#Autism mom

[trash-and-trash-accessories]

"Autism mom" organizations treating autism like a horrific disease in the 90s did so much harm to autistic people. Still today people are torturing autistic children in an attempt to exorcise the autism from their bodies to get back their healthy normal child. People aren't giving their kids necessary vaccines out of fear they might catch this horrific illness. All because these organizations painted autism as a horrific illness stealing healthy children from their loving parents instead of just like, people with slightly different brains that can be accommodated.

[autiebiographical]

The only thing I did to get attacked by these sorts of people is to just speak honestly about my experiences as an autistic person. Then they turn around and call it advocacy.

[spoonfulofjesus]

PSA to "autism moms", especially the one that talked to me at work today! Just because your child is nonverbal does not mean that they cannot hear and understand you! Just because your child does not respond with words does not mean they do not know you are dehumanizing them and treating them like a badge to get pity with! Your HSN child is not your prize-winning dog or a charity case! They are a human being and deserving of respect.

Also, specifically to the one that talked to me today. Why on earth did me having a cane (and you laughing at me when I said yes I in fact do legitimately need it) constitute you dragging your nonverbal child over to tell me that you're his caretaker? I'd say I don't care, but I do because I hope they aren't stuck with you as a caregiver for much longer. You clearly have no respect for them. Don't tell me "I don't act like they aren't there, what?" when I just watched you do it. You just dragged them over and said "this is my child, they need me to help them at all times" without even looking at the (adult) child, much less asking for their permission to say anything about them. Then when I try to acknowledge their existence (and they respond by looking at me!) you say they're nonverbal in a pitying tone, as if nonverbal means vegetable. You are the pitiful one here.

[c0rec0re]

Picture I just found while clearing my camera roll

[emmashouldbewriting]

13yo came home with her maths and welsh exam results (and anxiety over potentially getting her science results tomorrow, wherein i promptly reminded her that the results do not matter as long as she tried her best. and if she didn't, that's on her, and that's her responsibility to rectify next year.)

this girl got 64% in maths!!!! her weakest subject!!!!!!! and 86% IN WELSH!!!! her second language!!!

i just... i'm so proud of her. she tries so very, very hard in everything she does in a world that isn't made for her and doesn't understand her, but she just keeps going. i'm honestly so lucky to say she's mine.

[autumnityk]

[sincerelyyellingback]

I was stalking my friend on pinterest, and I saw that she'd saved a bunch of tattoo designs that are a crossover between the "Disney adult" and "autism mom" aesthetics. Apparently, "Disney autism tattoo" is a popular Google image search. Here are some examples:

Anyway, we all know many people are against Autism Speaks and the puzzle pieces, so I came up with this way better Disney autism tattoo:

[dazeddoodles]

i feel like eda's parents were really chill w eda like she could kill someone and get away with it then with lillith their dad was the same but their mom would ground her

Before the curse maybe. After the curse when Eda does something bad suddenly her moms like "She's acting out cause of the curse. She feels unloved cause she's controlled by a dangerous scary monster 🥺💔"

[darling-heart105]

“Autism mom’s🧩🌈💖” When their child actually displays autistic traits/behaviours:

[autiebiographical]

Much like there's a difference between a person named Karen and "A Karen" there's a big difference between the mom of an autistic person/an autistic mom and an Autism Mom™.

Autism Moms™ ignore us autistics, talk over us, and fight with us. They think they know more about autism than anyone else without knowing a thing about it.

[thearticulateautistic-blog]

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[bluebyrd-screaming]

Trying to figure out how to phrase it, but I've come across a particular side of Autism Parent content about getting haircuts in particular and while some of them are about empowering the person getting their haircut and giving advice on how to create a less traumatizing environment, some of them just baffle me

"We have to hold him down and cut his hair as quickly as possible" but why??

Like, I get wanting your kid to look well groomed and that sometimes hair needs to be cut to maintain it's health. This makes sense

But why are we forcing these tiny humans who are using all of their communication skills to fell you to knock it off to endure such an uncomfortable experience just for aesthetics? Especially when it comes to the use of clippers on kids with sensory issues

And I have short hair that is cut with clippers despite my sensory discomfort with them, so I get that sometimes certain desires get put over certain discomforts, but why are you deciding that this is an appropriate trade off for your child?

Does your kid, who is crying and screaming and lashing out, really need a buzz cut that badly and do you really need to record it?

[emmashouldbewriting]

normalise mental health days for kids.

13yo has been in bed all day sleeping because last week's exams took so much out of her and she finally crumbled today. she has a teacher training day on tuesday so i told her to take tomorrow off if she needs it so she has 4 days to recover from all her anxiety.

will she always be able to do that? no. but she's a child. if she doesn't get that extra day tomorrow, she could be out for an entire week, if not more. one day for the sake of her mental health is not the end of the world. one day could be the difference between autistic burnout and her finishing this school year.

her anxiety is not less worthy of a day off than a stomachache.

[just-a-queer-fanboy]

I have a 2 year old cousin with allism and he's nothing like you, I bet you're faking not being autistic for attention.

It's okay, Allism Speaks is looking for a cure to allism and therapies so you can properly communicate like an autistic person.

[redtail-lol]

It's autism acceptance month which means it's time to light it up #redinstead and listen to autistic voices! If you're an allistic ally or especially a parent or guardian of a child with autism, here are some things to know:

Autism speaks is an organization that has hurt many more people than it helps. We really don't like it. If you've been a well meaning donor and participant of Light it up Blue in the past, make this month the month you change that. We will forgive you for not knowing.

High and low functioning labels are disliked by the community, especially people who are considered "low functioning." Everyone can function when their needs are met. We seek to replace high functioning with low support needs and low functioning with high support needs.

You do not know your child best. Your child knows your child best. Speaking about being a parent of an autistic child is okay but don't ever use that to speak over autistic people.

Take your kids out of ABA if they're in ABA. I don't care if they behave better. They're not having the roots of the problem fixed, they're just being rewarded for suppressing their symptoms. If you really want to healthily deal with problems involving meltdowns and self harming stims (hitting themselves, banging their head on things, the like) find what's upsetting your kid that makes them do that and avoid it. If your kid doesn't speak, speaking is painful. Don't force them. Learn ASL with them, most nonverbal autistic kids can learn ASL. Other symptoms ABA is "fixing" do not need to be "fixed." People who support ABA may say it's only old ABA that's bad, and there are good results, but even without punishments, ABA just forces autistic people to mask and appear neurotypical in a way that causes them immense distress. Don't listen to the people who make money off of it. There is no good ABA. It was created by the same piece of shit that created gay conversion therapy and has the same principle: suppress your feelings and pretend to be straight even if it makes you uncomfortable and unhappy.

If your autistic kid who is NOT in ABA and never has been is not having meltdowns or hurting themselves: they're happy. You've succeeded as a parent in meeting their needs.

Picky eating can be solved by not feeding your child things they do not like. Especially older kids, they know what they do and don't like. If your child, autistic or allistic, has consistent dislikes, then stop feeding them the foods they dislike. Food texture aversion is a real sensory sensitivity and certain flavors and textures don't go together. Whatever the reason is, don't feed any child things they don't want to eat after they've passed the phase of only eating ice cream or only white food turned no white food (I had that phase.) They know what they enjoy.

When talking about the struggles of caring for moderate to high support needs autistic people, be mindful of the struggles they're going through too. It'll always be worse for them. Don't demean us, and when you talk about the struggles, add in "I know it must be much harder for them, though, and it's worth it to make my kid happy and comfortable."

Aspergers is an outdated term named after a nazi. Some autistic people may identify as people with aspergers, but avoid using the term unless you know someone considers themselves that way.

Most autistic people use identity first language. Other people with autism use person first language. Some of us don't care.

While some autistic people do want to have a cure, donating to cure research will either be wasted or, in the event one is found, will lead to cures forced onto children who cannot decide whether or not they want to be cured.

A lot of this is sentiment shared by others! Please listen to other autistics, especially higher support needs autistics!!

Oh and medical papers stop assuming the reader is a parent and can't be an autistic person looking for their own symptoms challenge. Especially when it's centered on autistic teens.

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“Parents are caught in between decades of misinformation and conflict, trying to do what they think is right for their children. I believe that most parents want what is best for their children, even if they are misguided, or don’t know how, or if they are ill equipped or unsupported. Many parents harboring ableism love their children and want what’s best for them —even if we have different understandings of what “best” means.”

Jules Edwards

I Will Die On This Hill