#I'm happy to be the reactive dog guy

[mod2amaryllis]

hi sorry for bothering you, i just wanted to say that the post you just made about taking care of reactive dogs just made me tear up (in a good way.) vet visits have been very hard for us recently, it’s just nice to know that people like you exist out there.

aw waaa yaaay thank you for saying this :') I'm sorry about your baby having a hard time at the vet, wishing you only good health in the future! i know they're a good doggy in a hard environment, i hope they get the grace they deserve 💛

[meyerlansky]

my take on gale mota, if this helps: so obvs he's generally holds back and is very careful socially, tending towards watching rather than participating. i also think he's very reactive, inasmuch as he gives people what "fits" their personality. egan's an annoying endearing brat so he gets the longsuffering treatment. curt's longsuffering, so he gets gale's version of a brat. neither is a /lie/, persay, but both are an obfuscation of the whole picture. he deliberately casually makes himself 1/

...hard to know, which is also shown in his general stoic snarky shtick. again, it's not a lie, it's just not /everything/. exactly what part of himself he's trying to hide is up to interpretation (big gay boner for his buddies, anyone?) but i personally think he's trying very hard to hide just how fucking mean he can be. ironically i think this is exactly why bucky is drawn to him (because maybe he'll smack him around a little) who said that 2/2

yessssssss all of this is so good and i agree with nearly all of it: gale is definitely very cautious, very withholding, and very reactive, and i also definitely see a deep capacity for viciousness and anger and meanness as one of the vices he's decided Cannot Under Any Circumstances Be Expressed, Lest He Be Too Like His Father. i think my only major difference in read is i can't see gale bratting, at least not early on; not only does bucky have the brat market CORNERED, but i think gale wants to be good. he doesn't want to have those vices, he doesn't want to lash out when he's angry, he doesn't want to be a dog off the leash. what he needs is a firm hand at the end of the leash, who'll tell him when he's being a good boy.

i think he also wants that hand to hold him back from the anger and the meanness, but this is where i think curt becomes an interesting choice for being that firm hand (vs, say, bucky, who wants to drag gale so far off-leash that they both forget what the concept of leashes are, and i'm losing control of this dog metaphor but you get what I'm saying). because i think curt is happy to put gale where he belongs when it's necessary—it takes barely a touch to his chest and, what, fifteen words to make gale back down in the RAF scene, when gale FORCED bucky back down into his seat to keep him from taking the hit? seriously, curt doms that boy with so light a touch i don't think gale even knows it's THERE—but i also think that curt sees that vicious streak in gale and likes it. it just needs pointing in the right direction. so i think it'd be good for gale in that he can bring curt as many apples as he can get his hands on and get told he's a good boy for it, and curt valuing that protective streak gale seems to lump down into Anger, Which Is Always Bad means gale would get more space to have those feelings in productive ways. i.e. circling the fight like a guard dog to keep the RAF guys from taking any potshots, and reeling curt into safety the second he's in range. and also the two of them brat-taming the fuck out of bucky, with curt telling gale exactly what and how much he should give bucky. i mean what.

[wrt smacking bucky around lmao genuinely i think curt and gale BOTH have crises about That Time Bucky Made Me Hit Him, but they're flavored differently: curt is upset bucky kept pushing at what curt tried to express as a limit, but gale is upset that he couldn't "control" himself in the face of bucky pushing him. i don't think either of them have the language to express any of this clearly, either, so it's a top drop clusterfuck both times, but it's worse for gale because he has the self-hate i'm-just-like-my-dad-after-all spiral waiting and ready to go, whereas curt's like "i'm fucked up over this. why am i fucked up over this. oh, because i didn't want to, i SAID i didn't want to, and bucky didn't listen to me." i've got thoughts about it]

[alpydk]

So BPD/EUPD (my essay)

I said I'd make a post - Not BG3 related in any way, so ignore if you're not interested in that. - Warning it's long. -

Also TW (sui, s/h, MH...etc...)

BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) / EUPD (Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder)

I only got diagnosed in 2022 - late for most who get this, but looking over my life, there are a lot of big red flags that show I should've got diagnosed earlier. Going to be from my life with it, can't speak for the others with it, so hey, this is how it is for me. Like all illnesses - It's A sPeCTruM!

So I'm EUPD type Borderline under the DK rules. Some argue there is this 4 types things but there's no research at all here for it. They treat with meds (useless for me I've found) and DBT (basically used for mental illness, it feels like.) - I am raw dogging life thanks to circumstance which explain why I can be a little tetchy at times.

To be diagnosed, you must fulfil 5 of the 9 criteria below (which honestly feel so fucking vague and overlap with so many other conditions basically anyone could be diagnosed it feels like.) There are a number of people who find they're actually AuADHD / CPTSD etc and yeah, BPD can be a problem once it's on your file, so find a good doctor who knows their shit. This is not a fun condition to have. Around 10% of people with BPD are estimated to die by suicide, a rate far higher than the average. - Fun right!

The 9 criteria are:

Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment (Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behaviour covered in Criterion 5) - For me, I cut people off instantly or even before I get to know them. It is simply easier to be alone than risk being abandoned. Backwards isn't it? - If you've got into my circle somehow you're probably off the wall fucking nuts (like me). I will push people away to prove I'm right and that they will abandon me because that's easier to manage.

A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterised by alternating between extremes of idealisation and devaluation - When I had my break, I became obsessed with a guy I knew. His emotions dictated my emotions. If he was happy, I was happy (you get the picture.) - If he worried about me, I felt validated and so I spiraled. How worried could I get him to be? When he didn't answer or didn't reply in the way I wanted, he became an asshole in my world. (splitting) Instantly he'd be cut off, or he'd be goaded into speaking with me until I was happy with him again. This went on for months.

Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self - See Nana. This is a difficult one to explain without it getting depressing. I have no concept of who I am as a person. If you ask about core values, I don't know. If you ask about hobbies, I'll usually mirror what's being presented in front of me. I have been so conditioned growing up to hold back that I build no connection unless it is acceptable, and now I'm older, I'm basically lost playing in masks. Yeah, enough on that...

Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g. spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating) (Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behaviour covered in Criterion 5) - Binge Eating and spending are my big two. I did drinking when I was younger. Sex is.... a topic...

Recurrent suicidal behaviour, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behaviour - I have not S/H'ed in over a motherfucking year! Does that mean I don't want to? Fuck no. I just don't have access to it.

Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g. intense episodic dysphoria, irritability or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days) - Like a fucking seesaw. You'll see it on my feed. Major depressive angst and then I'm wanting to fuck Rugan and Gale in some sort of super masc sandwich, all in the space of 3-4 hours. When I say a mood will pass, I fucking mean it.

Chronic feelings of emptiness - yeahhh. Self explanatory, right?

Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g. frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights) - I lose my shit pretty often. I've learnt how to bring it down, like I'm not one for temper tantrums and public displays. It's all internal and brewing constantly. Take, for example, the other night. I lost my shit over something really minor (simple insecurities causing me to lash out. I have since blocked the offender like a mature moron, even though they probably don't realise or even understand why. I'm still angry at them though.) - Either way, gives an idea of what it's sort of like in my head.

Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms - This hasn't been as big a problem as it was during my breakdown. At that point, I'd travel to work and could not tell you how I got there. I still have moments of dissociation which are problematic, but it's manageable.

Anyway - That's the 9 and as you see, I get a nice big tick next to each one. People with BPD pretty much always have a nice trauma backstory to boot as well.

Personal things that bother me. Someone questioning my diagnosis. A big thing with BPD (at least for me) is validation. Having someone say my diagnosis could be wrong doesn't help me when my sense of identity is so fucked. I trust my doctors. They were thorough and they have so many more years of experience than google.

The other thing is the "my ex had, my MIL had..." Did they? Or are you just doing some arm chair psychology to explain why they were a jerk and as such preventing people like me from getting real help due to stigma? On this note - 7 psychiatrists I went through before one would even agree to see me, simply based on a potential diagnosis. Patients would be easier to work with if Drs didn't have preconceived ideas before we walked through the door.

Oh, one last thing of annoyance - FP's (Favourite person) - I fucking hate this term. You see, the obsession thing earlier - That's technically what this was, but thanks to tiktok and other social media sites some people like to RP mental illnesses now and FP's are their fucking lives. I just.... bug bear rage there.

So yeah, that's me. That's my essay on my mental health and over sharing for the week, and possibly an explanation for why things have been so erratic recently.

[thiswaycomessomethingwicked]

you know, I think that all the murder business in aknh-morpork would once again plummet if vetinari let downey and his people do their job again. he initially made the assassins' guild and thieves' guild legal for crime prevention and let them deal with people who performed unlicensed inhumation/theft. and then he got a new favourite toy in vimes and was like "actually no guys, let him do it, it's funny" "people are dying, dog-botherer."

Right??

Downey and Boggis are all about crime prevention. Cops aren't, by their very nature. They're reactive.

If the Assassins and Thieves' approach to prevention is colourful and florid—especially if you like the colour red—it is hardly their fault that this is what works best.

--

Vetinari: To be fair, Downey, under your methodology people still die.

Downey: Correct, but it's a lot less of them and it's all far more efficient. Plus, I make more money.

Vetinari: I'm not sure I can put "Lord Downey makes more money" into my cost-benefit-analysis chart on how to better approach crime prevention and reduction.

Downey: Look, if you do it my way, the city saves money! There's less murder, since everyone knows who will come for them in the dark of night if they're a little too knife happy. Or the bright of the day, I like shaking it up. With less murder the city spends less on the police budget, less on food and board for prisoners, and the hang-man might need a second job. It's a win-win, really.

Vetinari: I think some people might contest that point.

Downey: Just. Think about it, babe.

--

Downey argues that fine, fine, if they can't get regular-degular murderers, can they at least get serial killers. He had so much fun hunting down that guy the last time! It was a highlight in his recent life!

Vetinari says he'll think about it. He wants to know what Downey constitutes as a serial killer. Downey is like, 'anyone who has killed, in a sequential manner, more than two people. If it's a mass killing, I'll leave that to the Watch. Unless it happens more than once. Then it drops into serial killer bucket.'

Vetinari points out that this is a very low bar. The scope is wider than the ocean. The Assassins' Guild could lump so many people into that category. Really, if it's so broad, Vetinari isn't sure the definition is entirely useful. Downey beams at him.

[hashtag-xolo]

I'm happy and really excited.

I was fielded a private client with a reactive dog. A pandemic puppy who has grown into an anxious mini schnauzer.

After getting to know the client, the dog, and what their lives look like I made up a detailed list of recommendations they could implement in their own in addition to the training and behavior modification we will be doing. I explained that I knew she might not be able to do everything on the list but I'd rather give a lot of options off the bat and whittle it down etc

And the client is really excited and clearly so passionate about helping her little dog be happier and more comfortable. She's already implemented a bunch of the suggestions and was really happy because she herself could tell how happy these changes made her dog right off the bat. She seems like she really wants to do more than just distract her dog around triggers so I'm really eager to see where this will go

I love my job a lot guys

[fbwzoo]

Hiiii

I know you guys recently adopted a fearful dog, Emma, and I had a few questions. I dunno if you heard about it, but about 200 (well, less than that but some had litters) rough and smooth coat collies were rescued from a hoarder in Illinois.

We adopted one, he's about a year or so old and he's pretty good about things. He has no issues with us touching him or holding his legs, paws, ears, etc. or looking in his mouth, and he's getting used to us petting him and even cuddles with us.

But do you have any tips for getting him used to... Everything else? Any sort of strange object or noise makes him lose his mind. He constantly barks at cars (he's only ever lived out in the country), he's terrified of things like water bottles, boxes, etc.

Our other dog, a smooth collie who's 2 years old and actually came from a reputable breeder, is also really snippy with him. He snarls at him constantly, if Blackjack does something to upset him he'll snarl at him and then get up and FOLLOW him, continuing to snarl at him. Thankfully Jack does not care even remotely about this.

It's not total aggression or anything, they still play with each other and chase each other around, I think it's just that Max isn't used to being woken up from his naps and he's grumpy lol.

Do you have any tips for helping Blackjack be less fearful, and getting Max to stop being a grumpy turd? Do you think putting Max upstairs in his crate for longer naptimes would help? If you don't know how to deal with Max that's totally fine, I was just wondering since you guys have introduced dogs to each other before and might have dealt with them being grumps.

I love seeing updates on Emma and I'm so happy she's doing well with you guys <3 I love the videos of her and Spring zooming around in the yard.

Here's a picture of the snooty boys, this is the first day we had Blackjack home and he was brave enough to come cuddle with me. Jack is the one on the couch and Maxwell is the one oozing out of his bed

Hello!!

Thank you for adopting Blackjack & giving him such a comfy couch for naps!! He's adorable, and so is Max!

The biggest advice I've gotten, from everyone I've talked to, has been Go Slow. I'm not sure how long you've had Jack, but seeing that the case was just in August last year, I'm guessing not too long. It often takes a rescue dog a while to settle in regardless of their circumstances, and one who's not been exposed to much or has been in iffy circumstances may take much, much longer. It's best to take more time and not push rather than go too quickly with something and cause a relapse.

That's great that he's doing so well with touching and handling from the humans! That's a big step and helps a lot with daily care. Since he sounds like he's being reactive to most other new things, I would do what you can to limit the things that trigger the reactivity - you may need to block windows, stick to just yard time instead of walks, or maybe walks very early or late, or designating a Safe Room where you avoid bringing in things he reacts to so he can relax. Not permanently, but for the time being while he tries to adjust to big changes & so you can slowly start work on desensitization to different things.

Two major recommendations - get a no-aversives trainer experienced with fearful dogs to work with your family & both dogs. I'm extremely new to dog training, but everything I've read and been told is that aversive training added to fear will make things much worse very quickly. You want someone who can help you figure out a good method and schedule to desensitize Jack to his fears slowly & carefully, without further overwhelming him. It may very well take months to address the reactivity and help him learn new ways of managing his responses.

A good trainer will also be able to help with managing Max and both dogs to keep things more peaceful. While it's great that Jack has just been ignoring Max's aggression, it's still definitely a big concern, especially that Max will follow & try to continue the behavior. I have literally no experience in this area other than some reading, so really really stress getting a good trainer. I worry that as Jack settles in more & matures, he may stop tolerating Max trying to pick a fight & then you'll have a Problem. It would be best to try and prevent this kind of situation until you can get someone to help you with it so it doesn't escalate.

My second recommendation - it might be worth talking to your vet and see what they think about medication for Jack. Without seeing him or knowing how often he's reacting, what kind of state he's in most of the day, etc, I don't know if it would be a good call for him or not, but it doesn't hurt to ask. Anxiety meds may help him relax a little so he can focus better and actually learn.

Also, this is no substitute for the above suggestions, but I found this Facebook group for owners of fearful dogs & have been really happy with it! They stress the same approach as my trainers that are experienced with fearful dogs, which is very reassuring. And it's just really nice to see other people who are in similar boats with their dogs, celebrating little things that are actually huge milestones, etc.

[dayundying]

^ he is having a wretched night

Alphonse was gagging and choking because he swallowed his fur or the stuffing of one of his toys or something so I thought "I guess I'll take him on a walk so a) he doesn't throw up on our belongings and b) he can eat some grass and feel better" but I wasn't feeling very partial to walking him, I was just outside with him, so I decide to grab a bag of his walk treats so he actually pays attention to me, put on his harness, I couldn't find his non-bulky leash that I could, IN THE WORST CASE CIRCUMSTANCE clip to his harness and just drag him home if he wasn't listening to me.

THE WORST CASE CIRCUMSTANCE HAPPENED IN WHERE I WOULD NEED TO DO THIS! It is 1 am and some guy starts walking his reactive pitbull, Alphonse really likes other dogs so he's running around, making the dog bark SO LOUDLY AT HIM. I'm yelling at Alphonse, trying to call him back, trust me, I'm mortified! And the guy is wrangling his dog and I see him waving his leg at Alphonse, this man is trying to kick my dog away! What the fuck! Alphonse is not doing any actual harm, neither is his dog, the guys dog is barking and Alphonse is confused. I get Alphonse to leave very quickly and I'm walking him back to our apartment as this takes place around an apartment building, making him follow me with a treat in my hand, cause he follows perfectly when I do that! Theres a corner turn and when I'm almost at the door to where I live, I find out the guy, still walking his dog turned the corner specifically to talk to me, hes some ways away, he wasn't breathing down my neck BUT HE STILL TRIED TO FOLLOW ME HOME! He speaks out to me, saying if I get my parents we can talk this out like adults. He knows I'm a child, he's adressing me as one, does he think hes in the right following some child home, some kid, trying to walk his dog in peace? I wasn't trying to commence a dog fight, I evacuated and went home as soon as there was another dog, I can't see that as something you need to chastise my parents about.

I just ran back home with Alphonse, I was so freaked out that minutes after getting inside my heart was still pounding. What the actual fuck. Again this happened at ONE IN THE MORNING!!!

At the end of the day, we're okay, my parents are rightfully upset at the guy, not me. I'm just feeling paranoid and Alphonse is a little confused about what happened, but he got food so he's happy- probably.

[thebigbadspike]

//I wasn't as tired when I got home but then I ate some of my dinner and now I just want to lay down and not move

My first class of the day went so well today though (and boss man is on vacation so didn't have to deal with him) and I'm really excited for this pup and his mum to keep doing great work and grow as a team, when I got to the crypt tonight I just started telling the s/o all about the progress we've made with this dog and whatnot I'm so proud of this little guy and so happy that his mum (who has never owned a dog before) is so awesome and open to learning anything/everything and dedicated. She keeps expressing how greatful she is for my help because she was so worried that his anxiety and reactivity wasn't going to get better but man you can see the change in this dog after just a few sessions

[2n2n]

OK. I can think about chapter 100 now!!! I've had sex calmed down.

What a fun time we're having, and what an awful guy Kou can be wwwwww....

shoutout to, me calling Kou emotionally like a 5 year old (compared to Amane being a 13 year old...), and him right now represented as an extremely young child having a tantrum... god what an epic drag!!! THANK you AidaIro!!

very cool and good of Mitsuba, I'm really liking him more than ever... drag him.... this is so good... perceive it....

this guy again....

screaming defensive guy when he's upset...

I love the painful impact of this line

Mitsuba not thinking of himself as special, so much as Kou's general heroism means he's concerned ... Mitsuba can't congeal a thought like "I'm special to you" "me going away forever would make you distinctly and uniquely upset".... I like seeing it hit Kou painfully because it's not true, it's not 'like anyone', but, he's not brave enough to just say that.

and now the award for most inappropriate thing anyone's ever called a suicidal person who has no motivation to live,,

GRAND PRIZE WINNER KOU, UNIMAGINABLE RUDENESS FROM A 5 YEAR OLD... ohhh of course Mitsuba's phrasing just sets of Kou's shitty reactive behavior!! Well, I love Mitsuba trying to explain that he wants departing to be special occasion, for someone to be sad and emotional about it .... major Rasphard swag. Love that for you, Mitsuba... such a 'midway' fantasy, you know? As I've said before, there are such 'rungs' of desire, what one can imagine for themselves can be so small and feeble, unable to conceptualize grander things... we are nowhere near a real hopeful dream from Mitsuba. He is trying to be happy with dying in a significant manner.

Mitsuba I wonder the same thing. Like Kou do you really understand the implications, here? Of YOu accusing Mitsuba of like, asking you to help him out with his fetish, wanting to die by your hand being somehow a perverted thing, like, back the hell up, I DON'T THINK YOU THOUGHT THAT THROUGH... I mean of course you didn't, you don't, but seriously, now.....

rauruhg... this is so lurid... this is the most rawly I've liked Mitsuba, I love his vigor and insistence on making Kou do this to him, this thing that would greatly upset Kou to do, and Mitsuba wants to get to see Kou be upset the whole time, wants it to be him because how upset he will be. This is, decadent.. this is incredible. Really good job, Mitsuba... your misery has crystalized in such an interesting fantasy ... you'd love to haunt someone's memory finally.... to be grieved always, in the guilty heart of Kou. Ugh, epic....

UNPRECEDENTED SECOND AWARD FOR WORST THING TO POSSIBLY SAY TO SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO DIE

feeling free and fine physically harming someone because "you wanna end it anyway right?" like omfg, you're really turning this into some kind of masochism in your brain Kou, PLEASE UNDERSTAND IT'S A ROMANTIC KIND OF FANTASY ... you're the equivalent of a vet putting down a sick dog, NOT A SEMI TRUCK SMASHING INTO A GUY, or,, a BDSM dungeon master,, OK..... I can't believe how awful you can be, please, you're so lucky Mitsuba is so desperate that he will have you, you behave so crudely and without any grace or romanticism............ know that like I love what we're doing here, narratively, but if this was my OTP I'd be dying, like please can you let a moment be beautiful, for 3 seconds.... I can't live like this, I'm too sentimental, Kou is such a violently unromantic person.... making hananene and amatsuka look so graceful....

EGREGIOUS.... childish....

a very nice Mitsuba!!! and... what a sentiment. Ahahaha... your standards are... so low Mitsuba... </3 Kou IS better than a big stinky fish, I guess.... congratulations on having some standards....

crazy crazy sentiment... "I sure am dangerous" oh I love it. Mitsuba...! This is such a great and interesting place to be about your status....

I like the reality of this explained out simply... and it guilts Kou in a way I have been waiting for-- I wish he could really understand this, and feel guilty for every time he's just placidly spending lunchtime with his buddies, relaxing with Teru and Tiara, while Mitsuba is all alone... (and then if Mitsuba playfully tries to find a way to join him, Kou might be pissy and annoyed, and has no perception of WHY he acted out for attention... he has never truly understood how miserable Mitsuba is, despite everything--!!!!!!!)

[Mitsuba feeling wanting, lonely, left out...]

[Kou just being a screaming animal about it blasting Mitsuba]

Even if we look at Mitsuba and think, "he has friends!", the reality to Mitsuba himself is different. Nobody asks for him specifically, and none of it is enough to compensate for the pain and guilt and shame he experiences for existing. It's all too small to effect any of that agony. Not a reason to stay clung to the shore... all the effort of it ... its not that he's ungrateful for the little he does have, it's just not nearly a distraction enough, for all the time he spends doing unpleasant and awful things, or languishes alone....

UURHRHGGH THIS IS LIK E YES YES [most excited I've been all chapter] YES YE ES YES SCHOOL FESTIVAL ARC YES YES YES YES WHAT ARE WE GONNA RUN WITH HANAKO!!! PLEASE WHAT DOES HE DO AT FESTIVALS, I BET HE LOVES HAUNTING PLACES!!!! oohghr so much FUN POTENTIAL!!! please god Yugis playing together ... I don't know how old the tradition of cultural festivals are, and a cursory search right now isn't helping, so, I wonder if the Yugi ever attended one when alive (not a high school ran one obviously, since they didn't make it there).... but Hanako at least has existed in the building with them, I wonder if he has fun in some manner.... I wonder what Nene will want to do, she's such a fun and creative and playful girl--!!!!!! And her and Hanako together can be so playful, eeee excited ... ><!!!

I'm excited if Mitsuba and Kou will be together for this, because it also isolates Nene with Hanako >> I loved how Picture Perfect split them off, so, I'd love a reprise of that arrangement >> << >> sorry Kou but like, get out............................. I'm not one of those 'toilet trio' people ................................................... I want HanaNene......... and I want the opportunity for Nene alone with Hanako and Tsukasa-- EEEEVEN just the potential is enough for me, even if it won't happen ...... ! well, the dream would be both the Yugi messing around with people at the festival and secretly colluding with each other, you know....

glad we end with Mitsuba able to be playful about his affliction...

hows about you put those housewife qualities to some good use, eh, Kou? Don't you feed your family all the time.... you'd be better suited to being in charge of feeding Mitsuba, and maybe you'd take your little job more seriously if it was more like a wolf bringing pheasants home for your pup.... lets give Tsukasa a break on playing caretaker.... he's just meant to be the cute little brother Amane protects, you know, he's not really enriched by this caretaking thing, like you....

[kimmysurveyblog]

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1 - What have you been up to so far today? Is that a typical thing for you to do on this particular day of the week? The only "exciting" thing I've done so far today is take my daughter to the park. Very typical.

2 - Did you get a decent night’s sleep last night? How many hours sleep do you consider a decent amount?  I actually slept like absolute shit lol. 4 hours maybe? I aim for at least 7.

3 - What is one silly thing that really gets on your nerves?  Reactive dogs. Dogs that chill in their yard or house and bark like crazy when you walk by. I've never had a dog that's reactive like that and it just really grinds my gears every time it happens.

4 - Who was the last person you saw who wasn’t family? What did you guys end up doing together?  None of my friends live in my city anymore sooo... the dentist.

5 - Do you prefer hot or cold drinks overall?  Cold.

6 - Do you own a decent set of waterproofs? If so, what do you use them for the most? If not, do you think that would be something you’d find useful?  Waterproof what? I have many waterproof things.

7 - Do you have any plans for the rest of the day?  My daughter wiped out at the park, slept poorly last night and we think she's teething so I will be pampering her for the rest of the day once she's up from her nap. Very chill afternoon.

8 - How often do you get your hair cut? When hairdressers were closed due to COVID, did you try cutting it yourself at home?  I started cutting my hair during COVID and I will never be going back. It's just not worth the money or time when my hair is in a bun 99.9% of the time anyway.

9 - What did you wear the last time you left the house? Is that different to what you’re wearing at the moment? I wore black sweatpants and a green hoodie. No.

10 - Would you rather have a relaxing beach holiday or a more active holiday in the mountains?  Mountains! The beach and warm weather isn't my thing.

11 - Do you know how to tie a tie?  Nope.

12 - How old were you when you first had a sleepover at someone’s house? Did you miss home?  I don't remember. Probably around 8? I always got homesick.

13 - How often do you spend time with your extended family? Once a month, maybe.

14 - When you get up in the morning, do you have a set routine?  Exact same every day.

15 - Do you remember the last time you cried? Were they sad or happy tears?  30 minutes ago. My daughter has a goose egg from her fall and I've been sobbing on and off since it happened. She's okay thank god. I wish my mom was alive so I could call her and talk about it. Just having a really shitty day.

16 - What do you have planned once you finish this survey? Scroll on Reddit until my daughter wakes up.

17 - What was the last thing you cooked? Did you cook from scratch or just heat something up? I made toast. Not really cooking.

18 - Are you a fan of hot chocolate? Do you like it plain or do you prefer to add things like whipped cream or marshmallows?  I like marshmallows.

19 - What caused your last injury?  I'm not sure tbh.

20 - How many tattoos and piercings do you have? Do any of them have an interesting story behind them?  My ears are pierced.

21 - What kind of flowers do you like the best? When was the last time someone bought those for you?  Roses. When my mom died, one of my close friends sent over a beautiful bouquet of them.

22 - What’s the smallest thing you’ve ended a relationship over?  He was super immature.

23 - Would you rather order a starter (appetiser) or a dessert? Or would you be able to manage a full three courses? Appetizer. Not a fan of sweet things.

24 - How do you get most of your news, if you pay attention to it at all?  Reddit.

25 - Have you or a member of your family been diagnosed with COVID yet?  For sure. We've somehow avoided it so far. -knocks on wood-

26 - Are you a vegetarian? If so, what persuaded you to stop eating meat? If not, is it something you’d ever consider?  No, and I'd not really consider it. I do want to try to incorporate more meatless meals into our meal plan though.

27 - Do you prefer rice or pasta? Pasta.

28 - Is anything you’re wearing a gift? Who bought it for you?  Fitbit my mom bought me.

29 - What’s the dominant colour in the room you’re in at the moment?  Beige.

30 - Did you do laundry yet today? If not, do you need to do any before you go to bed?  No and I was going to but I've decided it can wait until tomorrow.

[fayeandknight]

Today was a good day.

Was able to recall both dogs off a stray cat that bolted out of the yard. And they played really nicely for the hour we were out there.

After a break inside I took Forte to the dam for training. Last time we were there he was so distracted I had to scrap training and just do a sniff walk. This time he was a little distracted at first but focused on me more and more we worked. I kept it fun, lots of food and toy rewards, and stuck to easy cues he knows well - mostly sits and calls to heel.

Then I switched to working on llw/engagement. On our way to the actual dam I decided to switch his harness out for his vest since I didn't want people letting their dogs approach him. I think he's starting to understand that the vest means he needs to be more focused because he took himself down a notch and really paid attention to matching my pace. We even got in some orbits in motion which was super cool!

Came back home and he napped while I played with Faye for a while.

Then I remembered I needed to go to the grocery store. I hate going to the grocery store. It's such a struggle for me, no matter how short the trip. Cue internal debate about whether or not I should take Forte.

On the one hand he's gotten really good at blocking and having space makes a huge difference for me. On the other hand, I feel very pressured to have my dog behave impeccably around food other people will buy.

So I picked up his vest and asked Forte if he wanted to work. He jumped up from the floor he was half asleep on and put his head through the strap. Faye was always gear shy and while he's definitely not, it gave me feelings to see him so enthusiastic about it.

He was a bit distracted coming out of the car so we just practiced heeling and being attentive outside for about 5 minutes before going in. He was a rockstar. Heeling nicely even when my hands were full and I stopped rewarding him with food.

Also shout-out to the veteran told me to cut in line ahead of him at the self checkout (I had three items) and said he (Forte) was doing a good job watching my back. I get the feeling that man understood Forte's job more than your average person.

So yeah, today was a good day.

[itsmaferart]

SxF · · Ep 15 · · · Welcome home, Bond

We're back with another Spy x Family Saturday, culminating with the bomb dog arc. And the anime really strives to put its own spin on each of these wonderful scenes.

Twilight, the hot Westalis spy in action!

Not only did he manage to save the life of the innocent dog that was only being used as a weapon, but he also foiled the terrorists' plan.

The best part of the case is that if the villain escaped, Yor Forger, his wife, appears with a pirouette in the air, and her powerful kick will destroy a car, leaving the villain totally defeated.

Yor: I'm just a simple stay-at-home mom who happened to be passing by, and I stopped the bad guy with a kick.

I've always loved how unwittingly Twilight and Yor are an amazing team, managing to take down each other's bad guys without even knowing they're collaborating. I bet they'll be so much more amazing when they know their identities!

I love it, as Twilight is manifesting her paternal facets more naturally. He is a strict father who must be stern to make his daughter understand that he put her life in danger.

He obviously does not know that his daughter saved his life that day, so his reaction is natural.

Likewise, at the end, he is so genuinely grateful to the dog (Bond) for being his daughter's protector. It really doesn't matter how much he says it, he is genuinely grateful that in his absence they protect his daughter's safety.

Bond fell in love with Papa Loid!

What Anya said: If they don't let me keep this puppy I'm going to misbehave and not come back to school.

What Silvia and Twilight heard: I'm going to reactivate a war between East and West

Bond, you will finally get all the love you deserve! ❤

These two little angels, who have been treated like lab mice, found a home!

I love the one that filtered shoujo always tells us when the characters look with love the authentic happiness of those brief moments.

But going a little deeper, to some darker memories:

Bond's gaze simply breaks my soul, doubting that happiness. Questioning if all this is real, if he really has finally reached that glimmer of hope.

This whole sequence is heartbreaking, Bond being mistreated while we see his melancholy eyes. Project Apple's experiments eventually succeeded in giving him powers, but at the cost of his freedom, all for the purpose of encouraging a war.

We have here, the second appearance (in memories) of the man with glasses and a tuft of hair. The scientist (Whose name may be Hapoon) who experimented on Anya, and seems to be involved in the Apple project. I feel this is a clue that Anya and Bond may have the same origin.

Conveniently, Anya did not see Bond's mind at those moments, believing he was just hungry. For surely she would recognize this man

But don't worry Bond, you're home

You will be safe at Anya's side

You are now a Forger!!

Next part here

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[fruitless-vain]

Hey sorry for the big text ahead but I really appreciate you and how you treat all of your animals and I want to get it out to someone that understands. We have a family dog that has been with my parents all of his years. (Me and my sis moved out and he stayed with them because they too wanted him) Mixed breed and is now 11 years old.

Thing is theyve been using all the wrong approaches and ended up reinforcing his extreme reactiveness to: doorbell, door knocking, even elevator sounds! Guests, and pedestrians sometimes. They cannot adress this calmly and were super stressed with it so I took him now at my place so I can help them relax. And oh boy I'm trying all sorts of things I've researched on. And oh boy it's so challenging.

I'm looking for a trainer now because I don't think I can do it on my own. Do you think we'll have luck?

Reactivity is definitely one heck of a road! It’s a lot of trying different things and seeing what procedures and management protocols really have the most benefit for you all as a team. And that can get exhausting, frustrating, and disheartening on bad days but honestly? Super worth it. Watching a dog that’s struggled with being anxious, stressed and fearful develop confidence and joy around their triggers and really begin to enjoy their days, truly relax, and get to just be a happy dog without all that anxiety riddling her brain is so rewarding.

I found that taking time to reflect on each session and really make sure to point out the “wins” (even if they seem small at the time) is really helpful in keeping me motivated to keep moving forwards. Even if you have a really bad reactivity day there’s always a touch of progress to remember, how close they were to a trigger before they reacted, how quickly they came down after the reaction, how the reaction impacted the rest of the day, how they handled things prior to the reaction occurring, or even how you handled the reaction, how you responded, and your own response time for utilizing management (even if it failed, getting that routine in place is a win!).

It takes a lot of time, it takes a lot of patience, and it is absolutely a toll on your own mental health at times, don’t forget that decompression days are just as important for you as it is for your dog!

It’s confusing as heck when you’re just getting started, and frustrating! But once you get a good routine in place things do get easier. Especially if you can find a good trainer to work with, their knowledge and resources are invaluable!

I think as long as you’re willing to try, you guys can absolutely make some incredible progress!

((And I’m always here if you want someone to vent to/ share your successes/ process your thoughts with!))

[doctorporkchop02]

Underswap Ruins Map Layout (Rough Sketch) and the Events of the new Incinerate Ruins.

So I made a little Doodle of the Map layout for the new version of Incinerate Ruins... Well I can't really call it Incinerate Ruins any more. So after months of struggling to find a theme for a Summer Version of the Ruins, I decided to get rid of the Volcano and Desert theme and instead go for a... Drum roll please...

AN AMUSEMENT PARK THEME!!!

Yep, I decided to make Incinerate Ruins a mix of the Ruins from Undertale and an Amusement Park with Rollar Coasters, Bouncy Floors, other stands for little games the monsters could play for prizes, Balloons and other decorations everywhere, and at the very end of it, a giant Circus Tent runned by the one and only Hapstablook!!!

Actually, the Rollar Coasters and other stuff was all Hapstablook idea so not only could the Catacombs be more Lively and Exciting, but it also gives him an excuse to appease his own ego, by putting posters and statues everywhere, and making the prizes in the games themed after Hapstablook... because of course of course Hapstablook would do something like that.

But yeah, I don't have a name for this new version of the Ruins yet, but I'm happy with this and I hope you like the change too. But I guess I should go through this doodle and explains what's going to happen...

Okay, so when you first start off, Chara is laying down on their stomach on a bed of Golden Flowers, reminiscent of Undertale's Intro.

But Chara gets up, shakes their head, looks up where they fell down, and starts walking through a long hallway and goes through a giant door. Then Chara encounters the Temmie Dolls where She introduces herself, offers to give you a Tutorial like Flowey's Tutorial in Undertale, and then they {DOG!} and {DOG!} and barely leaves Chara at 1 out of 20 HP, but where Asgore comes in a shooes Temmie away with a Fireball, Introduces himself, realizes Chara is hurt, and offers to guide you through the Ruins.

Chara follows King Fluffybuns and finds themself in an area similar to Undertale's Weird Stair Room, and is also where Chara finds their first Save Point, after that Chara and Asgore go through the door at the end of the room and... Asgore realizes the Puzzles have been reactivated mysteriously and then says...

Asgore: Oh my, those pesky kids must have reactivated the puzzles again. I'm afraid I am going to have to have another chat with Mrs. Eyewalker again.

(Asgore then turns around and faces Chara)

Asgore: I apologize child, but it seems like we are going to have to do some puzzles into order to proceed. Thankfully, the puzzles here are not going to be too hard, I have a feeling that you are a very smart child and can solve this puzzle easily. I have faith in you, now go child, go and push those... boxes...

Asgore: Ho ho ho. Maybe I should ask that young fellow if he could help me make this puzzles more exciting.

So now Chara has to do a Box puzzle similar to the ones from Deltarune. It's not complicated at all and when Chara pushes both of the boxes to the two "X" Spots, the Spikes blocking the way deactivate and Chara and Asgore can proceed.

Then Asgore stops and says...

Asgore: Now Child, I'm sure that you are aware that I am not the only monster down here, and like how that doll did before, monsters may try to attack you... but I assure you that it is nothing personal.

Asgore: It's just that monsters have not seen a human in years, centuries even, and your soul is... well very valuable, monsters may try to take your soul, and I am not sure if I will be able to protect you from them. But that is why I am going to teach you how to defend yourself if a monster were to attack you. While I am far too old to teach you myself, I have someone else who can assist me with that.

(Asgore gestures Chara towards Mad Dummy)

Asgore: Now I suggest that you try to only talk and spare the monsters that attack you, so you can end the fight peacefully, you might even make a few friends afterwards. I also suggest that you only resort to Violence if it is absolutely necessary. But the monsters down here are very kind, so you will more than likely never need to resort to violence.

Asgore: Here, let's practice here on Mr. Dummy, now remember child, try to talk with him and then spare him. I wish you the best of luck child, although I do not think you need it, I bet you are a very kind child and I bet this will be as easy as pie for you. Hohoho.

Then the battle is initiated where "Fighting" Mad Dummy is really similar to "Fighting" the Ruins Dummy in Undertale. So let's just assume Chara tries to talk to Mad Dummy first.

-ACT > TALK

(Flavor Text: You say "Greetings" to the dummy... he doesn't seem up for a conversation.)

Mad Dummy: . . .

-ACT > TALK

(Flavor Text: You try talking to the Dummy again, he still doesn't seem up for a conversation, you and the Dummy just end up awkwardly staring at eachother for a while.)

Mad Dummy: . . .

Mad Dummy: . . . . . .

Mad Dummy: . . . . . . . . What?

Mad Dummy: What are YOU looking at?!

Mad Dummy: Yes!! I'm a Dummy!! I know!! I KNOW!!

Mad Dummy: How Rude of you to just walk up to me, say "GrEeTiNgS", not even asking me how my day has been by the way!!! Then!! THEN!!!!!! You just stare at me with that Creepy Face!!! How Awful!! How Despicable!!!!! How Disrespectful!!!!!!!!

Mad Dummy: Haven't your parents ever told you it's rude to stare at strangers?!?!?!?!? Do you not listen to your parents or something?!?!?! Awful!! Awful!!! AWFUL!!!! You should have more respect for your parents!!!!! They know much more and have lived much longer than YOU!!! You should listen to them more!!!!! You are such a bad seed!!! A Rotten Egg!!! A Despicable Whatever you are!!!!!!

Mad Dummy: Somebody around here should teach brats like you a lesson!!!!!! IN FACT, I'LL GIVE YOU A LESSON YOU'LL NEVER FORGET!!!!

(Mad Dummy Pulls out a Knife)

Mad Dummy: LESSON START!!!!!

(Mad Dummy throws the Knife at Chara, but Chara dodges the attack)

Mad Dummy: . . . . . I'm . . . . . Outta lessons . . .

(Asgore launches a Fireball towards Mad Dummy and yells "That's enough!"... but the Fireball actually hits Mad Dummy... The dummy is now on fire...)

(Mad Dummy Creepily Turns his head 180° And Slowly Floats towards Asgore...)

Mad Dummy/Burnt Dummy: . . . . .

Burnt Dummy: Did you. Just hit me. WITH A FIREBALL?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Burnt Dummy: WASTHATREALLYNECESSARYTODOOHMYGODOHMYGODYOUARESUCHAHYPOCRITESAYINGYOUSHOULDNEVERUSEVIOLENCEANDTHENYOUGOANDUSEVIOLENCEYOUAREJUSTASBADASTHISLITTLEBRATSERIOUSLYWHATISTHEMATTERWITHYOUDOYOUTHROWFIREBALLSATANYONEWHOISANGRYWHODOESTHATOBVIOUSLYLUNATICSLIKEYOUYOUHAVESERIOUSLYISSUESANDTHISMESSAGEISKINDAGETTINGABITTOLONGANDSOIAMJUSTGOINGTOENDTHISMESSAGEHEREANDIFYOUAREREADINGTHISTHENYOURANERDBUTSERIOUSLYFLUFFYGUYWHATISYOURPROBLEM-

(Burnt Dummy gets hit by an oncoming Rollar Coaster Car and gets carried away.)

(Both Asgore and Chara are wide eyed... o_o)

. . . Moving on . . . The next room is just a random room with a long hallway next to it, but there are three lone Cardboard Boards in the corner and a Cardboard Stand that says "TeM!!1!1!" On it with Marker. But when Chara and Asgore walk down the long hallway, Chara gets a Forced Encounter with a Whimsun and instead of Asgore glaring at the Whimsun like how Toriel does with Froggit in Undertale, Asgore politely asks Whimsun to not attack Chara, which Whimsun does and Flutters away awkwardly, after that is the Invisible Spike Path Puzzle thing, where Asgore gives Chara Piggyback ride while walking through the Spike Path.

After that is sadly the end of what I have right now for the new Incinerate Ruins, the next room is just a big Room filled with Tables, Balloons, and other stands with games for the Monsters to play and to the very left of the room is the legendary "Candy Bowl of Amazingness" where it acts basically the same as the Candy Bowl from Undertale...

... Yeah that's all I have for right now, if you have any ideas on things to be added or changed in the first part of Incinerate Ruins, lemme know.

I really hope you guys like what I have so far, because I know that I do.

But as always, I hope you guys have an awesome rest of your day/night.

[starswift-borzoi]

Hey, I sent you a message about putting in an application for Lola's litter on FB (I'm Kae Hancock). We do have the house now and have plans to put in a fence as well, when would be best to put in an application? I'd also like to know if you feel a particular type of fence is best?

Yes, you can fill out the application when ever you get the chance. It will help when I start contacting people to see who is still interested, etc. Fencing you want to make sure there they can’t impale themselves on something. Make sure all corners and edges are secured. I’ve had dog tear themselves open on chainlink. I have privacy fencing. with the wood kind you have to make sure that the boards are secure and they can’t push on them to escape. Most pre made panels are only nailed in place and over time a dog can push the board free. They can and will eat the boards if able. Borzoi loooove wood. Vinyl fence  is probably the most secure and safe, however, the most expensive. If you live on a corner or an area where there is a lot of foot traffic I would def suggest 6 ft privacy fence. People are idiots and will let their dogs tease yours. Borzoi if teased often will become aggressive towards certain people and dogs. For instance in my first house there was a guy that would drive by slowly and let his dog hang out of the window of his car and bark at my dogs. My dogs became very reactive towards cars. There was also stupid kids that would walk by and blow cigarette smoke in my dogs faces. Bartleby HHHHAAAAAATTTEEEEEDDDD smokers with a passion and would viciously bark at anyone that even smelled like cigarette. Other yards you back up and share a fence line with also benefit from privacy fence. My neighbors 2 properties over had a dog that came over and fence fought with my dogs all the time. My dogs suffered some injuries because of the dog and I asked them to please stop allowing their dog to come over. They thought it was cute to let their dog roam and run the fence line with my dogs because she “got exercise” and she was “just playing”. I told them my dogs weren’t. Eventually they moved. New neighbors moved in and now have the electronic fencing. I made the decision to put up the privacy fence because I couldn’t stand how upset my dogs would get. Now they barely pay any attention to the dogs on the property next to me. If you don’t have ANY of that to worry about...then you can go with 5ft-6ft welded wire (cheapest option) or no climb horse fencing. I also use a privacy screen along the areas of my property with welded wire fencing. Happy to answer any additional questions you may have.