#I'm not fandom police

[panvatar]

As an autistic monster fucker and a furry (stay with me) I feel confident in saying Laios is not a monster fucker. Laios hyperfixates on monsters like irl people hyperfixate on dinosaurs. Not once have I seen him interested in a monster sexually. He is all about fun facts and recipes.

He is, however, definitely a furry and I'd bet money he's got a fursona and a monstersona.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk.

[bean-spring]

Hot take and not to be a killjoy or the shipping police but people treating Viktor or Jinx's aroace headcanons as if they were canon is not the revolutionary take people think it is.

Headcanons are always all right but we have to acknowledge that they are somehow damaging when they apply to stereotypes. It might not be the case for everyone but most of the time people unconsciously assume that disability/mental illness=asexuality. These headcanons erase the freedom of attraction from people who are already seen as unable to have sexual/romantic experiences/desires, when it's completely untrue and harmful.

You can headcanon Viktor and Jinx as aroace, but I have seen people changing their minds once Viktor is no longer disabled (s2 with all of his other forms) and Jinx is no longer as mentally ill (alternate universe Powder). And it speaks wonders of how people see these characters.

"I never thought about Jinx being able to feel romantic/sexual attraction until s2!" To believe she's actually only capable of that when she's not "damaged" is incredibly disturbing. Especially since Jinx has always had a bit of a flirty personality too.

"I've always seen Viktor as asexual, I don't know why!" That's fine. You can headcanon him as ace. But I believe there is a reason behind it, most of the time, if for some inexplicable reason the "vibes" of the disabled character are making you think he's ace.

I say all of this being aroaspec myself, by the way. Headcanon all you want but going to people's posts commenting how "it's weird for you that they have romantic/sexual plots when they're clearly aroace" is not a win at all. It's a headcanon, after all, and it should be treated as such, and that's fine. But it also is damaging to spread stereotypes like these.

Of course the disabled character is asexual. Of course the mentally ill character is aromantic. It's not as revolutionary as you might think, tbh.

Fandom is not activism and it's all right to have any headcanons you want BUT some of them are filled with damaging stuff and perhaps we should look into ourselves more before treating these assumptions as something canon.

[moregraceful]

Aaron Ekblad's apology for taking PEDs whips ass. "Lol oops. Hey sorry I took drugs to fix my exploding body. Fuck yall for real I'll be back tho." Hell yeah brother

[jewishcissiekj]

ok but you do know the Nightsisters in tcw enslave the Nightbrothers and are an actively oppressive society right. don't let the whole 'oh they're badass girlbosses' shit get to your head. they are the problem.

[raycatz]

okay more on the loz-LU fandom shit today

here's the post that started it https://www.tumblr.com/candycain2356/787048612501880832

and the other https://www.tumblr.com/ovegakart/787066660591976448/you-know-what-it-is-fucked-up-so-many-artist-have

Someone: asks a clarifying question about whether or not alttp Link and Zelda are related. Responder: Gives a well rounded answer. One of the examples and additional context given is that asker may have heard of this hc since it's popular in LU, but that it's not canon. Ovega: I hate that LU is so prevalent. Ovega's fans: WOW THE LU FANDOM SUCKS WE HATE THEM Ovega: *joins in*

this is really similar to what happened when Ovega expressed humor and exasperation over some interpretations of Dark Link and Volga in one of her comics.

https://www.tumblr.com/ovegakart/765696907391664128/the-lu-fandom-is-maam-this-is-a-hyrule

Ovega: People keep commenting they think it's father-son. It's romantic lol Commenter: Only a LU fan would think it's father-son Ovega: STOP MAKING THIS ABOUT LU Ovega's fans: WOW THE LU FANDOM SUCKS. LOOK AT THE LU FANDOM MAKING IT ABOUT THEMSELVES AND FORCING HEADCANON ONTO US. THEY'RE SO ENTITLED.

In neither of these cases did a LU fan come in policing things. It's the people providing context or dissing LU who are making it about LU, and yet Ovega has been adding onto and encouraging hatred against the LU fandom. She's angry with the people answering questions but her and her followers are blaming the LU fandom for it. It's not fair.

I thought something people wanted from the LU fandom was to provide context to those who think it might be LU. However, in both these cases, it didn't start out as people thinking it must be LU, and yet that's what most of the anger in the reblogs and comments are about.

Nowhere did a LU fan come in saying anything had to be a certain way because it's like that in LU. Why is the LU fandom being blamed for this one??? (why is it that someone asking a clarifying question (or sharing a "bad" headcanon) is assumed to be a LU fan?)

here's my post from earlier, now with more conversation in the comments https://www.tumblr.com/raycatz/787099204091772929/peaks-into-the-lu-tag-oh-drama-tries-to-find-a

What's really frustrating is that she has a large audience of people eager to bash the LU fandom. It doesn't matter what the reason is and it doesn't matter if it makes sense.

[ro-bee]

Is it morally accepted to keep putting my old obsession (Homestuck) in everything I like?

[linka-from-captain-planet]

already seeing "ugh male Rook with Neve in the trailer... that's a LESBIAN" posts on twitter and I'm beating them with a big stick that says "you can HEADCANON whatever you want about anything ever but your HEADCANON is factually incorrect and if it chaps your ass even a little bit when anyone up to and including the literal creators of the character disagrees with your HEADCANON then that's fully a you problem and you should consider developing coping skills about it rather than contributing to this fandom's legendary hostility by policing (even in a manner you'll claim was "joking" when someone stands up for themselvs) people who are only enjoying their own playthrough, headcanon, or ship" and by stick I do mean the block button

[lay-z]

Have an idea I want to write about poly141 X free use reader. Obviously going to be completely unrealistic to any military context, but I love the idea. Some things I want to tease with

Price sending Gaz and Ghost on a mission, and when they come back, of course, they need to unwind. He calls them into his office after, presenting them with tussed up you ready to be fucked and sucked until Kyle and Simon return to humanity.

Never wearing underwear because Price refuses to let you have any. Did you buy some? Well, that was silly because they were all gone the next day and passed out among the whole team. Easy access after all. He does reimburse you for the cost by letting you sit on his cock while he does paperwork.

Soap having a bit of a bully/wedgie kink (yeah, this one's my fantasy legs be real) He steals your clothes when you're in the shower, pulls your pants down around the team and runs away with them, gives you wet willies just to hear you squeal, and whine, uses the panties he's been given to wedgie you to watch your reactions and to hear all the cute noises you make.

*twirls hair and sighs* I'm just a tguy with a dream.

I mean... yes? Go write it 😅

[ahoyakosi-kape]

EDIT: Seeing all of this pointless nonsense like "a lot of people hate het ships because they aren't willing to engage with fictional relationships that involve women" gives me headaches. I hope you can acknowledge that mlm ships are still important because THEY'RE QUEER, THAT CONSERVATIVES ARE SEEKING TO CENSOR. While also noting that certain "fujoshis" are presenting sexist trash. After decades of heterosexual ships being the norm, it's now "if you hate het ships, that's because you hate women" instead of "hehe, het ships are awesome when they're bi4bi / t4t." The idea that watching men kissing men wears you out is simply embarrassing. Especially if you complain about it publicly. You suddenly sound like a right-wing jerk who hates Pride Month updates on games, even if they have been around longer than their ejaculation. If you see mothers in their 80s watching gay porn, you guys would faint. And no, whining about White homosexual guys cosplaying as Black women isn't the same as being "uncomfortable" with the amount of mlm fanfiction—the former is a real problem because it hurts Black women and the community. It's also a serious situation that White gay men would evoke their Whiteness first and last. Women drawing gay porn should be the least of your problems. If you told me that gay men aren't legitimate because they're males, I wouldn't be surprised at all. Stop propagating radfem talk. As a girl participating in fandom like millions, I acknowledge that it can be challenging to see female characters examined engagingly. It just stings that all the focus is placed on male characters with similar motifs. There are harmful clichés thrown around, like "disposable girlfriend" or "jezebel." It's evident in Arcane fandom. "They make the woman be a fujoshi/cuck so it's accessible to ignore them" is something I've read, and I agree. It's questionable; it's unwarranted. Nonetheless, it's simple to overlook half of their content without coming across as hostile. I know it's absolutely tempting to educate them, to lash out, to call them a "stupid bitch"—but if they're that idiotic, nothing can be pursued. You do not want to waste your IQ. I block some fujoshis that piss me off because it's just common sense. Yet, I keep wondering if there's an appropriate solution for it. Unfortunately, everyone's answers include "ban BL content so fans would be put to shame!" and the fact that it tolerates conservative and puritanical discourse, which backfires into endorsed homophobia (yes, it always does). You struggle to ensure civility in the face of your hatred for yaoi—yaoi that incels and dudebros despise—and are prepared to eradicate it because it is "woke trash." How much are you willing to redefine fictitious heterosexuality as a "feminist empowerment" concept? Is this not insane to you? Are all the discussions about heterosexuality being 'a tool of patriarchy' meant nothing to you? Are all those repugnant comments from dudebros in a Facebook anime fanpage that fuel your spite to create gay shit—gone? Are you really gonna woke-ify heterosexuality? The same material that's weaponised to hurt queerness? It's exasperating that many fans are driving fictional women/of colour away from romance just for White men's yaoi to be the spotlight. I know the problem, it's not for nothing, and we want to provide solutions. But, I'm begging you, with clasped hands and kneeling, there's a suitable method to talk about this without coming out as your reactionary grandfather who despises communism. Don't be soft, but be stern. Don't insinuate yourself with tactless bullying. Be clever. It's not an excuse to indulge homophobia. You have to know when to recognise intersectionality. Some fans are rancid, I know, but queerness is still queerness. Fiction and reality. Saying something like that is literally anti-gay with progressive language. Performative activism has hurt you enough.

Anyway, I think we should all just inject fentanyl into our veins for progressing like this. It's really embarrassing. I think queer people in the 90s would have a stroke seeing us with this behaviour.

[sissytobitch10seconds]

I honestly think it's so interesting that people tend to pick Kaz when they're making a character aro/ace when in the books Tolya mentions having no interest in romance or finding a partner and Harshaw (who was sadly omitted from S2) is mentioned to only love fire.

[severus-snaps]

something i've been thinking about lately (partly because of that hunger games post and partly because of certain Takes about snape and SWM and also a post i saw about snape and the roberts family at the quidditch world cup that i cannot find for the life of me now) is like

what precisely does someone - a child - have to do to deserve being attacked from behind, rendered entirely defenceless, choked, immobilised, and stripped and paraded in front of a large crowd?

under the cut because it's a rather long and bitter-sounding ramble whoops

let's assume that the worst of what is sometimes said of snape is true

let's assume snape joined in with mulciber and avery in actively tormenting muggleborns, all the time, and he thought muggles and muggleborns were scum - and then he became a death eater (even though nobody - not lily, not the adult marauders, provides any evidence at all for this; in snape's memory he's heard about whatever was attempted just the same as lily had; sirius as an adult doesn't even seriously consider snape to be a death eater, despite the crowd he hung around with nearly all turning into DEs - presumably because snape kept himself to himself whilst with them rather than actively taking part in anything. and he did become a death eater, i'll grant you - not his finest choice - but nobody but lily even suspected that he would, so that's no reason. and don't even start on his teaching etiquette, because clearly sirius never thought he'd become a teacher either, it was forced on snape by circumstance, and in any case it happened a good deal of time after the bullying, so cannot be used as a 'reason' unless james/sirius could see the future).

let's assume snape was a possessive, toxic friend, and didn't want to let lily be friends with anyone else, let her talk to the marauders, maybe that he would've even kept tabs on her once they'd stopped being friends (even though she had other friends she was defending him to, and there's no evidence he 'stalked' her, the 'let' could've been something more along the lines of "i won't let you keep spreading their lies" or "i won't let you put yourself into danger hanging around with them", because we just don't know).

let's even assume snape was doing some dodgy dark magic all the time (even though there's not one mention, beyond the gash on james' cheek in swm and lupin's "it was snape's specialty" which was likely defensive because snape was the marauders' favourite toy, that snape was going around cutting people up for fun, or he'd have been expelled, and half the staff - including hagrid, mcgonagall, and slughorn - would never have been surprised that he killed dumbledore)

if one less of those things were true - would he still have deserved it? something more mild, maybe? something more severe?

would it matter what he did to the muggleborns? as in, would it be justified if snape had just tripped them in the halls, as opposed to if he'd cursed them? would that determine whether he deserved it?

and what if the muggleborns were also 'bad people'? if they were bullies? if they held less-than-enlightened views? this was the 70s, baby - I'm sure we all know how racist, sexist, and homophobic some of our boomer parents and grandparents can be. so then what? would the muggleborns have deserved it, if they were sexist? or homphobic? or racist? if they were just a shit person, and slipped a hand up someone's skirt to cop a feel without permission? if they spread nasty lies?

if snape had attacked a 'bad' person, would that mean he was actually 'good', like the marauders supposedly are?

if someone is a bad friend, does that mean they deserved it? do your friends deserve it if they make mistakes? if they haven't grown yet from their shitty childhood? if they have bad thoughts?

and what sort of dark magic, precisely, would be the tipping point at which snape deserved it? if he used it on other people - or if he used it at all? if it was harmful? if it could be reversed? if it was gross?

like the other post i can't find said, what if at the quidditch world cup, the roberts family had been 'bad people'? would that mean they deserved it, too? does that make the death eaters social justice warriors now?

i want to know the exact lines certain marauders defenders would draw, the exact point at which a fifteen-year-old unequivocally deserves being attacked from behind, rendered entirely defenceless, choked, immobilised, and stripped and paraded in front of a crowd. what would it take for them, personally, to defend that in real life? what sort of person deserves it? if you're a teenager, would you do it to your peers? and how can you be sure that the goalposts won't be moved? "if that type of person deserves it, then surely so do these others, and them, and them..." - until it includes people who don't 'deserve it'?

...or, is the act of attacking your peer from behind, rendering your victim entirely defenceless, choking them, immobilising them, and stripping and parading them in front of a large crowd just a morally bad thing to do, full stop? are all of these 'bad' things about snape made up - or at the very least, greatly exaggerated from the evidence in the text - just to make it seem like the marauders were good, actually, and that snape got what he deserved? i think i know the answer)

i feel like there's also more that could be said - and has been said better by others - about how this "snape deserved to be bullied/deserved swm" attitude reflects the sort of rise in (internet and irl) purity culture, cancel culture, how that prevents people from growing or learning or developing new ideas, and also JKR's framing of 'good' and 'bad' people and how that translates to 'good' and 'bad' actions - and probably more things besides

but i was just having a vent, really

[punkeropercyjackson]

Anybody who thinks Bleach should've ended with Ichigo and Rukia as the canon ship is a cop

[freakiest-fander]

These recommended videos next to each other capture my feelings about the "hear me out cake" thing pretty well...

I don't know, man... I would've liked something like this with the sides years ago, but... just release the finale already.

[mister13eyond]

Seeing a lot of new people show up in my notes with like "proship dni" or whatever so RENT LOWERING GUNSHOT: IM AN ADULT WHO DOES NOT CARE IF PEOPLE HAVE PROBLEMATIC SHIPS, IM OLD AND BELIEVE TABOO FICTION IS SAFE AND HEALTHY, IM AN OLD MAN WHO THINKS IT'S FINE TO HAVE SHIPS THAT WOULD BE BAD IN REAL LIFE, I BELIEVE IN TABOO KINKS AS HEALING PLACES, I DO NOT DO SHIP DISCOURSE, I THINK IT'S OKAY TO WRITE ABOUT BAD THINGS HAPPENING TO GOOD PEOPLE WITHOUT CONDEMNING IT IN THE NARRATIVE, I THINK IT'S OKAY TO GET OFF TO MAKE BELIEVE BAD THINGS!!! THANKS

[sam-reid]

you have no idea how hard it is to want to gatekeep tvc/amc iwtv from the mainstream sometimes lmao

[ofrionstage]

If I had a nickel for every time there was a classical noval(that was also later adapted into a musical) that had a pathetically in love man doing something pretty stupid because of his love for the leading lady and eventually he's reluctantly dragged into the sewers by the old man with the morals, I'd have two nickels, which isn't a lot but it's weird that it happened twice.