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[inkskinned]

idaho is already moving to repeal same-sex marriage. they say it's an overreach of the governmental power, and that the law should be determined by "state's rights".

trump is expected to sign an executive order banning trans women in women's sports. in the article i've linked there, he notes that the "biggest hand" (most applause) he gets is when he attacks trans women. isn't that interesting.

i know my own father voted for him. my own father, radicalized by podcasts and bad youtube, voted for this; felt smug about it. he genuinely believes the dems want to "put christians in camps." as if the dems could ever get off their silken asscheeks and actually do anything. i wish they had strong enough messaging to be misattributed like this.

my girlfriend and i worked the polls on election day, counting ballots. my father was eating noisily beside us. "see? you're freaked out about nothing." after all, i live in massachusetts: beautiful, expensive, no-working-transportation MA. the only state to go all-blue.

"if it's state's rights, you'll be fine," he said. i'd been sworn at a few days before this. a year ago almost to the day, i got hit in the head with an empty beer bottle. he said i was being dramatic. after all, first-adopter "the gay state" Massachusetts would rather explode than get rid of same-sex marriage. so what should i care, after all.

this man is a deacon. i guess he expects me not to get out of the car in any red state. i guess he thinks my relationship dissolves across certain borders. he doesn't see why it's concerning that i can't leave, because why would i want to. who wants to go to idaho? who cares about the real, living, breathing people in idaho.

(but then again: who cares about the real, living, breathing humans on deportation planes. they're not us. after all, my father came here legally. i am an american citizen because of birthright citizenship. i am even debating this because he immigrated.)

i texted my mom about it. i feel sick. no matter how much activism and research and outreach i do: it's always shocking to see a room full of people who hate you so much that they take legal action against you. on my small ex-work-laptop, i watch the shaking hands of people in idaho begging their representatives to reconsider. the fear in their voice is palpable. no person should have their relationship threatened this way. the motion still passes, 46-24.

it's all just happening so fast. i feel i am pushing my hands through glass pieces, watching the cuts before i feel them.

people often reference "first they came for..." when stuff like this happens, and while that's fair - there's a very quiet part of me that always says they're already at your door, you complete idiot. the same force that governs trans women's bodies will also be used against cis women. the censorship about supposed "DEI terms" will also be used to stifle science in general.

it won't just be idaho.

[welcometogrouchland]

my Stephanie Brown hot take is that she should get mad bitches now that she's single in comics. Yes yes shipping BUT the one time she had sex she was punished by the narrative via teen pregnancy. I think she should be allowed to have as much sex as she wants with zero consequences. Could be a lot of sex, could be a little. Point is she should get to do it without getting narratively baby trapped this time. she should get them pregnant, actually.

[a2zillustration]

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[fakegingerrights]

I don’t know what post I liked when or who I follow that reblogged it but I accidentally wandered into therian/non human tumblr. Despite not being one myself everyone here is oddly chill and it’s refreshing after the hell my tumblr has been the last few days. It’s like that scene in snow white where she gets scared by the creepy woods and wanders into a clearing just to discover that the animals are friendly and will tolerate her for a time.

[ragsy]

ART VS ARTIST 2023

[shikai-the-storyteller]

Saudade do Tazercraft...

[mariocki]

Murder Obsession (Follia omicida, 1981)

"Why are you interested in the occult?"

"The only way to discover life's secret is through magic."

"I don't understand."

"Death. That exact moment when the body and soul separate, that which in theosophy is known as the astral body. We would have to capture that exact moment to analyse it, but to do this we would have to kill with our own hands, so that not even a wisp of life escapes us. Don't you agree?"

"And would you kill someone for this?"

"I think so."

[elvisqueso]

Just curious about it

[aikainkauna]

Tumblr, I am disappoint. A couple of years ago a sizeable chunk of you history nerds were nuts for The Longest Day in Chang'an and now, when I finally managed to finish it (it was AWESOME; one of the best shows I've ever seen, full stop) I come online and find

A) WHY DID NOBODY WARN ME ABOUT GENERAL GAN SHOUCHENG and

B) WHERE IS ALL THE THIRSTY GENERAL GAN CONTENT?! Now, I know that cdrama fandom is pretty chaste and that in much of Asia, perving is something you keep private and I can respect that. Ok. Cultural differences, I'm cool with that. I'll keep the lewdz to my Pillowfort.

But still! Look at him! A hot baddie with stupendous amounts of guyliner and a carefully coiffed Beard of Evil, he gets a scene like this, and there's no chaste and ladylike swooning or oohing or aahing, even?!?!

[feral-radfem]

I'm not going to be tone policed on how I talk about any subject whether it personally affects any of you or not. I am certainly not going to be persuaded to speak more kindly to my oppressors and/or direct political opponents because they are personally affected by the issue I'm talking about.

Some of y'all are letting the female socialization that demands we be kind and considerate at the expense of ourselves (& our social movements) push you right into sugar coating important topics and out of being an effective communicator.

[borom1r]

hm. for all my joking sometimes it really does hit that like yeah autism is in fact a disability affecting my fucking brain. but we stay silly!!!!

[peapod20001]

Me: “oh my god, why am I getting bad thoughts and feelings in the days leading up to my birthday??”

My body and mind: “haha remember how you were last year?~ :)”

Me: “ohhh. Oh. Oh no”

[gurenkurosen]

i dont think i ever really explained what the deal with my sona(s) is actually, huh

i guess im taking my time a little bit figuring some things out regarding like, personal identity stuff e.g. whatever nonhuman stuff i may have going on, but i do know that on some level i at least identify *with* if not *as* the several animal types im made of to varying degrees; theyre also the same species as my old sonas rinji and guren (as well as the newer still unnamed one). i feel as though theyre part of who i am in both a metaphorical and kinda literal sense, but sometimes ill feel more like one of them more than the others, or that theyre separate from my present self; ill even do that intentionally sometimes, sort of manifest one of them to kinda just exist next to me the same way ill sometimes manifest ears or tails or horns to feel a little more like myself for a bit. in that way i kinda feel like my alternate mouse/deer/bird sona is like a sort of "core" of who i currently am (the nervous anxious parts, anyway), guren is something like who i used to be, and rinji is sort of who i wanted to be a long long time ago, with my main sona being like the most "complete" form of myself. i guess for that reason i feel kind of spectral or ephemeral or something like that, almost like im my own imaginary friend... or maybe thats how i would like to be? kind of inconsistent, imperceptibly shifting, like a dream or a memory; thatd be nice, i think.

[insanekinbabbling]

so my partner had ice cream and i

[xerith-42]

This might be an obscure example, but as a trans person if you're working in any space having to do with clothing, it's quickly very clear who has and who has not worked with or at least thought of working with a trans person in this space. I was in theatre in my teenage years and I met multiple industry professionals who did not know what a chest binder was. Whenever I explained it to them, I always took the approach that educating them was important because I was the first, but I knew I wouldn't be the last. And I made it clear to them.

I explained different varieties of chest binders, some of the (at the time) safety rules around them that were generally accepted, and made sure that they understood that there is a different way you have to costume a trans person. Its's not a lot, it's actually just as easy to costume a trans actor as it is any other actor who might have physical limitations in any way. If you can modify a costume to cover an actors tattoo, you can make sure a costume is fitted differently to highlight and pull eyes away from areas that might cause gendered associations.

I cannot tell you how many costumers and designers I had to explain "Hey if you make me wear a tight shirt or something with a too open collar, people are going to notice my chest no matter how flat I make it. It makes it harder to sell them on a character if my costume can't even sell them on my gender."

Deep down it really was just me being very upset and dysphoric whenever people misgendered me as a result of these costumes, but I quickly learned that saying that stuff didn't really matter in terms of priority. A lot of the times in bigger companies, the higher ups care more about a convincing performance than an actors individual feelings. Because a better performance means more people buying tickets and therefore more money.

And even small scale theatre companies operate on this principle, they just actually care about you and usually initiate these conversations with actors. A lot of smaller theatres over time also have started putting on shows that specifically call for trans actors, or easily accommodate them. Costuming is less personal, usually the actor can dress out of their closet or help someone on the technical team buy them the piece that they need to complete a look. Again, priority is put on the actor saying what they need for their body type, because that's how theatre should just always be.

Obviously the theatre has always been a space that's more open to LGBTQ+ for a long time in varying ways, but the important message is that if you make it about accomodations as a person or future people, if you make it clear that this behavior will lose them potential workers, costumers, or reputation, they will listen. In some ass backwards way even a corner cutting company will give a shit about accommodating trans people, you just have to push them to do it even a little.

I noticed today that the deadname of a client was clearly visible in their client file because it was their legal name, and flagged it for IT. I specifically flagged it as "Hey, if someone sees this and calls our client the wrong name, we'll lose them as a client." IT emailed me back immediately, and it's now invisible except on their contract with us, which the majority of us don't have direct access to, as opposed to their client file.

The reason I flagged it framing it as a loss is that what matters to most companies is money. If you can flag a bigoted practice as something that will lose customers, clients, or get them a lawsuit, that is significantly more likely to get taken care of quickly than trying to appeal to their better nature. I could have flagged it as "Hey, this is going to make our client really upset if they hear it.", which was my actual motivation for flagging it, but if I had, then it probably would have been taken care of in a few days or even weeks, not hours.

Always hit them with the profit argument for quick and decisive action.