the year, time for

🗝️ Escape Room Wrapped 2023 🗝️

This year:

You went to 10 escape rooms, and got out of 10 of them. Good for you!

Out of all of those, only 1 was a horror-themed room. Spooky! (but you still got scared plenty in non-horror rooms, you silly head, you!)

You asked for many hints. All good, part of the game!

You teamed up with 7 different friends. Many brains are better than one!

Your biggest team was made out of 6 people, and your smallest, out of 3. Which worked better?

You got handcuffed once. Always a good time, huh.

Your favorite franchises were Escape Games and El Acertijo. You went to 3 of their rooms. Say thank you!

Your favorite room was Paraná Airlines (PLANE THEMED ROOM, WITH THE COOLEST ENDING)

Your least favorite room was La Condena de los Inocentes (Lawyer's office themed? Kind of a lame theme and pretty forgettable, except for that REALLY fun scare that got us good)

You acted the fool in all of them. Because of course you did!

To many more enigmas solved in 2024! 🗝️

[micer2012]

PERSONA SIX (by me and @psihawaii, don't worry you don't have to understand it to know its the best thing that anyones ever made) feel free to ask questions i'd LOVE to answer them. theyre our babies

[lifesver]

alright hold on here are The Thoughts

i think growing up it was very like... leland trying to fit himself into a box, or an image that people had for him. which started with his dad and literally just trying to get the 'i'm proud of u' one singular time. dad was tough on him, only son, 70s, a little more sensitive than most boys his age etc. truly the root cause of why he can so easily get caught in cycles of people-pleasing, and is so easy to manipulate, and so easy to knock down a peg. bc he already has those preconceptions of himself, and when those things get confirmed, he just goes oh. yeah i guess so. you peaked in highschool? sure did man. you're not good enough for your friends? true!

leland who pushed himself into a golden boy status in his tiny little town. who made that his entire Thing for a while. he pushed himself in athletics and he pushed himself in academics so he could make it into that ivy school. and then getting to university where just about everything ripped a stripe off him. a lot of it was good humbling (from his friends), that made him loosen up and stop trying to exist in that box. but it was also just a wake up call of like, not being the best, and in fact being mostly average. which there's 0 things wrong with but when you have the ex golden boy complex it's so over for the mental.

i think about how after he had to drop out of school it was like. extra tough. going back to your small town after you were supposed to make something of yourself in college. seeing the people you knew from highschool, some of them having never left, some of them looking at you with judgement like haha how did you mess that up golden boy omg??? having to be there while his friends finished up their schooling, and then moved away. nothing like coming back to your childhood room after you've outgrown it and remembering being just a little younger than you are now, and all the things you thought you would be and get to do. spending basically a year rotting at home with zero motivation and just a completely gutting fear of being out in public until it's like. well i can't just do this huh.

and then having to go work for/with his dad so he doesn't put too much of a burden on his mother who's helping april with her kids now. just contractor work stuff and having to listen to his dad yap about whatever all day. having that oppressive influence on his shoulders again cutting down any personal growth he had made toward things like... self expression in the realms of his appearance or sexuality or identity and even just embracing silly interests or whatever. it all just went back in the box, bc he knew he wasn't going to be able to get out from under his dad's roof until he could save enough money to pay off school (lol rip the scholarship) and then move out. and generally just being like oh thats cool. i'm going to never leave this town. just like him (: cool cool cool!!

and he doesn't!!! he doesn't leave for twenty years. he gets a house and a dog and lives his quiet life. losing contact with most of the friend group after everything sort of cemented something in him that said hey don't bother letting anyone know you like that again, they'll leave you and it'll be your own fault. you don't want to trap anyone with you, you don't want to get your heart broken over and over, either. he never gets married, just has some messy short relationships, messy one night stands with people he can't bring himself to call back. he's the kind of person that's still like... warm and friendly for the most part, so people think they're his friend, that they know him, when he doesn't rly talk about anything real about himself anymore. i love 2 laugh

[books-in-a-storm]

Romance A Day🌹

Snow, Jules Ford

[fishnoodles]

I hate this strokes shit I stayed up late trying to find a live recording of Julian Casablancas saying he likes the concept of girlcock (not what he says) in Bangkok 2023 #ladyboys

[wildflowercryptid]

i need to explore my paldea exchange students au more bc it's basically juliana's " you're dating my lil brother now so i guess i gotta learn to get along with you " arc with kieran. she's definitely dragging his ass to hassel's classroom and making him join the art club.

[a-star-that-fell]

today i

-called the dentist

-called the top surgeon’s office back

-had telehealth post op

-emailed my boss asking if she’d be a reference for me

all in the span of about 3 hours

i’m shaking like a fucking leaf

[schlock-luster-video]

On May 7, 1975, Belladonna of Sadness debuted in France.

Here's some new art inspired by the animated classic!

[lanayrru]

"blah blah i dont like zelink not every main boy main girl duo need to be romantically involved :/"

you fool. you loser. its about so much more than romance. its about devotion and trust that runs deeper than destiny. its about fates being so strongly intertwined that the moves of a cosmology are traced around two souls. its about subverted class divides and power dynamics and gender politics. its about losing a childhood to someone and being willing to do it all over again. its about losing a best friend on the most important day of ones life. its about cheating death and crawling out of ones grave to find a friend again. its about loving someone so deeply without even knowing who they are. its about warped timelines that are ultimately meaningless to two teenagers the gods asked too much of because all they want is to help each other and to keep those they care for safe right here right now. also theyre t4t.

[bookquotesfrombooks]

“The autistic community generally agrees that ABA is an abusive practice, yet most of the energy is spent on shaming frightened parents rather than ending institutional practices that target children of color.”

Jules Edwards

I Will Die On This Hill