#Don't guilt trip

[cryptid-artha]

This is maybe a bit of a hot take, but... If you want people to share information about important issues and reblog posts about said important issues, don’t guilt trip them into doing it by saying they are a bad person if they don’t reblog it. That just pisses people off. When I see an issue that has that, even if it is something I think is important and would reblog, I will actually use xkit to block the post in entirety because I do NOT appreciate being guilt tripped into reblogging something. You could just... say it’s important and to please reblog without insinuating that anybody scrolling past is a piece of shit. Just ask people nicely to reblog a thing. Don’t guilt trip. It’s not cool.

[zoe-oneesama]

They’ll destroy you from within if you’re not vigilant.

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[thisismisogynoir]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

[uncanny-tranny]

An important aspect of youth liberation is not tying the idea of later adult care with having children.

The broader attitude that only your children can ensure that you get taken care of when you grow old is not a good precedent to set. Having children should not be what ensures that you can live through old age, and fear mongering people with the idea that nobody will ever take care of them (or, rather, shouldn't) is such an awful motivator to have children.

[dollya-robinprotector]

lya is a whore? Or… I mean… multiple husbands but…. Uhh…..

I recommend you check the earlier posts on the DoL: Homestead AU tag, especially this post.

"The cottage's whore" is like a reputation in the game. Since the Farm gang started becoming a bigger threat to underground characters like Briar, Bailey, Remy,... Lya received more "attention" cuz she's involved in almost everything. She's then called "the cottage's whore", how cool is that?

She even asked Mickey to boot fame for this name LOL

[demonic-shadowlucifer]

yes, we shouldn't ignore the terrible events going on right now (Palestine, Sudan, etc), but I think we need some reminders because some of the posts i've been reading have been giving off *extremely* guilt-trippy vibes: Not posting about current events or bad things =/= not caring. Not reblogging =/= not caring. Adding "don't scroll past this" or "reblog this or block me" to posts is guilt-trippy as hell. And lastly, online activism is not the only form of activism.

[boiiiko]

fyi the creator of blue eye samurai is a zionist. definitely shouldn't be supporting that.

I see people are making the rounds to stop the growing enthusiasm for the show. I get it.

Seeing Green's posts (via tumblr, since I don’t have twitter or X or wtv the fuck it’s called today) admittedly made me wince. I don’t agree with or support his views. I also feel their dissonance with the show’s blunt criticism of colonialism.

But.

This will be an unpopular opinion, but I don’t actually agree that condemning a show that has been made by a HUGE team of people, who are most certainly as diverse in their political beliefs as in their cultural backgrounds, because of one person’s few posts on social media is entirely fair or fitting.

Yes, he’s one of the creators, sure, his name is slapped onto the lid, but the show is not him. A show is never one person. AND I’m a Death of The Author believer besides, so. There’s that. 

So I for one will keep on celebrating the show and what it stands for and the themes it explores, because I feel it’s important to have them out there. While also disagreeing with one of its creators’ views. After much thought, I’m comfortable with that complication. You, and many others, may not be. Which is fair. And I urge you to block the tag or unfollow me if the distinction makes you uneasy. 

[benetnvsch]

this is what I was referring to in my last post,, fucking love how kunikida is just like 'Do Work >:(' to which Dazai is like 'but im eepy' to which Kunikida without fail is like 'Take care of urself and Get Sleep Then >:('

he cares so much guys,,, u don't understand

[yardsards]

how to explain to your parents that you can't move back in with them because every time you're near them a big part of you buries itself and you're not sure how long that part can stay buried before its hidey hole becomes its grave?

...without offending them, of course

[trans-cuchulainn]

had a really interesting convo yesterday about ethics and whether intent or results matters (eg if you tried to make an ethical purchasing choice but the business was actually exploitative as hell, does that "count") and very much came to the conclusion that sure, if you're concerned with your personal immortal soul, as a christian might be, then intention counts. but if what you're focused on is your impact on the world, then intention means nothing if the actions have negative results, right? (that doesn't mean you're to blame for them! you didn't know! but you also don't get "ethics points" for trying, you know?)

and this also got me thinking about the whole christian idea that sinful thoughts are as bad as sinful actions because. they're just not imo. maybe for the sake of your Immortal Soul they are points against you, if that's your jam. but in terms of putting good into the world, in terms of your impact on other people, the ONLY thing that matters is what you choose to do with those thoughts. there is no way that "was kind to someone who was pissing me off, for the sake of community harmony" or "helped an acquaintance with a task even though I felt resentful about the time spent doing that" is a Bad Thing for the world

and it made me wonder how much purity culture and thought policing is rooted in (mostly evangelical) cultural christianity and this idea that ethical choices are an individual thing because what matters is the impact of them on YOUR soul and not, you know, things we do because of what we owe the world around us / because of love for others / because a world where people are trying to put good into it is a hell of a lot nicer to live in than one where people are only worried about themselves

i grew up evangelical but like. fairly mild evangelical and even though there wasn't a big focus on hell and stuff, i definitely fixated on imperfect thoughts and behaviours that were putting absolutely no harm into the world, rather than focusing on what i could do to put good into it, and that individualistic vs outward-focused approach to morality has been something i've grappled with a lot as an adult. but i never really thought about it as simply as this and really that's what it boils down to. are you making the ethical choice because you're trying to put good in the world, or because it would make you a "good person" to do so? because the answer to that 100% defines whether it's the thought or the result that counts

[suncaptor]

Hi, unfortunately, I am making a donation post! I've had some difficulties recently due to health, sudden bills, and huge living inflation that have made me have no financial stability. Anything including reblogging this post is truly greatly appreciated.

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[even-more-pro-fiction-jellicle]

Very firm believer and defender of "indulgent fiction doesn't have to be realistic or acknowledge any of the downsides of what would happen if this played out in real life because this isn't real life, it's an imaginary world"

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My Wonderful oc Atlas he has two husband's

[palmtreepalmtree]

My mom bullied me into going to a Passover seder at some semi-related family members, and I agreed cause she's old and I don't have many of these left.

They sent out an email instructing people to bring a photo of someone that we would like to have at the table but who otherwise could not attend.

As someone who has lost a father, all four grandparents, an aunt, an uncle, and a cousin, this is like telling me to bring a freight train of emotion to a stranger's table, and I am so annoyed by it. I understand that it's a nice gesture, and I'm sure as we go around the table talking about who we would like to have with us who can't be there, that it will be a meaningful moment to a lot of people, and I hope that I will somehow manage not to burst into tears (no, I will, I am getting teary about it now just thinking about it), but FUCK.

I don't know. Maybe I'll bring a photo of Harpo Marx. Nothing says 'we were slaves in Egypt' like the occasional interruption of a honking horn.

[every-dayiwakeup]

If Billy Hargrove is your idea of evil, you’re a life virgin. Seriously, you must live in a hell of a security bubble.

 An abused teenager who spent the majority of his screen time in tears and being taken advantage of repeatedly isn’t evil. Labeling stuff you don’t understand as evil or problematic... do y’all ever get tired?? 

Being exposed to “the other side” is literally a part of life, and it’s not a bad thing. It can be good for you, actually. 

[dani-luminae]

I'm just going to say this because it's like the only thing I haven't commented on concerning RoR:

Using a character's death/ memory to guilt-trip another character is not a tribute to a real-life deceased actor in any fucking way.