#I really do feel comfortable with being nonbinary and bisexual. It feels fitting. Good and like really me. Not things pushed onto me.

[straightoutthehexcore]

𝙃𝙚𝙭𝙚𝙙 <3

Side note can we talk about how this version of Viktor and hexcore (rainbow) Viktor are the best versions of him? Did bro say Glorious Ovulation because holyyyyyyyyyyyy 0///0

𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙚𝙧: Viktor my beloved <3

𝙎𝙪𝙢𝙢𝙖𝙧𝙮: Just general romantic/some NSFW headcanons for my favorite boy. You can picture these with whichever Viktor you want (I guess), but I feel S1 Viktor fits best.

𝘾𝙤𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙒𝙖𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜: NSFW themes (edging, eating out, praise kink on both sides if you squint, public sex fantasies), AFAB reader (mostly intended to be fem! reader but I'll be extra careful for my nonbinary/ftm friends)

𝙍𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙘 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙣𝙤𝙣𝙨

First off, I wholeheartedly believe in asexual/gay Viktor, and I am 100% a JayVik shipper, but a girl can also dream that he's bisexual with a male preference. It's a stretch, I know.

That's what we get for liking our men fruity.

Absolutely adores acts of service (his favorite), but physical touch (like the forehead touch that zaunites do, and other subtle movements) and verbal reassurance are things that make him feel appreciated.

Not huge on displaying his affections anywhere but in private. Nobody would even know that you guys are together and he likes it that way. He already has enough eyes on him, though they're mainly on Jayce.

Not big on names either, and idk if Czech exists in the LoL universe (as saddening as it is). He sticks with mentioning you as his "partner," though a "love" will sometime slip out when the two of you are alone.

"Can you please pass me those notes, my love?" "Do you need any help, love? You look... frustrated." "My cane is all the way across the room, can you please bring it to me, my love?"

You have to try your damnedest to either get into his lab to see him or to get him to turn in for the night. He reasons that this research is vital to his well-being, but so is rest. It usually doesn't work, so you at least bring him something to eat/drink.

I look at that man and think "pathetic twink," but with his attitude/personality, I can actually see him as more of a dominant figure in a romantic relationship. He is very sassy, he is assertive, and he is blunt. He doesn't look like he'd be like that, so it's a welcome surprise.

Generally a patient partner and is perfectly fine with slow-moving relationships. Actually, he prefers them. Not only does he enjoy the feeling of quiet, calm yearning, but he sees no reason for turbulence if one is trying to create a lifelong connection (which is what he generally looks for).

Viktor is generally really thoughtful, and even when you don't think he's listening, he'll remember the events of your day with perfect accuracy and even the food you mentioned eating this morning. Even the way you phrase things, he has sharp memory and is very considerate and attentive.

𝙉𝙎𝙁𝙒 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙣𝙤𝙣𝙨

I headcanon that he is 100% a virgin

Switch, but top leaning. Let me explain.

Just as I said he was more dominant in romantic relationships, once he is comfortable with a partner, he also becomes more sexually dominant as well. This might take him a while but I SWEAR it's worth it.

Limited mobility hinders a lot of things he wishes he could do (he'd be more experimental if not for it). He gets really insecure about his body, so he needs lots and lots of reassurance. He sometimes psychs himself out and gets a little worried that he's leaving you unsatisfied.

More of a giver than a receiver, he takes more pleasure in feeling your fingers in his hair while he overstimulates you with his tongue. Very skilled for someone who has NEVER done that stuff.

He is such a sweet dom, mostly ever lets out whimpers and small moans, as well as pure, sweet compliments, or the very rare tease. However, if you ever hear him curse under his breath, you know it's good.

Prettiest fucked-out expression EVER, eyes rolled back, head thrown back, back arching, the whole shabang.

Mainly has you riding him, his face, etc. One time he told you that you didn't need to hover and it was okay for a LITTLE but then he found it difficult. He still loves to have you fully seated while he works his magic.

Into edging and is really cheeky about it. He'll make the most smug expressions while eating you out or... rather, stopping before you finish. Part of him likes seeing you struggle, it's funny to him.

Absolutely communication driven, but gets a bit more confident as the relationship progresses. He doesn't want to overstep, and wants to know what you want/don't want, but will make use of that knowledge later.

Cannot be coerced out of work with sex. Thanks for trying. Maybe when he gets home, but he's usually either sleeps at the lab or is too sleepy at home. It is an unwelcome distraction and it genuinely frustrates him.

Speaking of the lab, he does feel really flustered and ashamed to admit that he has fantasies about you sitting on the desk and him going at it-- tongue, dick, all of it. It isn't a huge thing for him, but it pops into his head every once in a while.

11/10 aftercare, though you wish your already debilitated partner wouldn't try to rush around after he exerted himself so much. He rushes around to get you cleaned up, make you tea, all of it. He insists on doing things for you first.

I hope I fed the Viktor enjoyers, I love you guys and hope you're doing well after the events of S2. Stay strong Viktor nation, and as for Jayce...?

Jaybe.

This is my first Arcane headcanon post and definitely not my last. :D

Thanks for reading! Rosey <3

[joy-crimes]

A while ago I came out as being bisexual, & while it does feel amazing and liberating can I still be attracted to nb people? I the definition of bisexuality is to be attracted to men & women only & while I technically fit into pansexuality I don't necessarily identify as it. The point is can I still be bisexual if what I am contradicts the definition? I figured somebody like you could help me.

Aww hey hey that's okay <3

I'll shed some light onto my thought process, as I'm a firm believer that bisexuality does NOT exclude nonbinary people.

So, everyone has their own way of defining their sexuality. It just so happens that bisexuality and pansexuality have a lot of overlap, but the distinction is still important to people, and that's okay

Personally I identify as bi/pan because the distinction between the two is largely negligible to me. I believe that the overlap on the venn diagram between the two is where my sexuality falls. I tend to just say I'm bisexual cuz like. it tends to be the aspect of my identity that gets erased the most, but it's important enough to me to where I like to assert it as much as I can to deny that erasure.

Some definitions i've heard for inclusivity's sake are as follows (but whether or not you want to follow these definitions is flexible to your own comfort level):

Bisexuality CAN be defined as attraction to both YOUR gender, and genders that differ from your own (hence the "bi" meaning 2). This is a little less rigid than saying that bisexuality is strictly an attraction to MEN and WOMEN, so some people tend to prefer it.

Pansexuality CAN be referred to as loving anyone REGARDLESS of gender, where gender doesn't actually come into consideration at all. This definition is good, but also, people who identify as bisexual COULD have largely the same thought process.

Do these sound similar?? yes! It's because they ARE similar, and they also aren't rigid definitions that everyone has to follow. The overlap is inherent for a very specific reason: comfort.

This is something that usually gets overlooked when the public consciousness talks about labels. There's a lot of arguments about specific definitions, and which labels are good or bad, which ones are inclusive, and which ones aren't, but I think these arguments leave out the central reason people use labels in the first place: Self Definition.

Labels, as they are, in reference to the LGBT community, are often used as a way to categorize and exclude other people (if you are a loser who's mean to people for identifying a certain way), but that is not their primary function. The reason we use labels (and this is true for everyone in the community), is because it helps us put words to our subjective experiences in a way that brings us the most comfort. Categorizing others is a waste of time, because the more people you meet throughout your life, the more you realize that peoples' ideas of gender and sexuality are all so varied and vast, much like the colors on a rainbow, that fitting them all into neat little boxes doesn't really work. There's no use trying to say that some labels are good and some labels are bad, because at the end of the day, the person you are observing DOES NOT identify as YOUR PERSONAL dictionary definition of their label. Rather, they have their own subjective experience, and they've chosen their own labels to define them (as rigidly or as loosely as they may).

Self-identifying is what it's always been: an individual's subjective reality put to words that make them comfortable.

It doesn't have to be any more specific than that <3

[batpoisonz]

hey what label can I use when I'm not attracted to male-aligned people under any circumstance?

I know this likely was not asked in good faith but the simple answer is really: whatever you want.

if the answer you're looking for is lesbian, then you've come to the wrong place. because I am not going to just say "lesbian" if you wanted me to exclude bi-lesbians; who are people of my own community.

yes, you can identify as lesbian. most of the lesbian community experiences exclusive attraction to women or nonbinary individuals. however some people who experience the same attraction prefer the terms trixic, enbian, trixenamoric, or more. some of these labels also prove use as an add on to lesbian, such as "trixic lesbian" or "enbian lesbian," bc they want to specify their attraction to nonbinary people (as not every lesbian experiences such attraction, most lesbians do experience it exclusively to women as there are terms for including nonbinary people, but they are NOT required).

a lot of the time in the mspecles community, these labels are used as replacements for terms like "bi" or "poly" and other mspec identities bc they feel as though terms like those do not describe them. if bi or poly or omni and more do not describe you, then you do not have to use it. if your attraction feels monosexual, then u can say that! nobody is forcing u to use labels you are uncomfortable with. that's the important part.

also I forgot to add that neptunic is a widely accepted term even by the exclusionary lesbian community: it is explicitly defined as the attraction to all genders EXCEPT man aligned individuals, which fits exactly what you said as well!

because your attraction is so broad, you could even use bisexual or polysexual, and polysexual means you are attracted to more than one gender, and bisexual is two or more. there is nothing wrong with the overlap of these labels eith lesbianism. if lesbianism includes a being attracted to women and/or enby people, there's at LEAST two genders there. thus falling under both the bisexual and polysexual umbrellas.

tl;dr identify as whatever you want. labels are useless if the person using them doesn't feel fully comfortable or described by the labels they are using. just be yourself and nobody else should stop you.

[candycane969]

✨🎧🌆ROTTMNT DONATELLO HEADCANONS🌆🎧✨

made by me! candy! :3 no major spoilers

A quick guide!✨

💜 - Supported by canon (things that are pretty sure out there, maybe not confirmed 100% but yeah)

❤ - Kind of supported by canon (things that happened in the series that miiiight lead to some other stuff)

🧡 - My source is that I made it the fuck up (still trying to fit it into the character tho)

⭐ - Not sure if I'm taking this headcanon or not, but I do think It's pretty neat

💋 - Kinky! DISCLAIMER: Ive always seen the rottmnt boys (and April) in the age group from 17 to 19 and thats what I headcanon them as (as it is my own age group!). Ive seen the show and was fucking sure theyre my age and then a month or two later I was slapped in the face with thier actual age lol. I dont support any pedo shit, I also dont think minors can consent. Just putting it out there

Lets go!🌆💜🎧⭐✨

The 'Tism

• 💜 I think Its pretty fucking obvious that this boy is autistic, pretty much everything in the show supports this.

• ❤ Donny's headgear also works as noise cancelling headphones! He's often overwhelmed by background sounds and his gear makes it easier for him to live his life (either on missions or just spending time with his brothers and/or April). He still loves blasting his music on the highest volume tho. It's different when you consent to hearing your jams then when several people are talking at once and youre going crazy.

Tagging as kind of canon because he might have audio sensory issues because of his autism and you can reraly see him without the damn googles.

Different stims

❤ Foot stomping

❤ Hand flapping

🧡 Repeating a song/part of song over and over (yes, even if it has no words)

❤ Spinning on chairs

🧡 Pacing around the lab/the lair

• 💜 He knows ASL! Though It's never said in the show why he learned it, I believe that because he goes nonverbal often. Everyone in the lair can sign a bit because of that, but not everybody is too good at it. Donatello can communicate in ASL fluently.

Gender

• 🧡 Donatello never really felt connected to being "a men" and categorising things as "for boys" and "for girls" always seemed dumb to him. Shortly after Leo's coming out as a trans men (SURPRISE LEO HEADCANON) he went to talk to him about his gender experience. After some thinking and digging, Don came to the conclusion that he is in fact nonbinary. He still uses mostly male pronounces but always appreciates gender neutral pronounces coming his way.

Sexuality

• 🧡 While realising his own gender he also figured out that he doesn't really sees gender that seriously in others either. Men or women, its pretty much whatever to him. He doesn't like to label himself much when it comes to his sexuality, he accepts reffering to him as a pansexual or bisexual.

• 🧡 When it comes to dating Donatello doesn't imagine himself with anyone, really. He finds himself attractive, but doesn't think anyone would fancy him in a romantic way. He's not interessted much in dating either way. But he doesn't exclude dating someone in the future. It's just he won't go out of his way to look for love.

• ❤/🧡 Its obvious Don is a men of science, he's a genius when it comes to coding, math, engineering, I would say chemistry as well. Thats the field he feels the most comfortable in, but he loves learning new things in general. As long as there is interesting knowledge he can obtain, he will be there, soaking it like a sponge. He likes listening to info dumps, and probably listens to long ass video essays and/or podcasts.

• 🧡 Don likes to learn about others people hobbys and takes interest in learning about it. He likes showing others that he cares about something, even though Its something totally indifferent to him. For example, he knows lot about art making process from Mikey (Angelo even made him paint with him a couple of times!) even tho he doesn't really likes drawing and/or famous artists. No many people appreciate his work so he wants to show his appreciation to others.

• 💜 He is pretty low empathy most of the time. It's hard for him to relate to others, and can often feel like someone is overreacting. It's also challenging for him to put his feelings "out there". Which often makes him look unloving or unfriendly. And it couldn't be farther from the truth. He loves his brothers even though they bother him most of the time. And he loves April as well (though she never really troubled him much). He never really thinks that his low empathy is a flaw (more often he thinks about it as a blessing) but there rare are moment when he feels helpless because of it. He is glad that his family knows that he truly cares about them (and accepts any effort he puts in to express his feelings, even if it seems small).

• 🧡⭐ I've seen people headcanoning Donny as a baker and honestly I like it a lot. Cooking is Mikeys domain, and it suits him well, as it allows a lot of freestyling and just overall feeling. Baking and pastry making is very calculated and one miatake can ruin the whole thing. It reminds Don of engineering in a sense. Also baking is an easy way to get love and appreciation from his family because, cmon, he just made the most angelic fruit tarts in the whole universe, of course they're going to praise him. It also works as a stress relief. When feeling stumped and/or overwhelmed over a project or a situation he'll make something easy like brownies to get his mind of it.

• 🧡 He's very sentimental. He loves receiving gifts and will cherish and use them (even if he doesn't like it). He still has every "gamers dont die they respawn" Tshirt and every "dont fuck with my brother he was born in october and has autism" mug. Sometimes he REALLY wants to throw something away but god damn it this is painting Mikey did when he was ten and is just five splats of paint and thinking about him somehow finding out and crying about it might destroy him forever.

• 🧡⭐ This bitch reads fanfics, thats it. It started when he was around 13 or smth with Atomic Lass x Reader and now he knows all the fanfic lingo. He still might read something from time to time and writes very long and well written comments (with constructive criticism).

• 🧡 Speaking of which, Don writes perfect sentences while texting. All the correct spelling and punctuation. He also communicates with emojis and gifs like a millenial.

Food, TW: drinking!

• 🧡 He has a rather strong head, you cant make him drunk that easily. But when it finally happens, youre in for a ride. Shutting him up is near impossible, he will talk non-stop but with much less eloquence then while sober. Its extremely easy to make him laugh, so Leo absolutely loves it. He often looses track of what hes saying and starts completely different rant. Overall a chaotic mess. Really fun to witness it at least once. His beverage of choice is either fun cocktails or beer (tho rarely and/or only with some kind of juice because he doesn't like the fizziness on his tongue).

• 🧡 And that takes us to Donatello that hates fizzy drinks. He hates carbonated beverages, no matter if its cola or champagne. The feeling on his tongue and in his mouth makes him really uncomfortable. When there is no other choice but to drink up some bubbless, he leaves it open for as long as he can to get rid of them. His brothers despise him for that.

• 🧡 He doesn't like weird food combos either and is rather picky. When ordering food Don sticks to what he knows not to risk an uncomfortable texture touching his mouth. Texture is the most often reason for him not liking a specific food. Donnys pretty strict to preparing food as well (the way he does a thing is The Correct Way and no other exception is acceptable). Also he puts milk first so his cereal doesn't get soggy.

• 🧡 I feel like he likes fruit juices in boxes and fruit mousses but this is pretty random 🤷

• ❤/🧡 He wears contacts! We've seen little Donny with glassess, so I assumed he wears contacts now. When he knows he will be spending all day in the lair (for example because of an injury) he still has a pair of glassess he uses. And yes, he tapes them to the head. Because he rarely ever wears them, he never came up with a solution for not having ears and needing glassess.

• 🧡 ABSOLUTELY hates smoking. Will go on a rant if he sees someone he knows smoking. He absolutely despises the smell and WILL take it out of someones mouth/hand and throw it away. Appreciates the fun smells of vapes but still hates them. Will call vapers losers (maybe not exacly in these words but he will for sure).

• 🧡 Really good at makeup, but not as good as Leo is (ANOTHER SURPRISE LEO HEADCANON). He spend years perfecting his eyebrows of course. He also wears eyeliner because serving cunt is important even on the battlefield. From time to time you can see his nails painted as well.

• 🧡⭐ While being flustered or simply distracted he stutters a lot, mostly in a way of repeating whole words or parts of a sentence ("Its good because- Its good- Its good because I um- Its good-")

• 🧡 Enjoys taking very long baths, and actually prefers them much more then showers. Can stay underwater for a rather long time as well!! Being fully submerged calms him down a lot and its overall very relaxing for him.

• 🧡⭐ Ive seen a lot of takes that without his battle shell, he is really flexible (due to having a soft shell). And I like the idea. I think, that before sitting infront of a screen (or a desk in general) to do his work for several hours he stretches deeply so his back won't be so sore later. Also a reason to draw Donny in yoga poses and thats always cool.

• ❤ Makes up shit to fuck with his brothers. Like just spreading misinformation and gaslighting them for shit and giggles. Or to get them to leave him alone for a while. Also will gaslight them if they somehow find out that he was lying ("what? you must have heard me wrong then 🙄💅")

• 💜/❤ Loves singing and dancing!!! Aint the best singer (tho I love his songs in the show Im kissing him as we speak) but is a gorgeous dancer! He finds it incredibly fun and feels fabulous while doing it. Also Im pretty sure dancing counts as stimming so add it to the list. Dances solo like 90% of the time but really enjoys dancing in pairs (dances with April a whole lot when they get the chance!).

• ❤ He rarely laughs out loud, but when he does it is loud and messy. A good joke can make him think about it all day and continue laughing for a long time. Not my og take, Ive seen this headcanon before and I love it so so much :3

• 🧡 From all his brothers, he kind of wishes to be human the most of them all. Its not a big big wish, he does think of himself as very unique individual and takes pride of being a mutant. But sometimes while hanging out with April he can get lost in his thoughts of "what ifs". Maybe in the process of making a cloaking accessory.

• 🧡 His handwriting is god-awful. All scribly and fucked up like Doctors writing. Unfamiliar eye would not decipher a word out of it, but Don knows exactly what everything means. But he mostly writes digitally.

• ❤ Dons dislike of hugging is canon, but I do believe he likes being touched on his head and face (head pats, cheek rubs, scratches). He enjoys hand holding when it's appropriate as well.

• 💋 Im headcanoning the boys to go through mating season once a year (except mikey cuz he small) everyone at a different time. It would be similiar to an ovulation but much more horny (with also fever symptoms). Don would be the second after Raph to get it. While in heat he doesn't go feral or anything, but after a few days stops working because he cant focus on his craft. Waves of sudden temperature changes (mostly high heat) with really horny thoughts and hypersensitivity to pretty much everything...yeah not the best work environment. He spends his  most intensive days closed off in his lab or room because he really doesn't want his family to see him like this (the rest of the turtles are in thier rooms during thier mating time as well for the same reason). Also add being possessive while having a SO, and also veeery easy to irritate.

• 💋 Donny takes on a more submissive role while being intimate, even though he loves to be in charge all the time. But he isn't a bottom either, I would put him perfectly in the middle as a switch (more leaning on that sub part tho).

• 💋 His biggest turn on is smell. Like someones natural smell, no perfumes and all. He likes to snuggle in the crook of the neck and take it all in. This becomes cranked up to eleven during mating season, as he absolutely cannot stop sniffing. Would love his significant other to leave him clothes with thier smell on it and sleep and/or snuggle with it.

Might add more later but thats all for now :3💜

Hope you enjoyed it⭐✨

[stickystarspectrumtroll-ocs]

for pride asks: 4,6,7,10,11,12 for everyone, and also 5 for allets, eliote, and maddie T along with 16, 17, 20, and 21 for the creator ones!

4. Is your oc's environment supportive about their identity? How does this impact them?

Luna, her world in general definitely has amatonormativity. Her parents have been as accepting of her aromanticism and asexuality as they have been of everything else about her. The School for Good, not so much. I mean come on, have you SEEN how much revolves around the Snow Ball and finding a date for it? Endless suffering. Constant disgust and frustration beyond words. She's being strangled. Suffocated. She's aboutta set the place on fire.

Jewel, there wasn't really anycreature to judge either way on her island. She got to have a concept of herself there and get fully comfortable in it without any input from anycreature else. In fairness there might've been some degree of amatonormativity in some of the books she read, but somehow it never really got its hooks in her. They'd say "everycreature wants to fall in love" and she's like "DOES everycreature though? *squints*". And there's definitely books she reads where characters are happy to never get married or anything too. The School for Good, as previously mentioned, emphasizes romance a LOT though, which contributes to her being generally uncomfortable there. Oh, and as to gender identity, I'm not sure how aware her world is that nonbinary people are a thing. I'm sure if she tried to explain it to anycreature once she'd fully worked it out, they'd be like "Huh. Okay." but there's still a lot of assumption until told otherwise that everycreature is a boy or a girl, and not a lot of space made for anycreature else. And the School for Good goes VERY heavy on the gender roles and a very stereotypical fairy-tale princess mold of femininity, which she Does Not Fit, so yeaaaaahhhh that along with the amatonormativity contribute to making her very much feel at all times like she simply Does Not Fit there in any way.

Allets, I feel like the Endless Woods in general are not the MOST unaccepting of bisexuality, but I feel like there's still heteronormativity for sure, especially within the School for Good, and of course her parents are homophobic, so. Yeah we got a lot of internalized homophobia here and it takes Awhile for her to fully accept her orientation.

Eliote...Hmm. She was in one environment the first seven years of her life which likely would've been supportive if she came out as queer but it was kinda too early for that to be a concern for her. Then she was in and out of a bunch of different environments for awhile, some of them might've been supportive of queer people, some of them might not've been, some of them might've been in an in-between area, in any case it wasn't really a concern for her then either. Then for several more years her environment was mostly just her on her own. And in those times there were still other things more important to her than thinking about any of this. Then there was the School for Good, which as we've established is heavily cisheteronormative. Figuring out her orientation and doing anything with it still remains Not A Priority for her, but she does know she is Not what that environment wants her to be, so there's a lot of frustration at them trying to cram her into that, like "I am FINE, idiots, leave me be, I swear to frick if you don't LEAVE ME THE HECK ALONE-"

Maddie T and Finley, there's probably cisheteronormativity and amatonormativity in Auradon, and there might be some aphobes, but I think there's a good number of people who'd be accepting too. Maddie T probably got upset when met with any amatonormativity in younger years, but at this point everything bounces off of her and she doesn't give a flying fart either way and just quickly laughs it off and calls it silly. Finley meanwhile is always ready to give somecreature a good lecture on amatonormativity at the slightest hint that it's needed.

Penny, her family is pretty accepting, and I think her school is too. There's still amatonormativity in her world, but it's rarely if ever been very heavily present in her environment. She is fully comfortable and proud being aroace and while she's aware of amatonormativity and knows enough to complain about it and call it out when she sees it, she doesn't directly experience a whole lot of it.

Twig lives in Troll Village which is generally the nicest and most friendly and accepting place ever, I'm pretty sure all queer identities are fully accepted there. Though I feel like they might not entirely be down with her romance repulsion, past a certain age it might be seen as kinda pooping on other people's happiness and she might be encouraged to keep it down a bit. Tbh I also feel like at some point her being exclusively romance-repulsed might evolve to being like, 60% romance-repulsed 20% romance-neutral or ambivalent, 20% romance positive, it varies wildly and shifts back and forth based on a jillion factors, and I feel like a lot of trolls around her would kinda have a hard time wrapping their heads around that, plus she would've been exclusively romance-repulsed for long enough and strongly enough that this would drive her a little nuts herself, and so she'd probably struggle a bunch with all of That. So yeah, her being aroace is never something she feels any shame for or has any difficulty accepting, but her general thoughts on romance in her surroundings and how much of them she can voice would be a struggle.

C.C. and Jasper, I think there's a bunch of queer kids in their school, and I think the place is generally accepting. I don't know if C.C. has talked to her family about her orientation or not, but I think they're down with anything there and will happily accept anything about her. Jasper, his parents aren't around much, and I dunno if he's had the chance to say anything about his bisexuality to them. Maybe he has once or twice, I'm not sure. They'd probably be like "Oh. Okay." There might be a little bit of "he a little confused but he got the spirit" kinda stuff from them, I dunno. As to the servants that watch over him in his parents' absence, they'll mostly kinda just take whatever as it comes. He indicates that he's into men and they're like "okay". I dunno how familiar with the concept of alterous relationships or alterous attraction the people around any of them are. But I think if either of them were to try and explain things related to all that, people around them would generally be like "huh. okay then."

5. How did you figure out your oc's identity?

Allets and Eliote it happened because I realized that while I wasn't going to write them as a ship, I wouldn't mind people shipping them and the concept of them as a ship didn't feel wrong.

Maddie T -- Tbh, I kinda didn't DO non-aroace ocs at the time, I just didn't know how and had absolutely no interest, the thought of ever writing something in which romance was a possibility at all made me want to barf up all my guts. So yeah, she had to be aroace. And that got to be rooted deep enough in my concept of her and got fleshed out in my mind enough over time that nah I wouldn't ever change it.

6. How does your oc feel about labels? Theirs, or in general?

The world that Luna, Jewel, Allets, and Eliote live in kinda doesn't have labels. If they were to find out about labels, like in the whole-oc-squad-lives-together scenarios, Jewel and Allets would be glad to have the language for what they are and what they feel. Luna would be like "oh, there's a word for it? huh. neat-o. if i use this will people leave me alone about the romance thing?" Eliote would be like "huh. cool. okay."

Maddie T really isn't big on labels in general, queer identity related or otherwise, but she likes the puns she can make with the terms "aro" and "ace."

Finley likes labels, it helps her in conceptualizing things, she likes to be able to pin things down in words, she likes to have language to clearly explain things.

Penny likes labels, they can make things easier to understand and talk about at times. She found out the label(s) applying to her and was like "oh wow, this is a queer thing and there's a name for it? cool!"

Twig will be glad for the terms aro and ace, as it might get people off her back about ever doing romance or sex in her life. And yeah, she likes to have language for these things in general.

7. Is there something that could cause your oc to question their identity? What?

Nah, most of them are pretty darn secure in their identities. The only ones who've ever had to question and realize are Jewel, Allets, and Eliote.

For Jewel the realization that she's not entirely cis is spurred on by the environment of the School for Good.

For Allets, realizing or admitting to herself that she's bi gets unlocked once she's learned to feel less ashamed of a bunch else about her. And possibly is also spurred on by the environment of the School for Good.

For Eliote, she will question if and when she Catches Feelings TM for somecreature and only then.

10. Does your oc celebrate Pride? How?

Pride doesn't exist in the world Luna, Jewel, Allets, and Eliote are from. But in the oc-squad-all-lives-together scenarios, they do find ways of celebrating pride. They're mostly low-key about it as far as it goes, but Jewel and Allie are down to wear pride colors, Luna and Ellie are down to at least wear pins, Luna will punish any queerphobes she comes across, Ellie will check out some pride month art online and maybe try a hand at a little of that herself, and they'll all take it as a time for some extra pondering and talking about being queer.

Maddie T and Finley definitely go to whatever kind of pride events there are around them. Also wear their flag colors and/or pride pins a bunch. And they talk about it to people more. And Maddie T makes more aro and ace puns. As well as street art relating to aromanticism and asexuality, and possibly queer pride in general. And Finley probably designs and/or sews pride flag color clothing.

Penny likes to dress up in all aro and ace and aroace flag colors and paint the ace and aro flags on her face and if there's any pride parades or other pride events / celebrations she's able to go to then HECK YEAH she's going.

I don't know whether there's need for pride where Twig is, as queerphobia has likely never existed among trolls. But if something like pride does exist, there's gotta be a TON of festivities for it, and I'm sure some of them she'd enjoy.

11. Is your oc open about their identity? Are they more lowkey or more blunt about it? Why or why not?

Luna is definitely open about it. She doesn't usually talk about it except when it's relevant to the subject/conversation at hand, but when it is, she makes her complete disinterest in (and disgust for) romance and sex very bluntly clear.

Jewel will talk openly and frankly about her aroaceness and general thoughts on romance and sex when/as applicable to the situation. Hard to say whether it's "low-key" or "blunt" or whatever when she does, she's not like Luna where it's just like "that stuff's gross, don't get it anywhere near me, the end." she's more like "????? i don't get it????? why would you want to do that?????" I guess you could say she's blunt, because she doesn't really downplay it or try to say it delicately or anything. It's just that the things she has to say are arguably more low-key? I guess? Maybe?

Allets cannot be open about her identity. Homophobic parents and all. I think in the whole-oc-squad-lives-together scenarios she does get to be open about it in time though. She's not the MOST blunt about it there either, but she gets to be not exactly lowkey about it either. She kinda only brings it up when it's either relevant to the situation or something related to it has been especially on her mind, but comes to be able to talk about it then and occasionally joke about it.

Eliote is not particularly open about her identity. She doesn't like to talk about it. She doesn't particularly like to think about it. She just has other things on her mind and doesn't see why she or anycreature else should care to think or talk about her orientation. And if it ever makes itself explicitly known to her she's gonna be Violently uncomfortable about it and prefer to shove that down as much as possible. Might get to a point eventually where she's okay talking about it a little. With those close to her. Eventually.

Maddie T is definitely open about her identity. She'll talk about it whenever relevant. Also make puns about it. I wouldn't say she's "low-key" but I dunno that "blunt" is a good term for it either. As with everything she's prone to saying things in a very nonsensical and roundabout way. But the fact that she's not interested in ever having romance or sex in her life does clearly get across. And I guess she CAN say it more up-front and straight at times too.

Finley also openly talks about her identity whenever relevant. She gives people mini-lectures on amatonormativity whenever they say or do something amatonormative. I wouldn't say she's "blunt" either much of the time, but she's not quite "low-key," I'd describe her most of the time as being like. Plainly factual and frank. Y'know?

Penny talks about being aroace a fair amount. Sometimes it's related to the situation at hand and sometimes she just feels like talking about a related experience she's had. And she'll call out and talk about amatonormativity when she sees it. She's on the blunt side about it. She sees no reason not to be.

Twig is very blunt about her feelings regarding romance and sex whenever those come up in any capacity. And she makes her personal disinterest in them very very plain and clear.

12. Does/did your oc ever wish they could change the way they are? Why? If it's in the past, how did they get over the feeling? (this can be about internalized homo/transphobia)

The only OC with internalized queerphobia is Allets. She's very much internalized from her parents that princesses Are Not Supposed To be gay. She does slowly get over it in time as she slowly gets over the shame about like, everything else about her. With the distance from her parents and the help of her friends.

16. Did you ever change an oc's identity when they were already established? Why?

The idea of Jewel being a demigirl took awhile to occur to me.

17. Do you share identity with any of your ocs? Which ones?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I'm aroace. Luna, Jewel, Maddie T, Finley, Penny, and Twig are all also aroace. XD 😂

20. Have your ocs helped you in self discovery? How?

Nah, not really. 😂 ghdrcckm 💀

21. Free ramble card wee

The more I've been writing about Luna, Jewel, Allets, and Eliote for these asks the more I'm realizing how sucky the SGE series was about queer people tbh lksfdhgkhalkjg like there's not a whole lot of outright homophobia, there are people who acknowledge queer folks exist and have no complaints or whatever, but there still tends to be general widespread assumption that everycreature's cishet until stated otherwise and not much talk about anything else? And the no-labels-in-the-Endless-Woods thing! How much harder and more complicated could it be then to explain your identity to people? Which might well be necessary because of the fact that cisheteronormativity still exists there. And without the existence of labels how many people in the Endless Woods are having experiences that come with a certain queer identity or other that's never talked about, and talking about it like one (1) time and being like "is that a thing? is that just me?" and then end up just keeping that to themselves, never having a name for it, never knowing that it's a thing other people experience, never getting to bond with other people like that over it, never getting a sense of community out of that, never getting to validate and celebrate it or anything. Like, how much could that freaking SUCK for people, seriously.

Add this to my long list of realizations and rambles about the many flaws in how SGE was written. Gotta love that.

[void-star]

It's interesting how life goes. Most people I know, speak to, or hear from end up exploring their sexuality first and then make revelations about their gender later. I ended up having the reverse, but also both things on a really long time scale.

I love my gender and my gender presentation, though the world at large often does not love it. I get mistaken for a trans woman a lot, so now that my hair is long and I wear pretty things, a lot of other trans masc ppl in real life give me some cold, dead energy (this was different when my hair was short and I was presenting more masculine-- was catching other trans mascs like catnip). On top of the other things I deal with from cis men especially.

I think it's obvious to me now that queer femininity is very important to me. I like it in myself, and I like it in other people regardless of gender. I don't think I was able to interact with it until I was able to queer it-- through hormone therapy, which is also beloved to me, and top surgery, which I wanted since before I knew what being transgender even was.

I definitely also enjoy a level of queer masculinity, mainly in its relationship to androgyny or genderfuckery. But it doesn't really hold as much water for me as someone who's been in both mlm and wlw spaces and relationships.

I've been exploring my own sexuality a lot lately. Contrary to a lot of tumblr discourse, I am both asexual and have something to explore-- my lack of sexual attraction is not the absence of sexuality, sexual activity, or (as I'm discovering) sexual desire.

And what I'm finding is that I deeply enjoy inclusive sapphic spaces. We have a bar out here that's one of them and every time I've gone, I felt really comfortable and excited to be there. It's very explicitly trans inclusive. It's also a kink positive space and I'm really grateful for their facilitation of gentle and easy introductions to bdsm for people who are curious.

There's a lot of weird bullshit cis people build up about queer identity that's made my life confusing and miserable. I don't have a high tolerance for grief and harrassment because, frankly, I've been through and deal with enough in my life. I'm nonbinary. I'm genderfucky. I'm androgynous, a mix of feminine and masculine. I don't fit anywhere by these stupid, rigid, bioessentialist definitions. And in the presence of people who suck, I wilt and turn away from things they, frankly, do not and should not control.

I'm really kind of in love with being the way I am and desiring the people in the way I do.

There is not really good language for this. I like people of any gender with specific qualities, usually feminine-leaning. I have a clear preference for certain types of bodies. I don't have any skills navigating much of this, and I just recently started feeling interested and safe enough to check out kink spaces. But I'm really enjoying where the intrigue is taking me.

And I'm enjoying the way the people in my life are responding to my exploration, too.

Really kind of enjoying being some sort of bisexual transmasc lesbian. ♡

[thebuttsmcgee]

[lauras-happy-place]

Hey i just saw your post about you mentioning being enby? Did you come out in school? Or how did you realise? Can you please tell more?

Hi! Sure :) (Edit: sorry for the length]

In school I was on good terms with every single classmate of mine, but I wasn’t really friends with anyone. Like the type you go and do stuff together outside of school. So I felt pretty comfortable but I still came out the 1st year as bisexual (now I know I’m ace and pan), but I didn’t think much about my gender identity.

The class noticed how I didn’t fit neither groups, but the thought of “genders” wasn’t really formed in their minds. Let me explain. If I wore something feminine both them and I thought it was off and same with masc stuff. But, again, this wasn’t a formed thought. So I wore whatever I felt confident in and that suited me. Soon people used terms like “that’s a very Laura outfit” and stuff. Not in a mean way. “Laura” became a term for neither femme or masc.

I only now, looking back do I realize that that was clear indication of me being nonbinary.

Also, people my age never treated me during high school as a lady nor a tomboy or anything. I was just simply Laura. Noone were misogynistic towards me, or being a creep so that was nice. But the downside was that I never had girl/boyfriend. Everyone was straight at my school and the guys wanted girly girls and well, there were no non straight girls so-

But that’s okay. To this day I never feel like people put gender roles on me. And I found out that people are comfortable around me for that. Even if people don’t want to admit, it’s nice to see through genders and not have to consider it while interacting. I never come out to anyone because I don’t feel the need. They already treat me the way I��d like them to. (I also look really young, so that must play into it too lol)

But I don’t want it to seem like I’m fine with it too much. I really want a partner and it’s beyond difficult as an ace enby person :( I’m so full of love and it’s just bleeeehhh so hard ugh yk? I don’t wanna get too soppy. Whatevs.

[karls-writing-space]

『 Backstory 』

➵ Any TWs? :

➵ Subtle Mentions of Transphobia.

➵ Beau Romano - his deadname being Bianca - was born a year after his older sister, Faye. He lived with his semi-wealthy parents, Camilia and Dylan Romano in Manitoba.

When he was in second grade, Beau began to have a big sprout of creativity. He had drawn pictures of people and anthropomorphic animals, and create small little tales about these people/animals he has drawn. He Drew more and more of these as time slowly passed, and he enjoyed telling stories about these drawings. This had grown into a hobby, and something he enjoyed thoroughly.

His older sister came out when she was nine that she felt like a girl and that she was attracted to girls. Now, their parents are very accepting people and proceeded to assist and support Faye - who was formerly known as Lovino - get what she needed to transition.

Beau happily cheered on his big sister on, supporting her and showering her with love. He celebrated her transitions and her relationships happily, happy that he had such a prideful older sister.

By the time Beau was ten, he had begun to experiment with his sexuality by feeling some weird way towards a guy in music class. He talked with this guy more and more, and these feelings continued to grow.

After a couple of weeks, he felt the same way towards a girl in music class too. The feeling for the boy stayed, but now he had feelings for a boy and a girl.

One day, while walking to school with his mom, he heard two girls behind him talking about the people they liked. One of the girls had said that she was Bisexual, to which little Beau tugged on his mother's sleeve and asked what "Bisexual" meant. The woman explained that it was when someone liked two or more genders.

Beau put that into thought, and not even a minute later, he exclaimed "I'm Bisexual!"

His mom smiles and ruffled her son's - then daughter's - head. While Beau was still a kid, and she thought that Beau didn't know what he was talking about, the boy knew exactly what he was talking about.

Those feelings of the boy and girl faded over time. When Beau was twelve, he had fallen for another person. There had been this really cute girl in class who enjoyed drawing, and boy, what a talented artist she is.

Slowly, but surely, Beau began to fall in love with this girl, and spent time with her. Months went by, and the two had fallen in love.

The girl had confessed to Beau, which he accepted.

These two were a great, healthy Lesbian couple at the time. They were both very happy and loving. Beau had welcomed his girlfriend into the family, to which they welcomed with open arms.

The relationship lasted for two years until they fell out of love. The spark was gone. Their breakup wasn't nasty - they awkwardly stated that they lost that romantic spark on both sides. Beau had turned thirteen at the time. Beau and his ex-lover are on good terms to this day.

Once puberty hit, Beau looked at the body he had at the moment. He didn't quite fit with how it was. It made him feel like he didn't fit in a girl's body. He wanted to cut off his developing melons. So, he decided to talk to Faye later that evening, whom had fully transitioned. She was a beautiful woman. As he talked to her about what had been up, Faye stated that Beau could be Transgender, and even gave him a few articles on Gender Dysphoria.

Weeks of looking into gender identities later, Beau took the label "Trans Male" and used it to describe himself. With encouragement from Faye, he came out to his parents, who accepted him. He didn't want to transition as quickly as Faye, and wanted to take it slow. Testosterone and binding first.

As he grew older, Beau got bullied for being a Transgender Bisexual man. He was experiencing Transphobia from a few of his fellow peers. He knew that not everyone would accept him for being who he was, but this hurt quite a bit. Being bullied for this wasn't fair - he had every right to express himself! - but nooo, people were idiots.

His love for writing had grown more and more over the years. He began to write little stories that he presented in school and posted online. People loved his little stories. Whether they were fanfiction or characters and universes he had created in his head, they received a lot of positive feedback. Sure, there were haters, bullies, trolls, and rude people in general, but Beau didn't pay attention to them too much.

Beau had gotten top surgery when he was fifteen. He had been on testosterone for a year, and he had been binding for that time being. He loved his new, flat chest. Sure, he would have a scar on his chest from the surgery, but it didn't really bother him. He was happy that his tibbies were deleted. Now he could feel like a guy somewhat.

During the time passed from fourteen and fifteen years old, Beau had been watching a show known as "Total Drama" with Faye. The show was appealing to the young teen. The risky challenges were entertaining, most of the cast was likable, and it was really entertaining for the young boy. He'd talk about joining the show every now and then and would think about what his label or cliche would be on the show.

Timeskip to now, Beau and Faye are sixteen and seventeen respectively. After watching an ad to audition for the next season of Total Drama, Faye looked over at her little brother.

"Hey... You should audition to be on there!"

Beau, liking the idea, auditioned for the show. Once his audition was seen, Beau was invited to be on a season of Total Drama.

『 Voice Claim 』

『 Miscellaneous Facts』

➵ Theme Song

➵ Quotes

"O-Oh, hello...!"

"I'm Beau. It's nice to meet you!"

"It's too people-y in there. I-I'd like to stay right here."

"He's... Kinda pretty."

"Are you lonely? I could hang out with you if you'd like."

"I-It's not a diary! It's just a journal that I put my writing and ideas in."

"Sorry, I'd rather be by myself. I-It's nothing personal -- I j-just don't like large groups of people."

"Sorry... I'm rambling again, aren't I? Sorry about that..."

"He's a... He's a man. And I'm just a boy."

"Ciao, bello..!" (Hello, handsome..!)

"Aren't you guys a little too old for a bedtime story?"

"Fine, fine. Once upon a time, there were a few guys on an island who needed to go the fuck to sleep. G'night, guys."

"What do you mean that 'isn't a good bedtime story? I think it's a brilliant story."

"Fine... There was once this God named Fóllame de lado-"

"Hey - do you wanna fuck around with the others?"

"H-Hey! I apologize for interrupting what you were doing, but... I'd like to confess something if that's o-okay? Look, I'll cut to the chase. I... love you, dude. And not in some bromance way. Like... I have romantic feelings for you. I love you so much I could scream it to the world..! I hope you f-feel the same way. And if you don't? That's p-perfectly fine."

"Good morning, mio amore."

"Sorry, but could you like, shut up for five seconds? Thanks..."

➵ Ship Names (OC X Crush or OC X OC)

Duncan x Beau = BeauDun/ BeauCan

DJ x Beau = BJ / BeauJ

Alejandro x Beau = AleBeau

Mike x Beau = Meau/Bike

Lightning x Beau = Blightning/BeauLight

Topher x Beau = Beaupher / Beaupher

Shawn x Beau = Sheau / Bawn

➵ Random Facts

• If they're comfortable, Beau calls his male friends "Bello" (Handsome), and his female friends "Bella" (Beautiful).

For Nonbinary folk, it depends on what they prefer.

•Beau has learned how to play the ukelele from Faye.

•He would actually like to go windsurfing sometime!

• Speaking of his sister, she's a well-known acrobat/performer for her age. He admires her for being so talented in such a thing..

• His sister is an extrovert, and more outgoing than Beau. The two are opposites,,but yknow, opposites attract!

•Beau prefers to write stories that are/include horror, action, and supernatural/fantasy. He can write romantic stories, but he doesn't prefer writing things like that.

•He has written some shitty fanfictions when he was younger. He will share them among his friends and laugh at what he wrote.

•The languages he speaks are:

• English

•Italian

• (Some) Spanish. [Italian and Spanish are similar language-wise in a few ways. That, and Beau just wanted to learn Spanish.]

• Respectful boi when it comes to Pronouns, Names, People's likes and dislikes, etc.

•Beau has some family members that live in Italy. He has gone to Italy to visit them numerous times.

• Beau doesn't believe in soulmates. He thinks that it's just some fairytale thing that people believe in. He wants to love someone on his own accord - not someone who the universe was like "Oh, let's put these people together.".

♫♪.ılılıll|̲̅̅●̲̅̅|̲̅̅=̲̅̅|̲̅̅●̲̅̅|llılılı.♫♪

╚═══*.·:·.☽✧ ✦ ✧☾.·:·.*═══╝

[the-lady-writes-what]

Okay. Oh, boy. Um, in honor of it still being Pride Month, I have a little confession to make. Let's get something straight, I'm not. You know I'm asexual right? I don't have any particular feelings about sex irl, but I write about it a lot because of...reasons. However, that's not what I'm talking about here.

I never really considered myself part of the LGBT+community because, well, I don't do so well with groups, I like being a loner, and if I'm honest, there's still acephobia even in LGBT+ circles. Not all of them are like that, this isn't a blanket statement, but some people are like that. Plus living just above the Bible Belt in a Midwest state, there aren't as many safe spaces for LGBT in general. So, this entire month, I've been festering, meditating, and overthinking about what I'm actually attracted to or if I want another romantic partner in my life. I had to break up with my partner earlier this year back in February because the relationship wasn't going the way I expected it to. My partner was super understanding and we're on good terms. This was a decision that didn't come easy as we had been together on and off for almost ten years, it started when we were both college freshmen. Being in an off and on again relationship for that long can have negative side effects such as not knowing if I'm able to enter a new one after a relationship that worked like a light switch. Again, I don't have any resentment towards my previous partner, but when you're in a relationship for almost a decade, it's hard to move on from that.

Where does this rambling about exes and relationships go and what does this have to do with Pride Month or LGBTQ+? Well, my sweetings, after some soul searching I can proudly say...I have no fucking clue. My sexual attraction remains the same. When it comes to sexual attraction, you can find mine at the bottom of the Marianas Trench. I'm not attracted in that sense. But I believe in the past month I think I have experienced "gay panic" for the first time in all the time I have suffered on this planet. I like girls. I'm attracted to feminine ladies in a strictly romantic sense. I don't think i would ever use bisexual as a label because I don't think it fits me, even if that's technically what I am. I'm not interested in men and women in a capacity more than romance, which in my definition doesn't include sex. If I become comfortable enough with a partner, I might try it on occasion, but I'm not really into sex. This goes for both. I could kiss a girl if they were comfortable with it, but I don't see myself having sex with them anymore than a guy (btw, this also includes anyone who is trans or nonbinary. I'm only using binary gender to make it less winded and easier to read).

Then there's the added layer that I might also be polyamorous, but when I try to find groups or dating sites, some of them end up being stereotypes of straight men with bisexual wives/girlfriends looking for another woman or dudes looking for threesomes. Some, not all obviously. It's more than a little discouraging to see all that when I'm not interested in sex, I'm more interested in romance and emotional connection, and yes that can still happen even in polyamorous relationships.

So, the cat's out of the bag. I'm still not interested in sex, but I like men and women and I might possibly be poly. The lesson to take from this is that sexuality is a steaming broth of confusion and internal panic, but eventually things turn out okay and someone somewhere supports you and your attraction is valid.

I'm now going to live vicariously through my Sims character and date as many Sims as possible and try not to think about that costume I should get back to embroidering or the homework due on Sunday. Bye👋

[a-lil-bi-furious]

I’m gonna ask for two characters, is that okay?? 🥺 Kira Yukimura and Scott McCall, but if you inly want to do one of them that’s okay!! 🧡

Of course you can!! Thank you! 💕 And you even sent in my wonderful children!🥺🥰 Scott McCall:

Headcanon for their sexuality/romantic orientation/gender identity (I’m adding on because I want to)?

Listen, this boy is so pan. In my mind, Scott is just so filled with love for people, and I don’t think someone’s gender or sex would matter to him for feelings or sexual attraction. Is it pretty unexpected when he's attracted to people of many different genders? Sure. But mostly that’s because he hasn’t given his sexuality or romantic orientation much thought. They've just always existed and he’s run with it. He’s pretty comfortable in his gender identity as a boy, but not closed off to questioning it.

I can’t remember who I first saw this headcanon from, but I also really like the idea of quoiromantic Scott who can’t tell the difference between platonic and romantic love, he just loves. Why does he have to do it differently, y’know? Who says he can’t kiss his friends and hold their hands and express his love for them in those ways?? How is he meant to feel different between how he loves who he’s dating (if he's dating) and how he loves his friends? He doesn’t, so ??? (Also, as a side note, I am also a big believer in polyamorous Scott because he has chemistry and good shipping foundation with pretty much everyone, definitely seems open to loving more than one person, and he, Allison, and Isaac were clearly all dating each other no I am not taking notes at this time)

Have they come out? If so, how? How did their friends/family take their coming out?

Eventually he does. Scott thought it was going to be a big deal and was so nervous about it he kind of just....tucked it away deep inside where he hides all of his trauma and feelings from people. He doesn’t do anything flashy, but when he sits Melissa down he’s so serious and stressed about it she’s convinced he’s about to tell her he hit someone with the car and has a body in the trunk. She’s relieved to find out that is not the case, and reacts with a good natured “Honey, this isn’t a surprise. It’s a big deal because it’s a big part of you, and I’m happy you trust me enough to share this. But it isn’t surprising.”

The pack reacts exactly the same way his mother did, which really makes Scott wonder if he was the only one oblivious to it for so long. (He was.) They’re all very supportive, and he seems so much happier once it’s officially out in the open.

Sheriff Stilinski is a bit confused, but Stiles writes all the different labels on sticky notes, sticks them onto chess pieces, and sits Noah down in front of the chess board, just like he did with supernatural creatures (I think that’s what he does? Doesn’t he do that??) After, Scott kind of wishes he hadn’t--mostly because listening to Stiles’ convoluted explanation and bickering with his confused father made for one of the most frustrating two hours of Scott’s life.

Do they go to Pride/With whom?

Absolutely! Especially given I consider most of them as part of the lgbtqia+ community (and regardless they’re all allies), they make a pack event of it. The younger pack members don’t always join because they kind of have their own thing going, but the older/core group--Scott, Lydia, Stiles, Kira, Malia, Danny, Isaac, maybe Theo if they're on good terms--all meet up, rotating through which state/city parade they go to each year (because they’ve all scattered for college and jobs and such). They’ve convinced Derek and Braeden to come a few times, but Derek hates the big crowds and Braeden gets way too much joy out of making him get his face painted. After the parade, they do a different activity all together each year--ranging from game/movie nights to club nights to way too competitive paintballing in the woods--just, generally, something a little more personal than all the big parties around.

(If Allison, Erica, and Boyd were alive, they’d be there with them too 💜)

Do they show their colors? (Flag-wise)

For Pride, Scott paints the Pansexual flag in cuffs around his right bicep, directly mirroring his tattoo on the left.

Kira Yukimura:

Headcanon for their sexuality/romantic orientation/gender identity (I'm adding on because I want to)?

I feel like Kira sits comfortably beneath the bisexual umbrella, but has a hard time figuring out whether or not she has any kind of gender preference sexually. Gender doesn't really factor into her romantic attraction, so panromantic seems to fit. I also feel like Kira is nonbinary, uses She/They pronouns, and eventually settles on genderfluid as a good way to describe how she feels. She’s usually not uncomfortable with people referring to her as a girl and doesn’t mind being perceived as one a lot of the time, but doesn’t totally feel like a girl and isn’t sure what gender fits y’know? What she identifies with shifts around.

Have they come out? If so, how? How did their friends/family take their coming out?

After a long and confusing identity crisis, yes. There’s a lot of nervous babbling involved. She talks way too quickly and keep interrupting herself because she isn’t sure she’s explaining it right, but Ken gently interrupts and calms her down with a “Kira, your mother and I love and support you however you are, no matter how much or how little that changes. We want to hear all about it. That doesn’t mean we want you to run out of air.” She breathes and collects herself, then dives back in, explaining a bit slower this time, but no less rambly.  Noshiko’s never really seen the point in rigid definitions anyhow after living so many different lifetimes and experiencing so much fluidity in many aspects of her own life. Ken is just happy his daughter is happy, good-naturedly pokes fun at her like he always does, and later that night has a bit of a research-prompted gender crisis of his own.

Do they go to Pride/With whom?

Yes! The rambling above with Scott also applies here. The first year Kira goes, she goes separately with her parents and meets up with the pack later. Ken is really enthusiastic about it and provides lots of historical facts about the pride festival’s origins and evolution throughout the day. He makes T-shirts for everyone in the pack and buys a few too many bumper stickers. Noshiko is much more low-key about it, but is happy to be there to support Kira and enamored with how overboard Ken goes.

Do they show their colors? (Flag-wise)

Yes!! Kira has a lot of fun putting together colorful outfits to reflect her identity with multi-colored fishnets and color coded skirts and jackets with patches and of course her kickass sword-belt to tie it all together. She really enjoys the freedom of switching up those colorful outfits any time her labels shift, too.

(Send me a character/ship and I’ll answer these questions!)

[minxyone93]

Hi, there was a scene in Ch. 13 that really spoke to me - Cas telling Dean he can talk about his bisexuality as much or as little as he wants w/ however many people was really nice! It was comforting to me bc I also recently started trying to feel more comfortable with saying it out loud & playing around with the label outside of when I’m around very few close friends (keyword being ‘trying’ as I’m still on anon but yk baby steps!). It’s lovely seeing him get to embrace it as well.

First of all, I'm so happy for you! Congrats! Coming out and finding a label that works for you can be scary, and it isn't for everyone - some people don't *need* that (like Cas - I don't think he cares for himself), but some people do (like me, and Dean in the fic) and it's perfectly okay either way.

I'm so proud of you! 🏳️‍🌈❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈

(I wasn't sure what label you were referring to, bi or another, but rainbows are lovely and have all the colors so I hope you know that whatever label you have found, I support it)

Big hugs, nonny! 🥰

So, regarding Dean coming out - it just felt like he deserved to say it. This was very reminiscent of my own experiences, to be honest. I first realized I was attracted to women when I was 11 - promptly panicked and denied it, proceeding for years to say "oh, I just really admire women and their beauty" to both other people and myself (even after I had been with a woman. Like, yikes! The denial runs so deep! 😖) And I started the process all over again when I started to realize I am nonbinary! Smh.

So when I finally allowed myself to admit it to myself, that felt good. It took a while after that, but when I came out, I could NOT SHUT UP about it. 🤣 just like Dean. And it felt sooooo good so be able to freely say it. Everytime "I'm bi" came out of my mouth, I felt like I was breaking a chain that had been holding me down. When Dean says "freedom" - that's how it feels to me too.

But even so, coming out isn't something you do one time. You come out over and over and over again, with new people and in new environments. There are times, places, and people it doesn't seem worth the energy or even feels too scary to come out to, so I just don't. I live in a very red state. I'm not out at work because of that. Sadly, it could tank my career. For the right person, I'd be willing to do it - but I'm single and it's not anyone's business. I'm not out with my extended family. Same thing. Not their business. But my all friends, my internet friends, and my immediate family know and they support me, my doctors and my therapist know and support me. And depending on the environment, I tell strangers - when I'm at a nerdy con, I feel safe, so I wear my bi pride pin.

And that's okay! Unless you *want* someone to know, that's your business. You don't have to share your business with anyone you don't want to.

Your label is part of your identity, but your identity belongs to you.

You decide who deserves to know your heart.

Cishet people don't have to come out. Cishet people don't have to find the label that fits them. The nice thing about it is that it helps you find other people like you. That's all the label is really for. So you aren't obligated to share that label with anyone you don't want to, just like Cas said.

No one should feel pressured to find a label or share the label they've found if they don't want to. Conversely though, I know how good it can feel to share that part of your identity and allow yourself to say "yes! I am queer! This label exists because there are other people like me!" And once you start saying it, you feel a little more courage and freedom every time and it feels really good.

I know that got long, but I'm so glad that you are finding your label if that's what is in your heart and that the scene meant as much to you as it did to me. You have my total support.

🥰🏳️‍🌈💜💙💚💛🧡❤🏳️‍🌈🥰

If you ever need to bend an ear, I'm here via ask or DM for a virtual hug or just to listen (although, as evidenced by the length of this post and my fic... I have a lot to say too, lol). And so are Dean and Cas. There's a reason our community imprinted on them. Dean deserved to be able to say it, so I had him do it in the fic - but he was just as valid and just as bi before he said it too. Biggest hugs, and thank you for sharing how much it mean to you. That means so much to me as an author and a fellow member of the LGBTQIA+. Idk if I'm older than you or not, but I'm very maternal and if you need a queer internet mama, I'm here.

Sorry for the long post! Much love, nonny! 🥰

[alorenawrites]

Thoughts on Loki, Gender, Sex, and Identity

So...I've seen a few posts on transphobia embedded in Loki and I wanted to examine my own thoughts on this a bit. I'm not going to dig too deeply, just hit on a few of my thoughts on the matter regarding my own positionality as a demisexual, demiromantic, bisexual, nonbinary, gender funky human.

To begin, my own relationship to sex and gender is complicated, based on my own experiences. I'm fine with people not having this same interpretation because of differences in experience and I'm not going to sit around and listen to anyone bombarding me with statements about how wrong they think I am. Go write a post with relevance to your own experience and please don't shit on mine. The purpose of this is to share my own thoughts on this matter, not to get into an argument. I have enough real-world stress regarding these things and don't need them on Tumblr as well.

I've seen the argument that Loki is gender fluid and it is wrong to say he is sex fluid or that sex fluidity is a way to undercut or deny the validity of gender fluidity. I don't see it this way. To begin, we don't actually see Loki display gender fluidity, even though shape-shifting is clearly within his skill set. MCU Loki shifts into Sif once in The Dark World, but other than that, there is little evidence outside of his word at this. I know those creating this story did refer to him as gender fluid, but I question whether those who stand outside that fluidity might not be as well-versed in how gender fluidity comes in a myriad of experiences. I am fine with the idea that perhaps Loki still uses traditionally male pronouns while in other shapes. I am not considering comic interpretations of Loki in this, as there are so many different storylines that I think they would be hard to sum up into this character. And it is fine if you don't see this the same way.

In myth, when Loki transforms into a maiden during the marriage of "Freya" (Thor in disguise) to Thrym, the book I reference (Neil Gaiman's retellings of the myths) does, at one point, refer to Loki as "he." When the mythological Loki transforms into the mare to lure the horse Svadilfari away from the builder of their wall, the references to the mare indicate "she" (and it is worth noting that in this retelling, the mare is never referred to as Loki by name), but when Loki returns he is referred to using male pronouns yet still as Sleipnir's mother.

In the television show, Loki's file lists his sex as fluid. As gender and sex are entirely separate, I took this into consideration as a part of what defines a Loki- they may change physical sex. I did not see an entry for gender on the file. I may have missed it. But to me, the lack of listing gender and the inclusion instead of sex leads me to believe that the TVA doesn't much care for the gender of a variant, but rather the body in which they are most likely to inhabit. In this case, it would seem that knowing if a Loki is more likely to appear as a physical type without regard to pronouns or gender might be considered more important data than gender identity and pronouns. I examine this as someone who has to handle grant data that requires a sex marker in the demographics- not a gender identity, but an assigned-at-birth or otherwise legally documented sex.

I don't see these two things as mutually exclusive or an erasure of one another. I would see it as a way for the TVA to try to classify a variant without regards to any sort of identity. After all, if Lokis are destined for pruning, who cares how they see themselves? It's not like they are going to have an extended conversation with them- process them, judge them, prune them.

In the context of the Lokis we meet, and the note that they haven't met a female Loki, I do wonder why they haven't met one yet. Is it because they don't catch every Loki that comes through? Is it because they themselves have only ever experienced being Loki as men and and haven't assumed otherwise? I don't know. But I don't see it as impossible to explain, either. How many Loki variants have come through? And how many haven't survived? We don't see every variant in the Void that we see in Mobius' briefing holograms. Who didn't make it, and who is missing? Yes, the comment that she "sounds terrifying" could be read as incredibly sexist, but at the same time...Lokis grew up with stories of the Valkyrie, powerful warrior women who they likely looked at with awe, wondering why these towers of strength were no longer with them. The Valkyrie predate them and are mythic figures- we see how Thor reacts to meeting one of these warriors in Ragnarok. Given that this line comes from Loki the Elder, someone who leans into the power of sorcery and the capabilities of magic, wouldn't it make sense that the combination of these skills would seem terrifying? A warrior of the legendary capabilities of the Valkyrie combined with the might of a Loki sorcery? I mean, I'd probably think the same thing, and I think this is possibly one reason why the variant Loki we come to know would agree with him- she has been jumping through time, surviving apocalypses that likely terrify him, enchanting anyone she needs to use, and she can run circles around him. Given the tonal shift in the delivery of the line "and she needs me," I interpret this as the blustering Loki does when he wants to feel more important than he really is- he's trying to justify why he needs to find her to someone else (and possibly to himself) instead of just saying it's because he cares deeply about her and wants to know what the hell that means. Sylvie can clearly take care of herself and doesn't really need rescue. He wants to feel important enough to go back and to convince the others he is as well. That she could render him irrelevant is something that would be terrifying to someone who craves attention and affirmation.

Mobius says that the most common iterations of Lokis look like the one standing before him, yet Loki does encounter a variant file from California in the early 20th century that refers to Sylvie. So the TVA knows that there is a rare chance that a sex fluid Loki could exist (and they have, presumably, pruned them). While I wish this had been explored further, I don't necessarily see it as a transphobic intent. Did it resonate that way with some people? Yes. And that's fine. Their feelings on the matter are valid.

Another element of my interpretation of this comes from my own experiences of gender expression. Most of the time during which I have been out as nonbinary, people have read my gender as a woman. I like my long dresses and I have an extensive collection of vintage women's clothing. I also have a decent collection of corsets and well-tailored suits that fit my body type. I don't bind my chest. My hair varies from very short to as long as it will grow (not far past my shoulders). I occasionally wear eyeshadow, regardless of what gender I am on any given day. I very rarely read masculine and when I feel neutral, I still don't bother to alter my body shape, only sometimes choosing a bra or bra tank top that decentuates my curves (which, granted, aren't dramatic). So the concept of a gender fluid individual choosing gendered pronouns and reading as male during the (relatively short) time in his lifespan during which the audience knows him doesn't seem odd to me, as it is how I've existed (and I, too, used gendered pronouns for a few years on my nonbinary journey- they were a default while I searched for something that suited me better). But I have known nonbinary people who have exclusively used gendered pronouns and it does not invalidate their gender identity, nor does gendered expressions of that identity. The concept that we would only see a male presenting Loki doesn't seem very odd because I have lived a stretch of my life during which I, too, presented a very femme gender expression and used traditionally female pronouns. But that did not make me less nonbinary.

And, of course, this is assuming that gender fluidity is part of his identity, which we are never told in the text of the story. I reject that everything a creator says must be added to the text of a piece of media simply because the piece also has to stand on its own and be interpreted on that level as well. We do know that Loki shifts sex, which makes sense for someone who shifts bodies, as sex is tied more to bodies than gender is.

The point in this is that we can't assume the gender of a fictional character, just as we can't assume from appearance the gender of a living human. I may read as a woman, but this is not my gender identity and no one should be assuming that my clothes are meant to project gender. Reducing gender to an outward and bodily expression of sex is not something with which I am comfortable, and it seems that some people are conflating the two in their interpretation. Again, your experiences may differ from mine and it's fine to see this in another way.

But here's another very important thing this show can demonstrate. Allow an anecdote. My children watched this show with me. My son is nearly 7, my daughter a few months from being 10. She is very femme- loves makeup, frilly dresses, dolls, princesses, My Little Pony, the whole shebang of activities stereotypically associated with the childhood of girls. At this point in her life, she very much asserts that she is a girl. The same goes for my son- he very much asserts himself as a boy. When we were watching together, we talked about Loki being gender fluid, just like their Mum. We talked about Loki being bisexual, just like their Mum. They understood that just because Loki looks one way, it doesn't mean he is that way...again, just like their Mum. There is power in the idea that some of us are in this same position- we are assumed to be cisgender based on our appearances, but our identities are more complex than that. I thought this was a good window for my children to see through and one I could turn into a teachable moment about all the different sorts of people there are in this world. This is the blessing of imperfect media- we can find ways to learn from it and to share opportunities in it for open interpretation with those around us. And the lesson of not jumping to conclusions about gender or sex based on appearance is a deeply important one for young children to understand.

Is this an area in which I have a problem with the show? No. Does this mean the show couldn't have done more or better? Also no. We do need a variety of types of representation. But seeing the possibilities of this being someone a little more like me (though alas, I can't shift shape)? That was nice.

Hopefully we can see more of this in the future, but if we don't, we can create transformative works to fill in the gaps. It's what fan communities have always done and will continue to do. When I fell into fandom years ago with Harry Potter, long before the movies were all out, so many works were there to add queerness, racial diversity, language diversity, disability representation, all of it, into the series. It didn't stop us from still enjoying what it meant to us in those times and places and I don't think we have to outright reject this show for the imperfections we see in it. It can still thrill us and speak to something in us we've been lacking.

And in my case, that is the affirmation of wearing traditionally gender coded clothes while still asserting my pronouns are ze/zir/zirs and my gender is nonbinary, though also gender fluid, gender optional, or gender funky and that my oft-assumed-to-be-hetero relationship makes me no less bi or any other piece of my complex relationship to sexual orientation (and sharing that affirmation with my kids).

[aloisofmissouri]

A Journal Entry

July 20th, 2021

11:44pm

Trigger Warning:

 Sexual Assault, Self Harm,Mental Health, physical health, and occasional swears.

Dear Reader,

I’m only eighteen but I have experienced a lot, and so have many other teens I know. I know at least four of my classmates have been raped at some point in their life. And who knows what others may have been through and I never knew. 

But I’m not writing to share their story, unless they decide that they want their story told. As of now, I am writing to share my story. 

So, let's start with my earliest memory.

My earliest memory is watching Elmo and Little Bear from my crib in the living room when I was probably a toddler. I don’t remember much, other than enjoying the cartoons. It was happy and innocent. One of the few childhood memories I can look back on and smile. 

I was really young when I was first raped. First raped, you caught that part, right? Yeah, I wasn’t raped just once, but multiple times by one man. The man I had grown up calling my father. The man on my birth certificate. I’m not exactly how old I was when it started, but if I had to guess, I was probably in the first or  second grade when it went past the occasional groping and lewd comments. 

Near the end of third grade, my mother decided to take me and my sibling to live with our grandmother. But that didn’t last long.

We ended up moving back in with our mother and abusive father when I was in fifth grade. I didn’t want to but my father manipulated me into doing so. He threatened to place a restraining order on my grandmother when I wanted to stay with her. 

Things were miserable and the abuse continued. But luckily I was able to go back to my grandmother by sixth grade. But I still had to deal with what happened.

I believe my grandmother meant well, but she use to tell me not to let people know what had happened to me. She said that no one would want to be with someone who was raped because a lot of people view them as used or damaged goods basically. 

My grandmother was a bit emotionally damaging, though I know she more than likely didn’t know that she was being so. I have reason to believe that she has dementia and possibly a personality disorder. 

I remember her saying that I shouldn’t wear plaid or spotted clothing because it would make me look bigger than the broad side of a barn. She also told me to stay away from bright colors because they would have the same effect. I refused to stay away from plaid though, I kept that jacket from middle school until junior year when I could no longer zip it. But it took me a long time to wear bright colors, and it is still hard. I also have a hard time feeling comfortable in my own skin, and not just because of the occasional comment about my weight from my grandmother, but also because of the abuse I had dealt with from my father. I spent the majority of school always wearing jeans, jackets, and dark clothing. I didn’t feel comfortable wearing shorts. And I’m still getting used to wearing them. 

I had to go to court in middle school. Someone had apparently turned my father in for what he had done to me (I was living with my grandmother again by then) and we still do not know who reported them. I wish I could thank whoever turned him in. 

Sadly, they only gave him three years despite the evidence. And he was only going to have to serve one and a half years because of the amount of time spent in a jail cell waiting for court that kept getting rescheduled. He died of stage four lung cancer though before he was half way through his time.

My freshman year I finally realised I had anxiety and that there was something definitely wrong with me mentally. By my sophomore year, I was self harming and in counselling and diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder, PTSD, OCD, and Anxiety. By junior year I was on a lot of medication thanks to a pill happy psychiatrist. And I was miserable. But thankfully, I found a new psychiatrist who quickly helped me get cut down to just one pill. Near the end of junior year, I quit self harming. And I also finally started to get a bit of control over my mania and my depression.

I have a Google Doc somewhere that has over 150 pages of poetry, and the majority of it is about depression, trauma, and anger. And they were all written during middle school and highschool. Writing poetry helped me then. Now, I don’t really write poetry anymore. I have only written a handful of poems within the last year. And they were mostly in Shakespearean English because I thought it would be fun.

I believe I might have religious anxiety. I don’t remember the technical term though. I grew up going to Baptist Churches and had a heavy christian influence. But sadly, Christians aren’t quite as christian as they are supposed to be. 

Due to being constantly worried about sinning and about being too filthy and being damned to hell, my depression and anxiety got to me from a different angle. I kept breaking up with everyone I dated if I feared we were getting too close. I would either feel like I wasn’t good enough or I would fear that we would have sex and I would be damned. I also hated myself for my sexuality, though it took me a long time to figure that out. I supported my LGBTA+ friends but when it came to myself, I couldn’t accept myself. 

When I self harmed, I would do it because I felt filthy and had this urge to scratch my skin off my body because I never felt clean. I never hurt myself too severely, just scratches and shallow cuts on my wrist and my thigh. But I still found it hard to quit. It became far too easy to always turn to the blade, regardless of if I was feeling filthy or if I was dissociating or if I was having a panic attack. 

Despite what had happened to me, I’m finally starting to become me. Even though I am still discovering who I am. I quite self harming, I don’t have quite as many panic attacks or nightmares, I lost my virginity, learned I am demisexual (leaning a bit towards asexuality though) Panromantic and Nonbinary. I also discovered I have some other health issues outside of my mental health. I am apparently allergic to alphagall, peanuts, and wheat. Thankfully I just get slightly sick if I eat those things though, but it is still a bit annoying when those things are basically in everything you like to eat. 

I also found out that the reason my menstrual cycle has always been so irregular is because I have cysts. Originally I thought I had PCOS but now after some ultrasounds, it is looking like Endometriosis. I have cysts on my uterus and my ovaries. The doctor told me that my insurance should cover the surgery if I were to get a total hysterectomy. 

I never really wanted to give birth so that part of this doesn’t bother me, my fear is that there will be issues from the surgery. And it has also spurred some identity issues. But so far, I am sticking to they/them pronouns. Even though my family still calls me she/her. But I haven’t really come out to them. They know I’m not 100% straight, but who wants to sit down and explain to their grandmother (who dropped out of school in eight grade to care for her grandma, has a flip phone, and just a few years ago decided to accept the lgbt+ part of her family) that I’m nonbinary? I barely manage to explain to my mother (highschool dropout because of pregnancy, has a touch screen phone and understand some things of the current century) that there is more than just straight, gay, and bisexual. I explained to my mother the other day what omnigender and nonbinary is. Had to explain transgender to my mother when I was a junior and introduced her to a friend of mine who was afab but went by he/him pronouns. 

I suppose that despite all the shit I’ve been through, at least my mother doesn’t give two flying fucks who I like. When I told her that I thought I was pansexual in middle school, all she did was ask me what that meant. Then she just nodded her head and went with it. Same thing when I decided I was Wiccan in middle school. She even bought me a pentacle necklace and every book (mostly fantasy) that mentioned witches. I no longer identify as Wiccan, I mostly just stick to animist. But my point being, my mother didn’t throw a fit when two of her nine kids came out as gay. Even if she does identify as a Saturday Adventist, she supports us. She even listens to me ramble about mistranslated things in the Bible and my views on theology. And my rants about Supernatural. Though she did laugh when I spent about an hour crying after the Supernatural second to last episode of season 15. She did listen to me rant about Castiel and the plot lines and everything. Though I had to keep explaining some of the characters to her. 

Despite the things I’ve been through, I managed to graduate high school, survive my severe depression and anxiety, and now I am thinking about possibly applying for Law school and going to college. And I now also have the confidence to do what I want and wear what I want. Though I still feel all nervous about asking out a girl I’ve been friends with for about three or more years. I’ve now made the excuse to wait and see if she mentions not being completely straight. Oh, and she now has a boyfriend too so yeah, gonna have to wait a bit.

Until next time,

Alois 🐧

[freevoidman]

Any code lyoko headcanons?

mkay, SO--

- Sometimes powers/traits from Lyoko carry over, though not in extremely obvious ways. Odd is much more graceful, almost always landing on his feet; Ulrich feels faster; when Yumi reaches for her pen, it almost always seems to get pulled towards her hand, just in reach.

- William takes a lot of comfort in darkness, but only when there’s noise. He later moves to the heart of Paris, in a section of the city where there’s always something happening outside his window.

- Aelita sometimes struggles to remember how temperatures work sometimes, as Lyoko didn’t have a way to simulate “hot” or “cold.”

- Ulrich gets emancipated from his parents as soon as possible and cuts ties with them completely. He even changes his last name, changing it to “Robbia.”

- Jeremy is actually really good at fencing! Problem is, it almost never helps him with any practical combat, so he rarely gets to show off.

- Yumi paints as a hobby, often creating landscapes or portraits (that may or may not be inspired by Lyoko). Later, she pursues art as her career and sells a lot of the less personal ones. Her most famous paintings are “The Stoic Samurai” and “A Simple Universe,” which are paintings of Ulrich’s Lyoko form and the Lyoko map in the holosphere, respectively.

- Sexuality + some gender headcanons for the main gang (bc I gotta do it):

Jeremie: Trans boy, Heterosexual

Realizes that he’s trans before entering Kadic and his parents help him with changing his name and buying new clothes!

The gang is v supportive and helps him when puberty starts hitting and he starts feeling dysphoric before his parents can come by to help out more.

Ulrich: Bisexual

Absolutely does not realize he’s not straight until waaaay after the series’ events. I’m thinking maybe second-to-last or his last year at Kadic.

He comes out to the gang very slowly (he knows they’d accept him but it’s v scary having the shoe on the other foot) but not anyone else.

He briefly considers telling Sissi, but feels that she might accidentally blab about it to the whole school.

His parents disapprove of anything “gay” so he doesn’t come out to them. Really, it just helps him with the decision to emancipate himself.

Odd: Genderfluid, Pansexual

The bodyswap experience with Yumi was actually his gender awakening! He was able to experiment with more feminine clothing options and realized that he didn’t feel as uncomfortable as Yumi did in his body.

He often uses male pronouns, but he sometimes changes to female or gender neutral ones.

Starts expanding his dating pool after the series and is well known around the school for hitting on everyone.

Briefly dated Herve. Doesn’t like talking about it.

William: Cishet

Very relaxed around the gang and openly accepts all of them! Helps as best he can when they need a shoulder to cry on and does his best!

Yumi: Lesbian

Breaks it off with Ulrich and William after the series, but they’re all on good terms when Yumi explains why.

Ulrich does get a bit testy as she’s the first one ‘out’ in the group and thinks that he was just an experiment or smth. They don’t talk for a good month after that and it basically takes a group intervention to get his head out of his ass. Their friendship is rocky for a while afterward but it smooths out when Ulrich starts having Gay Thoughts himself.

Way, way after graduation, she dates Sissi and they’re surprisingly good together! It shocks everyone and it’s basically open season for some playful banter from the boys.

Aelita: Agender, Asexual

Look, gender is a complex thing, alright? Especially when most of your formative “memories” are as an AI who doesn’t understand humanity.

Aelita gets the hang of it, eventually! But she also starts to think she doesn’t really mind being called a boy, or a girl, so long as she’s considered a person.

She eventually settles on ‘agender’ as she doesn’t feel nonbinary doesn’t really fit, but she’s fine with female pronouns.

She likes platonic relationships more than romantic ones, and though she and Jeremy date, neither really feel the need to do anything further than that.

[jellyfax]

Bi Lesbianism, Lesbophobia, and the Hazards of Rejecting Countless (Trans, Nonbinary, and Cis) Lesbian Voices

At this point, it's very noticeable that most people who support and promote the "bi/pan lesbian" label aren't lesbians. I'm not talking about the people who claim the label. Self-proclaimed "bi/pan lesbians" can be lesbians, bi, pan, sapphic, queer, wlw, nblw, or so on but who ultimately are suffering from internalized hatred with some externalized bigotry in the mix too.

No, my focus is on how there are A LOT of people who aren't (trans, nonbinary, or cis) lesbians who like 1) the idea of lesbianism including attraction to (trans and cis) men and/or 2) the idea that all nonbinary people can be included in lesbian attraction by way of bi lesbianism. Even some cis men, trans men, and man-aligned nonbinary people have stepped in to agree that lesbianism should be defined more broadly to include attraction to the-, I mean, men.* While LGBTQ+ people, especially sapphic people, have been negatively impacted by the many definitions and defenses of bi lesbianism, lesbians by far have been the most affected.

After having observed this phenomenon for a while, I have seen that there are very few lesbians who are backing the "bi/pan lesbian" label and that detail is very noteworthy. For the few lesbians who do support the offensive label, they tend to gradually stop identifying as lesbians. Such “former” lesbians usually begin identifying as homosexual lesbians, gay lesbians, queer lesbians, sapphic, or even bi lesbians. The truth is “bi lesbianism” really doesn’t have space for just plain ol’ lesbians. Lesbianism in pro-bi/pan lesbian spaces is very often unfavorably viewed as an orientation that is predisposed to exclusionary, discriminatory beliefs and is at best tolerated or at worst maligned. Most trans lesbians, nonbinary lesbians, and cis lesbians have been very vocal about how invalidated and uncomfortable they feel about the label and the troubling trends its proponents perpetuate. Many, many, many lesbians have expressed outrage over the following though not limited to:

The assertion that all nonbinary people are excluded from lesbianism and that "bi lesbianism" will rectify that exclusion, so "bi lesbianism" indicates attraction to all nonbinary people. Note: Some nonbinary people are comfortable being a part of lesbianism and lesbian attraction, but some aren't comfortable with being associated with lesbianism. Lesbianism doesn't need to be augmented in a misguided, preemptive attempt to include those nonbinary people who feel their gender is invalidated by lesbianism. Nonbinary people aren't a monolithic, third gender, so individual nonbinary people can address how they feel in relation to lesbianism. This also has the ill effect of distancing nonbinary lesbians and nonbinary sapphic people from lesbianism. 

The belief that over 20 - 60+ years of homosexual, lesbian, and bisexual self-advocacy and activism is negligible and the definition of lesbianism should generally regress to how it was pre - 1960s.

The claim that lesbianism should include attraction to trans men, nonbinary men, and cis men to be considered a less restrictive, more inclusive orientation.

The insistence that trans lesbians, nonbinary lesbians, and cis lesbians are purposefully choosing to reject men and are akin to political lesbians.

The proclamation that lesbianism can be used as a kind of modifier to indicate a preference or split-attraction** for women and woman-aligned people.

The persistence that the word "lesbian" is just a word that carries no substantial meaning like a strong sense of identity and community.

Yet, that discomfort and justifiable anger towards blatant lesbophobia, transphobia, biphobia/panphobia has been largely ignored at best or attacked at worst by proponents of the label.

One thing supporters of the label tend to do most of all is severely understate the specific oppression faced by lesbians for our unattraction to (cis and trans) men AND our attraction to women. We all live in a world where intimate partnerships between men and women are the norm and womanhood is heavily defined by attraction to manhood, lesbians are sidelined and punished by most of society for not being able to meet those conventions. All too often supporters of bi lesbianism, who are typically not lesbians, revel in ignoring and downplaying that oppression lesbians overwhelmingly face. Contrary to what bi lesbian supporters believe, lesbians aren’t bi women with a preference for women who are just denying our sliver of secret attraction to men to try to fit some lesbian purity standard. No, these people, most of whom aren’t lesbians, just refuse to believe that some sapphic women and nonbinary people simply aren’t attracted to men and man-aligned people. They lack perspective and are lesbophobic just like any other bigot who pushes the idea that (trans, nonbinary, and cis) lesbians’ attraction should make room for (trans and cis) men.

I get the impression that at least for the sapphic people who push for this label's acceptance and validation, they think that confirmation will somehow fix all the intracommunal discrimination within the sapphic/wlw community. However, the label only serves to further agitate preexisting tensions and cause more harm. It's the metaphorical equivalent of using a small, dirty band-aid to treat a gaping, festering wound, and rubbing salt in the injury just for good measure. Transmisogyny, transphobia, biphobia/panphobia, aphobia, and so on in the sapphic community will not be confronted or eradicated by redefining lesbianism like this. Lesbianism simply existing as it is isn’t the root cause for these problems and to say otherwise is to affirm lesbophobia along with the very discriminatory beliefs that were trying to be denounced in the first place. Directly scapegoating lesbianism and by extension lesbians in this way has also negatively impacted all other sapphic people. For instance, trans and cis bi women and nonbinary sapphic bi people have all spoken out about how this fiasco has poorly affected them too. Hopefully, supporters of the label will see the damage all this has caused in due time, but I doubt it. Once you've decided to mistrust and dismiss a marginalized group of people, in this case lesbians, there's very little chance of change.

While most supporters of the "bi/pan lesbian" label aren't lesbians, with a discernable portion not even being sapphic/wlw, there also aren't very many of them. For every zealous promoter of the label there are likely hundreds more who won't stand for their misinformation, ignorance, and downright bigoted rhetoric and will respect the voices of (trans, nonbinary, and cis) lesbians hurt by such attitudes.

In conclusion, listen to (trans, nonbinary, and cis) lesbians. We know WAY more about our own identity than anyone else. If most of us lesbians feel that the “bi/pan lesbian” label is offensive, bigoted, and regressive, maybe people who aren’t lesbians should take note.

*Non-sapphic and man-aligned people, especially cis men and trans men, really have no business being a part of this issue.

**As an aroace-spec lesbian, I don't approve of or recommend that non ace-spec/aro-spec people use the split-attraction model. Though, funnily enough, most "bi lesbians" don't tend to use SAM to describe their orientation and its only cited ad nauseam in the discourse by clueless supporters of the label. Edit 7/27/2020: Use of SAM among non ace-spec/aro-spec people typically masks internalized issues like homophobia or biphobia. SAM is primarily used by and better serves ace-spec/aro-spec people.