#I really do mean it

[gardenerian]

I know you've been on Shameless and Gallavich tumblr for a while and I was hoping you could give me some advice. I hope this doesn't sound too pathetic.

I'm a massive Shameless and Gallavich fan. I have been here for nearly a year and I feel very excluded. I really want to connect with the others in this community, but it's not working no matter what I try. I don't write, draw, make art or create gifs. I don't have any creations to offer and share. I know those types of things would get me some attention and for people to notice and interact with me. I like and reblog a lot of other people's posts daily. I leave comments on people's posts as often as I can to praise their work or to share my thoughts but I rarely get any responses from the person. I post random Shameless and Gallavich thoughts and head-cannons with tags but they rarely get many likes and no one ever comments to strike up conversation. I take part in the tag games and tag others, but week after week never get tagged to participate, but I participate anyway. Still, I never get comments on the stuff that I share about myself to let others get to know me. I have tried sending ask to people about things they have posted to strike up conversation, but I either never get a response or it's a one time response that doesn't go anywhere after that.

I suppose the gist is that I keep trying to strike up conversations to connect with the people in this community and it falls flat every time. I'm simply at the point where it makes me sad to come on here and to see how tight-knit this community is and how much you all interact with each other, hype each other's posts and make posts for and mentioning each other like on birthdays. I know you are part of an especially close group so it seems like you might be just the person to ask.

I'm not writing this as a complaint or to accuse anyone of anything. It's the opposite. I want to join in in this community and feel included. I want to no longer feel sad and ignored when I am on here trying to participate and interact. Like I said, I don't write or make art so do you have any tips about how I can get noticed and accepted into this community? I just want to make friends with all of you and finally feel a part of this community.

hi there 😭 i am so sorry you're feeling this way. wanting to connect is such a human thing, and it's not pathetic at all to reach out. i think it's great. so thank you for coming to chat with me about it, and i hope i can help ❤️

excluding people is never something i want to do. i want to engage fully and enthusiastically - i think we all do! and while there are so many ways to get involved, i do think engagement around here (on tumblr as a whole!) is different than it used to be. for me personally, i was on tumblr 24/7 for a long time, but now that i am working again, it's a little harder for me to be present as much as i want! it comes and goes in waves, really. sometimes i am tagged in things that i don't get to, sometimes i forget to respond to asks, sometimes i miss posts that go around during busy times. and sometimes i think i'm following people when i'm not! this happens to me a lot and it's super embarrassing 😭 and i think these kinds of things happen to just about everyone! sometimes we just can't be here the way we want, even if we love it. and we do love it! so much!

i'm glad you're participating! and i want to make sure that everyone knows that making or posting things is not a requirement to be here. there's no entry fee to enjoy fandom space. if you want to give it a try, please do! but you don't owe us anything; your presence is more than enough.

for me the answer was just to keep talking. i wish i had more direct tips, but i just have not shut up since 2019. people started talking back, but for a while it did feel like i was just talking to myself. i know you've been putting yourself out there, and it's really brave and wonderful. i hope you'll keep trying. there are people that will love you, and i'm sorry if i've missed you so far. i don't want you to feel sad here. if you feel comfortable, shoot me a DM! tag me in things! i will hype you up, i promise. i want to hear what you have to say, and i want to get to know you. there are friends here for you 💓 edit: join the discord if you can!

anyone else with tips is welcome to chime in.

[alias-inkpatch]

hello, i hope you’re all having a wonderful day

: ) <3

[attroxx]

i know i should be trying to go to bed but my anxiety won’t let me so, lemme just say this. i really do try my best to interact with everyone here but, i get shy and anxious and overthink and there are a lot of you i havent approached yet and i’m very sorry about that. i really want to do better about approaching people and i’m sorry if i’ve ever made it seem like i’m not interested in writing with you or whatever cause that’s not true at all. every mutual i have, i want to interact with. i love you guys and you all make my days so much better and far more bearable. okay. that’s all & goodnight for now.

[dogsliampaynedoesntinstagram]

When harry says things like "isn't all of this sparkly bi music" do you consider that a coming out? Because a lot of people say he came out as bi today. I'm just for whatever gives him inner peace. So many fans compare him to Freddie, though I can't gauge if that same sentiment is felt by others outside the fandom. But to try and have a long term career where he reaches Freddie like icon status while keeping an audience that wants to sleep with him but also staying true to himself and eventually confirming a relationship with Louis has to be so complicated for him. I don't envy the position he's in.

Are people really describing that as coming out? Oh fandom.

I've no idea why people are talking so much about Freddie Mercury - and I will remind people that I'm not the person to come to with those takes, because I will instantly start discussing Sun City.

But I don't think it'll help anyone understand anything about Harry's career if they think his goal is to have the status Freddie Mercury. Not least because Freddie Mercury only has the status of Freddie Mercury because he died aged 45.

I also don't envy Harry - we don't know how many of the things you list are his goals - but managing his goals can't be easy.

[friendsofabracadaver]

Hi I’m Sophie, I’m new to this app please can I be mutual with you?

Of course! Welcome to the hellsite (affectionate)

[foolsocracy]

they barge into justice league meetings saying they have something very important to show them. and do stuff like this

[whatacutiedonnie]

i keep saying i need to use my blog more, i need to actually do it. its a good sounding board to get my thoughts out n find others with the same interests. though connection and human interaction would be nice. idk maybe the anonymity of it? FB makes me so depressed but I need it for groups and job stuff. i really need to do it and not just say it. i do miss when there was more of a community on here though.

2/26/24

[adyophene]

I couldn't get the idea of Alastor holding Husk like that one ferret gif during his lament in the finale out of my head.

[doctorsiren]

The books reveal that Ford is actually a secret partier

(Available as a print on my Etsy Shop)

(wips under cut)

[joshuamj]

Hero.

[egophiliac]

doylist explanation for why Gidel is only in Fellow's non-idle lesson animations: probably something about space constraints and making sure two sprites in one seat aren't covering anyone else when they're not in focus

watsonian explanation for why Gidel is only in Fellow's non-idle lesson animations: he snuck in and is hiding from the teachers, don't give him away 🤫

(I've reached my limit of unsuccessful attempts at pulling them before I need to save keys for Halloween, so I've been living vicariously through youtube videos...but the fact that Gidel just pops up from under the desk to wave his arms around happily is really testing my resolve. D: I'm gonna die when they finally get to do alchemy...)

[bowenoke]

I bet they used to sing along to worship songs in the back of the car on the way to church

[oobbbear]

Please understand that when I say I grab you, I don’t mean grabbing your face or arm thats rude and creepy please don’t do that to anyone

When I say I grab you I’m saying it like I’m grabbing you like a potato. It’s my way of saying hey I appreciate and respect you let’s be friends

[letmetellyouaboutmyfeels]

I am incredibly serious right now when I beg you all, please, and if you have Twitter or Tiktok or whatever to please spread the word: click on an author's profile on Ao3.

You want to know if an author has written more? Want to know if they're still writing? Want to see more from them? Want to know if they've written a trope or kink or sex scenario you enjoy?

Click on their name. And look at their profile.

I cannot tell you how many times in the last six months someone has read a new or newer fic of mine and said they (a new reader who has read nothing else I've done) "can't wait to see what you do next!" I've written 50+ fics and over a million words already.

"I don't know if you're still writing..." click on my profile. I am. I literally wrote a 128k+ fic for that ship last month.

"Would you ever do X?" "Please do Y!" I already did. Click on my name and look at my works.

Archive of our Own is a library. It's an archive. Not social media. It is your responsibility to fight back against the laziness that corporate algorithms have trained into you.

Click my author name. Just click it. Just click it.

Before you demand more, or ask if a writer will do XYZ, or wonder if the author still writing, or anything - click on their profile. Click on the author's profile.

I'm not trying to be mean or condescending or anything like that. I'm just exhausted. It's disheartening and frustrating to repeat myself ad nauseam, because someone couldn't take thirty seconds to do the tiniest bit of work to see if I've written lately, if I've written more for their ship, or scan my works to see if I've written what they're asking for. Please. Please. I'm begging.

Click the author's name, and explore before you ask.

[pyromantic-mishap]

You. Come here. Look at me. I love you. Do you know what that means?

It means now and forever, throughout all time and space, I am here for you. At 12:53pm when you nail that interview, and at 3:27am crying on your kitchen floor.

It means I would walk into hell for you. and God help any demon who dares get in my way.

It means you're my friend? My partner? My sibling? My doctor? My teacher? A person I pass on the street?

I love you all. Each and every one of you.

Fiercely.

With all my heart.

[scarysanctuary]

I hope whatever you're going through lessens, that you can breathe easier, that your mind gives you a break and you manage to find moments of peace and appreciation for life, and foster little pockets of joy for you and your loved ones to exist within, sheltering you from any hardships that may come.