#I’m not perfect by any means
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Hi. I don’t know what to title this. But I think I kind of just wanted to make a post to warn??? Inform??? People, especially minors, about what this community and lowkey just individuals in general can be like and about how it’s affected me.
For those of you who are newer or just didn’t know, I made my blog and “officially” joined this community when I had turned 17. I had a previous background of being on kik where I had met people similar to me and just made me feel better about the way I was. Do I think 17 is too young to be on this site? Absolutely not. Do I think that there are certain precautions people, especially minors, should take? Absolutely I do.
I had left kik because it was becoming very draining for me. Those of you who have ever had kik and interacted with knismos probably know what I mean. I absolutely wasn’t practicing the safe behavior that I should have been, and I let myself be taken advantage of time and time again at the mere ages of 15-16. I knew better. But manipulation and abuse are things young people are especially susceptible to, especially a kid who wasn’t really receiving a healthy amount of attention at home.
So then I turned 17 and moved to tumblr. I just liked it. I made my cute little blog and was eager to make better friends who would treat me with dignity and respect. This was when tumblr group chats were still a thing, and so I joined a pretty popular tickling group chat. At the time all ages were allowed. And I was happy for a while, I made friends and became especially good friends with the owner of the group chat. At the time, he was 20.
I became infatuated with him. It wasn’t healthy by any means, and it was gross. However, I don’t believe that it was my fault anymore. He was absolutely flirting with me, rationing his attention in a way that left me desperately craving more, even sending me gifts from time to time. I told him everything, he knew everything that made me tick and how to draw me in slowly but surely.
Here’s the thing. He had a girlfriend. I did not know this. I knew he had been flirting with another girl, sure, but he was so off and on with her that I really didn’t know what to believe. And so he starts getting more public in his flirtations with me; reblogging my posts, tagging me in gifs, mentioning me in various posts. His girlfriend or her friends must have found out somehow, because on my 18th birthday I’m getting flamed through asks and getting sent death threats on how I’m disgusting and I’m a home-wrecker and that I should really just go. How confusing do you think that is for a young girl?
I confronted him about it. I was sick of putting up with and cleaning up after his messes. He tells me he’s sorry, that I don’t deserve it, that he’s going to fix it and that I didn’t do anything wrong. I know I didn’t. He’s been in the wrong all along. He preyed on me.
I was coerced into sending him photos. Videos. I was molded into this mess that couldn’t function normally without his approval. I was disgusted by myself and I didn’t know how to make things better. Eventually I cut him out of my life.
I think it’s important to add to this that I have never known a love that wasn’t abusive. I’m not saying this to make it better because it doesn’t. But I know how many young girls out there who are in the exact same situation I was. Please, please protect yourself. The idea of an older person making you feel good about yourself might seem appealing but I’m begging you. Don’t give into that. You will find other outlets that are healthy and right. You don’t have to fall into that cycle of abuse. And just know if you have/are going through that, it is not your fault. People that age know better. It doesn’t matter what excuse they give.
It’s worth saying that I’ve been through a couple more abusive relationships/friendships after that. This one person I was friends with, around two years ago, happened to be my age and I was eager to be ready to engage in friendships again. He ended up being the most emotionally abusive person I have ever had the displeasure of meeting. You get love bombed the first few months and then it gets turned into an endless cycle of torment.
My body wasn’t enough for him. He wanted more than my presence as a friend and so I had to change for him. Of course he would never outright say it, but being gently pressured over and over again to eat more, gain more weight, be less excited when I’m talking about things, only be happy when he’s the one giving me attention and following his rules. It was hell and I don’t know why I put up with it for so long.
I eventually cut him off too. I was an adult at this point and so was he but really abuse can happen at any age. I was definitely more susceptible to it considering how I was treated when I was 17, a child, but my point remains the same. I can’t tell you what to do. But all I ask is that you take the precautions to preserve your youth. Don’t make “friends” with adults in a community like this. Don’t let your life force get drained away by people who want to morph you into something you’re not. Be. Careful.
This was mostly just me having a therapeutic moment, but if you read this far, I hope it can help you in some way, too. And if you can relate to anything I said, I’m sorry. You deserve better than what you got and I only wish the best in the future for you. I love you. There are people out there who will treat you in a healthy way and there is so much more to life than the internet.
I guess it’s also reasonable for me to give props to people who have really changed my life for the better and that I’m super grateful for.
@still-not-rly-sure I love you and you’re a great friend, even if I suck at checking tumblr dms
@b-b-b-b-b-b-b-b I miss you and I’ve been a shitty friend recently when it comes to discord messages but you’re my first friend and I’ll always be grateful for you
And a suuuuper big thank you to my literal bestest friend right now @siastema-switch 🩷🩷 I love you so so much and I can’t even think of the words right now to describe how thankful I am for your friendship, your care, and your love. I’m very very excited to see you soon sweet girl
#jade speaks#the way spooky people can get you attached to their vicious cycle is something that should not be underestimated I can’t stress it enough#I’m not perfect by any means#but it wasn’t my fault. and it’s not yours either
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Why’s it so hard for people to hold multiple truths? I’m by no means perfect, but it frustrates me to no end when people refuse to see the ‘yes, and’s in existence. So much of life is a ‘yes, and’. One truth doesn’t invalidate another. It just makes it harder to have a plain answer. Embrace complication! It makes it easier to learn and grow.
Also no one reblog this to project on and put words in my mouth assuming that I’m talking about One Specific Issue, or think that by acknowledging that existence is, and has been, and always will be messy that I’m in some way giving a pass to allow people to hurt other people or something. Hate that I have to preemptively say that but.
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I watch a lot of old films and there’s something so attractive about women with a cigarette. Its use as a prop, as a means of characterisation, as an innuendo. My friends and I often joke “if smoking bad, why sexy.”
However I have no intention of ever smoking. It repulses me and I know for certain that there are people who would get really angry with me if I started. I don’t want to put myself at any risk.
At least for me, it feels similar to how I feel about guns. It can be fun onscreen, fun to play at having or holding, but the idea of using it in real life is repulsive
what's with the weird glorification of smoking that's come back lately
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I've seen so many posts that paint opposing smoking as some impossibly Loser-ish or puritanical stance and I really don't get it
it makes you, your house, and your clothing stink, destroys your teeth, and gives you lung cancer. opposing it is. Correct. obviously addiction is very complicated and quitting can be hard, but just saying "smoking is gross and harmful as a practice (including vaping)" is True and Right actually
some of you have never grown up hearing about how some beloved family member died a slow, agonized, wasting death of smoking-induced cancer, or watching it firsthand for yourself, and it shows
#I might be a bit rambly#I just woke up#but also a lot of my classmates smoke/vape and it’s kind of just “ew” for me#they spend so much money on it and all it does is hurt them#I’m not perfect by any means#but I tend to reach for sweets and crunchy little snacks before I consider a cancer stick#a friend of mine quitted recently and I’m so so proud of her#quitted. quitted. sounds like one of those words that ought to…. oh I can’t remember the word right now#susie dent save me#uhhhhhh. brain is saying quat and it’s making me giggle
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🔹 Anamnesis 🔹
[Cycle of the Stars au]
#zelda#legend of zelda#zelda au#loz au#zelda fanart#cycle of the stars#cycle of the stars au#cycle of the stars zelda#cycle of the stars link#link#au link#au zelda#cw: body horror#original legends#LoZ: original legends#daeyumi art#music is by the incredible @/ zebby.music on bsky!!#u can listen to the full piece on their youtube @/ zebby too- i’ll try to make a post linking to it as well#anyways holy hylia i can’t believe i finally finished this 😭😭😭#i started it in like. june?? & omg i’ve just been so busy since then#it’s not a perfect animatic by any means but i wanted to challenge myself to show an entire scene & i rly learned a lot#and i’m very proud of the result too
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I knitted a thing!!
Yes I will be wearing it E V E R Y W H E R E for the foreseeable ☺️
#I’ve never knitted a jumper before#so this was a challenge!#it’s not perfect by any means#but I’m SO happy with it#I’m going to make another in a different colourway#I love being able to turn yarn balls into a wearable garment#knitting#aesthetic#knitting blog#knitblr#yarn crafts#handmade
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one thing that really fascinates me about alex is his devotion to art – and more specifically, how he chooses to get some inspiration from scientific works of what he aims to implement in his art. every time one gets to examine some of his lyrics, or even how he explains these lyrics in an interview, they can be greeted by some bits of actual scientific information. an example is how he named his taquería on the moon with the term “information-action ratio”, coined by the critic neil postman, and referenced it in the song four out of five, something that might also indicate an interesting articulation with postman's concept. the line “cute new places keep on popping up”, for example, can express his well-known sardonic discontent regarding the flood of information being generated and transmitted over and over and, as much as it seems visually appealing and does give the idea of benefiting from advanced technologies, it doesn't really add anything substantial to the receiver's critical thinking – and worse, it distances the information receiver from the sender in a communication channel, according to postman.
what i'm saying with this interpretation is, it's known that alex is enamoured with the idea of gathering a bunch of references and condensing them into a mixture of metaphors in his writing, but it's so thrilling how, at times, we can find some bits of science inside of it – and it's even more exciting, just like playing a puzzle game, to find these references and analyse them by doing a similar research to what he did to create his works.
#alex turner#arctic monkeys#tranquility base hotel and casino#neil postman#well i hope this makes some sense#sorry for the grammar mistakes i’m very sleepy lol#as someone who works/studies in the information science field this is way too exciting for me and i just can't stop delving into it#i'm not even going to go further into how he builds actual personas - on and off-stage - to create albums. this is so admirable#and if this isn't the perfect example of someone who dedicates their whole life to art then i don't know what this is#*the 'may' 'can' 'might' verbs are written in italics to express an interpretation and not an actual fact regarding alex's work!#'cause it might mean none of these stuff lmao but it's just my interpretation of a work from an artist that i adore so much :)#in any case please feel free to reblog and/or reply to this post with your ideas on the matter i’d love to discuss more about it!!#jules.txt#jules.rar#references:#Postman; Neil. Amusing Ourselves to Death: Public Discourse in the Age of Show Business. New York: Penguin Books. 1985#<https://quote.ucsd.edu/childhood/files/2013/05/postman-amusing.pdf>
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Okay maybe the Coral Isles brainrot has got to me already…
#limited life#limited life smp#coral kids#mean gills#scott smajor#martyn inthelittlewood#i love them#they just have perfect vibes for any pirate/sailor and mythical sea creature trope#I feel like their pairing just fell perfectly into my rats SMP obsession and my pirate au that I’m working on#just aligned perfectly#also am I scared Martyn might see this#maybe#mostly just because I know this might be read as shippy#and it’s not really that#I mean you could read it as platonic or romantic#I don’t care#I just make cute arts#and then freak out inside#heheheh
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thank you @mafaldinablabla for the tag!! the game is to share 9 of my favourite books from the last 12 months, or 9 books on my tbr list for this year.
Here is what i’m looking forward to read this year! (my hunt for beautiful covers never ends. in this house books Shall be judged by their cover)
tagging uhh @erisenyo, @chitsangenthusiast, @ranilla-bean, @poikilotherm, @kyoshialone and whoever else wants to do it u.u
#also i really wanted to read the iliad but idk if there is a good prose translation/adaptation of it???#if any of italian moots has come across one…#blease tell me... blease hmu#ive also been meaning to get more into uhh#social theory books?#if that’s the word?#but idk where to begin#esp bc i read on a short commute and i usually don’t have the brain space to engage with academy level texts#again if someone know a version of this for tired dummies lmk#ALSO cheating a bit bc i already started the seven moons of maali almeida and i’m loving it sooooo much#plus jorjus cover#so rlly the perfect book#realizing i should prolly start a book tag hmm#anyway#send post#oh I'm also looking forward to finish the murderbot diaries it's slow going but I'm halfway through and they're so good
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aftg kills me bc it’s about sports and the mafia and whatever but u strip it to its barest bones and it’s really about who u choose despite & because
#if u saw me say this on discord look AWAY. i’m working through something#who wants to hear my idea on why andreil not getting married is the perfect extension of neil learning to stay :3#i’m saying it anyway#neil learns to stay. duh. and if he’s not married to andrew there’s no contract tying them together that means that#he can leave at any time theres nothing keeping him tethered & he can fall back and just keep running#yet#every morning neil wakes up and he sees andrew next to him and he decides to stay. no strings attached#nothing keeping him there but love#i have another one about how andreil not having kids is the perfect progression of ANDREW'S character who wants to hear THAT one :3#aftg#all for the game#tfc#andreil
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With the Until Dawn remaster showing stuff I would like to reiterate what the original looked like
#until dawn#tiger talks#I am a hater and I will admit to it#I’m sorry we do not need a remake of a decade old game#especially not one that stripped it of it’s atmosphere and made it ugly#if you like it that’s great!#I do not lmao#and it’s depressing to watch another one of my fav games ever get butchered like this#like the original game is not perfect by any means#like at all#but it was absolutely beautiful#and I’m gonna say it#remaster looks like actual shit#like I’m sorry#how does a ps4 game from 2015 look better
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Alpha Werewolf Chris Argent
Thoughts? 👀
(Also yes I'm throwing stuff at you that's kinda gnawing on my mind rn 😂
Also also yes I'm writing most of these ideas myself - or at least intend to 😂)
I’ve not spent a lot of time thinking about Chris being turned, and even less about him being an alpha werewolf, but there is certainly plenty to think about!
One of the things I think about right away is the fact that Chris wasn’t raised to be a leader, he was raised to be a soldier. He was raised to answer orders without question, to believe in the mission, to ignore anything he sees that doesn’t fit the narrative he’s been given. So it’s interesting to think about him as an alpha wolf with those alpha urges to build a pack.
I feel like I can’t fully trust myself in how I view Chris, because he’s probably the character I project onto the most. I grew up in a cult, so I tend to think about the aspect of him being raised in a certain belief system and then having that turned on its head. So this could be me projecting, but I do think that Chris thought he was doing the right thing, or at the very least, he did a pretty good job of convincing himself that he did. He learned early and often that asking questions and having doubts was frowned upon, if not deadly, so he refused to see anything that made him unsure of the black and white world he’d accepted as truth.
It’s interesting to think about the ways him being turned would flip that even faster and more intensely maybe. I also think whether or not he got turned before Victoria died would make a big difference. If she was alive, would she have convinced him to end his life like she did her own? Would she have even given him a choice?
If she was already dead, I have zero doubt that he would have done everything in his power to stay alive for Allison. Personally, I’m most interested in thinking about the idea in my head where his dad and sister are hellbent on killing him, so he ends up having to rely on the ragtag McCall/Hale pack to save him. Good lord. I’d have way too much fun tormenting…basically everyone in that scenario 😂 (one could also do all kinds of shippy things with it, if they so desired)
Anyway, I feel like there are so many directions someone could go with alpha Chris, and thank you for making me think about it more! It’s fun to put the blorbos on the spin cycle and just rattle them around for awhile sometimes.
#alpha!Chris#teen wolf#asks#I tend not to think about these types of things as much#because I know they’re gonna lead to plotty fic ideas#and my god I struggle with writing plotty fics#I know that means I just need to work at building the skill#but I don’t wanna :P#I definitely am the poster child for kid who got straight A’s and now doesn’t want to do anything she might not be perfect at immediately#not that my non-plotty writing is perfect by any stretch of the imagination#but at least I don’t worry as much that someone will read it and think I’m an idiot 😂
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“The Past is Present,” Phases of the Moon Knight (Vol. 1/2024), #3.
Writer: Justina Ireland; Penciler and Inker: Daniel Bayliss; Colorist: Dee Cunniffe; Letterer: Cory Petit
#Marvel#Marvel comics#Phases of the Moon Knight#Moon Knight comics#latest release#Ellie Johnson#Oh okay I see we’re starting off strong based on that sign in the window hahaha#fair warning the following tags touch on political topics so please take everything with a grain of salt (what do I know hahaha)#I just *sigh* I’m not sure if this was intended to be a reference to a current campaign slogan in US politics#or if it was a bit more general but in any case perhaps I shouldn’t be surprised anymore by lionization of the past#but it never passes me by whenever anyone tries to argue that the past was superior (near perfect) and we should dwell on it#Either they’re truly ignorant of the past’s issues or they actually admire them#I’m equally suspicious however anyone who promises an entirely new start#as if any system could ever truly break away from its past and as if we didn’t perpetually have someone peddling a new new deal or frontier#I also find it interesting that this is in a window trying to attract patrons which in a way means its capitalizing off the past/nostalgia#the docents/proprietors in this story are good folk so I’m sure it’s not so underhanded as that but still…#…or maybe this is just an establishing shot to indicate to the reader that this is a post-apocalyptic/hero society#and I’m just being overly sensitive about 6 words in a background shot hahaha#don’t mind op rambling in the tags as per always
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Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: White Collar (TV 2009) Rating: Teen And Up Audiences Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings Relationships: Elizabeth Burke/Peter Burke/Neal Caffrey Characters: Peter Burke, Neal Caffrey, Elizabeth Burke (White Collar) Additional Tags: Past Neal Caffrey/Kate Moreau, Implied/Referenced Character Death, Hurt/Comfort, Emotional Hurt/Comfort, Angst, Grief/Mourning, Neal Caffrey Needs a Hug Series: Part 8 of Neal Caffrey Whumptober 2024 Summary:
Peter shook his head, still reeling at the realization that he’d been watching Neal too closely to see the forest for the trees. All that time trying to piece new information together, telling himself he wasn’t suspecting Neal while suspecting Neal, and Neal was just…
“Come on, we need to pack an overnight bag. We’re going over there.”
aka Neal had been having trouble sleeping recently, and it took Peter a while to figure out why. Well, it only took a conversation with Elizabeth for a major puzzle piece Peter had been missing to reveal itself, and the two go to take care of their boyfriend.
Whumptober 2024 Day 8: Sleep Deprivation
#white collar#neal caffrey#peter burke#posting this one bc I’m actually really proud of it#I know it’s not perfect by any means but I worked really hard on it and I’m really happy with the end result despite its flaws#my writing
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I’m not a Mickey fan who thinks he’s done no wrong or excuses all of his actions, but If I have to see one more post hating on/ being overly critical of Mickey by someone who thinks Ian is angel baby cupcakes that can do no wrong I’m gonna SCREAM I’m sorry. There are reasons to dislike every character in Shameless but there are some takes on this site where people nitpick at Mickey’s every action yet excuse so many of Ian’s. They’ve both done bad things to each other, neither of them are perfect.
#it’s possible to love Ian’s growth in season 6 without excusing him joking about his ex boyfriends rape and his cruelness towards him#I like I love s6 & that whole storyline!#but let’s not pretend he was in any way perfect#Ian can be mean we’ve seen it#there’s more than just season 6 too#they’re both complex individuals who’ve done both good and bad things for each other and other people#that’s the whole point#of their relationship#they’re a mess#this is an exaggeration there’s people who can admit Ian’s done wrong but still overlook a lot of shit#but most Mickey fans can hold their hand up and admit his wrongdoings#but I’ve rarely seen people do that for Ian#Mickey Milkovich#ok I’m done I’ll go back to making edits now#this really isn’t aimed at anyone I’ve been thinking this since I started on this site#gallavich#shameless#Ian Gallagher
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“I hate people who mindlessly praise RWBY and deny any of its awful writing choices”
I have no idea what circles you’re in that have people like this. I won’t deny they exist bc I’m certain they do, but I’ve seen so many ppl who love RWBY with all their hearts talk about multiple things across the volumes they didn’t like or wish had happens differently or where a scene was weak or where the pacing was off. Especially after people politely explained issues they had with V9 while still throughly enjoying the volume as a whole.
Again I’m not denying the existence of mindless praise but I have to ask WHO you’re coming across who In Earnest and not as a joke say the show is 100% Perfect For Real. Bc in the 10 years I’ve been watching the show I have not seen those people. Which maybe means I’m lucky?
But I feel like RWBY specially gets so much hate and shade and ppl talk about “bad writing” every other episode for the past six volumes like. Bruh if it’s THAT bad HOW are you still watching? There’s thinking it’s bad and hoping it’ll get better and then there’s hate watching and being confused why people seem to love a thing you hate and that doesn’t sound fun At All
#rwby#when the show ends SO many ppl are gonna make SO many videos about how it’s awful and how could it last so long#and I know objectively bad and boring shows can last really long times#but the happiness and hype so many ppl have when we get new news about it#also even if it IS a bad show which I disagree with#ppl can like bad shows I’m sorry you don’t like it or no longer like it I really am#but ppl are allowed to praise the good parts#not every fan wants to dwell on the parts they are upset with that doesn’t mean they are ignoring them#if you can sit through a 45 minute video where sownonw ONLY talks about the bad parts good for you#I’m here for the fun and the magic and the joy I can analyze on my own what didn’t work for me#not posting it online doesn’t mean I don’t think it and not seeing any hate doesn’t mean ppl think it’s perfect plz relax it’s been Years#at this point just watch sownthing else if after all this time you still don’t like it or can’t get back into it
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i never post on here anymore but i just have to throw in my two cents after reading people’s thoughts on the new yellowjackets episode (2x08)
some people are like genuinely enraged about what the girls did to javi and obviously it was very upsetting, it’s supposed to be!! but i don’t understand why some ppl are so shocked. like, we know they did some fucked up shit out there. we know they did things worse than /cannibalism/
every other episode in season one someone would talk about “what we did out there” and how it was so awful that no one could ever speak about it. two episodes ago natalie had a whole speech about how she doesn’t think any of them deserved to survive. like why are we surprised that these girls did such a horrible thing 😭 the whole point of the show is that they’ve done terrible things lmao
#i don’t think the execution/pacing of the whole thing was perfect by any means#we could’ve used another few scenes of them discussing the ritual etc#but damn i’m seeing posts that are like ‘omg this was despicable fuck these girls i hate them’#they’re immoral!#that’s why they’re good characters!#anyways#yellowjackets
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