#my husband and i are both aplatonic and it manifests in VERY different ways for each of us but like. its neat its cool

[lycanr0t]

the thing about aplatonicism is that just like aromanticism and asexualism, it doesn't inherently mean you don't want friendships, every individual apl person has different needs and wants in regards to friendship and each person will go about it differently.

I for example am aplatonic and don't specifically feel platonic attraction as in, i don't feel a drive to befriend people. I don't get "friend crushes" or ever get the desire to befriend specific people. I am personally, very open to the possibility of friendship if someone else approaches me and we vibe. I am not platonically attracted to them, but I also do get enjoyment from socializing with others in that way and can become attached to them, etc. Platonic attraction does not equal caring about someone/being good to them. Attraction is not moral in that way. it just is.

Just like how some ace people still enjoy sex, even without sexual attraction. Some aplatonic people still enjoy friendship, and some don't. And that's okay! There are so many types of relationships out there that people can form and explore what makes them happiest and it looks different for every person and that's such a wonderful thing.

[oojamaflip-whatchamacallit]

#my husband and i are both aplatonic and it manifests in VERY different ways for each of us but like. its neat its cool#i don't have many friends bc i don't seek ppl out but i love talking to people. i am a very social anf i like to think friendly person#i also have incredibly strong morals about treating people with kindness and trying to make the world a gentler place.#bc platonic attraction does not determine how good a person is or their morals#you can have 0 friends and still be a good person who treats people well#we NEED to get away from the idea of 'person with no friends = bad'#bc like. its a bad concept. its inherently flawed and bigoted and shit. tbh#the power of friendship isnt the most powerful thing actually its not any worse or better than any other relationship#friends arent worse or better than romantic partners or family or coworkers or strangers#its just another relationship and subset of attraction and putting it on a pedestal isnt a good thing actually#just how ​ace advocacy that relies on claiming romance is the best thing in the world is flawed#aro advocacy that claims friendship is the most important thing is just as flawed#all are equal. theyre not better or worse just different

the thing about aplatonicism is that just like aromanticism and asexualism, it doesn't inherently mean you don't want friendships, every individual apl person has different needs and wants in regards to friendship and each person will go about it differently.

I for example am aplatonic and don't specifically feel platonic attraction as in, i don't feel a drive to befriend people. I don't get "friend crushes" or ever get the desire to befriend specific people. I am personally, very open to the possibility of friendship if someone else approaches me and we vibe. I am not platonically attracted to them, but I also do get enjoyment from socializing with others in that way and can become attached to them, etc. Platonic attraction does not equal caring about someone/being good to them. Attraction is not moral in that way. it just is.

Just like how some ace people still enjoy sex, even without sexual attraction. Some aplatonic people still enjoy friendship, and some don't. And that's okay! There are so many types of relationships out there that people can form and explore what makes them happiest and it looks different for every person and that's such a wonderful thing.