#I have adhd too

[aliceawesum]

Makoto is Bisexual and has ADHD because im his lover and he told me everything

[sanloss]

That's a Mood (TM)

I thought I was late to my appointment at the ADHD clinic but the ADHD clinic knows their clients well and the appointment reminded me to be here at 1:30 when my appointment was actually at 2:00.

Me: oh good I'm actually on time! :)

Me, realizing why and being overcome by the mortifying ordeal of being known: >:/

[m3djed]

i think if i focused really really hard i could grow a leaf

[inkskinned]

because sometimes there are invisible tests and invisible rules and you're just supposed to ... know the rule. someone you thought of as a friend asks you for book recommendations, so you give her a list of like 30 books, each with a brief blurb and why you like it. later, you find out she screenshotted the list and send it out to a group chat with the note: what an absolute freak can you believe this. you saw the responses: emojis where people are rolling over laughing. too much and obsessive and actually kind of creepy in the comments. you thought you'd been doing the right thing. she'd asked, right? an invisible rule: this is what happens when you get too excited.

you aren't supposed to laugh at your own jokes, so you don't, but then you're too serious. you're not supposed to be too loud, but then people say you're too quiet. you aren't supposed to get passionate about things, but then you're shy, boring. you aren't supposed to talk too much, but then people are mad when you're not good at replying.

you fold yourself into a prettier paper crane. since you never know what is "selfish" and what is "charity," you give yourself over, fully. you'd rather be empty and over-generous - you'd rather eat your own boundaries than have even one person believe that you're mean. since you don't know what the thing is that will make them hate you, you simply scrub yourself clean of any form of roughness. if you are perfect and smiling and funny, they can love you. if you are always there for them and never admit what's happening and never mention your past and never make them uncomfortable - you can make up for it. you can earn it.

don't fuck up. they're all testing you, always. they're tolerating you. whatever secret club happened, over a summer somewhere - during some activity you didn't get to attend - everyone else just... figured it out. like they got some kind of award or examination that allowed them to know how-to-be-normal. how to fit. and for the rest of your life, you've been playing catch-up. you've been trying to prove that - haha! you get it! that the joke they're telling, the people they are, the manual they got- yeah, you've totally read it.

if you can just divide yourself in two - the lovable one, and the one that is you - you can do this. you can walk the line. they can laugh and accept you. if you are always-balanced, never burdensome, a delight to have in class, champagne and glittering and never gawky or florescent or god-forbid cringe: you can get away with it.

you stare at your therapist, whom you can make jokes with, and who laughs at your jokes, because you are so fucking good at people-pleasing. you smile at her, and she asks you how you're doing, and you automatically say i'm good, thanks, how are you? while the answer swims somewhere in your little lizard brain:

how long have you been doing this now? mastering the art of your body and mind like you're piloting a puppet. has it worked? what do you mean that all you feel is... just exhausted. pick yourself up, the tightrope has no net. after all, you're cheating, somehow, but nobody seems to know you actually flunked the test. it's working!

aren't you happy yet?

[keymintt]

a comic/zine about coyotes

[masked-artist-xp]

THERE'S AN AWARENESS MONTH FOR ALL MY FELLOW ADHD FOLK!?!? :00000

October is ADHD awareness month! 🎉

The memory issues ADHD causes are some of the scarier and more frustrating parts of living with it - so here’s a set of reaction doodles that all my fellow ADHD peeps are welcome to use whenever anybody decides to comment on your forgetfulness ^ 

[just-roommate-rage]

Another Day

Because I'm feeling particularly petty today, here's things I did for the house this week during my lunch break from my full time job. I've been told not to post these anywhere in the family/house discord because it makes other people feel so bad that they then can't do any work. (Note there has been little to no change in the contribution of those people since I stopped posting in the discord chore chat thee months ago.)

Friday -loaded dishwasher -washed hand-wash dishes from sink -wiped down the tops and controls of both washer and dryer -prepped extra scent-soap for the wash -put away several already clean and dry pots, pans, and utensils

Thursday -unloaded and loaded dishwasher and set to run (and unloaded again after work) -washed all hand-wash pots and pans and set to dry -said nothing about those who "don't notice mess" hanging out having a nice lunch in the newly cleaned kitchen at the newly-cleared table (something which hasn't happened in weeks while the kitchen accumulated crumbs) -started laundry -Middle rotated laundry for me later in the day

Wednesday -cleared and wiped down table, including wood cleaner and conditioner -moved kitchen chairs and table to run roomba -swept behind low rolling storage and trashcan in kitchen

Tuesday -took child to school activity drop off -loaded and unloaded dishwasher -ran garbage disposal with cleaning tab

Monday (no work) -moved all appliances and racks off each kitchen counter and thoroughly cleaned -deep cleaned sink and drip rack as well as the drying side and goopy zone behind the faucet -got refill of household basics from grocery store -refilled salt/sugar/rice -Wife and Eldest reorganized pantry and refrigerator this day, which has been an absolute life-saver

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Why self-diagnosed autistics are valid

medical diagnosis can be expensive

humans are the experts on their own minds

family may prevent assessment

diagnosis criteria is a poor checklist of stereotypes

diagnosis criteria ignores gender, race, sexuality, culture & more

medical diagnosis confirms autism, but doesn't create it

discrimination within the medical profession may prevent diagnosis.

Assessment waiting lists often long

medical trauma may make assessment unfeasible

Neurodiverse Journeys

[generatedcoffeeanomaly]

So much this. I am fighting for my kids, especially my stepdaughter, to get a diagnosis and help because the number of things I can't do for me is too many but if someone had realized when I was 12 what was going on, I might be okay now. Or more okay.

“kids who use screens a lot are more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD”

have you considered that maybe a novelty-seeking brain (as seen with ADHD) is more likely to seek that novelty through devices?

have you considered that ADHD is something you’re born with, and not something you’re given as a punishment for lack of discipline?

have you considered that you should shut the fuck up?

[lumatotuwu]

if this gets 100 notes i'll make art of my oc based on my favorite plushie

[get-grubered]

hey so just to be clear:

special interest ≠ thing you really like

special interest ≠ hyperfixation

special interest = thing pretty much your whole life revolves around, you get anxious if you don't interact with it enough, how you see the world

[oysters-aint-for-me]

oh? and why ever would you want to use a joke about a cavalier marrying their necromancer, mx. gideon?? hmmmm???

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Bros before Ho(oh my god is that Hanguang-Jun?)

[First] Prev <–-> Next

[theabigailthorn]

You're not uniquely talented or hard working you just went to the right schools.

Yes, yes! This is exactly why I started Philosophy Tube! Why shouldn't someone else, anyone else, have access to the education I got??? The intellectual and cultural heritage of our species is for everyone, not just privileged people like me! :)

[t4t4t]

Idk new post bc the last lost traction, no donations in a week. We need 450 for the rest of February, 450 for a deposit, and 950 for March, 50 for the rest of the utilities. We were homeless since Aug 2020 excepting 4 different months whose places fell through for various reasons, have to get rid of the van we were living in because it's falling apart, Collie got FFS December 28th, she's recovering well and maybe could do something with a car if we had a better car, given her ability to drive. I still haven't found much work but I'm still looking. Anything helps.

paypal.me/NoraEstherRose

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[cottagedreamy]

They're the best friends duo ever