#but then sometimes ppl I didn’t go 😍 for initially make my heart flutter and go 😍 later | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

natugood · 3 months ago

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What I am learning from existing around people who date is that apparently if you want to date someone you just… tell people you think they’re attractive and then ask them to go on a date? And if they say yes then you hang out and essentially conduct an extended vibe check to see if you’d both be down to clown in whatever way you both desire? And then you keep doing that until you decide the vibes are bad or you die, and throughout this process you’ll likely get to know them very deeply in some personal and intimaste way?? Essentially, dating is basically deciding to make a deep connection with someone based on an aesthetic vibe check???

#I thought you needed the emotional connection first??#or maybe you do?#I don’t get it #like do you just see ppl and be like hell yeah they’re pretty I’d fuck them and then go and tell them that #or do you see someone and be like hell yeah they’re pretty and then once you know them you start wanting to fuck them?#do all allo ppl experience both? or do they mainly feel the first? or the second?#this is making me think I’m maybe not Demi but just have so much shame & fear around sexuality that I freak out at the get to know you part #like. I think it’s not often but I DO see ppl when I’m out and about that make me go 😍😍#but usually I don’t approach them cause I have too much social anxiety and am afraid of rejection and people confuse tf out of me #dating rules are confusing #so if I see someone I like and I talk to them I go the friend route first cause then I can check the vibes & figure out how to talk to them #but then sometimes ppl I didn’t go 😍 for initially make my heart flutter and go 😍 later #and that’s confusing and I feel bad cause I didn’t know that was gonna happen and I feel like I need to hide it #but why #there’s no shame in finding someone attractive?#if I suddenly find someone attractive that’s normal? maybe?#it’s not bad though #WILD #googoogajoob

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