#I want him dragged through the mud emotionally and physically

[kneelingshadowsalome]

Hi, Salome! I watching a movie with my dad today and, suddenly, sitting on the couch I envisioned the character in front of my eyes as König from 'FATUM NOS IUNGEBIT'. I guess I just thought him similar from @shkretart 's version (which is incredible btw!).

Do you think your König in this AU resembles Hercules from 'The Legend of Hercules' (2014)? Even if a lot bigger and wilder? I love your work!

(Here are some of Hercules pics!)

A lot bigger and wilder, yes!!!

I love the overall aura this guy has, slightly playful, slightly menacing. Though König, having seen slavery, gladiator fights and military life, might not look so… symmetrically pretty? And while he would look absolutely gorgeous with a short Roman haircut, I think König might sometimes rebel against the norms and wear his hair a bit longer, maybe tie it with a thin leather strap etc (since he’s not actually Roman!) This is in no way meant to bash these pics you sent me which are amazing and fitting, I just started to ramble as per usual! ^^ Love to talk about Roman!König forever and always!

And don't you dare mention shkretart’s version of him 😭 It's like an illustration from the holy scriptures to me, the one and only König fanart I truly bow down to! ❤️❤️❤️

That being said I also love to imagine König as this battered, hollow-cheeked, slightly cross-eyed dude who hopefully has a chipped tooth or two, why not a hockey smile… Or maybe his nose is broken and it healed ugly, he has lines on his face from frowning all the time, alarmingly deep-set eyes, just something or a bunch of things that make him less conventionally handsome. You know, the type of guy you don’t know if you want to smile more or less because it’s always a bit unsettling when he does? 😶‍🌫️

[maxdibert]

I think the difference between marauders and harry potter fandom as a whole is just the difference in demographics. most of the marauders fandom is teens and young adults, queer, and kinda distanced from the larger fandom in a way. like, you mention that the current marauders fandom doesn’t like canon and sticks to fanfic and “delusion” and well. yeah. for a lot, that’s the point. if that’s not your cup of tea, that’s great! fandom is for everyone, and there’s definitely a mix of everything in a fandom so large as the hp fandom. it’s not really a bad thing that this specific subsection of the fandom is more detached from canon though.

i definitely agree there are some issues with marauders era characterizations, like severus being completely demonized for no apparent reason (i’ve never been a severus fan, but that’s bc i didn’t vibe with his character as an adult. young sev was just a kid) and a big thing with the fandom is the rise of jegulus and people changing the DE characterizations. but the entire fandom isn’t a cesspool full of dull characters and atrocious headcannons, it’s just very different from the canon. and that’s something a lot of people don’t like, which is valid, but there are those who do like jegulus and slytherin “skittles” content, which is valid too

Honestly, this idea that JKR was always obviously a misogynist because she loved Snape and made him a romantic hero is such a chronologically confused take that I can’t help but assume it comes from someone who was either a child or not even born yet when the books were at their peak because LOL. Like… no. In the 2000s, absolutely nobody in mainstream discourse was calling JKR a misogynist. In fact, she was widely held up as a feminist icon. Hermione was seen as a symbol of girl power, and people genuinely cited her as a positive role model. Feminist discourse wasn’t nearly as accessible or viral back then, it was mostly confined to academic or niche spaces. There was no generalized critical lens on popular media like there is now. So let’s not rewrite history pretending people were dissecting internalized misogyny in Harry Potter on fórums and Fanfiction.net in 2005. They weren’t.

Btw saying JKR loved Snape and wanted him to be a “romantic hero” is… bizarre to me. If anything, I’d argue the opposite: I don’t think she liked him much at all. Yes, she wrote him as a complex and pivotal character, but she never treated him with real compassion. Severus is never given the benefit of the doubt in the narrative. He’s constantly described through Harry’s lens in deeply unflattering terms, physically and emotionally. The way his appearance is picked apart, the language used to present him as greasy, sour, bitter… it’s intentionally dehumanizing. And it’s relentless. She frames him almost exclusively through his worst traits until after he dies. That’s not what it looks like when a writer has a soft spot for a character.

Compare that to how James, Sirius, Lupin—even Dumbledore—are treated. All of them are given redemption arcs without having to earn them in the same brutal way Snape does. His suffering is constantly diminished or brushed off, even outright mocked by the same characters the narrative wants us to admire. His abusers are romanticized. Their worst actions are glossed over with nostalgia and cheeky boyhood charm. Meanwhile, Severus is dragged through the mud, left to rot, and only given his flowers in the last fifty pages after he’s dead and can no longer challenge the narrative. So If Rowling had a “crush” on Severus, she had a funny way of showing it.

That said, I do think Severus arc evolved over time. It’s totally plausible that he started off as a more caricatured antagonist—your classic bitter teacher—and then Rowling realized midway through the series that there was more depth to mine in him. That happens to a lot of writers, especially with long projects. Characters take on lives of their own, and initial plans shift as you grow, as your writing evolves, as your own worldview changes. So maybe she didn’t know what to do with him at first. But by the time she figured it out, she still didn’t frame him with the narrative care she offers her actual favorites.Because let’s be real, JKR does have clear favorites and Severus isn’t one of them.

I write too. I’ve created characters I adore, and sure, some of them have tragic ends, but if I love a character, you’ll feel it. Even in their downfall, you’ll know they were precious to me. With Severus, you get the opposite. You get disdain masquerading as complexity. You get narrative punishment with just enough nuance to keep him interesting, but not enough to make him feel truly seen.

So no, she didn’t “love” him. She tolerated him. She found him narratively useful. But she never gave him the softness or reverence she gave to her golden boys.

[heliosobjections]

Sucks that some AA parents are seen as the antagonists in fanworks/discussions for how they parent their kids, when they themselves are victims and most likely can not give their kids everything they need despite desperately wanting to.

Misty was a victim of Redd White and Marvin Grossberg, who leaked her involvement in DL-6 to the media. She and Kurain's reputation was dragged through the mud by them. She, as the Master of the Kurain Channeling Technique felt wholly responsible for her village's social and financial downfall. She believed it was for the best if the village and her children lived without her. She believed she was an unfit mother, and left her children in the hands of the village. She trusted the village to raise her daughters better than she could.

Thalassa was shot, blinded, and presumed dead/missing for over a decade. She had amnesia and couldn't even remember her name. And I guess people are mad that when she regains her memories, she doesn't go see her kids right away? What?! She's vulnerable?!?!? She's vulnerable. Emotionally, mentally, and physically. She entrusted the care of her children another adult who has proven to take care of at least one of them, and is capable of looking after the other to at least make sure they stay safe. She planned to see them again once she herself has healed. She thought it was for the best to wait until she was ready so her kids could have a mother who was worth spending time with.

Phoenix is impoverished, a social pariah, with little-to-no known community support. All of his opportunities were stripped away from him. His source of income, gone. His relationships, either stagnated or gone. He took Trucy in even when he had nothing, because she also had nothing and he recognized it was worse for her because she was a child. It was either staying with him or getting lost in the system. He can't give her everything. He can't spend every day with her. He's poor and needs to work twice as hard despite what Trucy promised him.

Idk, you would not be this antagonistic to a parent irl for giving up their child when they believed they weren't fit to care for them. You would not antagonize a parent for having another adult babysit their kids during the day while they were at work. You should not antagonize a parent who is trying their best give their kids the best life they can offer, just because there's so much they are literally incapable of doing.

This isn't to say the children of these parents aren't sympathetic. They're more sympathetic to me because they never had a chance of control in their circumstance, and adults' actions are going to affect them for the rest of their lives. But this is about the audience of Ace Attorney - the player, the fandom - not being able to sympathize with characters who are victims, disabled, impoverished, traumatized, ostracized, because they're parents. It's not their fault that they can't give their children a stable life because they've been victimized and have no support. They have responsibilities to their children, and they're actually fulfilling them to the best of their abilities, in my opinion. Because the roles they can't fulfill themselves, they try to get another trusted adult to fulfill.

[t-u-i-t-c]

This scene is so good. Here we are highlighting that the Hashiliens have a huge hand in many things, including the justice system and the BBG. Them holding such power makes it more and more difficult for the people to fight back, as things can easily be manipulated and covered up with the connections that the Hashiliens have. For Genba, the defeat of Disrace was supposed to mean something, it was supposed to be revenge and it was supposed to be a step forward in freeing Bureki, but now it's led to his father's name being dragged further through the mud. It feels like he's at fault but at the same time he knows none of this would be happening if Spindo wasn't where he was. This fact doesn't change the fact that the situation is getting worse, but Genba has to choose to hold onto hope just as he did when he returned to the BoonBoomgers, he has to believe that they're capable of fighting for his father's sake, for Bureki's sake, and for Earth's sake.

Something I also want to highlight here is that Genba has taken to closing his eyes and breathing deeply to help calm him. This is something that we have seen Taiya do in the past when he is stressed. I don't know if there is a huge significance to this, but the fact that he does this and the fact that Taiya once again shows his care through checking on Genba as soon as he hears news he knows will distress him, tells a bit about their relationship. Ever since he's returned Taiya has been more thoughtful, checking in on Genba whenever he feels something may have an impact on him emotionally (ex. when Disrace approaches them in the caves and after Disrace's defeat). It feels like Taiya is trying to be more understanding of Genba and his emotions after witnessing how he had kept so much rage bottled up for so long.

If we go by the comic's timeline, Taiya has known Genba longer than the other BoonBoomgers and met him over 2 years ago. I feel like seeing someone unleash years of pent up anger and reflecting on how you never saw it for what it was in full has had an impact on Taiya and has made him see he should reach out a bit more. In Lap 1 Taiya had a very difficult time communicating and understanding the feelings and frustrations of his teammates, but I think he's been improving gradually. When Sakito joins he is able to be clear with his goals, clearer than he had been with the others, and he is willing to hear out Sakito's feelings and respond. Then, after Genba leaves, he reflects a lot on Genba's feelings. Even before Genba physically departs he allows Genba to keep his axe and he allows Genba to go. He prioritizes Genba's feelings because Genba is the only one who can take control of his wheel, but he lets him keep the axe and waits for him to return. He's shown to be upset by Genba's departure but he also acknowledges Genba being capable of making his own choices (I talked about this here and more about Genba's role with Taiya during Lap 3 here).

Taiya is learning and it's a process, but he is making efforts to support and be there for his friends. (Another post where I talked about Taiya's development)

[benjen-mormont]

𓇢 ALMONDS AND OTHER INDECENCIES 𓇢

(A continuation with @edrick-stark and @leila-lannister)

Benjen remembered the day he met Edrick with the kind of clarity usually reserved for battlefield trauma.

He’d been wrestling Cregan in the mud-slick yard, boys slamming into each other like dogs let off the leash, laughing and swearing and bleeding just enough to feel alive. Then the screaming started.

Gilliane’s labor was bad. Twin-bad. Midwives running, maesters muttering, blood on the floor kind of bad. Benjen had known little of such things, save that his own mother had nearly died trying to bring him into the world, and that defending her in his father’s presence earned a bruise.

When Cregan was summoned, Benjen trailed after like a puppy with a sword, spine straightened as if they were marching into war.

The twins were horrifying. Red, wrinkly, screaming lumps. They looked like squashed knees. Wet ones. And yet, somehow, everyone in the room was acting like the gods themselves had farted a miracle into the world.

Benjen wasn’t convinced. But when Gilliane, barely conscious, patted his shoulder and asked what he thought, all he could blurt was, “I would die fighting for them.”

And… he had. Repeatedly. Spiritually, emotionally, physically, at least three times during teething alone.

At the ripe age of eight, he’d decided they were miracles. Not for being born, plenty of screaming babies did that. No, they were miracles for living, for breathing, for walking around and saying “Beben” like it was his actual name. He let Lyarra get away with it. The kid was cute.

Benjen had been around more than the nursemaids. He had learned how to swaddle them, burp them, soothe their cries. He taught himself to braid Lyarra’s hair and to stitch mittens for frostbitten hands. The servants said he would make a fine father.

His own father said he should be gelded if he meant to play mother.

Benjen stopped listening to both.

Years passed. The squashed knees became people. He stayed close, because if he wasn’t their father, or their brother, then he was something else entirely, something stubborn and vow-shaped and more binding than blood.

So when he walked into Edrick’s room and found a lady, he immediately considered throwing himself out the nearest window.

Lady.
In Edrick’s room.

The boy who had the emotional maturity of a slightly intelligent loaf of bread.

“Lady Leila,” Benjen said, blinking at the scene like it might vanish if he squinted. “Blink three times if that gremlin is bothering you.”

He wanted to ask the Stranger to smite him where he stood. Or throw holy water. Or drag Edrick back to when he was six and still thought kissing gave you the plague.

Instead, he watched them sit there. Edrick, smug as a cat in cream, and Leila, perfectly composed, like this was just another Tuesday. They were sharing almonds. Almonds! The sexiest of all snacks, apparently.

Benjen marched over, yanked Edrick’s shirt. “And your shoulder is out. What are you, a belly dancer?”

He’d given Edrick the talk when he was ten. Or tried to. The boy had pretended to go deaf for three days. Benjen had ended the conversation by tossing him a book and saying, “Figure it out.”

Now here he was, facing the consequences of his own educational cowardice.

“I don’t care if she was stitching your mouth shut,” he said through a tight-lipped grin that screamed murder. “A chaperone is always required. Which is why I’m going to sit over there, on that lovely desk, and watch you like the creepy portraits in haunted castles.”

He dragged the chair out with dramatic flair, sat down like a man wronged by fate, and crossed his arms so hard they creaked.

“Lady Leila,” he said dryly, “forgive Edrick. He’s uncultured. And I’m almost certain the song you played was distinctly Essosi.”

Edrick opened his mouth to object, but Benjen shot him a look that said: I know where you sleep. I raised you. I wiped your ass. Do not test me.

He leaned back in his chair, exhaled through his nose, and wondered how it was possible to feel both too young and too old to be dealing with this.

[animebookworm16]

Remnants of Filth Volume 1 thoughts as they appear Part 7

Gu Mang you are physically hurting me and emotionally traumatizing Mo Xi

It almost makes one wonder if Gu Mang feels the same way that Mo Xi does, and did everything he did to try and protect Mo Xi in some twisted way. Because obviously Mo Xi loves Gu Mang (he's not subtle) but Gu Mang knew that sooner or later something would happen that would drag him out of the noble's good graces. So he starts sleeping around at brothels, saying things to Mo Xi's face that he knows will hurt, and when he defects and later encounters Mo Xi again, stabs him, because Mo Xi still isn't leaving, isn't letting Gu Mang go, is going to drag his own name through the mud. So Gu Mang stabs him, maybe even intends to kill him, but at the last second, just can't seem to finish the job of taking a dagger to the heart of the man he loves.

Ooh? Someone leaving from Gu Mang's room unsatisfied? Good.

Is it bad that I want Mo Xi to start crying? Just a little. Just enough to spark something

Gu Mang. Baby boy. Please please please. Mo Xi's heart is too fragile for you to do this to him

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[danger0uswham]

He could've still been here.

And that's what hurts. The "could've" part.

The part where he could've seen his children grow into these respectful adults with pride, humbleness, and care.

The part where he could've watched his sons become immersed into film and his daughter pursue so many things.

The part where he would've absolutely made some banger songs for the people we've lost. A song for Black Lives Matter. A song for the school shootings that we've seen over the years. A song of him watching his children blossom. A song of him healing from all the trauma he experienced as a child and throughout his career.

It hurts knowing that Mike isn't here. I look at the eyes of his children and my heart breaks more. Not only because he isn't here but they remind me so much of him. When Paris smiles, I get goosebumps. When Prince speaks, I get goosebumps. When Bigi appears, I get goosebumps. They all have so many qualities about them that shout "Jackson" but they also allowed themselves to be more than their family name. That was something Michael was keen on.

I've always admired the strength they all carried but Michael and Paris always have blown me away. Michael was belittled, treated like a punching bag, dragged along the mud. Paris has been stalked, chased, followed, harrassed, just like Michael. But the strength they both have is admirable. And I'm a bit envious - not in that way but I wish I had the strength. No matter their challenges, they've pushed through and I think that's a big motivator for me tryign to better myself now. I struggle with many mental health conditions, I want to lose weight, and I just wanna become the best person (emotionally; physically; spiritually) but it's hard. But I relate to them both.

But thinking about Michael recently has brought about so many things. I wonder if he knows that I exist. I became a fan after his passing but I did listen to his music beforehand. I was just a kid, though. I became a fan in 2012 - admired his music before then. I've admired his dance and songs forever. I still remember when he passed and it instantly saddened me. I've been a fan of Michael for half of my life and I just hope he knows about all of the new fans he's made since his passing. I hope he knows that I exist. I hope he knows that I will never stop defending him. I hope he knows - from Heaven. But I secretly know that it'll always feel like he'll never know about me - that I will only know him. I believe I recently stumbled upon many other fans that felt this way -- maybe it was on Discord, Tumblr, a MJJ forumsite, etc.. I'll have to check through my bookmarks and screenshots. I hope he's watching over me and that he'll visit me in my dreams. I miss him dearly.

[hypergamiss]

The timing of your most recent post is interesting for me. Just wanted to share what it's like being on the other side of this;

I'm currently going through a similar situation as your friend (although hers sounds much worse than what I went through) and I'm very disappointed in my witnesses-- what you did to your friend is what my witnesses and friends are doing to me. I understand that self preservation is natural and apart of human evolution, but I will never understand choosing NOT to speak out against violence and support the people you care about, simply because you don't want to be involved in the legal system. People would rather sit back and watch their loved one get killed because they didn't want to write a written statement to support them. I don't get it.

Speaking of my case specifically, because my witnesses were too afraid and didn't want to be bothered by the justice system and write written statements, a horrible dangerous man is free to roam and he will probably never see accountability. The best comparison for him would be Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, and Epstein.

I understand not everyone is emotionally equipped to deal with court proceedings, but just know that the reason why men like this are allowed to get away with these things for so long is not because we live in a rape culture/patriarchal society, it's because people don't speak up and speak out when they're given the opportunity to.

Personally, I roll my eyes when I see other women complain about the type of men I listed above. Those men exist because scared witnesses, who don't want to be bothered, allow them too.

First of all, I am very sorry about what you are going through and I hope things get much better for you.

"what you did to your friend is what my witnesses and friends are doing to me."

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I believe that everyone acts according to their own experiences. There is a lot of detail that I did not include, but I will say that I was dragged through the mud even before things took place in court. At some point, I had to begin to think about myself and protect myself emotionally, financially, and physically. My friend repeatedly did things to me that were extremely rude because her abuser told her to and everyone around me begged me to remove myself from the situation long before I did. I will always admire the lengths my ex went through to protect me and he was my biggest supporter when all this happened. I wish my friend had even considered me to be a real human with real feelings when she chose to treat me like I was nothing to her over a guy. I gave her many chances and I didn't "give up" on her easily. I did everything I could to get her out of the situation and every time I tried I was the one who ended up losing. Even her parents told me to get away.

"I understand that self preservation is natural and apart of human evolution, but I will never understand choosing NOT to speak out against violence and support the people you care about, simply because you don't want to be involved in the legal system. People would rather sit back and watch their loved one get killed because they didn't want to write a written statement to support them. I don't get it."

I wrote 9 police statements, picked her up in the middle of nowhere god knows how many times, consoled her every time she cried, and called the cops countless times. But guess what, she would refuse to press charges every time and let him off the hook. She did not want to be helped. I spoke out enough, and she had plenty of opportunity to lock him away. I had copies of everything sent to her and wished her good luck. She never even apologized for the things I was put through.

"Those men exist because scared witnesses, who don't want to be bothered, allow them too."

In my case, he existed because she wanted him to. I was exhausted. Now you wanted him to have the satisfaction of draining my resources too? To each their own.

[venting-into-the-very-void]

Huh, I'm a lot more normal now ig.

So I'm taking this opportunity to make the only sane post in a long time.

I feel like I should talk about the one constant in my life, my mom. She's really the only person who has continuously loved me, and I feel like I have slandered her a lot.

So, here's in defence of my mother. And my relationship with her. This is also exposing myself as who I am: a really terrible daughter.

Let me just preface this by saying that I absolutely love her, and she loves me a lot too. We're basically each other's anchor.

But this is where things get complicated.

So let's just start at the beginning.

i am the only daughter of a single mother. My parents separated when I was 6, and their divorce was finalised 5 years later.

If I were to talk about my dad, I can just sum it up in three words: he's an a-hole. He was physically abusive to mum, had an affair, dragged her name through the mud, was emotionally manipulative towards both of us, and remarried without telling us while we were dependent on him. His side of the family is toxic as hell too.

Now, divorce is a huge taboo here. Family and stuff. So much so that the only reason mum could even walk out was because of me, like I literally had to drag her out of that place. My mom's dad stopped talking to her because of this.

I know my status in his family. A girl is a curse to them. The marriage was an obligation, and I am the product of a man's ego. The only reason they wanted contact with me is because I'm academically brilliant.

We went no contact on new year's eve last year, after we found out of his marriage. He tried manipulation then too.

My mom, on the other hand, sees me as a blessing. I am a ray of sunshine in her life, the only thing keeping her afloat. Her side of my family believes this too, including my maternal grandfather.

This is part of the issue. She has had severe depression before, and it might have relapsed because she lost both her parents just this year. Grandma was incredibly close to both of us, and her relationship with grandpa was just improving.

That is not to mention her physical illnesses. She had loads of surgeries, including a c-section for me (premature gal), and two miscarriages, plus more.

I have basically been her primary caregiver both emotionally and physically. I was the one to stay with her at the hospital, or at home alone when I was too young. I have been her only pillar of strength.

Now, I feel like I disappointed her. She basically gave up all of her dreams for me. Had I not been there, she could have gone to MIT, done so much with her life. I have seen her reject the offer because they couldn't keep me too.

I try my best to be there for her. She sees her dreams being actualised in me. Academically smart, my dreams to join the army mirroring her failed dreams to join the intelligence unit (because of dyslexia). I am the perfect daughter for her.

But now, I can't explain to her anymore. I wanted to be a historian and writer, and only want to join as a combat medic to give her her own home, financial stability, and medical safety. I can't talk to her about my doubts about ADHD, because the signs have always been there, but they could just be amounted to a 'bad influence'. I can't tell he about depression and sh because she has had depression too, and I can't possibly say I have such a terrible illness when I have witnessed first hand what it looks like?

This is why I'm scared of having, as well as not having some sort of neurodivergence.

She wishes for my presence, and I wish for space. We both have love for each other, but the understanding is lost.

[batboopp]

hello <3! as a batman fan, I wouldn’t say that dc is allergic to making batman a bad person, the dc fandom-batman fans included-in general have a huge problem with the fact that bruce DOES do bad things (the first ones at the top of my head includes when Bruce irrationally made Jean-Paul’s life hell out of jealousy [[during Knightfall, at least]], fear, and general dislike, the whole of his behavior and motives towards Stephanie Brown in both her Spoiler and Robin mantles [[im not going to lie, his actions towards Stephanie Brown were completely irrational unless if you consider that Bruce-having lost his father-was uncomfortable with Stephanie wanting to get revenge on hers as a reason]], Bruce unhealthily projecting himself on Cassandra Cain all throughout No Man’s Land and Batgirl 2000 [[before admitting to himself that Cass and him truly did love and respect each other, but their relationship was largely unhealthy and unfair towards Cass in issue 48-49 of Batgirl 2000]], 90% of War Games, and most to all of his attitude and behavior towards Helena Bertinelli/The Huntress, once again out of dislike. there are many other instances of him generally manipulating or simply not communicating with those around him whether out of his fear of connection/having loved ones/relying on others/being vulnerable that are more popular then the ones I’ve listed above, such as Identity Crisis) but he simply never takes accountability for those things. Especially in War Games, despite his downright horrifying treatment towards Stephanie Brown, Bruce is and was constantly painted as the bigger and more ‘right’ person even though this is objectively not true, especially when taking Bruce’s actions from the narrative standpoint and considering how they affect literally everyone else because more people than just Batman exist, which is also something dc has trouble seeing.

Bruce, though he cares and loves for most of his family and the whole of Gotham, is largely flawed (mainly by his manipulating/lying/isolating tendencies he expresses when threatened physically or especially emotionally-so, being vulnerable in general is usually a catalyst for his unhealthy behavior, which again is mostly unfair to the people that love him) and literally never changes his ways even though some of his actions are unacceptable, especially when they are being acted upon to the people that thought they could trust Bruce.

Personally, despite everything, I do not think Bruce/his Batman mantle are ‘bad’ (i think that is more dependant on the reader and what they define as bad or wrong or unforgivable, but i do also think it is a little unfair to categorize flaws as being inherently bad) but it’s important to consider that he is an individual that has been physically and emotionally hurt so much. He has also had his trust and faith and will dragged through the metaphorical mud and pushed to the very brink since he was 12, which of course causes a person to be at the very least jaded and wary of connection/vulnerability. It’s just that he never changes or learns-or even want to change or learn sometimes-for the people he loves (or the people his loved ones associate with by extension) which is entirely unfair to them because of course your loved ones are going to want to be emotionally vulnerable with you and expect that in return (which is also where Bruce’s trust issues come in). He is always tried to be painted as right and strong even though actually taking his actions out of the narrative and looking at them from the lens of others makes some of his actions anything but, and he simply never changes this behavior or even apologizes for it.

"DC is allergic to making Batman/Bruce a bad person"

He is one of their main heroes, of course he is a good person? Like, wtf do you want one of the most important heroes of Earth to be a bad person?

[alasmydearatlas]

i’m angry again and i can’t let it go

i wasn’t meant to be your go between i was ten

i didn’t want to listen to you berate my dad and drag him through the mud, he was one of my favorite people

i didn’t want your mistrust of me and other people and your need to “protect” us

it was smothering

you wouldn’t know accountability if it bit you on the ass

i can’t even describe how angry i am with you for stealing so much of my childhood

it is this leeching stain that cuts through almost every memory i have

no sleepovers no playdates

i couldn’t go there they couldn’t come here

mistrust and weariness

having my world broken wide open and then stomped to smithereens in the days and years after

what happened to my birthday

what happened to me

there to take the blame and the anger and learn to manage your emotions and how to keep it from being worse for me and for my little sister

you dumped it all on me and told her nothing

and yet you still talk over me now in conversation

you talk about my friends to the family dismiss my stories about them bc you know more you know better you know everything and i don’t know why i even bothered coming back

you set little traps for me and i fling myself down onto them because i haven’t figured out any other way to be

i’m working on it tho

slowly i’m pulling away and biding my time

little less than a year

and you lose your financial grip on me and you don’t understand how much that is the only thing keeping me in your line

you’re losing me

and i don’t want it to be like this i never wished for it to be like this

it hurts me and it hurts you

but we are eldest daughter and her mother

we were doomed by the narrative from the start

we didn’t stand a chance

i will never be the daughter you wanted and you were never the mother i needed

it takes 10,000 hours to master something right?

that’s a little over a year to master independence then i guess

and the funny thing is you love how independent i am

why, i practically raised myself

one of these days i will stop running and i won’t just stand and take it

not any time soon but maybe

i didn’t realize how much you lost your community after what happened with dad

some of them turned their backs on you and you pulled away from the rest to lick your wounds alone

and you severed our community connections as well with that

all of our family is far away both physically and emotionally

they’re strangers to me

i don’t even wish they weren’t

they’re no one to me

the church is full of hypocrites and weak air-headed cowards

you can’t stand your other friends

it’s not fucking fair

sure roast me for taking forever to make friends i had to learn that shit from scratch

it’s not fair and it never has been

[ofallthingsnasty]

heyy omg it's so fun to read your manipulator post!! can I please get when they become a total mess without you? like when they regret and all.. I know that kaiser won't ever regret something due to his superiority complex. so I wanna know what will he do without reader, I'm sure he somehow got little attached to reader right? AND PLEASE LET READER GO FOR GOOD NOT COMING BACK TO THAT BASTARD xD (thank youuuu! I know that I'm asking to much *sigh*)

ah I'm so happy it resonated so well with so many people!! I really like the more hopeless, mean side of yanderes and I feel like Blue Lock really provides us with so many fucked up little guys who can really make your head spin -- it's the same reason reader will always end up with them but let me give you some food for thought haha. References this post. Requests are open!

tags: yandere, baby trapping, reader can get pregnant but no pronouns are used, emotional manipulation, noncon mention

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We talked about you escaping Kaiser as a foreign darling here and I still think that at first, Kaiser will be seething. It takes him a good while to calm down again, to mend his broken ego at least a little bit. He does have feelings for you - he isn't cold, doesn't only view you as something to possess - but he wants to be worshipped. That anger is definitely born out of a sense of superiority and entitlement but also hurt feelings. That man loves you more than he likes to admit and your absence hurts him in ways he hasn't experienced before. It’s a confusing mix for him.

All things he does during those initial weeks: (subtly) dragging your name through the mud in the public, pulling strings to make life as hard as possible for you, having Ness talk to you - if they all fail, if nothing can make you crawl back to him on your hands and knees, I can see that anger slowly turning to desperation. It’s absolutely ugly. He doesn’t know what to do with the feeling, too used to getting what he wants, to winning. Ness will bear the brunt of it, no doubt. Moody, even more easily irritated than he already is, he’ll all but terrorize his team mates. Even the media picks up on it and they’ll have a field day with reporting on the subject. People around him are incredibly concerned for him and it will only drive him further up the wall.

In the end, he’ll turn up at your door on his own, no middlemen needed.

You’ll barely recognize him. Hair disshevelled, face pale with too little sleep and eyes red, he looks pathetic as he stares at you from his place on your doorstep.

It’s hard not to feel at least a little bit of pity for him when he looks like this. And maybe because he only ever emotionally abused you - never really kept you, never hurt you physically - your memories soften and you see his raw, vulnerable innards, see that big soccer star as some genuinely hurt young man, small and desperate. It isn’t really an act but the words he weaves aren’t all that truthful, either. It won’t take long for you to let him back into your heart: Being so close to him, remembering how you did love him, how he could be so sweet when he wanted to- that and the heartfelt talks you two are having even make you forgive him for the stunt he pulled with Ness. Everything is just too easily explained away with desperation, with him being beside himself after you left. One tiny part of you wants him to change, wants that initial magic of dating a pro athlete, back. You want to believe that he can and will change, that’s why his little spiel works on you in the first place. You still have too much love for him, in the end.

Kaiser is obsessed with control, we know as much - and what is one way to really bind you to him? Oh, it’s almost too easy. Marrying you is a no-brainer but today’s marriages are easily broken apart. No. He needs something entirely different - a child. Just one. A tiny little bundle of joy, the spitting image of the both of you, something that irrevocably keeps you with him, makes you think twice before leaving again. And he wouldn’t mind a child, even if he doesn’t feel quite ready yet - it doesn’t matter, as long as you stay with him for as long as you both live. Getting you so drunk you puke up your pill and don’t even remember him fucking you while you’re half-conscious is a breeze. Happy little accidents happen all the time, don’t they?

[youn9racha]

can you do dilf tropes for skz? (each member has a dilf trope kinda thing) 🙏🏼

Ella’s Thoughts #14 (??) (requested)

hmm i’m not sure about that one, but i’ll give it a try. also i assume you mean it in a wholesome way, so i practically made it as them as dads 💀💀💀 i hope its not a problem.

Headcanons: Stray Kids as dilfs/dads

Chan

Unpopular opinion: i see chan being more of a stepdad dilf rather than a biological dilf (no i do not mean it like that, GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF THE GUTTER !!) he strikes me as the type to not want children but he would love to take care of them nonetheless. like a non-dilf dilf type of guy (like he is rn lmfao.) he does not by any means hates children, he would love to have kids with you if you both want to. he just feels having a kids is too much, and its enough that he serves as a father figure to not only seven boys, but also to some stays, i think he would better off taking care of the boys’ kids or your kids of a previous relationship rather than having actual ones.

BUT if he were to have kids, its not any different from the way he treats his members. i mean there‘s an obvious difference, but he would still be that goofy, caring yet slightly strict father who constantly looks after his kids, especially if his kid is a girl, but it wouldn’t be any different if his kid was a boy as well.

oh and he’s a silver fox dilf like i’ve mentioned in the past :)

Minho

I mean ain’t he technically a dilf (along with chan) ???? mans already has three cats, ain’t that enough ??? no jk, minho’s the type of dilf who’s very chill and nonchalant about the way he’s handling his child. Like he strikes me as the type of dad dilf who would ignore his child’s cry for attention, but obviously it would be a totally different story if his kid, lets say, gets injured, there he would be this comforting dad who would both tend his child’s wound and also try to make them smile by making goofy sounds and faces.

I can also see him enabling his child’s chaotic antics. as long as no one’s hurt or crying, he’s not stopping them.

all in all; Minho’s a 3 c’s dilf; chill, chaotic yet cherishing.

Changbin

Oh boy is this man’s a child. i think he’d be more like Minho, but has a little bit of Chan element to it. He has the tendency to be very childish and he allows himself to be kid-like with his kids, however he does happen to discipline his kid when his kid has done something wrong. He still however acts all goofy and he sometimes makes baby faces and noises to his kid in order to make them laugh when they’re younger, or endearingly embarrass them when they get older

He‘s definitely more freeing than Chan, but he’s less lenient than Minho when it comes to parenting, however he’s a baby dilf, so be it.

Hyunjin

Again, this man’s already a father of a dog, kami, so he’s a technically dilf as well. He’s the type of dilf who’s very stylish and attractive to anyone of all age demographics, and he knows it. He would also SPOIL THE SHIT out of his child. he may also match his child with his outfit. like if i’m wearing burberry, my child’s wearing burberry.

All in all, Hyunjin’s a stylish rich daddy >:)

Jisung

How can someone gives off teen dad vibes despite being in his twenties and does not even have a pet, let alone a child? for some reason, jisung gives off that vibes. Don’t get me wrong, he’d definitely be affectionate and caring, but you can’t tell me that this man isn’r the most unprepared and anxious dad ever. Like every new parent, he does feel scared to carry a baby, in fear of dropping it, but his child would be 18 years old and he’d still be anxious as fuck.

All in all, he’s a caring and kind dilf but this man is a nervous wreck, he’s a cause for disaster most time. But he is cute, so he can get a pass lmffaooo.

Felix

ngl i’ll probably cry writing this…. cry of laughter, because gOD IS HE MORE EMBARRASSING THAN JISUNG !!! idk whats my vendetta against felix, but on god i love this kid so much. YES KID, because you going take care of two kids rather than one, you’re a single parent, i’m sorry.

in all seriousness, he’s a child parent, and he often is seen silding down the slide with his child in his lap. He constantly makes that baby voice he makes at times. He’s also the perfect guy to read his kid a bed time story, and he would also have a bake day with his child as well <3333 nahh he’d be an adorable ass dilf no joke.

Seungmin

this man… he is a savage in itself, and you think his kid, the literally creature that came out of his testes, would get a special treatment? think again, because he would absolutely drag his child through the mud. i obviously don’t think this man would do anything to hurt his child, emotionally or physically. think of it as a father-child banter between them. bonus if his child happens to have the same personality as him.

he does get all intimidating when mad, which envokes fear onto anyone close to him, however i still do think he’d be a fine ass dilf…. he just needs to shut his smart ass up before i beat him and his child u—

Jeongin

He’s giving felix and jisung here as well. clueless, scared, and anxious. mans a baby, why the fuck would you give him a child? he’d hold the child with his eyes wide open and be like “…. wait thats mine?! help me!” in a panicking voice making him and the baby cry.

he would be the type of dad who would let his child off the hook most of the times. he gives off “my child isn’t wrong, you are” vibes highkey. He also is the type of dad who would yell at his child for not cheating at an online class. what i’m saying is he’s a weird dilf thats all im saying lmfao

oh you disagree ? THATS TOO BAD I DON’T CARE !!! //j

[seeminglydark]

So I've posted my story before, lots of times, but the art is old and back then I didnt realize I should probably have some trigger warnings and all that. So I'm gonna tell it again. Cuz maybe it, like the comic i recently posted, can spare you a moment of the trauma I experienced while finding myself. So if you're interested in my Asexuality journey, you can read under the cut. I don't go into detail on any of the triggers in the story, its all alluded, but just in case, stay safe. Triggers for assault, bullying, self esteem issues, ED, isolation and emotional abuse. But mine, like Johnnys, has a happy ending.

So I guess I don’t really have a timeline. I’ve probably been Ace my entire life without even knowing it cuz how could i have even known what it was at 15 in the mid 90's. It wasnt something anyone talked about. In school I never dated and I got teased all the time for being super skeeved out by any kinda sex discussion. All this coupled with being incredibly awkward and over six foot afab made for a lovely high school experience. Anyway at some point I met this dude and he was nice, made me feel pretty and all that. I married him shortly afterward, quickly, because i thought that was what I was supposed to do. I thought getting married would change my feelings on sexual experience. I didn’t realize it at the time but he was emotionally manipulating me to believe he was the only person who would ever love and find me attractive, he isolated me from my friends and family. Throughout our relationship I always found excuses to avoid sex, even after we were married. I stopped eating and lost way too much weight, i worked endless hours so he could stay at home and play video games, anything to 'make up for' not being able to perform my marital 'duties.' I’m not going to drag anyone through the mud here, but lets just say things escalated fairly quickly in an ugly way and I had to exit the relationship and move to another state. I thought what happened to me was my fault, because I couldn’t perform the way i thought a spouse should.  At this point I didn’t understand asexuality was a thing. I thought there was something wrong with me, and I tried to force having sexual relationships. I was told by everyone that no one would ever love me if I couldn’t figure out how to perform the simplest sexual activities. This went one for several years, through another tried and failed marriage (I will emphasize this man was not abusive, and a quite lovely person, but i never told him how i felt about these things, and so he never even had the chance to try and work with me.) I wanted to badly to be in what I thought was a normal relationship, it never occurred to me this wasn’t my fault. it never occurred to me sex doesnt have to be the basis for relationships. No one told me. I went to sex therapists trying to fix my issues but no matter what i did I still hated the idea of sexual contact in anyway.

At some point I met my current partner, about 15 years ago. I told him the truth, despite still not having a word for it, and to my surprise he's always been ok with me the way I am. It’s insane, and my relationship with him is what made me start to realize what Asexuality is and that I’m NOT broken, that love and sex arent the same thing (that being said ofc there are people whos love language is physical touch, mine is not.)

I’ll end this with one of the last conversations I had with my dad before he died. I remembered telling him one night that I was Ace because he found me crying in the kitchen. Even all these years later, in a healthy relationship, i still experience trauma about it. I explained everything that led to that decision, a strange moment because we normally didnt share like this, but as i said, he was nearing death and sometimes you want a parent to hear and understand your words. I remember he looked at me across the table with tears in his eyes. He said ‘I wish you would have told me this when you were a a young adult. I wish you would have explained how you felt then. I would have told you everything was ok, and that you were ok and not broken. I wish I could have spared you all that pain you experienced finding yourself.’

So now I look to you and I say what he wished he could have told me.

You’re ok.

You’re not broken.

You’re not alone.

We exist.

[diamondluxesugar]

His Money =/= Your Money

A while back I answered an ask about what I spend my money and I started thinking about how I manage my money as a young woman and how it can either make or break the future.

Let’s dive in, shall we?

Let me start by saying that while I believe in being a kept woman, I don’t want to be 100% dependent on any man. I firmly believe in having your own AND having a partner that gives you everything you want and need. I’ve seen so many women change their lives completely because of a man, just to have his behavior change. He becomes complacent and stops providing, whether it’s financially, emotionally, or physically. Men will want to change you no matter who you are and what you do all to maintain their own ego and sense of dominance. A woman can be a neurosurgeon or a stripper and still find a man who wants her to quit her job because be a. feels inferior b. feels insecure or c. emasculated. Is that the woman’s fault? 

ABSOLUTELY NOT. 

Bill Clinton did it with Hillary. Sidney Poitier did it with Diahann Carroll. Joe AND Arthur did it with Marilyn. Offset did it to Cardi B. Men begin relationships with beautiful, intelligent, witty women and then try to get them to change who they are, to accept less than the best, to dim their shine so the man can be seen as having won her a prize. To be honest, I don’t even really care why men are like this. The simple truth is that they all are. But now that we all know this, the question becomes how do we combat it? How do we make sure that we’ll still be taken care of even if the men in our lives wake up one day and decide screw you over because you don’t fit into what and who they want you to be?

Answer: By having your own.

Have a job, have a volunteer organization in which you have an essential leadership role, have a successful blog or book or business. Just have SOMETHING that is more than just the spa days, hair appointments, and shopping trips. (Hell, if you’re really clever you can even turn that into a hustle, but that’s a conversation for another day) 

Having a job/transferable skills PLUS having an SD/boyfriend/sponsor(s) can be a lot to juggle, I know. I don’t know about you, but I put a lot of time and effort into my career. I’m constantly studying, developing new skills, reading the WSJ and researching anything that will give me a competitive edge. Yes, these things are time consuming and a lot less “fun” than shopping but it’s so important. I know I’ve mentioned this somewhere before, but you can’t put professional hoe on your resume. Having a job gives you security that you’ll be able to support yourself in case something goes left.

Trust me, things will go left in the blink of an eye. 

Look at the whole situation with Dr. Dre and Nicole Young. She’s trying to get $2M/month plus $5M legal fees as a settlement from him and part of the legal claim was denied. Why does she want that much? She is having trouble keeping up with her monthly expenses, Dr. Dre kicked her out of the house, he’s freezing the charges she’s making to cards, is saying that she’s embezzling money from him (and now she’s being investigated), and all types of foolishness. It’s messy and since she was “just a wife” how much of his $820M+ money is she going to get? Nicole was a lawyer before marrying him, and gave it up for him and for family. She adopted his 5 other children. How many nights do you think she was up having conversations with him about business, giving him advice, being a sounding board? Over 25 years?!

Seems like a lot of work just to be known as the devoted wife, am I right? Now since California is a communal property state, she’ll probably leave with something, but is it really going to be close to what she is accustomed to living on? Not to mention when you have that much money you KNOW he’s not going to part easily with any of it. I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s been moving things into secret trusts and oversees accounts since before the divorce paperwork was filed. However, imagine if during these years she built up a practice with her OWN contacts and clients, had her name plastered in the credits of everything he produced, had ownership stakes in all of the companies he created. Sis would be making out like a bandit right now. She’d be able to just pick up, take her lil divorce settlement money and ride off into the sunset with a hot buff pool boy. 

Instead she’s being dragged through the mud in court and in the press after dealing with Dr. Dre’s annoying ass for 25 years. How unfair. And if you aren’t satisfied with a celebrity example, I know women who got divorced and during the proceedings it came out that the man had an entire real estate company on the sly. Do you know how much money and how many secret deals it takes to have an entire RE portfolio on the side?

Ladies we have to play the long game. We have to have our own and whatever is being given to us needs to be the extra. 

No one can take your degrees or certificates (that his money paid for, but your brain received).

No one can take your career or professional experience(that you elevated using his money).

No one can take your connections and network (that he introduced you to, but you made your own). 

A person’s support can always be taken away, so the one thing you need to count on is yourself. Get those things that are valuable and will last you longer than this season’s designer..

-DLS

[rahleeyah]

sometimes i wish EO wasn't endgame, and honestly i love them but continue to be so on the fence about it all

the funny part is, i have no long-term resentful bone in my body, i can be mean and vicious and a bit vengefull but i could never be done with the love of my life, even after some of the shit we've gone through, some of the things i have felt and been made to feel, some of the things i have heard, some that hurt so badly but that i needed to hear

so i should understand olivia, i should understand how it is to feel unable to give up, to let go, to be done with someone, i should know that one look or move would be all it takes for my anger to subside, i also know that my rage burns bright and short and that i immediatly feel bad about it after because i don't want that to define me, to be how people and the person i love most remembers and knows me

but i feel vengeful for olivia, i feel like i need to protect her at all costs, and sometimes i am unwilling to believe that the one who hurt her the most is also the one who can make her the happiest, for some reasons that thought makes my heart ache, it makes me not believe in justice and i wish that elliot would just understand what it is she has been feeling her whole life, about people leaving, about her feeling she's not enough or, actually, too much

i can relate to olivia, i know how she feels because i feel it too, being too much and not enough at the same time is a burden to live with and i think, somehow, elliot tries to understand but he doesn't know and he will never know and sometimes, sometimes i just wish he could actually get into her head and her heart to finally, finally understand completely what is feels like

but the worse part is, the ones who actually don't understand are the ones the best equiped to heal you, because they try so much to get it that they do the work, they listen, they try and i know elliot can be that person, the one who completes her, who gets her in another beautiful way, who sees who she is, the real her, olivia

but sometimes i also want her to not be olivia all the time and to be selfish and to just say to hell with it and just take what she wants instead and not give it, give it, give it

so yeah, i wish they would end up together, but i also wish they wouldn't, i guess i will be happy and frustrated either way

Something I think is important to remember, when we talk about how Elliot leaving hurt Olivia, is that Elliot is also a person and Olivia knows this.

I don't think I agree with your thesis; is Elliot's departure the thing that hurt her most? No, I think Lewis did the most damage, emotionally as well as physically, bc he took away her control and her understanding of herself. Elliot's departure hurt but she wasn't in therapy over it. Sheila's betrayal hurt worse, I would argue. Bc Olivia didn't trust her but she wanted a family so goddamn bad she let her in anyway, and very nearly lost her son in the process, and blamed herself for it.

The thing is. What Elliot did, leaving, wasn't about hurting Olivia, and she knows this. He wasn't being cruel to her. He made a decision and one of the consequences of that decision is that she was hurt, but there are also positive outcomes with that decision. His family - the family both he and Liv have always put first - will be taken care of. He won't lose his pension, his reputation. He leaves his job on his own terms. Liv won't be dragged thru the mud alongside him.

Also!!! Remember!!! The part where he killed a teenager!!!! He is grappling with an actual serious trauma. And Liv knows this. Liv knows he wasn't trying to hurt her. He wasn't even being particularly selfish, imo; it's not like he wanted to go. Oh he could have answered the phone; ok well Liv knows where he lives and she's turned up uninvited to talk sense into him before. Why didn't she?

A) bc they're not real but b) I think she understands, on some level, why he had to go, and that she has to let him.

His marriage is not just an inconvenience to him. As far as he is concerned it is never going away; he loves his wife, he loves his kids, he believes in his god and the vows he has made, and he wants to be the man who stays. With that in mind it is kinder of him to leave Olivia than to continue to keep her in his orbit, bound to him and yet not ever his. He can't have her, and letting her go hurts her but it gives her the chance to maybe find happiness elsewhere.

You've pointed out that he does understand, better than pretty much anyone, exactly how Olivia feels, exactly how much she needed him, how she struggles with abandonment and feeling like no one wants her, bc she has told him more about herself, given more of herself to him than she has to anyone else and also he walked beside her for so long. They know each other. She knows his secrets and he knows her. So what makes him a threat? That he is the one who loves her most, and therefore is the one who can hurt her most?

The people we love most by default have the ability to hurt us more than anyone else, not because they choose to (yes, they know which buttons to press and which words cut the deepest but willfully inflicting pain for the sake of it is not love) but because they are so bound up in us. Their choices affect us more deeply than the choices of people we care less about. When you build a life with someone, every move they make has the ability to shake you bc you have the same foundation. It doesn't make them cruel. We have to learn to bend together.

The only way to protect Olivia from this pain is for her to never share her life with anyone else. If she doesn't depend on anyone she won't be hurt. If there's anyone who matters, tho, there is a risk of pain. That's life.

I hear you wanting to protect her and I fully get that but I don't see Elliot as a threat. Yes, his leaving hurt her. Yes, he could hurt her again. Anyone could. Anyone she loved, no matter who he was, could hurt her, bc she loves him and he could leave.

Their journey isn't over yet, either. We don't know how their coming together is gonna look. We don't know what kinda work they're gonna put in, what kinda conversations they're gonna have. So we don't know what this looks like.

And also. Fiction gives us a safe place to explore dynamics we maybe wouldn't want in real life and that's ok. Wanting them to be together in fiction doesn't erase your moral judgment, or your knowledge that you'd want better for yourself in a relationship.

So. Idk what to tell you, really. Your feelings are your own and you may just stay conflicted and that's ok!!! We all bring our own baggage to the table and sometimes we can't help but project our own feelings onto the characters, and sometimes that means we're gonna react differently to stuff than other people do. That's just human. I'm sorry if you feel you're struggling with this, but I hope that eventually you find some peace.