#I DID IT AGAIN LET'S GO

[silver-soul00]

I make a pseudo sequel to my previous post, responding to accusations directed towards the ship.

Always in a constructive manner.

[There are accusations that the Wednesday x Enid couple is ‘’toxic‘’.]

A frequent criticism concerns the character differences between Wednesday and Enid, with the argument that their differences could lead to a dysfunctional relationship.

However, research has demonstrated that differences are not necessarily detrimental to a relationship.

According to Markman et al. (2010), couples who are mutually supportive through differences tend to develop greater conflict resolution skills and strengthen their bond.

In the case of Wednesday and Enid, their differences do not create insurmountable distances, but rather offer opportunities for personal and collective growth.

Enid helps Wednesday explore emotions that she normally tends to repress, while Wednesday offers Enid a more rational and centred perspective.

Another accusation concerns the possibility of emotional dependency, where one party is overly dependent on the other.

Nevertheless, their relationship shows signs of healthy reciprocity.

In accordance with Kelley and Thibaut's (1978) model of interdependence, healthy relationships are characterised by a balance of power and mutual support.

Enid and Wednesday demonstrate this interdependence on several occasions: Enid supports Wednesday emotionally during difficult times, while Wednesday protects Enid physically and respects her as an equal. This mutuality is crucial to avoid toxic dynamics.

A lot of criticism of queer relationships derives from stereotypes and prejudices that do not apply to heterosexual relationships.

Queer literature, as examined by Adrienne Rich in the concept of ‘compulsory heterosexuality,’ suggests that queer relationships are often misinterpreted through the prism of heterosexual standards.

Queer relationships, like the potential one between Wednesday and Enid, do not have to conform to these standards to be considered valid and healthy.

Their interactions challenge traditional conventions, but this does not make them toxic; on the contrary, they provide a far more inclusive and diverse representation of relationships.

A core feature of healthy relationships is mutual support for personal growth, as pointed out by Deci and Ryan (2000) in their theory of self-determination.

Enid also encourages Wednesday to explore sides of herself that she would normally reject, helping her to emotionally grow. Wednesday, with her pragmatic approach, helps Enid to become more autonomous and assertive.

This mutually supportive dynamic contrasts sharply with toxic dynamics, where one side tries to belittle or hinder the other.

Stating that Wednesday could be toxic for Enid requires an in-depth analysis of the dynamics of their relationship, based on psychological patterns of healthy and toxic relationships.

Wednesday, while reserved and distant, does not show manipulative intentions toward Enid.

Available from Braiker and Kelley (1979), manipulation in relationships is characterized by intentional behaviors to gain power and control over the other. Wednesday, on the other hand, behaves in a straightforward and honest manner, although she can be brusque at times.

She never uses Enid for personal gain or to exert power, which eliminates a key aspect of toxic relationships.

Throughout the series, Wednesday shows that she is capable of emotional growth and learning from her mistakes, especially in her interactions with Enid.

Canary and Stafford (1992) point out that the ability to resolve conflict and grow together is an indicator of a healthy relationship. Wednesday, initially reluctant to express emotions, learns to recognize the importance of human connections through Enid's influence.

This suggests an ability to adapt and improve, not typical of toxic relationships, where harmful behavior is repetitive and static.

But despite their personality differences, Wednesday and Enid show a strong mutual respect for each other.

Wednesday, while often cold, does not ignore Enid's emotional needs and, on several occasions, tries to support her, albeit in her own way.

Bowlby's (1969) attachment theory highlights the importance of mutual emotional support as the foundation of healthy relationships.

Wednesday offers support to Enid when necessary, showing that he respects her needs and boundaries.

A crucial aspect of a toxic relationship is isolation, where one partner tries to separate the other from his or her support networks (Walker, 1979).

Wednesday, on the other hand, not only does not isolate Enid, but encourages her independence.

Wednesday respects Enid's need for other friendships and supports, demonstrating a healthy, non-possessive approach to the relationship.

We should not forget about the communication between Wednesday and Enid, which although sometimes difficult, is direct and honest.

According to Gottman (1999), open and honest communication is essential to the health of a relationship.

Even in times of conflict, Wednesday does not hide her thoughts or intentions, which helps a clearer and more respectful dynamic, avoiding the traps of manipulation or emotional control.

Some may object, even rightly, that Wednesday “used” Enid during the outing to the Gates mansion.

Indeed, there is an episode in which Wednesday involves Enid in her plans to explore the Gates mansion, an example of behavior that might appear to be exploitation or deception.

However, it is important to analyze the context and motivation behind the action to assess whether this represents a pattern of toxic behavior.

Wednesday does not exploit Enid in an ongoing or manipulative way;

Enid's involvement in this situation is more of an isolated incident related to Wednesday's determination to solve the mystery.

The key difference from toxic relationships is that Wednesday's intent is not to control or manipulate Enid in the long run, but rather to get help with a specific mission.

Toxic relationships are often characterized by repeated and systematic manipulative behaviors (Braiker and Kelley, 1979).

In Wednesday's case, the episode with the Gates mansion is an exception rather than a rule.

There is no evidence that Wednesday continues to exploit Enid on a regular basis or for selfish personal purposes.

And no, the exchange of places during the work at Pilgrim Word doesn't count at all, that's because that was an exchange that favors both clearly and without deception, Enid wanted to go together with Ajax and Wednesday wanted to please her favoring even herself.

An important element is Wednesday's ability to reflect on her mistakes and try to improve her actions.

After the mansion episode, Wednesday shows greater consideration for Enid's feelings and boundaries, a sign of personal growth.

In accordance with Gottman's (1999) research, the ability to recognize and correct one's mistakes is fundamental to a healthy relationship.

After the conflict caused by the visit to the mansion, Enid and Wednesday manage to discuss and resolve their differences. This indicates a relationship based on open communication and mutual respect, which contrasts with toxic relationships where conflicts tend to remain unresolved or lead to ongoing manipulation.

Well, now here's where I'm going to be much more direct, before you read this part I invite you to look up my analysis of why Tyler is a toxic partner (and especially because he doesn't really love Wednesday) in my Tumbrl account, because now that I'm going to make comparisons I'm going to use some cues from that post.

Tyler maintains deceptive and manipulative behavior for much of the series.

He hides his true identity and intentions, exploiting Wednesday's trust to get closer to her while serving his personal purposes as the Hyde monster.

This type of behavior is a classic example of emotional manipulation, where one partner uses the other's trust and emotions to gain personal advantage or control the situation, as described by Braiker and Kelley (1979).

He constantly uses deception and manipulation to maintain control of the situation.

This pattern is typical of toxic relationships, where manipulative behavior is continuous and an integral part of the relational dynamic (Walker, 1979).

In comparison, Wednesday's behavior toward Enid, even when it might seem abrupt or instrumental, is not characterized by persistent manipulative intentionality.

Wednesday involves Enid in a specific episode (the Gates mansion), but he does not try to systematically deceive or manipulate her for his own personal gain.

Always remembering that Wednesday's behavior, while insensitive at times, does not follow a consistent manipulative pattern.

His relationship with Enid is characterized by honest communication and mutual growth, not systematic manipulation.

Tyler shows no intention to change or be honest with Wednesday until he is discovered.

His lack of change and self-reflection is indicative of a toxic relationship, where manipulative behavior persists without improvement.

And here many might bring forward another objection.

That is, the fact that Tyler is not fully conscious; he is being manipulated by an outside person.

And that is true, but let me expound on that in a better way

There is a contradiction in saying that Tyler deceived Wednesday because he was under Laurel's control, but at the same time claiming that he really loved her.

If Tyler is completely under Laurel's control, then his manipulative actions toward Wednesday could be attributed to a loss of autonomy.

However, this would imply that he is not in control of his actions and therefore cannot truly love authentically, since love requires intentionality and will.

Authentic love involves conscious choice and genuine connection based on mutual respect, trust and understanding (Sternberg, 1986).

If Tyler is under Laurel's control, then he is unable to offer this kind of love, making any claim of authentic love inconsistent with his manipulative state.

Despite Laurel's control, Tyler maintains deceptive behavior for much of the series, hiding his true identity and intentions.

This behavior stands in stark contrast to genuine love, which requires transparency and sincerity.

Claiming that Tyler loves Wednesday while continually deceiving her creates a contradiction: deception is a sign of manipulation and disrespect, while genuine love requires honesty and respect.

According to Bowlby's (1969) attachment theory, a healthy relationship is based on mutual trust, which is clearly violated by Tyler.

Although Tyler is under Laurel's control, there is a question of personal responsibility.

If Tyler really loved Wednesday, one would expect him to find a way to resist or to warn her of danger, showing genuine concern for her welfare.

Tyler's lack of resistance suggests complicity, which contradicts the idea of genuine love.

In a healthy relationship, the partner should do everything possible to protect the other from harm, not to contribute to their deception and manipulation.

We therefore conclude this post with a comparison encapsulating all the info we have gathered in the series.

The relationship between Wednesday and Tyler initially develops on a false premise, where Tyler presents himself as an ally and confidant, only to turn out to be a threat.

This behavior reflects what psychologists call “emotional manipulation.”

A study by Christensen et al. (2006) of couples with abusive dynamics found that manipulators often use deception to create a sense of dependence and vulnerability in their partners.

Tyler uses his appearance as a reliable boyfriend to gain Wednesday's trust, only to betray her later, a clear sign of emotional abuse and deception.

Toxic relationships are often characterized by one partner trying to isolate the other from his or her support networks.

Although Tyler does not isolate Wednesday in the traditional sense, her emotional duplicity alienates her from her sources of trust and safety.

Studies such as Walker's (1979) work on battered women show how the sense of emotional isolation and confusion created by manipulative partners leads to deeply dysfunctional relationships.

Wednesday, in her search for answers, finds herself dependent on Tyler, only to be betrayed.

Tyler does not provide true support to Wednesday, but rather exploits her vulnerabilities for his own purposes.

According to Gottman and Silver (1999), one of the strongest predictors of relational success is the presence of mutual emotional support.

In the relationship with Tyler, this element is entirely absent, as his support is conditional and aimed at manipulation.

In sharp contrast, the relationship between Wednesday and Enid shows mutual support that encourages personal growth.

Following Deci and Ryan's (2000) self-determination theory, relationships that promote personal growth and autonomy lead to greater well-being and satisfaction.

Enid helps Wednesday explore aspects of herself that she usually represses, such as the ability to connect emotionally with others.

At the same time, Wednesday offers Enid a more rational and pragmatic perspective, helping her to become more confident.

Enid and Wednesday's ability to deal with and resolve conflict is a hallmark of a healthy relationship.

Without question, according to Canary and Stafford (1992), open communication and the ability to handle conflict are critical to maintaining a positive relationship.

Even when the two disagree, as shown on several occasions in the series, they manage to find a balance and respect each other's boundaries.

This mutual respect is fundamental to a balanced relationship.

The relationship between Wednesday and Enid is distinguished by the strong mutual support that fosters the development of both of their identities. Bowlby (1969) in his attachment theory stresses the importance of having a partner who provides emotional security, allowing the other to explore and develop their identity.

Enid provides Wednesday with a “safe harbor,” helping her navigate her complex emotions, while Wednesday provides Enid with rational support that encourages her to explore and accept her unique identity.

Studies such as Bancroft's (2002) on emotional abuse and coercive control show that toxic relationships are often characterized by a cycle of manipulation, isolation, and lack of mutual support, elements that are clearly found in the dynamic between Wednesday and Tyler.

In contrast, healthy relationships such as the one between Wednesday and Enid are based on reciprocity, open communication, and emotional support, elements that research indicates are fundamental to relational well-being.

The portrayal of positive queer relationships, such as the potential one between Wednesday and Enid, is supported by research that points to the importance of inclusive role models for the well-being of LGBTQ+ people.

A report by Meyer (2003) on minority stress theory shows that having positive models of queer relationships can reduce feelings of isolation and increase feelings of belonging and acceptance.

Thank you for reading this far and I wish you a good day✨✨✨

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Being someone who read Under The Red Hood and came out with the firm belief that, for Jason, it's not about killing Joker, it's about Jason wanting proof Batman would choose him over the Joker (bc shelia chose the joker). Makes seeing any other media where it's all about just wanting the Joker dead is a teeny bit frustrating. to be honest

Jason could've killed the Joker himself, really, really easily. Jason kidnaps the Joker before the confrontation. I can't open my comic for a reference right now, but it felt like he had the Joker for quite a bit before the confrontation. He had him. He beat him up with a crowbar. He had every single opportunity to kill the Joker himself, but he didn't because that wasn't his goal. Make no mistake, he did plan for the Joker to be dead by the end of it, but do you see what im trying to say here

Edit: If I knew this post was gonna get 1000+ notes I would've tried to word it better or something, this was a rant I made on the way to the grocery store 😭

It's not about making Batman kill either. When Batman says he won't kill, Jason adjusts and goes, 'Let ME kill the Joker or kill me to stop me' instead. The test is all about Batman choosing him. The whole final confrontation is Jason's first death again. The parent, The Joker, and the explosives. It even ends with Jason unable to move as a bomb goes off right next to him again because the parent didn't choose Jason. And instead tried finding an option that'd benefit them and (consequencely) letting the Joker walk, again, lol, lmao <-in agony

[o3o-lapd-o3o]

how i imagine poseidon (who i believe can feel when people invoke not only his name but the ocean as well) reacted to hearing antinous plotting to kill telemachus and dump his body (parts) in the ocean

*up on olympus in apollo's infirmary*

poseidon: *recovering and enjoying peace after athena had left a day ago*

poseidon: *to himself* ahh finally some peac-

poseidon: *feels someone invoking the ocean*

poseidon: *focusing on who's saying it* who on gaia is...is that coming from ithaca...

poseidon: wait- ITHACA?!?

poseidon: *fully focuses now*

antinous: *in the ithacan palace*

antinous: cut him down into tiny pieces...

poseidon: *listening in full now* cut wh-

antinous: ...when the crown wonders where the prince is-

poseidon: the prince? yoU MEAN ODYSSEUS' SON?

antinous: only the ocean and i will know!

poseidon: *in full panic mode* OCEAN?!

poseidon: *now attempting to get out of bed in panic* HADES NO, I AM NOT INVOLVED WITH THIS I-

apollo: *coming to check on his uncle after hearing him shout*

apollo: uncle wh- *sees poseidon attempting to get out of bed*

apollo: *hurrying over to get him back in bed*

apollo: uncle calm down! you're gonna rip your stitches!

[egophiliac]

I don’t think we’ve ever seen you draw knight of dawn before 🤔 what are your thoughts about him? Or take?

I've drawn him a couple of times, just really little/in the background. but I should draw him more, I love this guy a lot! I have many, many thoughts about him and the way he parallels Silver...and also I think it is extremely funny that his ghost is stuck in a ring. especially considering where that ring has been for the last 16-ish years.

[abstractfrog]

Happy 1 year anniversary to Mr Sherlock Holmes! Here's a litttleee celebratory comic from me

[autistic-danieljackson]

Listen Daniel’s involvement with the Stargate program makes total sense but also it’s so funny to think about him being part of a field team. Like “hi we’re SG-1, arguably the most famous warriors in the galaxy. Our team consists of a war vet, an Air Force captain, a high ranking rebel of the people we’re fighting, oh and also we gave this archaeologist a gun.”

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Why are you running?

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[raptorwozhere]

Marinette and Kagami episodes are some of my favourites because every time they interact it looks like this:

Additionally if we add the senti-twin-cousins into the mix it just becomes three autistic-coded senti-people and their emotional support chaotic adhd-er

[bacchuschucklefuck]

they licensed his ass

my finished piece of the FWMS (official name definitely 100%) thing we started a few days ago! I had fun I hope folks had and/or continue to have fun with the sketch as well.

[yrsonpurpose]

we won't know. but there will be signs. bonus ±

[ciderjacks]

despite Laios low self esteem making him think that if he’d been eaten, Chilchuck and Marcille wouldn’t have helped Falin,

theres a small part of me that thinks the reason Chilchuck stayed with the party and went back in the dungeon in the first place was because he didn’t want to leave Laios alone. That Laios was moreso the reason he stayed.

[inkskinned]

yesterday while feverish i wrote about how boats can moor next to each other like pigeons, cooing with the gentle rap of water against their hull. you once said that that the way i see things - birds in the water, feathers in marina paint - was "childish and naive." you said i'd been misdiagnosed - "it can't all be adhd. you might be just kind of stupid and lazy."

i still do certain things like how you taught me - turn the pillow case inside out before putting it on. drive defensively. hate myself entirely.

the prompt for this poem is "mahler's fifth." i wish it wasn't, but mahler's fifth was our song. it ended up in my book. every person that knows your name has promised me they'll give you one swift rabbit punch, right to the face. dean read the book and showed up on my front porch, drenched in sweat from running the 8 miles at 4 in the morning. he was shaking. pacifist and gentle - he works with children - i'd never seen him furious. a punch isn't going to do it, he said, and then said i'm sorry. i had to come to see if you were okay.

mahler's fifth was mine first, like my girlhood. i like the way each movement piles onto the next movement, each instrument bleeding into the next. i like the horn version the best. before i met you, i danced to it on grass still-wet from sprinklers.

later you would tell me that the way you heard it was somehow better. you understood something in it that i couldn't quite wrap my fingers into. once, on our anniversary, you asked the classical music radio station to play it for us. we missed hearing it because we were fighting. one of the things people get wrong about abuse is that sometimes victims are, like, brutally aware of the stupidity of our situation. what do you mean that you thought i wasn't good enough for you? you? you're just... nothing.

sometimes people can pull the poetry out of your life. i watched my words become clothesline, and then thin out into kite twine. i watched you chew through every good syllable of me. so many good songs and places and moments were ruined. i am glad you didn't like most of my music - less to tie back to you.

but still mahler's fifth. the music swells, and i am 21 and throwing up in a bathroom on my birthday. a woman i will later refer to as lesbian jesus runs a cool hand down my back, her perfect pantsuit starch-pressed. she told me to leave you. she said - and this is true, and not an invention of rhyme or fantasy - i'm you from the future.

i am 22, and i got home from an award ceremony, and i remember you telling me - you act so proud of yourself when you're actually so fucking embarrassing. i took you to disney world. you took my virginity. i gave up visiting spain for a week with my family - i instead choose you, to spend the time just-cuddling. you called it "our fuck week." the music swells. it probably should have been a red flag that for about 3 years - i just gave up on crying. my grandfather died and you said nothing. my uncle died and you ghosted me for 3 weeks. you said i need to protect myself from your ongoing tragedy.

every so often i come back to the memory of one of our last afternoons in person. i had just told you that i wasn't going to law school, despite the free ride - i was going to join a creative writing program. master's in fine arts. i was going to finally do it - i was going to follow my dreams. this blog was already internet-famous. however reluctantly, i would occasionally refer to myself as a poet. i got into umass amherst's writing program for fiction authors. it is one of the the top 5 programs in the country.

wait are you seriously considering actually attending that? dumbfounded, you turned completely towards me in your seat. for the 3rd time in our relationship, you almost crashed the car. you actually want to be a writer?

the first time i went viral, it was for a poem i wrote about you:

he wants to say i love you but keeps it to goodnight because love will take some falling and she's afraid of heights.

every time i see that, i want to throw up. you weren't in love with me, you were in love with the control you had over me. a little truth though: i am afraid of heights. you caught a rabbitgirl and skinned her alive.

mahler's fifth still makes me sick.

give me that back. give me back music. give me back everything i had before you. give me back fearlessness. give me back bravery. give me back a scarless body.

give me back what you took from me.

[vagueconfusion]

Feeling real ridiculous for not having realized that Baron's "stark father" was the Nightmare King until now

[xxplastic-cubexx]

crusty evolution redraw. in theory.

[hey-hey-j]

lore dropping

(★ my Kofi)

[lazylittledragon]

ok i swear i'm not going to talk about my breakup forever but the thing that just keeps bothering me:

i know that not getting what you need in a relationship is a COMPLETELY valid reason to end it but also. i feel like having a very vulnerable moment where i opened up about my struggles with intimacy and being relieved that i didn't have to keep doing things i wasn't comfortable with, then being dumped a YEAR later because of my lack of intimacy. is something i should be allowed to be very hurt by???