#If you interact you love trans people

[stardustedknuckles]

Can't believe I forgot to tell this story but I went to a play party thing a couple weeks ago and was severely underdressed because the nature of the party was revealed neither in the announcement nor from hot enby friend (who invited me and didn't show til after close) but anyway the doors had just opened and I was holding my umbrella and looking for a place to put it, and since it was wet I didn't want to put it back in my shoulder bag, you know how it is. I had fallen in with a random person I met on Lex and a handful of other queers who were chatting and I commented somewhat absently, "I wonder if there was a coat check included in this renovation. I dunno what to do with this."

And the lesbian next to me looked at my too-big dickies jacket (someone's kink, I'm sure) and my general self (not so sure about that one) and said, somewhat jokingly, "well if you happen to be carrying a carabiner you could attach your umbrella to it and hook it to your bag strap."

I opened my mouth to say something like "I'm afraid I haven't assimilated that far into the culture yet" and then I remembered I've been carrying my keys on a carabiner since I moved out of my parents' house in 2012 and silently pulled them out of my pocket to a veritable explosion of enthusiastic cheers.

I walked around with my umbrella dangling and bumping into my knee for two hours, but I walked proudly.

[lazylittledragon]

i'm going to scream i got accused of being a transmisogynist by someone on twitter because of this specific part of my t4t steddie art

[morangoowada]

Kiyotaka Week - Day 5 Lady

[non-un-topo]

More cishet observations from the past month at work:

- They really fucking buzz off of the TERF wizard book series

- Their favourite place on Earth is Florida (why???)

- If you tell them you're an artist, they will ask you if you've ever "tried out AI"

- They will joke about OCD a lot

- They absolutely hate their bodies and will take any opportunity to talk about food in a toxic way (bonus points if they compare their body/food to yours)

- They hate their spouses and think that this is funny

- They. Do not. Have interests. (Besides the TERF wizard book series)

- They don't watch movies or TV??

- If they have kids, the way they talk about them makes it sound like it was genuinely the worst decision they ever made

- If they don't have kids, they will still fucking talk about having them

- They don't like cats??

In other weird news, I'm gendered correctly at work and I pass to the point that cishets actually talk to me like I'm a cishet guy.

[atopvisenyashill]

i found a terf in my followers and blocked them across all like 12 of my tumblrs, let that be a lesson to any of u annoying ass crypto terfs that think u can sneak by in fandom - im not engaging with u bc you’re a hateful idiot, i will find u, and i will block u, and i hope the door fucks your heel when it slams on the way out

[gio-cosmo]

No way. No actual fucking way

[trannydykes]

anyways, trans women, especially trans lesbians/sapphics. stay strong, take care of yourselves. these are hard times for you, i know, but we're here for you, and we always will be

[frankiehasfangs]

t4t love is beautiful, t4t love is unique and safe and incredible. I love being t4t and I love my boyfriend so much

[catboyfurina]

Idk what precisely to call it since honorifics aren't Pronouns but vertin using she/her while routinely being addressed as Lord, sir, etc is soooooooo 🥰 it's like mixed pronouns but not.

[screamingay]

someone on here will literally say "encouraging plastic surgery for the sole purpose of conforming to eurocentric beauty standards isn't actually feminism" and 200 other people will come out of the woodworks and chant in harmony LET WOMEN BE HAPPY and WHAT ABOUT TRANS PEOPLE AND BURN VICTIMS as if the post wasn't clearly 1. about womens' self image & insecurities being strongly influenced by the richest and whitest of society and 2. not about trans people or burn victims at all

[odysseys-blood]

im not gonna hijack that post but theres such an odd fixation i feel in general on the idea that you HAVE to argue and clap back and debate with every single person you see online (even knowing most of them do this in bad faith) and its so. are you not tired. do you know that when ur arguing out in the open like thst ESPECIALLY if you're not part of the group being targeted ur likely just exposing the people you know who ARE part of these minority groups to more vitrol that theyre likely already experiencing more than enough of and would like to avoid as much as possible. please block and move on more often.

edit: idk why this is getting attention all of a sudden but please dont be a clown in my tags or replies.

[mallgothchloe97]

Happy Pride Month babes🏳️‍🌈

Let’s make all the straight people uncomfortable because they keep stealing everything from us🖕🖕🖕

[kuromi-hoemie]

last rb stressed me out lowkey akakska i had an ex like that and it became a self fulfilling prophecy kinda thing..

[stop-stealing-my-username]

Eww just saw a terf/radfem in my notifs.

Just so we're clear, I don't tolerate y'all and will block on site! The second I catch even a whiff of terfy shit, let alone bold faced terfy shit, I am pretending you do not exist- there will be no debate because that lends credibility to your bullshit ideology. I am not arguing with a brick wall; I am not arguing with someone whose ideology is built on hate, misogyny, and the pain Olympics.

Hope this helps!

[kindnessoverperfection]

I've found that, when interacting with others (or myself), it's useful to consider the lessons I'd want to teach a growing child.

If a child makes a mistake, I wouldn't want them to feel shame. I wouldn't yell at them, humiliate them, or in any way indicate to them that their mistake is a reflection of their worth or of who they are as a person.

Instead, I'd want them to associate the process with love and joy. If they say something that hurts someone's feelings, or otherwise ostracizes someone in some way, I'd compassionately explain to them. Ideally, they'd walk away knowing why they said / did it in the first place, how to handle similar situations in the future, and would accept the consequences (e.g. if a friend no longer wanted to hang out with them).

While the consequences may sometimes be painful, I'd do my best to instill in them that mistakes are human and natural, and that the process of learning from these mistakes is an opportunity to improve connections with others and express love.

I have a tendency towards excessive guilt. Memories in which I've said / done something ignorant or hurtful are infused with this guilt and shame- but ideally, I'd feel a sense of love and peace, and perhaps happiness, when looking back on them. Because they were moments of growth, moments I learned how to be more compassionate (even if the actual learning came years later).

So I'll put this out into the void:

When you make a mistake, that is not a reflection of you as a person. It is a moment in time, a moment which was informed by your past experiences. Humans are not static labels, or monsters in an RPG game. We are social creatures who live and learn and react and grow and experience and love. Be gentle with yourself and move forward knowing you're doing so in accordance with your values.

[critterchitters-closedcaptions]

funny thing about attraction is that i am Not at all interested in cis guys. right.

except for the literal worst fictional men you've ever layed eyes on.

this character is horrible and *will* harm my general health?

comfort character babey.

occasionally theres the just Regular Ass Guy right, but 90% of the time its either women or the literal scum of the earth (or both. lady villains. aaough <3 yes please)