#I don't need for it to be romantic it can be platonic also but. but. it doesn't seem there's any way It can happen anymore
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Thinking about this again
Aside from Juri's obvious recognition that Utena and Anthy's relationship is on some level romantic and Utena being a closetcase about it
She says her feelings for Anthy are only "pure" and I just realized that maybe there is another way to read/level of this scene where it's not just about Utena's relationship to her own queerness and feelings for Anthy but also she has to be aware at this point that Anthy can't consent to any sort of romantic relationship with her in any meaningful way anyway, right?
Anthy has to always appease the victor and Utena already learnt that the hard way so even if she does have feelings for Anthy she can't do anything with those feelings and I wonder if the whole "my feelings are completely pure only" thing is maybe her feeling a little guilty about it and she also reinstates to Juri that she doesn't mean she's homophobic so maybe that's not even what she's talking about. The whole need to defend that "Psch no, I'm definitely not in love with the girl who has to do whatever I say and probably then would pretend to love me too if I were to be and also act on it which would make me no better than Saionji and even if she loves me too our dynamic makes it impossible for us to be together because she still wouldn't have the choice to leave and I would never know for sure if she really does. I don't want that for us and it'd be awful of me to ask that of her but I will always be her friend. My feelings are only and can only be platonic because if they're not then my relationship to her can never be pure."
Or she just said no homo so they're straight of course (/j lmao)
#Curious to hear more thoughts about this👀#I'm never confident at all about my analytical thoughts about this show hah#revolutionary girl utena#rgu#utena tenjou#Rgu analysis#utena x anthy#utenanthy#shoujo kakumei utena
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Praying to every single god out there that love trio is translated as that in the anime n we don't get stuck with something like 'super duper ultimate friendship trio'
#I'm staring daggers at crunchyroll subbing team n eng dub team#Don't fuck it up I cannot handle that#Love can be platonic too!! We don't need to be weird or cringey about it#Yeah I ship it more romantically but like it does still read as friendship n man#Idk it just feels fitting that Clara herself is calling it love cuz she does love both azz n iruma!!#N just cuz it platonic doesn't mean she can't used the word love#Tbh I'm also praying for that for the official eng release of the manga when it catches up#Cuz I seen apparently in other languages it is translated like friendship or whatever n man#MAN I JUST WANT LOVE TRIO THT IS SUCH A GOOD NAME FOR THEM 🥲#mairuma#m!ik#For me to find when the anime finally does dropped so I can either be happy or disappointed
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people love an "i'll take care of you" "it's rotten work" "not to me, not if it's you" character dynamic until the character who needs to be taken care of is disabled. then it's supposedly fucked up and toxic for a person to have to take care of someone else.
#eliot posts#this is continuing off that last post i reblogged#that time i was like ''aw tumblr is out of new posts for this character i like. reddit is empty too. lemme check twitter''#BIG MISTAKE#i had to see the hot take of#''it's fucked up to ship this because character A had to be character B's caretaker. that's basically slavery.''#LIKE BRUH???#have you. ever met a couple where one of them is disabled and needs a caretaker? bc that's a very real thing that happens and it's not toxi#honestly usually the risk in those situations is the power the caretaker nay have over their disabled partner#but that imbalance can be properly navigated#and is not a concern in these two characters' case bc there is a very clear mutual respect there#caregiver fatigue is a real problem too of course but that's ALSO something that can be successfully navigated#and in these particular characters' case doesn't seem like it would be an issue because like#character b also has professional caretakers who will likely continue to be part of his life if needed#(and the money to hire more if not)#like it's okay to not like the ship#maybe the age gap of someone in their 20s w someone in the equivalent of their 30s squicks you out#maybe you monogamously ship one or both of them w someone else#maybe you think their dynamic is way more interesting from a platonic angle than from a romantic one#maybe you just aren't interested in their dynamic#those are all fair points! i'm not even ride or die for that ship myself#but jesus fucking christ you don't gotta be ableist about it#oh or the equally bad take i saw on there of#''character a could never be attracted to character b. he just sees char b as a sick dying old dog that he needs to take care of''#like no! character a clearly respects and values character b! they are friends! the issue is just that YOU see character b as a dying dog.
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Yessssss! THIS. PART!
Katara may have mellowed as she aged, but I've found that tolerance for stupidity and bullshit only goes down as I get older, not up. Older women just do not give. a. single. fuck. about society's bullshit anymore. Like, if you don't think Elder!Katara wouldn't subtlely ice over the ground someone was walking on to make them fall on their ass while they were spouting sexist shit to teach them a lesson and make them look a fool, you're wrong.
And no way in hell is she leaving the fighting to a younger generation. That doesn't even match the watered-down healer persona they tried to give her in LoK! What tf good does a medic do half a world away?!
I stg these man-children just could not stand to put Katara and Zuko in the same scene together in LoK for fear of giving Zutarans more canon material to work with. They would rather spite a sizeable portion of their fan base and butcher their own character than acknowledge that Zuko was in any way important to Katara, even platonically. Honestly, it's amazing they didn't have her die of heartbreak after Aang was gone just to preclude the possibility that she ever thought about any other man.
And none of that's even getting into @sokkastyles point about Toph, which I feel is also really important*. Toph is a badass bitch, but she too ends up bitter and alone in a fucking swamp of all places. Desirable enough to have sex with, apparently (see her two kids), but not to have a fulfilling longterm relationship, romantic or otherwise. Not to do that whole compulsory marriage thing. She didn't need no man. But why was she not with her family? Her friends? And we don't hear a damn thing about Suki. It's like... Bryke paid lip service to the whole Girl Power movement, but you can tell it's lip service because none of these girls/women ended up old and happy. The narrative punishes all of them for not being the epitome of the giving, feminine woman. Even Katara, who arguably got closest to that ideal by subsuming literally everything that made her who she was, ended up alone. I just. Gosh, it's like Bryke has a misogyny problem or something.
*I really feel like I did not actually delve into this point enough, honestly. Kind of touched on it then swerved around. But I feel like you could do a deep dive type of post comparing and contrasting how the other female characters are portrayed as desirable but Toph is not. And it's not that she's portrayed without desires/crushes, either. She blushes (which in this show is used to indicate romantic feelings) at least twice because of Sokka. He's stuck on Suki, so we get it, but no one ever shows any romantic interest in Toph, arguably the least feminine girl in the show. Which wouldn't have been a problem (again, romance is not a requirement to be happy), were it not for her portrayal in LoK. Anyway, maybe a post for a different time.
People defend Katara being reduced to only a healer in LoK by saying that fighting was too traumatic for her but Katara's most traumatic moments often involved healing, like having to bring her friends back from the brink of death more than once, or discovering she could heal through experiencing intense pain and being hurt by someone she loved, or being told that healing was all she was good for. Meanwhile she looked like she was having the time of her life beating some dude's ass.
#atla#katara#female characters#character analysis#character breakdown#critical thinking#rant post#seriously y'all#i raged out#kind of accidentally#but like#i said what i said#anti bryke#bryke critical#bryke salt#i'm talking#don juan pond levels of salt#misogyny#katara stan#katara deserved better#ALL the female characters deserved better#show me ONE female character that got a happy ending in that series#this is why i read fanfiction#thinkingtoohardaboutmedia
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did i ever post these.... i drew them w/ my mousepad 3rd day of classes because i Luv 2 shipost
#don't come at me for the lunter man i just thought it was FUNNYYYYYYYYYY#i dnt care if they are romantic or platonic the two of them need to be codependent and unwell. please#they're the duo of all time i love them <3#lilac art#toh#toh fanart#luz noceda#amity blight#hunter toh#image id included#image id in alt text#lunter#this can be lumiter too tbh it's really up to interpretation#original caption for this was ���here's how lunter can still win-(gunshot)”#eventually I'll post the background behind suicide pact lunter xoxoxo#also the people Sitting ebhidn me definitely saw but that's the price you pay for being silly!#they came 2 me in a vision <3
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The fact that there are so many lore inconsistencies in Dr Who is sometimes a good thing actually because it means I feel justified in having headcanons that vastly and grossly contradict show canon. If the writers can ignore things they don't like why can't I.
#for example#as a classic who girlie i love love love the fact that the doctor was basically always written as aroace#partially because as an acespec I like it#and like a character doesn't need romance for their relationships to be interesting#but also because there was something so perfect about the fact that like#even if a companion did fall in love with him he was always unattainable#or like even if he wasn't completely aroace in human terms he was only attracted to other time lords (because doctor/romana i can accept)#because the truth that all companions run into is that nobody can have a lasting relationship with the doctor#like platonic relationships too i mean#they always die or get left behind#like sarah jane's goodbye was... ough#and they can also never know him in the way they want to#because he has so many secrets and so much more intelligence#and the fact that they can't have a romantic/sexual relationship with him even if they want to fits nicely#with the fact that the companion-doctor relationship does not fit within relationship norms#so for this reason i don't like the whole ten/rose thing#or the fact that she kind of gets to spend forever with him (or his clone at least)#he's supposed to leave#because he can't love a human forever#they die so quickly#so yeah I have basically erased all of that from my headcanon#doctor who
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Before we call anon rude because let’s see it from their perspective, imagine getting an entire feast to eat. That can be pretty hard to start with so much that’s going on, but if they start with one thing they know they’ll like (aka one character they like) that can be the start for them leaping to other characters to finish the story and the bigger story. I struggle the same way to start book series if I don’t have at least one character that drives me to read it, it’s all about what can be the hook to push them through. Sounds like the anon is neurodivergent (just a guess) so they might genuinely not see it as rude and see it as a solution to even play the game to start with.
Btw absolutely adore the game, the complex and rich characters making them all so unique is amazing. The art is so pleasing to the eyes I love it!! I’m waiting for it all to get out at once so I don’t get too impatient. Shae however interests me the most, which routes will have the most lore for them? Will there be routes that give more lore in general based on decisions you make or do they all share the same amount? (I mean general lore not just Shae lore)
Apologies; we are not trying to accuse any asker of being rude! We are simply explaining our perspective as the developers / are trying to broadly encourage folks to dip their toes into other areas of the story outside of the main route(s) they're interested in, especially considering some routes will be made available sooner than others, and these other routes will likely contain additional scenes/lore of everyone's fave(s) regardless! We want to give each main cast member an equal amount of love (and lore) regardless of their overall popularity, so our goal is not to tut-tut anyone for having strong preferences for one character over the others, but rather to explain that you may be surprised by how much *more* you learn about your preferred characters in the other routes. That's all!
For Shae... Well, they were a foot soldier for one of the worst periods of the War. Lore wise, any other story that touches on the War will likely have content relevant to them and their experiences. ^^
#ask#clotho answers#edit/final note: we got a *few* asks on this subject and will not likely answer all of them for the sake of our followers' dashboards#but we also want to note that part of our encouragements here come from the fact that Flan/Keagan are our most popular characters by a lot#and we want to do what we can to gently nudge folks who may not want to romance the fem / nb characters into checking out their stories#despite not being into them romantically. this is half of why we have platonic routes to begin with#we recognize veterans to the dating sim world may feel less inclined to romance characters that don't align with their irl orientations#this isn't a bad thing. some people steer clear of dating sims altogether because they're aro or just not interested in romance stories etc#but the unintentional side effect of this is it has a chilling effect on developers even in the indie sphere to make less diverse stories#if Flan and Keagan are our most popular characters then they will be our most *profitable* characters in the long run#and as much as we would love to not care about money and just produce the story we want to tell#we live in a society (tm) and need to eat#if at the end of ndm's development we see that 90% of our engagement went toward the boys it is hard to ignore the financial incentive#to redirect our energy toward leaning into the 'tried and true' formula that assures we can buy groceries and make rent#basically what i am candidly saying here is capitalism is pretty bad for creative liberty unless you're already rich / able to self finance#which we are not. and currently none of the core devs make *anything* from ndm#it would be nice if it does turn a profit but that isn't a guarantee - which the team has accepted as a normal risk in game development#anyway this is getting rambly but the Point is that this goes beyond us wanting to make sure all sides of our story are equally appreciated#it is *partly* that - we do want players to experience the entirety of our artwork#but it's not just for our egos - it's so we can keep making art like this#i considered including this in the body of the post but money talk suuucks man#and i don't want anyone to think we're glaring at them in a holier than thou 'ah-ha! you don't want to play maeve's route because she's a#woman!' sort of way because i think that's a reductive way to look at things#people like what they like and there's nothing intrinsically wrong with that#but if you like that we're making a diverse story#with masc routes fem routes and nb routes#even if you don't personally want to romance x or y#it would help us if y'all play the platonic routes#we are trying our very very best to make the fem/nb routes interesting for Everyone so those stories don't get sidelined#and if you don't like them for their own sake - fair enough! can't win em all and we'll deeply appreciate that you tried anyway!
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did the show just.... butcher devil's minion completely??
I didn't mind Armand's characterization in the show so far (well, kind of, except the fact that they turned him into a supervillain vs. saint Lestat) but the sudden reveal that Daniel Molloy was turned by Armand "out of spite", leaving him all alone to fend for himself apparently, really put me off. so not only there is little to no chance that devil's minion ever happened in the 70s or 80s, but also it's not gonna happen in 2022? because Daniel has already been turned, and the turning of Daniel is the culmination of Armand's and Daniel's relationship arc together, one that is for sure unhealthy and codependent and obsessive, but that was also tender and sweet in a very special way - no wonder that chapter has been a fan favorite for so many for so long. and they just.... discarded it like that?
Daniel's a vampire, he's been turned out of spite, it's heavily hinted that it happened either immediately after Dubai or very little time later. I really doubt there has been time/interest to do any sort of chase, or one that culminates into the sort of feelings Armand and Daniel develop for each other, at least. Daniel destroyed Armand in the eyes of his lover and I really don't think there's any sort of love story brewing there. Doesn't seem it happened in the past either, cause there's not a single hint at the Alice theory in this episode and I thought that if it was true, we'd have another little crumb before the season was over.
What about Armand's line that making fledglings repulsed/repulses him? That was a really important piece of characterization and they didn't even let us see him work through that when turning Daniel. Book Armand sees the process as something worse than killing, and that is why he never did it. He finally concedes because of love for Daniel, however obsessive it is, because Daniel is begging him on his death bed, because he needs him forever and Daniel needs him, too. From repulsion to acceptance because of a pure, absolute sentiment. Show Armand turns Daniel Molloy because he's full of spite. Why would they take the 'Armand is a super villain and theres nothing else to him' route and give him a petty vedetta for that one act that is so important for him in the book, as a character? Why??
and why did they have the talamasca guy tell Daniel 'you should be scared of the other one' when literally they made Armand the dude who kills and turns Daniel, whereas Louis is his best friend?? It just doesn't make sense. There's quite a bit that doesn't make sense to me in this last episode. But I gotta admit, the treatment of Armand's and Daniel's characters has baffled me. even if I weren't a devil minion's fan or a fan of these two characters specifically, it would've rubbed me the wrong way.
I don't know. I guess we'll see what they do next; hoping that there is more to that event than a simple 'oh he turned u cause u ruined his life' and Armand fucking off into the sunset forever (not quite, lol). maybe we'll find out it was all an elaborate plot from Daniel who knew he was paying with fire and counted on Armand to be so mad he would do the one act he found repulsive: finally making a vampire. maybe that's it, and Daniel had decided at some point during the sessions that he didn't want to die, that he wanted the gift. maybe he never changed his mind about it since the 70s. maybe he played Armand. manipulating the manipulator? makes sense in a way, I guess, but boy is it a waste to not serve on a silver platter all those sad and tender and raw and odd feelings that the devil's minion chapter already had prepared for us.
#I'm a bit sad cause they kinda butchered my favorite part aa ahaaa#am I still an Armand apologist? yes#will I still watch it as long as Assad plays Armand? yes#idk. poor Armand and Daniel u kinda deserved better#please somebody console me about Armand and devil's minion.#I need somebody to tell me it's gonna be alright and they haven't deleted their relationship#I don't need for it to be romantic it can be platonic also but. but. it doesn't seem there's any way It can happen anymore#iwtv#iwtv spoilers#Armand#the vampire Armand#Daniel molloy#devil's minion#Anne rice's interview with the vampire#interview with the vampire#interview with the vampire spoilers
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I'm still thinking about that scene in Victoriocity S3E7 where Fleet runs back towards the Beast so as to lure it into the path of the train...
Clara's exclamation of 'Teamwork, Fleet!' after Fleet says he's got a plan reflects her conviction that any plan that Fleet has will be a shared plan, something they do together.
This conviction is a kind of trust, and that trust is part of the reason Clara takes a moment to realise Fleet has headed back towards the Beast. She trusts that he's following behind her. She keeps talking to him, her words full of optimism.
When she realises Fleet isn't there, she immediately realises what that must mean he's done, and her voice sounds more small and scared than I think we've ever heard it before.
Fleet's attempt at self-sacrifice is a kind of betrayal of Clara's trust, but when he echoes her celebration of their teamwork in a more somber tone, I think it suggests that he understands the weight of that betrayal.
If Fleet's plan is that Clara won't realise he's gone until it's already too late, then he thinks "Teamwork, Clara" will be the last words he'll ever speak to her. In what he imagines will be their final conversation, Fleet affirms Clara's understanding of them as a team who work well together, even as he is making a choice that rejects the possibility of their teamwork in this scenario. It's a recognition of what their dynamic has meant. It's a goodbye and an apology, even if Clara doesn't understand it as such at first.
I don't think Fleet sounds scared as he initially faces down the train. When he shouts "Yeah, this way, you stupid machine! Come on then!", he sounds defiant and grimly determined.
In fact, I don't think he sounds afraid until Clara appears, until she might be at risk of being in the path of the Beast or the train as well. It's when he shouts "Clara, stay back for God's sake!" and "Please, get back!" that there's real fear and desperation in his voice. He can confront the idea of giving his own life, but not the idea that doing so might put Clara in danger.
Another thing about these lines is that the move from 'stay back' to 'get back' suggests that Clara didn't obey his first instruction but got closer to him (and therefore to the path of the Beast and the train) between those two lines.
Then Fleet gives what might be another attempt at his last words: "I'm sorry! I'm sorry." A repeated apology before an attempted self-sacrifice is an implicit acknowledgement of how much losing him would hurt Clara. He regrets causing her pain.
Even so, he's accepted that he is about to die and that it'd be worth it to destroy the Beast. But Clara very much hasn't accepted either those things. She's still trying to yell over the noise of the train; she's pulling off her ring to throw at him.
I think it's a good illustration of how Clara's optimism is a kind of strength. She always believes that they can "make a new plan" and that it'll be one in which no one has to die. I think Archibald Fleet needs someone like that, someone who'll tell him to drop to the ground when his death advances from both sides, someone who - even in a dark tunnel with an murderous metal monster and a speeding train - won't stop shouting that there's hope.
#Victoriocity#victoriocity spoilers#clara entwhistle#archibald fleet#I have feelings about them!!#I've listened to this scene a normal number of times...#Can't decide if it's more angsty if Clara heard his apology or if she didn't...#Also on the topic of Clara's optimism#I think it is a part of her temperament#but I don't think that means it's always easy or that it isn't something that takes active effort#The 'midnight overthinkies' scene showed us that there's a lot going on under the surface#As previously established I don't personally see Clara and Fleet romantically#but nonetheless there is something Orpheus and Eurydice#about two people who care deeply about each other#in a dark tunnel trying to head towards safety#and one of them trusts that the other is behind them#except Clara doesn't look back for a while and then he actually is already gone#and she's alone wondering if she's lost him forever#I think I can draw those parallels platonically#Oh also there's something impressive about a show that can literally raise a guy from the dead in the first season#and yet still have real stakes when he's in life or death situations after that#something deeply sinister about how in Even Greater London no death ever needs to be permanent#but we know that the vast majority of deaths would be because access to that technology is so restricted#inspector fleet#victoriocity season 3#victoriocity podcast#Clara & Fleet#The empty man posteth
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yall don't know platonic yearning like I do 😤
#all i want is a friend i can build a life with#we'll sleep in separate beds but occasionally we'll both get up for a late night snack at the same time and giggle about it#we'll call each other husband or wife while also having our freedom to seek out sex or romance outside of our partnership#there will always be someone to come home to and i won't feel the stifling pressure to perform romance for them#i want my future kids to be raised in love and friendship#i want them to know that they don't have to be a certain way in order to be loved#i want someone to hold my hair when im sick and let me cry on their shoulder when things are hard and stick up for me when i need it#i may never have this and it hurts my heart#ive told myself that being a single parent would make me happy because ill be happy as long as im not in a romantic relationship#but i don't know if thats actually true#ive resigned myself to that as a possoble future for me because being a parent is improtant to me#but there's this loneliness inside of me that I don't know I'll ever be able to get rid of#i thought i had a chance at the life i want with my ex and thats why i held on so long as tried to ignore all of our incompatibilities#but at the end of the day#hes a hopeless romantic and will always want the intense romantic love i can never give him and i will always resent those expectations#i wish things were different#personal#vent#aro tag#aromantic#platonic yearning#queerplatonic relationship#feel free to ignore but if you see this and also feel this way I'd love to commiserate :')
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you can't ask me about my stance on ruikasa despite me being an avid polyshow truther and an unbearable wxs oshi without me talking your ear off like an annoying person because there are so many different aspects to ruikasa that affect how i understand and perceive them and Yeah two fictional characters and their relationship shouldn't have that many facets but guess what They Do and i am not fucking around. generally. i love them. i love them a lot. they're awesome. stupid. brains full of nothing but theatrics, hijinks, and shenanigans. unconventional as hell and they never waste a minute showing off how annoying they are. their love is sealed through an afternoon of juggling bowling pins on a unicycle and making trips to the moon by cannon. whether or not tsukasa is actually compliant in the matter bears no significance because at the end of the day they're weirdos who match each others' freak to a degree that is a hazard to the general public and how else would you want to be spending your saturday afternoon if not causing disturbances from mild to severe in shibuya.
but im also really susceptible to fanon versus canon discourse and people being objectively Wrong so part of my enjoying experience is spoiled because im reminded of how many people refuse to actually understand these guys and how many people are actually unbearable when it comes to preaching how much they hate the two . like okay i hate these guys too. who even gaf about yaoitron 3000 1 and 2. we are even. can we shake hands like polite people on the internet now for my own sake. And yours too honestly
and im ALSO a raging aromantic who has to bite their own tongue to stop themselves from bringing the "relationships in fiction should not be reduced to boxes of tropes and ideas and what we perceive to be romantic or platonic" talk to the shipping discourse that alloromantics don't really like . gets hit with a rock [the rock is people making chapter 8 of pandemonium all about tsukasa and centering rui's change as a person all around tsukasa despite tsukasa saying w his own mouth that rui only truly managed to change because he put his own mind to it]. like you have to understand both of them as separate characters, separate people apart from each other before you begin to understand how their relationship and dynamic works and once the cogs click into place you realize that there are so many more surfaces that "no platonic/hetero explanation for this" CANNOT cover and analyzing how they work becomes much more interesting and three dimensional. but i digress
#jay does a think#rui#tsukasa#this is just me rambling i apologize. what did i say at the beginning about me talking your ear off like an annoying person#whenever i say ruikasa im 99% of the time referring to just. them in general. romantic or platonic is out of the equation it's just them#so when you ask me are you a ruikaser i have to be like. well i love their canon dynamic it's great . romantically i genuinely have no idea#i also feel the need to clarify that. you can hate these guys for all i care#you don't even need a good reason to#i'm not even gonna ask you to read x story and y story because i think it's valid to just not like things#but i think parading around w that hate is annoying
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the thing about aplatonicism is that just like aromanticism and asexualism, it doesn't inherently mean you don't want friendships, every individual apl person has different needs and wants in regards to friendship and each person will go about it differently.
I for example am aplatonic and don't specifically feel platonic attraction as in, i don't feel a drive to befriend people. I don't get "friend crushes" or ever get the desire to befriend specific people. I am personally, very open to the possibility of friendship if someone else approaches me and we vibe. I am not platonically attracted to them, but I also do get enjoyment from socializing with others in that way and can become attached to them, etc. Platonic attraction does not equal caring about someone/being good to them. Attraction is not moral in that way. it just is.
Just like how some ace people still enjoy sex, even without sexual attraction. Some aplatonic people still enjoy friendship, and some don't. And that's okay! There are so many types of relationships out there that people can form and explore what makes them happiest and it looks different for every person and that's such a wonderful thing.
#my husband and i are both aplatonic and it manifests in VERY different ways for each of us but like. its neat its cool#i don't have many friends bc i don't seek ppl out but i love talking to people. i am a very social anf i like to think friendly person#i also have incredibly strong morals about treating people with kindness and trying to make the world a gentler place.#bc platonic attraction does not determine how good a person is or their morals#you can have 0 friends and still be a good person who treats people well#we NEED to get away from the idea of 'person with no friends = bad'#bc like. its a bad concept. its inherently flawed and bigoted and shit. tbh#the power of friendship isnt the most powerful thing actually its not any worse or better than any other relationship#friends arent worse or better than romantic partners or family or coworkers or strangers#its just another relationship and subset of attraction and putting it on a pedestal isnt a good thing actually#just how ace advocacy that relies on claiming romance is the best thing in the world is flawed#aro advocacy that claims friendship is the most important thing is just as flawed#all are equal. theyre not better or worse just different#rot posts#anyways unprompted apl post its just been on my mind
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it's just that sometimes you're so... impossibly happy and full of so much incredible joy that you gotta post about it on the internet otherwise you may get on the roof with a bullhorn yknow.
#gav gab#FEELING VERY GOOD ABOUT MANY THINGS RN.......#I LOVE MY WIFE. MY WIFE LOVES ME. WE KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THAT MEANS AND IT BELONGS TO US.#other option is like... dropping the lonely island 'i just had sex' song into my friends' dms lsdkjfs#and they don't need me to be doing that LMAOOOO#it's not just the sex itself that's not even really the point#(though it's. very very good. and i have now learned some ALARMING stats about straight women in relationships)#(ladies if your husband/bf/partner won't take direction that is a failure on his part frankly)#it's like... idk#intimacy. trust. fun. security. safety. etc. all these things i already had with this wonderful person in my life#and being able to decide together what we want to do and what we want it to mean#building something that's just ours. a life a home a relationship etc.#for all that there's no like. blueprint for marrying someone In A Friend Way#and that can be anxiety inducing#(i felt like my heart was gonna pound out of my chest the first time i brought up maybe kissing my fiancee lskdjfs)#it also means we get to make all the rules#we get to make all of our decisions together in whatever way we want to make them and it means what we want it to#and i think that's one of the really wonderful things about like. qprs and committed platonic relationships etc#and it's something romantic relationships could benefit from too tbh#sex ment in tags
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my boys <3
[transparent of wilbur under the cut]
#need to draw more of them#they're so silly#u can take this as romantic or platonic#i don't rlly care cuz wilbur is also a kid#fanart#tangled: the series#rapunzel’s tangled adventure#tts#disney#varian#meet the robinsons#wilbur robinson#crossover#crackship#futurealchemy#varibur#idk what the ship name is#just putting things out there#feel free to give suggestions#also you can use the transparent for anything idm#screenshot edit#screencap edit
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Hey guys what does it mean when you relate to a sexuality but also feel immensely distressed by it and don't want to be the sexuality at all haha asking for a friend
#dhhdhdjejdjdh#we don't. we don't consider ourselves on the aromantic spectrum at all. like we don't relate to anything aro people say#which is why we don't consider ourselves aro even though we're nebularomantic. the coiner of the term didn't consider it to be#under the aro umbrella either. the definition wad closer to aplatonic. which is what we relate to way more.#but uh. we have a lot of obsessive thoughts about our identity and sexuality and it's usually solved through rumination#so we took an aro spectrum quiz yesterday. and got a tie between allo greyromantic and lithoromantic#*lithromantic#and uh. well. well the lithromantic experience sure do be relatable#but we don't like that at all?#what i mean is we consider ourselves a pretty romantic person with feelings so strong that the line between platonic and romantic does not#exist. We've always daydreamed about being a good wife or husband and about raising children with our love#but if you asked about it irl we'd say that we do not want children. because we're scared that we'd give them trauma#and that's the same reason for our experience matching the lithromantic one#like. yes when someone initiates we lose all feelings. because it's incredibly suspicious when someone initiates#because we are inherently unlikeable and then we usually switch and someone who doesn't experience most emotions at all fronts#to distance ourselves from the threat. when someone reciprocates we also lose all feelings because reciprocating is weird#and dangerous. why do you want us? what is your goal? we're sure you want to hurt us and we won't let you.#we love the idea of being a knight hopelessly in love with a lady or a lord#it a strong dramatic love that will never come to fruition. the knight never gets hurt. the knight is a service and a tool.#the knight has it all without ever being known. without being hurt. without being close and vulnerable. the knight can sing ballads#and cry tears of doom and the knight is an artist in his own right eternally inspired by his torment and he dreams and he yearns and he#serves selflessly and he never gets hurt. not emotionally. he might die in service of his lord but that's good. there is no better#way to die than for the ones you love. but the knight will never die emotionally and he will never be known and he will never be weak#and the thing is we feel like this about platonic relationships too???#when someone wants to be our friend we bolt. like that's suspicious and weird. go away.#when someone doesn't initiate at all we want to be their friend but as soon as they express that they like us it's time to run away#like auuuuuuuuugh that's weird and dangerous and you want to hurt us. or you have bad taste in friends and we'll hurt you.#either way we need to put more distance between us#and the thing is being this way distresses us. we don't WANT to be this way. we want what we want. we want to feel comfortable#and safe in relationships but we don't. love has always been our only life goal and dream.
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Stayed up way too late drawing a followup comic for what I posted on my art account. I looove these fucking idiots
#originally it was gonna be kinda sweet but I think what it is now is more in character#fight fight fight fight#i love these assholes. they tried. they don't get a gold star though their star is blood fucking red#I am once again talking about Sara and Shin. predictable.#god I need them to kill each other I'm so sorry I need them to be cruel and awful and evil at each other actually#yes I am still delusional about them becoming friends#i just think they should go about it in an awful and lowkey codependent way#you are the person I hate the most and also the only one who can ever understand me#you antagonized me at every turn and yet I feel responsible for helping you because it's the only way I can forgive myself#you terrify me. you remind me of the most sickening man I have ever known but he was the only person who ever loved me#i want you dead. if you died i would never forgive myself. if i lost you then what would i have left in the world. fuck you.#hnngghvggh. nornal guy behavior.#none of this is romantic i must make this clear. it is all a weird evil form of platonic.#also i think it's funny that this grown ass man is beefing mostly one-sidedly with a 17-year-old. i would never.#I'm gnawing on them like chew toys. I'm putting them in water and playing with them like they're orbeez.#putting them in my brain water and watching them expand like those foam animal pill thangs and then tearing them up#I promise I'm normal. I'm a normal guy. I'm so average. literally the normalest guy you've ever met.
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