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Red Flags: Navigating the Deceptive Charm of Narcissists
Navigating the world of relationships can be a complex and often challenging endeavor. While some connections bring joy, fulfillment, and support, others can lead to emotional turmoil, manipulation, and even abuse. Narcissists, individuals characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, can pose a significant threat to our emotional well-being.
Identifying narcissistic traits early on can be crucial in protecting ourselves from their harmful influence. While some narcissists may become more overt with their controlling and manipulative behavior over time, many exhibit early warning signs that, if recognized, can serve as red flags to steer clear.
1. Excessive Flattery and Attention Seeking
Narcissists often shower potential partners with excessive flattery, compliments, and attention. This love-bombing phase serves to quickly capture your attention and hook you into the relationship. However, this initial adoration often masks their deep insecurities and need for constant validation.
2. A Lack of Genuine Interest in Your Life
While narcissists seem attentive and interested in your life initially, their focus often centers on extracting information about your strengths, achievements, and connections. They may even mirror your interests and values to appear compatible, but this mimicry lacks genuine depth or understanding.
3. An Inability to Take No for an Answer
Narcissists often have trouble respecting boundaries and accepting rejection. If you express a reluctance to engage in certain activities or make certain decisions, they may persist, pressure you, or even resort to guilt-tripping or manipulation.
4. A Lack of Empathy and Emotional Awareness
Narcissists struggle to understand and respond to the emotions of others. They may dismiss your feelings, invalidate your experiences, or even blame you for their own emotional outbursts. Their inability to connect emotionally can leave you feeling isolated and unheard.
5. A History of Toxic Relationships
Narcissists often have a pattern of tumultuous relationships characterized by conflict, drama, and breakups. Their tendency to blame others for their problems and their inability to maintain healthy connections can serve as a warning sign of their underlying issues.
6. A Need for Control and Power
Narcissists often desire to maintain control over every aspect of their relationships. They may dictate the pace of the relationship, make unilateral decisions, and even isolate you from your friends and family. This need for control can erode your independence and sense of self.
7. A Dishonest and Unreliable Nature
Narcissists often engage in deceit and manipulation to maintain their image and preserve their supply of admiration. They may lie, exaggerate, or fabricate stories to gain your trust or escape accountability.
8. A Lack of Emotional Maturity and Responsibility
Narcissists often exhibit a childlike level of emotional maturity, seeking immediate gratification and lacking a sense of responsibility for their actions. They may blame others for their mistakes, refuse to take accountability, and avoid addressing personal issues.
9. A Pattern of Gaslighting and Blame Shifting
Narcissists may employ gaslighting tactics, manipulating you into questioning your own perceptions and sanity. They may distort events, deny reality, or project their own faults onto you to maintain their position of power.
10. A Lack of Genuine Appreciation and Gratitude
Despite your efforts and sacrifices, narcissists often fail to show genuine appreciation or gratitude. Their focus remains on their own needs and desires, leaving you feeling taken for granted and unvalued.
Recognizing the Red Flags
While it's important to exercise caution in drawing conclusions about someone's character early on, being aware of these red flags can serve as a protective shield against the potentially harmful influence of narcissists. Remember, trust your instincts and intuition. If something feels off or you're experiencing uncomfortable or manipulative behavior, it's important to speak up and set boundaries. If the person persists in disregard for your well-being or shows no willingness to address their problematic behaviors, it may be time to consider distancing yourself from the relationship.
#Narcissism#Narcissistic abuse#red flags of the narcissist#how to spot a narcissist#damages a narcissist can do#blame shifting#gaslighting#narcissism awareness
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Really not excited for a generation of kids to be raised by people convinced they cannot be toxic or abusive because they are Empaths (victim class), and not Narcissists (perpetrator class)
#psychiatry is a fucking curse but instagram psychiatry is even worse#'what's your attatchment style' 'how to spot a narcissist' 'ADHD means I'm allowed to be an asshole' EAT GLASS! EAT GLASS! EAT GLASS!
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I love my best friend, but they keep using narcissist as shorthand for abuser and I’m loosing my fucking mind about it
#not like I haven’t said that it makes me uncomfortable and why#and I understand why he uses it#that “spotting narcissistic behavior’’ stuff is how he came to terms with his shit#but it feels like he’s not even attempting to use it properly#and it’s fully sound like a slur the way he uses it#and it’s fucking with my head#I feel gross about it actually#ableism#npd
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cant go too far from tumblr its the only website that isnt horrible to people with npd
#it always drives me up a wall i dont have npd or any pds myself but like#idk people cant help the mental health issues they have?? pds are from my understanding genetic or born from childhood abuse#ppl cant help it! npd is often a result of a child's brain trying to cope with neglect for fucks sake#i remember when i was still a psych major i did a research paper for some class abt npd and how it affects personal relationships#and when i tried to leave my database-based sources and just google shit oh my god. 500 how to spot narcissists in your life articles#its crazy to me. yea im sure some ppl w npd are shitty and abusive but ppl w/o npd are also shitty n abusive what gives#we cant be taking 1 single thing abt a person and going yep thats making you a ticking time bomb. whatta hell#one of my good friends has bpd and shes great. bcus mental health issues dont determine if youre shitty and abusive or not#it actually pisses me the hell off
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cant stop thinking abt that reply to bram's post abt the abusive cluster b parents so just know if u were abused like that, first of all, samesies and it gave me cluster b pds as a result, second of all, i promise no one whos calling for understanding of cluster b ppl is invalidating ur experiences. if u feel like they ARE, i sincerely hope u realise u dont have to have a medical explanation for why others suck. if ur parents sucked, u can just say that, and its freeing, and focusing on behavioural patterns instead of diagnoses (which u most likely dont have access to when it comes to strangers) will allow u to weed out actual bad ppl and keep urself safe(er)
#i understand its easy and comfortable to latch onto labels especially when it comes to parents#i did it#then i was diagnosed w the same shit#that was my turning point i think#when i realised we have the same shit and yet i am actively working very hard to be kind and compassionate#i dont go out of my way to be mean#at some point u have to realise that some ppl r just evil and mean spirited#and pds arent indicative of how self aware or kind or polite or compassionate someone is#i'd argue most of us put in SO much work to know ourselves and our potentially harmful behavioural patterns#way more than a neurotypical who never bothered to look inward for even a second#'these stereotypes dont come from nothing'#no shit! my dad called me both borderline and narcissist as insults AND I TURNED OUT TO HAVE BOTH#but let me tell u smth#most of my symptoms? are fucking survival mechanisms i learned as a child to avoid getting hurt. because thats what the brain does.#u know what else didnt come from thin air? sayings like hurt people hurt people#plus my victim complex allows me to write banger complaint letters now so theres that#look around u and be very comfortable w the fact that ur probably surrounded by a bunch of cluster b ppl that u adore#bc we're just ppl too#and ur doing urself a disservice trying to spot us#cluster b ppl can be evil ppl just as neurotypicals but they can also be ur friend who struggles w insecurities and is a huge ppl pleaser#bc they read the ableist posts too and they know everyone in the mainstream world thinks theyre evil#and when if u told them 'well my cluster b parents were abusive' in a less accusatory tone#maybe theyd look u in the eye w compassion and say 'yea i know how that feels and im here for u'
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Having any kind of personality disorder feels like everybody thinks of you as a cartoon supervillain i am so serious 💀💀💀
#“toxic” “gaslighting” “narcissistic abuse” STOP THROWING WORDS AROUND UNTIL THEY LOSE THEIR MEANING#people fr list typical symptoms and then say HOW TO SPOT A TOXIC PERSON!! RUN IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!! TREAT THEM LIKE LESSER HUMAN BEINGS!
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Who up reading Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker this fine Easter Sunday
#I'm gonna post some helpful stuff about emotional flashbacks and shit here for today while I attempt to rip myself out of my flashback#and do homework like a good college student#There's some iffy language used sometimes but it's par for the course with self help books#'how to spot a toxic narcissist' type wording#we support ppl with personality disorders here#as religious trauma can in fact lead to personality disorders and cptsd#I don't have a diagnosed PD but I have diagnosed avoidant traits that stem from my religious trauma#I'll share some excerpts from Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy by Thomas Lynch as well probably#he focuses on 'overcontrolled' personalities rather than a disorder#but points out certain disorders as being more likely to be overcontrolled (e.g autism. ocd. ocpd. etc.)#good luck y'all o7#ex christian#religious trauma
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Always with the illusion of choice unless they’re love-bombing you.
#healing#narcissistic abuse#I want them to clearly articulate the things I’ve done to them#I know that there was stuff I did that wasn’t right#most of the time I did benign things that they didn’t agree with#They did not understand how ableist they were being#they literally drove me down the ground#my body was flaring so hard#I lost myself#isn’t it weird that people judge you for talking about bad behavior#what else am I supposed to do?#stay quiet and carry all the trauma inside like I’ve been doing and see my body rot from the inside?#maybe if people read this (both narcissists and codependents alike) then maybe we can all do better#spot patterns of behavior and do better#including me - I also want to do better#calling out behavior means that I can more easily spot my personal red flags and literally run away
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wow you guys aren’t kidding about how bad npd resources are. this is rude as shit
#i’m not even looking into my own behaviour i’m diagnosing fictional characters and i still feel like i’m being personally villainised :|#‘how to spot narcissistic abuse!!1!’ ‘what makes a narcissist mad!1!one!!’ what if the narcissist is trying to better themselves dipshit
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the desperate urge to compliment someone online I think is super gorgeous and absolute Butch Goals Vs the utter terror of coming across creepy or making them feel surveilled or voyeured about: FIGHT
#red said#this is why I'm so bad at flirting. bc before i initiate contact with ANYONE I have to go through a 6 month panic period#where i run through scripts in my head and worry about coming off as weird or creepy or parasocial#and the longer that goes on the more sure i am that if i speak to them they will immediately know that bc of this anxiety#i have spent thinking about them. not bc I'm obsessed with them but bc i am concerned about how weird it might make them feel#and then I'm also like WOW NARCISSISTIC OF YOU TO THINK THEY'LL EVEN NOTICE YOUR COMMENT#LET ALONE CARE#god you are truly the WORST what an AWFUL way to think why can't you just be NORMAL#and the whole time the 'creepy' thing i wanted to say in the first place was like#'you're really cool' or 'i love your jacket' or 'i hope you're ok'#it isn't just attraction stuff either. i have invited a friend from work out for a drink ONCE in my life.#and it took a year AND only happened bc she was upset after a conflict at work so i could tell she needed to vent#like I'm SO BAD at this bc large or small any kind of initiating contact is like#wow ok so YOU THINK. YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO THEIR TIME. YOU'RE GOING TO PUT THEM ON THE SPOT LIKE THAT.#and it's so ANNOYING cause it's like. my dude. nobody thinks that about you. you have friends. most people like compliments.#and anyway when i do give compliments it's always in the most casual way possible bc of these anxieties#i don't ever want anyone to feel like. trapped by my regard.#but it's so dumb it's literally the tiniest smallest things#it's why I've always been bad at making friends online. i just silently follow people's blogs and like things.#i have also been known to do the IRL version of that. hovering near the edge of people's groups trying to like. mentally project regard.#which GUESS WHAT!!! comes off way creepier than just saying hey man you look amazing i love your whole vibe#AAAAAAAAAA#(davide this is also why i followed your blog so hard for like 500 years but got very afraid of ever acknowledging you might know who i am)
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Good news! Just found out the easiest way to spot a narcissist is the believe any random instagram post!!
#using how they treat you on your birthday as they key to spot them????#yes sometimes people with untreated npd can be abusive but most domestic abuse doesnt involve npd at all#and all thats happening is people with npd (often as a result of trauma) are demonized and absuive partners escape accountability#and they escape accountibility because treating npd does not treat dv. they are two problems that interact with each other#but treating one doesnt treat the other and so#sometimes abusers will use therapy speak to continue abusing their partners#and its weird cause on insta they seem to have come to thay conclusion with bpd and theres support for them but totally not with npd#and i used to think more abusers were narcissists and were more npd until i read a well regarded book by an expert in dv#and i went oh my preconsceived notions mightve been incorrect or incomplete#shhh mo#im just ranting so much lol my ex was great on my birthday my best friend mixed up the dates and my dad was an ass#but guess who was the abuser!!!
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If you're a licensed therapist and make tiktok or reels or shorts or whatever talking about trauma recovery and specifically painting all abusers as narcissists and tagging your posts as npd, I believe your license should be revoked and you should be not allowed the chance to practice in any type of medical field, or any field that requires professionalism.
#because what you are doing is highly inappropriate and unprofessional#can someone with npd be abusive? yes. did you know ANYONE has the capacity to be abusive#anyone can be abusive regardless of their mental disorder#but all these like to create a big bad villain and those with npd and other cluster B disorders#(lets be frank its mostly cluster b but other clusters can be included)#suffer because of these supposed professionals are perpetrating these sterotypes#how to spot a narcissist? how to spot a sociopath? how about shutting the fuck up?#just call it red flags because guess what? the hurtful shit you are saying are NOT exclusive to these groups
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you guys need to start including narcissistic personality disorder in your mental health positivity or I'll have to start screaming very loudly
#if i see one more reel about how your narcissistic partner is automatically abusive im gonna spontaneously combust#if you make a dumb post like that you couldn't spot npd if it spat you in the face#mental health
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There is nothing fucking wrong with being a "forever patient." I've never even heard it called that before. Whether it's medicines for a physical problem, mental health, or hrt, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.
These medications are essential to a person's quality of life. I'm on 4 medicines that I'll probably be on until I die. I got my first one when I was 23. So what. We are not slaves to pharmaceuticals!!! Fuck that noise! We are so fortunate!!! To be living in a timeframe where these medicines are available!! Because the alternative is DEATH.
Medication is the only option to manage a LOT of conditions that would otherwise be life-ending.
There are so many mental health problems that cannot be solved just by talk therapy. And you cannot talk therapy your way past gender dysphoria.
There is nothing wrong with being medicated for life. It's a much better option than dying extremely young for conditions that are completely out of your control.
calling trans people "forever patients" or w/e says a lot about how transphobes view disabled people as well, like yeah some people need medical intervention to live or to not kill themselves and sometimes they will need that care for the rest of their lives, sorry i guess
#i don't fucking understand the point of even being upset abt people on medication their whole lives??? like mind ur fucking business#ig this is 'how to spot a terf/ableist'#my mother is one of those anti-medication types & shes a stupid vain narcissist so#ill fucking fight whoever does this shit istg#other peoples medications are not! your! fucking! business!!!
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If anyone's curious after I finally watched all the main PPVs this weekend. MotN (Supercard of Honor): Eddie Kingston vs Mark Briscoe MotN (Stand and Deliver): Oba Femi vs Dijak vs Josh Briggs MotN (Wrestlemania XL Day 1): GUNTHER vs Sami Zayn MotN (Wrestlemania XL Day 2): Logan Paul vs Randy Orton vs Kevin Owens Best Entrance: The Rock (Wrestlemania XL Day 1) Best Attire: Athena as Karlach (Supercard of Honor) - But shout out to New Day for the Rocky and Apollo gear honoring Carl Weathers. Best Performance: Kyle Fletcher (Supercard of Honor) Best Spot: Billie Starkz fakes a Neck Injury just to jump Queen Amanita to win her first major title at 19 years old (Supercard of Honor)
#wwe#roh#ring of honor#nxt#wwe nxt#nxt stand and deliver#supercard of honor#wrestlemania 40#I'd probably have liked Stand and Deliver more if it weren't for Booker T on commentary#Punk on commentary was so bitter and redundant as well#and Snoop Dogg was fucking baked#also I'd like to point out that I hate the 'pull the ref out the ring' spot - it doesn't stop them from being able to count!#Trips and Steph opening each Mania was a bit narcissistic if TK did it the internet would've ripped him apart even if it were Wembley#nobody wants to admit how big a mark Trips and Steph are for themselves and it shows - literally just jerking themselves off on tv#love Rey but felt Dom and Santos probably should've won though#like ol' Stingray but he kinda lingered too long for Johnny/Dalton#liked Drew's entrance but the Rock took it easily - also that kinda setup should've been for a world title match#Sami and Owens being there for each other backstage before their entrances was nice though#but still a lot of good wrestling out this weekend#Pretty Deadly skit was funny too on Night 1#not the biggest Corbin fan but his tag match was a close second to the NA triple threat#and credit where it's due also to Logan Paul as much as I hate him actually did some wrestling this time#Athena/Shida was a close second against Eddie/Mark too - same with Lee/Fletcher#Kyle just beats out Sami and Dijak imo but they all wrestled their butts off#should've put money on Drew winning then Punk attacking leading to a Priest cash in though#I'd be down for a R-KO tag run though - also a Mina vs Toni match to put Mariah in the middle#but congrats Cody for winning the world title that didn't exist when Dusty was robbed of winning the world title against Flair by count out#get yourself someone who loves you as much as WWE loves a spear through the barricade
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i really want to like wendall and wild but theres trans propaganda so i cant even bring myself to pirate it </3
#i regret pirating spider man across the spider verse bc it was a waste of time#theres no actual trans shit it's just the flag but honestly thafs enough for me to boycott it.#entirely.#i only pirated toh long after it was finished bc of the nonbinary shit they pull with the witchy girl.#i left the gravity falls fandom and the vld fandom purely bc both of them always try to say every character is trans#to the point i have half the ENTIRE fandom blocked#when i go into fandom tags it just breaks the app from how many people i have blocked#the app doesnt know what to show me.#theres nothing it CAN show me.#im so over this trans bullshit and i absolutely am willing to boycott even the best most incredible creators and movies bc they buy into it.#i want to support dana so much but i cannot take her seriously AT ALL after the trans bullshit in toh.#i want dana to be my favorite cartoon creator#but sadly i cant#and that spot goes to a narcissistic ass moid who churned out last second episodes for gravity falls.#simply bc he made an episode ACTUALLY tackling sexism isntead of just perpetrating it even more#under the guise of wokeness#hoping to god movie creators stopdoing this shit the more the trans cult makes themselves out to be the fools they are.#bc this shit will NOT age well i can tell you that#people are gonna rewatch these movies and cringe over how moronic and performative they are
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