#Dua For Parents

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Beautiful Dua for Parents ❤️ | Show Gratitude & Seek Blessings | #Islami...

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crying at them being spotted right after the breakup rumors… she had to remind ya’ll!!!!

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truly the cutest 🥹💕

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Dear Mother and Father,

Please adopt me🥹

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ive Haram things that Parents commonly do ...

1. Forcing their child to marry someone. [Sahih al-Bukhari 6968] 2. Having a favorite child. [Quran 12:8] 3. Comparing their children with others. [Muslim 1623] 4. Not being strict about the laziness the child shows towards Ibadah. [Quran 20:132] 5. Slapping the child on Face [Sahih Muslim 2612e] . . . #islam#parents#muslim#islamic#islamquote#islamicquote#islampost#islamicpost#muslimstyle#muslimparenting#quran#hadith#makkah#madina#hijab#MuslimParents#peace#quranrecitation#quranverse#muslimmom#religion#deen#prophet#prophecy#jummah#fyp#explore#reels

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dua and callum at glastonbury music festival

they are so cute bye

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TEN THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO WITH YOUR CHILD

1. Screaming

Some say it's worst than beating, and leaves one with long-term mental and emotional scars. Remember, the Prophet ‎ﷺ never raised his voice on a child, women, a friend or otherwise. Regulate yourself when you hear your voice starting to get louder. When the parent screams at the child, the child's nervous system shuts down and the brain can't absorb anything you're saying. If you scream, or make mistakes (we all do), the best thing you can do is apologise to your child. You will teach them how to repair after making mistakes and how to take responsibility. If you struggle with apologising to your child because you don't want to look small, you got some work to do.

2. Blaming

Blaming weakens relations, lowers self-esteem and prompts children to be on the defense, even when they haven’t done something wrong. Anas b. Malik, then a 10 year old child, said: “I served the Prophet ‎ﷺ for nine years and he never said about anything I did, why I did that, or about anything I didn’t do, why didn’t you.” When the only thing that comes out your mouth when addressing your child is criticism, blame, and orders and there's very minimal praise, loving words, affection or fun you as a parent become a source of negativity for their child instead of someone they want to come to for affection or support.

3. Nonstop Orders

Orders and instructions, without first convincing, persuading, educating, or leading by example, turn the child into a robot and this is not healthy. When growing up, they blindly emulate and obey any authority, regardless of its values. Balance out your orders with appreciations each day. Make sure you share more appreciations and positive moments than orders and criticisms in a day. The research shows the ratio of positive interactions to outweigh negative interactions is 5:1. That is 5 positive interactions to every 1 negative interaction. This is because as humans, the impact of hurt and pain lasts longer than happiness. Trauma has a lasting effect.

4. Threatening

Threatening is used because it’s a quick fix for resistance, but not a solution in the long run. Any attitude driven by fear is hypocritical, and does not indicate real change. (Eg, go to bed or I'll... or stop that before I get up and ...) This is useless parenting and the child learns to do things only when their fear is increased. You are literally teaching them to threaten their way through life or to not do anything unless they are threatened.

5. Sarcasm

Making fun of a child is an unacceptable behavior in Islam: “O you who believe let not a group scoff at another group… “(49:11). Mocking a child hurts their sense of worth and self-esteem. Any parent who mocks their child is displaying their major toxic insecurities that they need to work on. The parent needs to make their child feel safe, not tease and bully them.

6. Cursing

Cursing teaches the child cursing, which he will use against others, including relatives, friends and parents. The hadith says: “A believer is never a defamer nor a curser nor coarse nor obscene." What's worse than cursing around your child is cursing and swearing at them.

7. Comparing

Never compare your child to anyone, especially siblings. Comparing creates jealousy, anger and puts them on the defense. You are literally saying to your child that they, as a human, are not good enough and should be like others. They grow up with low self-esteem and never feeling accepted or good enough. They will excessively seek acceptance and validation from others even in unhealthy and harmful ways.

8. Continuous Advising

The normal attention span is 3 to 5 minutes per year of a child’s age. Therefore, a 2-year-old should be able to concentrate on a particular task for at least 6 minutes, and a child entering kindergarten should be able to concentrate for at least 15 minutes. In the hadith “The Prophet used to take care of us by preaching during some days and not others fearing that we may get bored.” My favourite mottos are

"Connection Over Correction" and

"Understanding Must Precede Advice"

9. Mistrust

Not giving the child the benefit of doubt weakens mutual trust, shuts frank communication and hurts self-confidence.

10. Beating

In most cases, beating a child is about parents venting anger than wisely and calmly wanting to improve a behavior. Beating, similar to a pain killer, is a temporary fix only for the parent, not a cure for the child. It creates trauma and a coward personality, which will continue to do bad things as long as nobody is watching. Beating also teaches your child to be abusive or accept abuse when they become adults.

I know parenting is difficult, and there's no such thing as a perfect parent. However we as parents have a massive responsibility and we need to be reminded and change any toxic parenting practices we've adopted.

Source: Dr. Hesham Al-Awadi, author of "Children Around the Prophet: How Muhammad ‎ﷺ Raised the Young Companions. I've added some of my own words to the explanations.

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Dua for Parents: A Heartfelt Prayer of Gratitude for Our Beloved Parents

In the journey of life, our parents are the guiding lights who illuminate our paths with their unwavering love and sacrifice. In gratitude and humility, let us turn our hearts towards the Almighty Allah and seek His blessings for our parents. The most Merciful Allah Himself has taught us the most beautiful dua about parents.

The dua for parents

رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِيْ صَغِيْرًا

Transliteration

Rabbirhamhumaa Kamaa Rabbayaanii Sagiiraa

Meaning

My Lord! Be merciful to them (both my parents) as they raised me when I was young.

Allah (Subhanu Wa Ta’ala) said in The Holy Quran, Surah Al-Isra (17), verse 23-24:

23: And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.

24: And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small.”

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Lest anyone doubt Taylor is truly the Person of the Year, my father (boomer) is going to be so stoked this caption called Travis her boyfriend, because all he’s done for two months is complain about how the media always said “rumored” or “alleged” when they’d clearly hard launched 😂

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the IT couple like no one even comes close

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Our patient is (thankfully) sleeping so we’re spending some time with Dad this morning and meditating on His form of Khonsu pa-Khered, or Khonsu the Child.

Strangely there’s not a whole lot of information about this aspect of Dad. We know He is considered a form of Ra, the Divine Child of Amun and Mut. We know He wears the sidelock of youth. That’s it! So if anyone has any good reads and sources about him, we’d love if you could send them along!

We get Khonsu pa-Khered in a nice smush with Ihy, whom we worked with awhile back after He approached us before we knew Dad. I enjoy the implied association with music in reference to Khonsu.

Image from the Brooklyn Museum

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My mom got home and immediately handed me an ipod classic and said "[Patient] told me her ipod won't hold a charge anymore, so I told her you might be able to fix it, or at least show her how to rip the music library onto her computer"

and I said . "I've told you to stop telling people I can help them with technology ."

And then I noticed the ipod actually still had a full battery (but I'm sure, like my barely functioning ipod classic, within a few seconds-minutes the battery would die), so I glanced through the menus, mostly because I still feel very nostalgic for using ipods & find the tactile buttons/audible clicking/whirring to be a lot more appealing than keeping music on a purely touchscreen torture nexus, but I was also curious about how recent the music this patient listens to is

So I said . "Oh hey, she has Rick Astley on here!"

And after a few minutes she goes . "I have that fucking Rick Astley song stuck in my fucking head." and I laughed and laughed and laughed and laughed