#Fuck the Morality Police

[depressedhouseplant]

Fuck The (Morality) Police

A little background first - I was briefly part of a network that was shut down by the creator for personal reasons. I wasn’t a very active member simply because I forgot I even had Discord at the time. I’d pop in periodically, but not often. Apparently someone (a salty bitch prude) took it upon themselves to create a blog & spreadsheet airing their grievances against everyone they didn’t like. Which was mostly people who were members of this network. I didn’t make the list probably simply because I wasn’t an active enough member to make it on their radar.

Let me make one thing abundantly clear - I don’t tolerate policing morality. I don’t tolerate people telling me how I should & shouldn’t behave. I don’t tolerate people telling others how to behave. I’ve been around long enough to spot a salty bitch prude trying to force their morals on others. If you don’t like NSFW content, member x member content (a cardinal sin in certain circles), or even someone’s personal life choices then you can block or scroll on by. Like an adult with a functioning brain stem. You don’t need to devote an entire blog to shaming people you don’t like because they behaved in a way you disagreed with, didn’t speak up when you could have, or generally it’s none of your business. That’s childish at best and malicious at worst.

If you’re ever uncomfortable with any of my content, the block button is free & available for use. I create adult content for an adult audience even if 100% of my posts aren’t NSFW or contain sexual content. It’s your responsibility as an adult to curate the content you view. It is not your responsibility as an adult to police morality & spread libel against people you don’t like. Everyone is free to have their opinions. However you are not free to force those opinions on others like there’s only one right way to live (evangelicals much?).

So mind your own business, losers

XOXO 😘

[ghostdnfie]

god we really need to cancel twitter user dreamwastaken all those ns.fw jokes he makes about nutting in georges ass and eating him out are obviously against their boundaries. dnf shippers are taking it way too far 🙄

[dragongirltongue]

I'm also just gonna say, threatening a minority with law enforcement is a bigger fucking threat of violence than whatever hammer explosion cartoon bullshit in a tiny ass vent post could ever be.

As someone who's had cops breathing down my neck fucking waiting for an excuse to hurt me on multiple occassions, it's fucking violence.

[hottakes-of-twosided-logic]

Hot take of today

This goes out to both sides, but considering a certain side has more of a problem with this *antis*

Invalidating others for their trauma, shared views or not is never fucking ok

It’s especially not fucking ok under ANY circumstances to tell someone that they should

KYS or much less don’t fucking say someone deserves or deserved to be SA’d , it’s not fucking cool it ain’t fucking cute and it’s especially not “morally correct” you don’t get a pass just cause you believe to be of higher standing than them

It goes without saying that internet drama should never be reason enough to tell a survivor that their trauma was deserved proship or not

[fictional-worlds-are-exquisite]

i would die for the shark in under paris but that's probably unnecessary to say considering she'd kill me without hesitation. icon. keep killing bestie i love the way you snack on humans you are a star

[dragonfoxandfound]

Aang/Kataang stan: The ONLY reason every Zutara/Zukka shipper ships it is because Zuko is hot.

Really? That's like me saying every Kataang shipper is an Aang self insert that wanted in Katara's pants or that every Kataang shipper ships it because Aang is their only hope of getting with that 'friend' they fuck zoned.

Zutara/Zukka - and pretty much every alt or canon ship - is liked for a myriad of reasons. Yet we keep seeing Zutara/Zukka shippers being painted with broad strokes such as these.

Why?

Because generalizing the entirety of Zutara/Zukka shippers and distilling their reason for liking a ship down to the shallowest reasons possible - like only liking it because they think a character is hot - is a half assed way to justify hating/harassing them.

Kataang and Aang stans are famous for telling alt shippers why they ship their non canon ship and they always seem to pick reasons they can use to shame and blame a shipper on a personal level (gotta say, colonizer fetish has been the most hilarious thing I've heard so far)

By assigning these 'baser' and 'shallow' reasons like lusting after a cartoon character as 'the only reason they ship it' they artificially award themselves the intellectual and moral highground. In doing this they give themselves the ok to spew some incredibly offensive things that are often misogynistic and at times even racist.

Like this new trend of lumping Zutara shippers in with genocide apologists - a disgustingly repulsive new low, even for Kataang shippers.

[nando161mando]

The failure of our drug driving regime to set prescribed concentration levels - like drink driving - means drivers can be criminalised for small traces that cannot impair.

[tchaikovskaya]

Some people are “radical” leftists because they love the feeling of righteous anger and that’s the outlet they stumbled into to channel it and they built their whole moral compass around that, and it’s really really obvious who they are in times when it is of vital importance for everyone left of the Democratic Party platform to unite 🤩🫶

[batwynn]

Almost every day I think about that first post I saw a few years ago where someone decided that people enjoying the cuteness of otters needed to be destroyed for the sake of ‘reality’ and ‘facts’. The post was open from start to finish that they were telling you that otters did ‘horrible things’ because they wanted to ‘break the illusion’ or whatever. It was full of language and tone that implied or outright said that people were ‘stupid’ or ‘foolish’ for liking otters, and that they should be punished with this information. This fact. This fact that was a twisted form of humans applying their moral concepts on to wild animals, to begin with, but was also simply being put out in to the world to hurt people for liking that animal. And then I think about how everyone started sharing this ‘fact’, post after post sharing the same tone and language of punishment, of implied ‘stupidity’ for ‘not knowing’. People gleefully commented this ‘fact’ on thousands of otter picture posts, they posted it a million times on the otter fan facebooks, they made tiktoks, they hammered it in over and over again. Don’t like otters. Don’t think they’re cute. They’re Bad™️. You’re a Bad™️ person if you like them. And people genuinely believed that. I saw so many people genuinely hurt by this, who thought they were a bad person and needed to stop liking or sharing otter pictures. Or they’d add a little note at the bottom, ‘I know otters are Bad™️ but I still think they’re cute.’ And I can’t not think about how pointlessly fucked up and cruel that entire thing was from the start, and how manipulative and shitty it was. And how it spun out into the universe until even now, on an otter video posted earlier this year, there’s dozens of comments about how otters are Bad™️ because one person decided that this wild animal doing something that is repugnant to humans, the animal with no knowledge that this is Bad™️ or with malicious intent (because it’s a wild fucking animal), meant they needed to hurt and punish anyone who liked that animal. And, finally, that people were so afraid of being seen as morally wrong/Bad™️ that they destroyed their love for this animal on the word of some fucking rando online without stopping to look internally at their own moral compass and understanding of animal behavior.

[captaincrazycreative]

Love hearing Basira being a seemingly nice, normal, well adjusted person and being like "ooooohhhh shes not just like that..it was because she's a cop."

[not-poignant]

A lot of folks don't realise that they're fanpolice, or at least have the potential to be fanpolice (or engage in feelings yakuza style behaviours), and a good way to check if you're fanpol - at least when it comes to fanfiction - is a common sentiment that even I've fallen into the trap of expressing, and it goes like this:

'I just need the author to know they're writing something that's wrong.'

It could be that you read something triggery or squicky, or that the author is writing something so dark, you're genuinely unsure they understand that something is morally objectionable irl.

On AO3 this is very easy to check: Did they use appropriate warnings? And tags? Does the content of this fic reasonably fall under these tags and warnings?

If the answer is yes, then the author knows.

They might not share the same understanding as you, but they certainly know enough to warn folks in advance. It might even be tags that you've always been comfortable with but for some reason, in this one fic, get squicked by, and immediately assume 'oh god it's the author' and not 'oh god, it's the writing, I've been squicked.'

If you're still unable to distinguish whether the author knows the difference between right and wrong after seeing an author appropriately tag a work with something like 'dead dove: do not eat' - you may not be able to tell the difference, or alternatively, are having a kneejerk reaction to something very squicky personally.

(In the case of fics that have been inappropriately Warned for - i.e. 'No Warnings Apply' in the case of Rape or Major Character Death, you can certainly give AO3 support a heads up about these fics. There's a reason those warnings are mandatory in the absence of 'Creator Chose Not To Use')

Some folks are just going to be 'antis' about everything, but some of us can stumble into fanpol behaviours when we're shocked by content we didn't expect to find shocking, and we immediately look for somewhere to blame our unexpected shock and discomfort. If the first place you go is into the author's comments or inbox with that blame (or an attempt to shame, ridicule, or mock) that's fancop behaviour.

I think it's worth noting that there's a grey area where many folks have engaged with fanpolice / fanpol / fancop / anti style behaviour while still generally being very supportive of philosophies like 'don't like / don't read' etc. and not realising that these philosophies still apply to you even if you have an extremely strong emotional reaction to something you didn't expect to.

Many of us are going to also experience this, or have in the past. If we like surfing certain tags, if we've read enough DD:DNR fics 'safely' it might not occur to us that other authors might have different ways of writing under those tags.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Certainly because I've done it myself, years ago now, and I've seen other folks who would consider themselves very supportive of all fanfiction do it, and you can sort of tell by the language they use. As soon as you see a: 'I wish I just knew that the author understood this was wrong irl :/ ' - and the fic is tagged for - there's something going on that's leading to fancop style thinking. Often it's to try and correct a sense of emotional injustice or betrayal, sometimes it's grounded in moral panic.

Folks who cling to fancop style behaviours believe that feeling their own strong emotion (particularly those of revulsion or disgust or fear) is an accurate compass re: identifying moral injustice, and then proceed to apply 'corrections' to those around them who have caused that revulsion, disgust, or fear. But imho, it's easy for everyone to feel a strong enough emotion that they might slip into fancop thinking or behaviours without realising, for say one particular fic, or one particular ship, without ever realising, because they're 'permissive the rest of the time.'

Anyway, just some barely coherent thoughts on the matter that I'm barely even resolving here. I miss using Tumblr to think about this stuff out loud, so here we are, lol.

[originalaccountname]

alright i gotta ask, and of course youre free to not answer (of COURSE) but what led to all the reblogs regarding shipping? did something happen, are you okay?

I've had to unfollow someone whose art I liked because of them spouting "anti" rhetoric and making a low-key callout post for someone who isn't even on tumblr and now I'm doing my part in counterbalancing any potential damage

[atypical-irritant]

On the topic of pedophiles (what a pleasant sentence starter), the amount of energy many people put into hating them and warning others against their possible presence without properly researching anything about them is a bit tiring to watch. I understand how upsetting the idea of them can be and reading about things that upset you isn't often a great idea, but blindly condemning an entire group without having all the facts isn't the solution many seem to think it is.

It's easier to just blanketly despise a group of people you feel could potentially harm others, sure, but that's hardly productive. Neither is demanding each and every one be killed off, regardless of the individual's actions because "they could act on it". I can't believe I even need to point that out. It's as if that angry mob has completely abandoned all critical thinking out of pure rage.

New flash: if you spread information about something you haven't taken the time or outright refuse to try and understand, that's not helping anyone. You're just scaring them and anyone who says you're fear mongering, by definition, is correct.

What kills me is if the people who despise pedophiles so much actually wanted to help keep others safe, they'd look into supporting treatment for them, sharing resources for them to get help, or even make attempts to destigmatize paraphilias so those with these urges are more likely to get help. This reflexive disgust and fear response isn't productive, but it sure is easier, isn't it.

We get it, they freak you out. Stop acting like that automatically makes them deplorable monsters. The only ones I see acting monstrous is you.

[zeroducks-2]

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Right, because antis doxxing people, sending death threats, destroying people's livelihoods and bringing them to self-harm ain't a thing, nuh huh sir surely a teenager getting bullied to the point of attempting suicide is not a real problem! It's just silly fandom things that give you brainrot! How cringe of people to worry about this! Surely the rise in puritanism, the anti-trans wave, the absolute state of dismay LGBT+ rights are in (and the even darker future that awaits) aren't directly linked to the internet version of fascist mace-bearers that make someone's life impossible just because they do something that they deem immoral!

We should all keep paying taxes and mind our own business and shake our heads at these stupid not deep things that have zero impact on real life, cause you know there is nothing more inconsequential than bullying, harassment and policing fandom spaces with puritanical scrutiny. Surely all of this doesn't matter and we need to get real problems am I right. Cause this doesn't affect tangible real life it's just cringe people being cringe on the internet about inconsequential things.

[q-kanbas]

for reference to the anger going around leftist and anti-voting circles.

[nando161mando]

Priorities Exposed: Inequitable Aid