#I have social anxiety can you tell

[ancientdreamkdj]

Why do people keep talking to me 😭 (I am on social media)

[stiffyck]

You know when you know a person who you could see yourself being friends with if they weren't such a cunt-

[yourdeepestfathoms]

What would you do if Yaelokre read your fanfics? 👀

uhh probably die

[jcryptid]

Have to routinely stop myself from bashing myself for making characters certain races and genders bc “what if this is insanely offensive to some people?” by asking one very simple question:

Do people like this actively exist?

If the answer is yes, then maybe I can stop feeling bad about giving my beautiful, disabled, black, baby boy dnd character a love of the colour pink.

Ya know, bc art is all about translation, and people are gonna people regardless of if some random asshole on the internet decides their existence is problematic.

[guardianspirits13]

As an adhd kid who did attend 6 schools in six years and has struggled to make friends my entire life, it was so cathartic to see 12yo Percy Jackson tell his mom he finally has real friends who like him. He’s not the weird kid anymore, he’s not the outcast. He has found his home. Two episodes in and my inner child is already healing.

[wren-kitchens]

I gotta say dodie really has a song for everything

[wecandoit]

i honestly don’t hear enough people talk about how bad social anxiety gets post high school, particularly in work environments. Over the past two years I’ve become extremely hesitant to even speak in a lot of the spaces i'm in—classes, social events and especially workplaces. And as someone who has never felt socially anxious before I feel really alone in navigating this new obstacle.

like tell me why i have been at my workplace now for almost six months and can't muster up the courage to converse with my coworkers comfortably, while this guy who has been here for two weeks is already cracking jokes about Julie's terrible love life.

[thatgirlonstage]

You’ve got to be very careful with doing a deliberate misinformation on your fantasy lore bc it’s easy to just end up confusing your readers — give people too many layers of lies or wrong information to peel back and they’ll simply stop keeping track, whether because they got lost or because any revelations were so often later refuted that they stopped caring — however if you do have the skill to strike that balance it’s both enriching and very funny to have guys in your world who are Just Wrong about how stuff works.

[lilalilan]

Went to my first rockabilly show today, it was great! I loved the dancing, I was able to catch on to the moves pretty quickly and even danced with another person near the end of the night. One of the bands was local and the other one was from a nearby city where my friend lives so it felt very special. Folks were dressed rockabilly but it was generally pretty chill, so I fit right in with my jean skirt, black T-shirt, and black heeled boots. There was a standing bass in both of the bands that played, and one of the bassists would straight up drag the base around the entire bar in the middle of songs! It was so much fun, such a cool atmosphere, such great people.

[hello-eeveev]

I hate being sick—in general, but also—as an adult with a job. like what do you mean I have to navigate social interactions when I have a stuffy nose and need to be lying in bed. what do you mean my mom can’t just call and say I won’t be there today :/

[natugood]

What I am learning from existing around people who date is that apparently if you want to date someone you just… tell people you think they’re attractive and then ask them to go on a date? And if they say yes then you hang out and essentially conduct an extended vibe check to see if you’d both be down to clown in whatever way you both desire? And then you keep doing that until you decide the vibes are bad or you die, and throughout this process you’ll likely get to know them very deeply in some personal and intimaste way?? Essentially, dating is basically deciding to make a deep connection with someone based on an aesthetic vibe check???

[giantkillerjack]

Ya know. I spent most of my life with horrible painful soul-crushing social anxiety.

And after about 25 years of continuous hard work, suddenly, people started pointing out - to my utter bafflement - that I had, in fact, achieved my lifelong dream of being charismatic. I'm 29 now; I feel comfortable in most social situations, and it is a very rare person whom I cannot make laugh.

I am, undoubtedly, finally, charismatic.

But do you know what I found?

I found that now that I have an understanding of which social rules serve which functions -- Now that I have an understanding of just how much damage my awkwardness was doing to people, well,

I found that, actually, my awkwardness never really hurt anyone at all. People were just judgmental dicks to me about it.

Now that I have the skill-level to (most of the time) creatively vocalize what is in my head as soon as I think it and without fear, I can confirm once and for all what I had always suspected:

I was worth talking to when I was quiet.

I was worth talking to when I was awkward, and when the words in my head took time and patience to hear, and when most of my jokes didn't land. I was worth talking to the whole time.

So I just... I hope that if you've ever wondered whether you are worth communicating with, the answer is yes. Absolutely yes. Each of us has a soul worth sharing - and if you and I were talking, I would happily wait for you to speak (or communicate in other ways) without condescending, and I would never shame you for that harmless awkwardness that so many people feel the need to violently stomp out.

You are worth talking to. You just are. And you deserve people who will speak to you with kindness, with patience, and with the basic immutable respect owed to all people.

(I talk about this with some frequency, both on tumblr and in real life. At some point, maybe I'll gather all my thoughts on the matter into one post. At some point, I wrote about my personal experience trying to build my social skill. But I felt the need to say at least a little bit tonight after seeing this other lovely post, and I'm glad I did. It will happen again.)

[samuelroukin]

getting a tattoo on my leg on the coldest day of the summer and it'll be weird to wear shorts... well call me jughead from riverdale

[its-wabby-stuff]

My rottmnt mental illness headcanons:

Raph: Autism swag, ADHD (inattentive), and GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder)

Donnie: Autism swag

Leo: ADD (hyperactive), prominent as a kid but he’s growing out of it. Inferiority complex

Mikey: ADHD (hyperactive)

Splinter: ADHD (mix inattentive and hyperactive), and Autism

[hell-raven]

the other week someone in one of my classes asked where one of the characters in my notebook came from and i said something along the lines of "oh haha just a bullet hell game called touhou it doesnt really matter" and he asked a what bullet hell was, so i whipped out a gameplay video on youtube of imperishable night stage 6B right there in class (no idea why i picked this it was just the first thing that came to mind) so there i was very shakily trying to explain as best as i could that you control the little player at the bottom of the screen as the funnily drawn lady explodes you to death with magic, then i realized right then and there how incredibly ridiculous i sounded to someone whos only a casual anime fan and has a regular life outside of that. anyways he said it looked cool so it was a win overall but boy do i hate unintentionally revealing my secrets :pensive:

[vulpinesaint]

truly you have to participate in the compliment economy. random compliments are so rare but it's not because you don't deserve them! our discomfort with engaging with other people makes it so that only some people take the initiative to give compliments in the first place, and that's really only if there's something standout about the person they're complimenting. it doesn't have to be that way. get comfortable with telling people that you like their clothes or their hair or that they have nice eyes or a good smile or a pretty laugh or that you admire the way they carry themself or like their music taste or just that you think they're nice or smart or cool. put a little delight out into the world! once you've done that, it opens up similar dialogues bit by bit... and as a secret special bonus, when you tell someone something nice, they're often very happy to have a chance to tell you something nice in return :)