#But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine

[felidaefatigue]

Btw theres also a trans + inclusion flag versions on that link and can confirm the trans one looks real nice printed out big as fuck. If u want the plain linocut one i still have some (slightly b grade but still perfectly good) just dm me and we can figure it out :>

I designed this poster with the intention of making limited edition linocut prints* but I also wanted to make the digital version available for free download for anyone who might wish to use it for posters, signs and the like. So here that is

*which I have, and am in the process of finishing to make available with a donation match process but i haVENT figured that out yet. stalk my insta to keep up on that if you want one.

[domjohn83]

An Interview with Ghostface: The Idealized Female Gaze Version

Scene: A dimly lit room, quiet except for the faint sound of a clock ticking in the background. Ghostface sits across from you, relaxed and composed. This isn’t the Ghostface from Scream, but the idealized version—the one born from the female gaze. He radiates confidence, mystery, and an unsettling allure. He leans forward, voice smooth and deliberate, the mask catching the light in a way that feels both dangerous and mesmerizing.

Interviewer: Why do you think so many people are drawn to you? Specifically women, who seem to obsess over your image in these fantasies?

Ghostface: [Chuckles softly, tilting his head with an air of amusement.] Because I’m an idea. A fantasy. I’m not bound by the rules of the real world—by politeness, hesitation, or fear of rejection. I embody obsession, danger, and the kind of raw, unfiltered desire that people are too afraid to express in real life.

But don’t misunderstand—I’m not about violence or harm. I’m about intensity. Passion. The thrill of being wanted so completely that it feels overwhelming, consuming, even dangerous. For many, that’s deeply exciting. It’s not about me, specifically. It’s about what I represent: the freedom to explore the darkest corners of desire, safely, without judgment.

Interviewer: Freedom? But your whole image is about control—taking it, wielding it. Isn’t that the opposite of freedom?

Ghostface: [Leans back, tapping the armrest of his chair.] Not at all. Control and freedom aren’t opposites—they’re two sides of the same coin. Think about it: people who fantasize about surrendering control aren’t giving up their agency. They’re choosing to let go. They’re saying, “For this moment, I trust you to take the reins.” And trust me, surrendering like that takes strength.

In a world where so many people—especially women—are expected to carry the weight of responsibility, control, and decision-making, the idea of letting go becomes incredibly liberating. It’s not about weakness. It’s about trust. About feeling safe enough to explore vulnerability in a way that feels thrilling, yet secure.

Interviewer: But isn’t there something inherently dangerous about these fantasies? I mean, the themes—obsession, domination, pursuit—they’re intense. How does that connect to healthy relationships?

Ghostface: [Tilts his head, voice softening slightly.] Danger is part of the appeal, sure, but it’s not real danger. It’s the feeling of danger—the adrenaline, the heightened senses, the thrill of being pursued. Fantasies like mine allow people to explore those emotions without the actual risk. It’s a safe playground for the mind, where they can step into roles they’d never want to live out in reality.

And when it comes to relationships, these fantasies often serve as a way to tap into something deeper. They’re not about harm—they’re about connection. The idea of someone being so obsessed with you, so captivated by your very existence, that they’re willing to break all the rules to have you? That’s not about control. That’s about desire. Intense, unrelenting desire. And that resonates with people because it’s primal. It’s human.

Interviewer: So, what’s the takeaway here? How can people translate these fantasies into something meaningful in their real relationships?

Ghostface: [Pauses, as if choosing his words carefully.] It’s not about copying the fantasy. It’s about understanding the feelings behind it. The intensity. The trust. The freedom. Fantasies like mine work because they let people feel wanted, pursued, even overwhelmed—but always with the underlying knowledge that they’re safe. That’s the key.

In a real relationship, it’s about creating that same balance. You don’t have to be me—God forbid. But you can channel what I represent. Be attentive. Be deliberate. Show your partner that you see them, that you want them, that they’re the center of your world in that moment.

It’s not about masks or theatrics. It’s about emotional intensity. Whisper in their ear. Look at them like they’re the only thing you’ve ever wanted. Push them—gently, consensually—out of their comfort zone. Let them feel the thrill of surrender, knowing you’ll catch them.

Interviewer: And what about the people who feel hesitant? Those who might worry they’ll mess up or go too far?

Ghostface: [Leans forward, voice dropping to a near whisper.] Hesitation is good. It means you care. It means you’re thinking about boundaries, about trust, about the other person’s needs. That’s exactly what makes a relationship work.

If you’re unsure, talk. Communication is the foundation of any intense connection. Set boundaries. Use safe words. And remember: it’s not about perfection. It’s about creating a space where both of you feel free to explore, to experiment, to let go without fear.

And trust me—your partner will love you more for trying. The effort, the willingness to step into their world and explore what excites them? That’s what builds trust. That’s what deepens intimacy. The fantasy isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about the journey—the shared experience of discovering each other’s desires.

Interviewer: So, in the end, what’s your role in all of this? Why do people keep coming back to you?

Ghostface: [Leans back, voice calm and confident.] Because I’m not real. I’m a reflection of what people want to feel—desired, pursued, overwhelmed by passion. I’m the spark that wakes something up inside them, something they might not know how to name. And that’s okay. Fantasies like mine aren’t meant to replace real relationships. They’re meant to complement them. To inspire. To open doors.

What people truly crave isn’t me—it’s the feeling I give them. The thrill of surrender. The rush of being wanted. The freedom to explore their desires without judgment. And in the end, it’s not about me at all. It’s about taking that energy, that intensity, and bringing it back to the people who truly matter in their lives.

Because at the end of the day, the real danger—the real thrill—isn’t the fantasy. It’s the vulnerability and trust of being fully seen, fully known, and fully loved.

Ghostface stands, adjusting his mask as he prepares to leave. He pauses for a moment, glancing back over his shoulder, his voice low and deliberate as he delivers his final thought.

Ghostface: Remember… fantasies like me? We’re just shadows. The real magic happens when you take what you’ve learned in the dark… and bring it into the light.

[pinkpetalbee]

🌿✨ "If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together." – Lilla Watson

[houseofpurplestars]

"If you have come to help me you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together." - Aboriginal Activists Group

[e-the-village-cryptid]

“If you have come to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.”

—Aboriginal activists group, Queensland, 1970s

[shapingandreshaping]

Tornando-se sujeito A identificação refere-se ao processo no qual o sujeito "assimila um aspecto do outro e é transformado, total ou parcialmente, segundo o modelo que o outro fornece" (Laplanche e Pontalis, 1988, p.205). Nesse estado, o sujeito negro inicia uma série de identificações consecutivas com outras pessoas negras: sua(s) história(s), suas biografias, suas experiências, seus conhecimentos, etc. Essa série de identificações previne o sujeito negro da identificação alienante com a branquitude. Em vez de se identificar com a/o "outra/o" branca/o, desenvolve-se uma identificação positiva com sua própria negritude, o que por sua vez, leva a um sentimento de segurança interior e de autorreconhecimento. Tal processo leva à reparação e à abertura em relação às /aos "outras/os" brancas/os, uma vez que, internamente, o sujeito negro está fora da ordem colonial. Todo o processo alcança um estado de descolonização; isto é, internamente, não se existe mais como a/o "Outra/o", mas como o eu. Somos eu, somos sujeito, somos quem descreve, somos quem narra, somos autoras/es e autoridade da nossa própria realidade.

Grada Kilomba, Memórias da Plantação, p. 237-238

Esta passagem dos últimos parágrafos do livro da Grada Kilomba me fazem refletir sobre a frase de Lilla Watson, líder aborígene, "If you have come here to help me, then don't waste your time. But if you have come here because your liberation is bound up with mine, then come, let us work together." (Zizek, 2024, p.120).

A forma como Kilomba se refere à necessidade do sujeito negro de sair do lugar da Outridade imposta pela colonização branca, e de se tornar sujeito, autora/o da sua própria narrativa e identidade, me faz pensar em como a libertação pessoal de povos escravizados, colonizados e marginalizados tem o poder da descolonização pessoal de todos. Ao recusar e romper com a continuação da narrativa colonial no quotidiano e a permitir diferentes elementos de identificação pessoal e cultural, novas possibilidades se formam além história colonial, da supremacia branca e sociedade patriarcal.

De certa forma, a série de entrevistas que gostaria de fazer em Florianópolis com membros da comunidade local e a investigação sobre o passado migratório da minha família, vem deste lugar de um tipo (completamente diferente do de Kilomba, como pessoa branca, claramente) de alienação cultural como pessoa de um país colonizado a crescer no país colonizador. Ao navegar nestas complexas histórias, experiências e narrativas de pessoas da minha cidade natal e membros da minha família, é possível permitir outros modos de identificação pessoal além dos estereótipos culturais com que cresci. De certa forma, o projeto é sobre desbravar fronteiras de unidades culturais, ideias de nacionalismo e de narrativas únicas da história coletiva. Por isso, o Museu da Língua Portuguesa me marcou e resurge constantemente como centro da minha pesquisa, por evidenciar a importância da Língua e a linguagem com que falamos em registar todas as complexidades da história humana, de Libertação, Marginalização, Misceginação, Opressão... Além de evidenciar como a Língua é algo móvel, em constante transformação, refletindo como nós humanos estamos também em constante transformação. Uma reflexão sobre a influência que temos uns sobre os outros e o lugar onde habitamos sobre nós.

[yellow-dress-basil]

I’ve seen a lot of posts talking about how scared women are and how scared BIPOC are and how all men and all white people should be basically making up for it and giving all their money to mutual aid and doing xyz thing instead of expressing any fear or grief.

Here’s the thing - Intersectionality exists. While many of the actions suggested (if there are any at all) are so important and helpful, it will not help anyone to double down within a single identity and shut out other people who are afraid. It will only divide us.

I am a White immigrant in the US. I’m not a citizen but I’ve lived here since I was 7 or 8 months old. I have a green card which is a privilege right now but may not matter in the times ahead. I’m White so I’m less likely to be questioned about my immigration status, but it’s pretty easy to find out.

I’m a gender fluid, polyamorous, lesbian. I’m not straight or cis. I have no privilege in this area except perhaps “passing privilege” which honestly doesn’t feel like a privilege. I have “passing privilege” because I don’t appear visibly queer to everyone.

I’m AFAB and gender fluid and tend to present femme. Because my gender is fluid, I haven’t gone through any form of medical transition because my feelings may change from one day to the next how I want my body to be.

Because I am AFAB and haven’t had any medical conditions in this area, I also have a uterus. I am, as far as I know, able to get pregnant. I haven’t been sleeping with anyone who could get me pregnant, but its still there.

My wife and I are poly and my wife’s girlfriend is part of our family. If we have to get out, my wife and I can use my citizenship, but I could never leave her or any of my found family behind.

I’m disabled and chronically ill. Who knows whats going to happen to health care and disability rights?? I literally see no one talking about that so it’s hard to find information. I’m AuDHD, heavy emphasis on the Autistic. I have been trying to get my physical conditions diagnosed for years and we still have no idea.

I may appear to be a White Woman with Voting power. I am one of those things and many other things that make me afraid. I want to share space with everyone else who is afraid, but it feels like I’m being shut out left and right. Please can we come together, feel the feelings, and then get to work together?

I’ll leave you with a quote:

“If you have come here to help me you are wasting your time, but if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.” Lilla Watson

Let’s come together, realize all marginalized communities serve the same purpose to a White Supremecist, Christian Nationalist, Colonialist, Capitalist system and fight back. Together I bet there are more of us than there are of them.

[capocefalo]

"If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together."

- Lilla Watson

[drdopamine]

This reminds me of the Lilla Watson quote,

If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.

[the-hem]

"Three Loaves at Midnight." From Luke 11: 5-8.

Who loves ya, baby? Who is your best friend in the world who would give you three nice loaves in the middle of the night, just because you're you? Who would this friend be?

The word for friend is chaber, or haber:

חבר

The verb חבר (habar) means to join or team up. Apparently, this verb's most basic meaning is to bind, and as such it may also be used in the sense of binding someone with a spell. Our verb is used when objects are joined (Exodus 26:3), or when men join organizations or events (Genesis 14:3, Psalm 122:3). Once this verb actually denotes casting a spell (Deuteronomy 18:11). This verb yields the following derivatives:

The masculine noun חבר (heber), meaning company (Hosea 6:9), association (Proverbs 21:9), or spell (i.e. a binding; Isaiah 47:9).

The feminine noun חברה (hebra), meaning association or company (Job 34:8 only).

The adjective or masculine noun חברה (haber), meaning united (Judges 20:11), or associate (Song of Solomon 1:7, Isaiah 1:23).

The feminine noun חברת (haberet), meaning consort, i.e. wife (Malachi 2:14 only).

The similar feminine noun חברת (hoberet), literally meaning that what is joined. It occurs only in relation to the tabernacle curtains (Exodus 26:10).

The masculine noun חבר (habbar), meaning business associate (Job 41:6 only)

In the Parable below, Jesus says "suppose" you are bound to someone in one of the ways above, with the understanding such a relationship is expected rather than taken for granted:

5 Then Jesus said to them, “Suppose you have a friend, and you go to him at midnight and say, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; 

6 a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.’ 

7 And suppose the one inside answers, ‘Don’t bother me. The door is already locked, and my children and I are in bed. I can’t get up and give you anything.’ 

8 I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity[a] he will surely get up and give you as much as you need.

What is the meaning of a friend arriving at midnight, catching his host unawares of his arrival? And what kind of situation was taking place that would make the host wander out into the night in search of three loaves of bread, a tall order?

Midnight is when what is uncertain, or hidden by God starts to become certain through Torah study. The unexpected guest is Realization or Shabbat. The fact three loaves were needed in a pinch means this Shabbat was the Passover and they were needed to complete the Seder:

"The three matzos represent the three patriarchs: Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.["Rokeach"] They also represent the three categories of Jews: Cohein, Levi, and Yisrael. [the "Arizal"]

When we are preparing for the Seder, we stack the matzos in this order: first the matzah representing Yisrael on the bottom, then Levi above it, and finally the Cohein on top. In this order, their acronym is YeiLeCh, meaning "going" or journeying. The Seder is a process, a journey towards liberation.[The "Rebbe Rayatz"]

The friend is the stranger for whom there must be a seat at the table for the Seder according to one of the most sacred and important of Jewish Laws. Freedom from death in Egypt, the life of a slave of any kind is not a fit use of a God-Given life.

The man who asked his neighbor for the loaves of bread was audacious because the custom, the law and his loyalty, in his mind, left him little choice but to return home with the loaves of bread.

Bread and saltwater are combined during the Seder to remind us slavery is work without a pay or a return on investment it is nothing but lost time. The saltwater represents the only thing one can take out of slavery which is their tears.

To find oneself with an empty pantry on the day of the Seder is a bit ridiculous, as the man next door who is observing the national holiday points out, but rather than insult the Torah himself and violate the rules of the Passover, he surrenders the bread.

The Gematria for the final verse in the parable, 13-072, יגאֶפֶסזב‎ , jagapeszeb "the wolf on the heel of civilization" explains.

We are not prepared for the Angel of Death, or for Pesach, which is freedom from him. In this parable Jesus says God will provide us with protection, laughter, and power (Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob) if we go looking for them, and they could indeed save us and our friends at the last minute but that is a silly and irresponsible way to approach our problems.

If we persist in doing things this way, it will leave us with nothing but unleavened bread and tears at the end, which obviously aren't enough to live on.

[felidaefatigue]

You know how eagles will lock talons midair and plummet in a death spiral together till the last possible moment as a mating ritual?

And how Dr. Lilla Watson said “If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together."

Well if u wanna join talons with me and have 25$ to donate to a cause of your choice (charity, non profit, w.e.), you should fill out this form with your shippin info (it also explains more) and ill also donate + send u a print >3

Update!! (may 2024) I am closing my google accounts so this form is no longer accessible but if you dm me we can figure out the details if youde like any remaining prints!

[protoslackeranon]

A Message To You

Hi you don't really know me. You may know that I exist. I am one of your grandma Valadares's brothers. I'm John.

When  Emma and Zino moved, Bill and Marianne drove a rental truck up here, so I got to see them and hear about the wedding.  Bill and Marianne mentioned how beautiful you and Avery are. And since then I felt it important to reach out to you tell you that I am in your corner.

One of my favorite music videos is Bomba Estéreo - "Soy Yo." I like how the story is told: It's me. This is how I am. Relax! And it's not until near the end we know about conversations and the the support of Papa.

There are people who don't like the word "queer." I understand that. But for me personally, how the word has been reclaimed from an insult to the powerful expression: "We're here, we're queer. Get used to it." has been helpful. There's a lot of queer history.

Gilbert Baker made the first Rainbow Flag. The story of the origin of the flag is one I like a lot. I am not sure where I read that Gilbert Baker said that the reason he likes the rainbow is because it includes everybody.

There are so many ways to be a person. "Queer" and Rainbow flags appeal to me because they bring a whole lot of different people together. It's also true that a whole lot of people hate queers--and not just the word--and hate seeing rainbow flags.It's not easy navigating around such hatred.

Sometimes it’s not hatred, but just people being so awkward. Trans men find cis gay men often have a hard time accepting them. Well, awkwardness goes for lots of differences under the queer tent.

In the 1970s an Aboriginal Rights group came up with a phrase that resonates deeply with people all over:

If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.

In my life I have not been so good about working together. Still, as far back as I can remember people becoming liberated from oppression has deeply interested and concerned me.

I am old, and pretty clueless about how it is to be you in these days and times. But I am interested :)  

For lots of years I've posted to a link blog. Most of the quotes are from people whose work to become free has impressed me. There are at least a dozen people I would love to tell you something about. I won't be a pest, but on the other hand if you want me to tell you about one I would gladly. And then if you want, another one and another. Old people have lots of stories.

I'll leave with another music video by Bomba Estéreo. I like hearing on the radio on my drive home from work because Manu Chao is featured and I have long loved Manu Chao's music and stories of adventures. I also love the song because it’s about hurting that ‘s also lively and optimistic.

[oddities-by-ernie]

"Our liberty is bound together" - Ink on Card Stock - 8.5" X 11" “If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.”-Lilla Watson Our liberty is bound together.

[dreaminginthedeepsouth]

"If you've come here to help me, you're wasting your time. But if you've come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together." ~ Indigenous Australian Elder Lilla Watson "It's a long road we have come and it's a long road we can go. We have to walk together and talk together. If you never listen to me, I will never listen to you. I will not follow you. Walk side by side and let's get there." ~ Conrad Ratara, at a ceremonial handing back of ancestral lands to indigenous people in Australia

[thanks Ian Sanders]

[sanguinarysanguinity]

The key to co-liberation is that it requires a commitment to and a belief in mutual benefit, from members of both dominant groups and minoritized groups; that’s the 'co' in the term. Too often, acts of data service performed by tech companies are framed as charity work (we discuss the limits of “data for good” in chapter 5). The frame of co-liberation equalizes this exchange as a form of relationship building and demographic healing. There is a famous saying credited to aboriginal activists in Queensland, Australia, from the 1970s: “If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.” What does this mean? As poet and community organizer Tawana Petty explains in relation to efforts around antiracism in the United States: “We need whites to firmly believe that their liberation, their humanity, is also dependent upon the destruction of racism and the dismantling of white supremacy.” The same goes for gender: men are often not prompted to think about how unequal gender relations seep into the institutions they dominate, resulting in harm for everyone.

Catherine D'Ignazio and Lauren F. Klein, Data Feminism

Footnote: Although the aboriginal activist quote ended up circulating on the internet as the work of one person—Lilla Watson—Watson herself describes it as the outcome of a collective process, and she desired that it be credited as “Aboriginal activists group, Queensland, 1970s.” See Watson, “Attributing Words,” Unnecessary Evils, November 3, 2008.

[familyvideocbd]

If you have come to help me, you are wasting your time. If you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.

-lilla watson and other Murri activists