#And if mods want to report me: I never said which one I am

[drinkinboilingcoffee]

Reblogs appreciated

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for complaining that someone kept rejecting me in an rp?

I'm in an rp server with some other people and everyone is free to do rps as they wish. The rp channels are open so people can jump in and join if they want to. I saw that there was this other person (Shade) playing as the character that was the other half of my favorite pairing for female avatar ship. The group was going off a script that everyone could come from different timelines, but some people could be from the same one.

So I hopped in on the rp Shade was doing with their friend Schemes as female avatar. Shade had said prior that they were fine with any pairs, so I tried saying that female avatar and their character were dating but they went with "I'm sorry. Who are you again?" I had my character explain and they go. "Oh! You're not the one I know. You're being weird." That was a little rude of them especially since right after, someone playing as the male avatar stepped in and they acted close to them instead.

I decided to leave it be for awhile before rejoining a few days later. This time, Shade responded with: "Don't misunderstand! But I really can't! I… I know that you were close to someone who looked like me, but it wasn't me. So you should go look for that person instead! I am perfectly fine without it! We should just remain friends! You're not the same person I know, so that would make things harder. But we could just be friends it is better that way. I can't see myself being with you. Being just friends is more beneficial for the both of us. I will never date you, but we could be friends."

I would have been fine with it, but at this point, that was the 5th rejection. Each becoming more cruel than the last. That was what was annoying to me. They insistently repeated "friends" over and over again, so it felt like a stab to the heart. Some of the others (Lucy and Hearts) who usually joined hopped in and said that Shade was being a bit rude with the rejection. But Shade insisted on keeping it like that and reiterated that "We are just friends and we will always only be friends."

I complained to the mods about this and Shade was given a warning for not playing nice with everyone and forbidden from having their character pursue a relationship with the male avatar which I am glad for. Shade and Dan (person playing the male avatar) then reported me and said I was making people uncomfortable. So I got a warning too and the mods lifted that ban on their relationship attempt. They also told me i could get banned if i did it again

So AITA for complaining that someone kept rejecting me in an rp?

What are these acronyms?

[ilikegoilss]

im only addressing this because ive been seeing people bringing one of my mutuals into it, which isnt cool. i want to pretend like this never happened. but i cant.

i drew something for an online friend who i no longer talk to. they posted it without my permission, and im contacting mods to take the post down since you cant delete your own post due to the regulations on the website they posted on. this art i made i DONT agree with, and ill admit, i shouldnt have drawn it. its gross and supports a ship i DONT support.

a user has put it as their banner. its fucking mortifying that its being spread, because i never even wanted it out there in the first place. its an explicit drawing. i am a MINOR. this user has also been really weird and sexual to said mutual. ive DMed them to take it down, and this post is being made ~20 hours after ive asked them to take it down. sorry if thats too short, ive just been barely able to function since this started.

im so fucking embarrassed, ashamed, and mortified. ive been stressing like shit over this for the past day or two—my hands are shaking as i type this. im really sorry about all of this.

i dont want to share who my friend was because they dont have tumblr, plus theres a lot of personal stuff going on with them and between us.

if you wanna know more, feel free to DM me. i wont answer questions that are asking for information of my friend. i wont expose them just because they fucked me over.

also sorry if it seems like im overreacting, just like i stated before, people are bringing a mutual of mine into this and i really dont want people connecting them with it. they have nothing to do with this.

i dont want this blowing up. please stop interacting with the drawing, if you find it on the website they posted it on please please please spam report if you can. i dont really know how it works. this is legit my worst nightmare.

[sophieinwonderland]

Today is the day I make one lucky cringizen's dream come true!

I've had this screenshot saved for over a month, knowing this day would come! So congrats little cringizen, your wish is finally granted!

Because I'm going to talk about Aspen's bullying of Custom-Emojis, and recount my two minutes in Aspen's server!

So let's see if I can sum this up. Aspen, an anti-endo TikToker, goes into the Custom-Emojis server. She barely says or does anything there. She gets banned for conduct in other places. Rather than moving on, Aspen plays victim while mocking people's triggers, and says she was banned for saying hi.

You can find the story from Custom-Emojis here:

Aspen escalated and is now allegedly openly admitting to bullying Custom-Emojis.

I do say allegedly because these screenshots are from r/systemscringe and I don't actually know what the context is for that second one. But if it's legit, yikes!

Now, I normally wouldn't get involved in this drama. Mostly because I think both parties behaved pretty poorly. Aspen blew a ban out of proportion instead of just moving on, and chose to mock people's triggers in retaliation for banning her. Obviously terrible. But... I also don't support Custom-Emojis following up by telling people to mass report her TikTok. Both seem like massive overreactions that only furthered the conflict.

There are no mature adults in the room.

So why am I talking about this?

Well you see, I have a funny story to share!

See, a while back, when r/systemscringe added Aspen to their hit list, I wanted to see what the deal with her server was. Was it really as bad as r/systemscringe claimed?

So... I joined it... just to see.

I never actually got to find out!

While casually scanning, before posting anything at all, I read people talking about me just joining. They recognized my name. A few were explaining to the mods who I was and that I was an endogenic systems. I think they mentioned I was a tulpa too.

One of them even mentioned following this blogs for the laughs. Which, if you're here now, hi! 🙋‍♀️

And then, everything went black. Well, gray. Point is, I was kicked from the server! Instantly! In what was probably less than 5 minutes having said absolutely nothing!

All for the crime of being an endogenic system.

And at the time, I didn't comment on it. It seemed... disadvantageous. r/systemscringe was focused on Aspen. Aspen and her server was focused on r/systemscringe. Why interrupt that? Why get in the way of ableist anti-endo factions tearing each other apart?

But with this latest incident, I had to talk about the sheer hypocrisy of Aspen's community at being outraged over Aspen getting banned while doing the same exact things!

It's just too funny to not point out the hypocrisy of Aspen and her followers!

Wait... Aspen's Here?

Okay, so everything above I wrote Thursday or Friday. I didn't post then because other things were going on and I wasn't quite ready to get dragged into the drama. Then surprise, Aspen made a new Tumblr! And one of her first acts was invading inclusive tags.

Expanding on what this anon says, the pluralgang tag isn't merely where endogenic systems hang out. It's a tag that was made explicitly for the inclusive plural community.

As a reminder, the "plural" label originated from non-disordered system, and has always been inclusive to all plurals for nearly 30 years. The plural community is our community. And hate isn't welcome here.

Oh, did I mention she tosses around ableist slurs?

Putting aside the blatant ableism against people with schizophrenia with that slur, let's reiterate that the existence of non-disordered and endogenic plurality is back by actual psychiatrists. This is not schizophrenia. It is not a mental disorder.

Transgender Mental Health by Eric Yarbrough explicitly states that you can be plural without trauma or a disorder.

This is a book that was peer reviewed and published by the American Psychiatric Association.

The ICD-11 states you can experience the presence of multiple "distinct personality states" (the same term it uses for alters) without a disorder in their entry on DID.

The existence of non-disordered and endogenic plurality is FACT!

And anyone who says otherwise is either ignorant or lying.

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Oh, and since I'm sure this post will get around to r/systemscringe and one or both of its servers, be sure to check out my debunk of r/systemscringe's lies while you're here. 😉

Also, as always when an anti-endo invades inclusive and pro-endo tags, my response is going into anti-endo tags. If any anti-endos don't like this, please take it up with Aspen. I'll respect boundaries as long as the boundaries of our community is respected. Otherwise... 🤷‍♀️

[therealgchu]

WIP Wednesday - Seven Days

hey, look at me with a post! tagging the coemancer crew this time since i'm actually posting! @silurisanguine, @atonalginger, @eridanidreams, @toxiclizardwrites, @aro-pancake, @bearlytolerant, @order-of-the-eye, @fangbangerghoul, and whoever else i may be missing.

so, my main fic is on a bit of a hiatus while i wait for my thinky-blob to process some stuff.

in the meantime, i started writing a new one. it's a short, 7 chapter series called Seven Days. it's a stand-alone piece, not necessarily tied to my main fic. however, since starfield is all about (spoilers?), it gives you an amazing playground in which to play.

this story has been floating in my mind for about a month. and it was just recently that she demanded her story told. i don't know why, but as i was trying to bang out what to do with my current chapter, she rose up and said, WRITE ME. so i am.

the first chapter will go up on friday. i warn in advance that this is a pretty dark story. no fluffy, warm and fuzzy in this one.

Seven Days - Day One

“You’ve made a big mistake,” the blond yelled, getting ready to charge the Starborn. The Starborn grav dashed and closed the gap before the blond had a chance to even unholster the laser pistol at her hip. The Starborn withdrew their revolver, the one they specifically modded for this purpose and held it inches from the blond’s face.

The woman held her hands up, “Why are you doing this? Who are you?” she demanded. Her voice triggered a memory in the Starborn’s mind of another blond woman’s last order to them so many lifetimes ago. You need to grieve. You need to stop. This isn’t what he would have wanted. The memory flashed by in a blink of an eye. The Starborn then cocked their head in a quizzical fashion. “I am done with you ordering everyone around, Sarah Morgan,” they said flatly, and pulled the trigger. The revolver’s explosive round obliterated the woman’s face, shattering her skull into fragments.

“NOOOOO!” a man screamed from the direction of the garden, as he came charging into the room. The Starborn turned to see him run towards them, and their vision swam, almost graying out from the shock. Not him, never him. Why was he even here? In all of the universes they’d been to, he was never here on this day, which is why they always picked it to raid the Lodge for the artifacts. So why was he here now? They instinctively released an anti-gravity field, which stopped the man dead in his tracks, floating but unharmed, as he continued to yell and swear at the Starborn.

Several pirates reported that the hostages were safely locked away, and no one was harmed more than necessary. They nodded and instructed three to remain with them, and the rest were free to loot as desired, and reminded them that all of the rooms had safes. “When the anti-grav field dissipates, I want him taken. If you have to, knock him out, but do not harm him any more than that. If you do, you will answer to me,” they instructed, as a tiny ball of plasma started forming in their hand as punctuation. The pirates nodded fearfully, and did as they were ordered. The man tried to make a break for it when his feet touched the ground, but he wasn’t a match for three against one. One of the pirates knocked the man out cold with the butt of his rifle. “Take him and throw him in the brig. If you have to, drug him,” they ordered.

The Starborn grabbed the artifacts, turned on their heel and strode out of the Lodge.

[fuck-customers]

Just a curious question for mods (Rodney) and followers: At your retail job (current or past) what does being a store lead entail? What responsibilities/privileges come with it + what are the upsides and downsides?

My boss recently pushed the idea of being a lead on me and essentially said "someone is leaving, so a lead position will be available, you should do it, you've been here long enough" I haven't officially been offered the position, but she essentially said she wants me to do it.

Which....yes, I have, but the reason I'm not a lead is because a lead has almost all of the responsibilities of a store manager, with the exception of hiring new employees and doing payroll, for about 1/3 of the pay.

Plus, even though a lead position is a management position, it's not full-time.

Essentially, if I agreed to be a lead, I would gain about $2 more an hour, yet still be part-time (so, no benefits) and my hours would POSSIBLY increase from 4-12 hours a week, to maybe 20+. (But not necessarily, because there is a current lead who has 8 hours for this entire week)

Regardless, if I am officially offered the position, I will probably take it anyway, because I need something more for my resume and I think that'll look good. And I'm hoping to move soon, so I won't have to do it for long.

The responsibilities of a lead at my store (to my knowledge) are:

-open/close the store (physically open the door with the key, set/disable the alarm, open/close registers + count the cash, do the sales report at the end of the night) + now we have to clean the bathrooms every night (with no proper ppe, but that is another tale)

-cover employee breaks (this is the easiest and least objectionable one)

-are in charge of getting coverage if an employee calls out/doesn't show up (ask on the clock employees to stay late, call off-clock employees to come in)

-are actually usually the one that has to cover shifts (now I can't just ignore my boss's texts, rip)

-deal with any Karens/unruly customers/get yelled at by customers, essentially any time anyone "needs to speak to your manager" you gotta go over there

-deal with/solve any employee disputes/problems that don't have to do with payroll

-do whatever daily tasks the SM assigns on a list for you to do, usually includes things like putting up/taking down sale signs, cleaning certain aisles, doing inventory tasks, exception counts, etc.. I've seen various daily tasks lists...they're usually 2+ pages long.

I'm sure there's other responsibilities I'm forgetting/am unaware of, but this is all I can think of right now. It seems like a lot for just $2 more an hour, not even full-time tbh.

BONUS QUESTIONS:

-At your current/former jobs, what responsibilities did leads have? More or less than what I listed?

-Any advice? I have a few things in mind that I plan to do, such as always standing by my coworkers and taking their side over the customer. (Unless the employee is 100% in the wrong, but even then, I plan on phrasing it like "I think my coworker here was a little bit confused on the policy, but they tried their best, this is the way it's supposed to be, but it was not my coworker's fault" basically I won't throw anyone under the bus) I also plan on not completely kissing customer ass. If you're a customer and you're being rude and disrespectful to my employee, you will not still get your discount or whatever you wanted. I am not bending over backwards for disrespectful Karens. And I plan on regularly consulting with my coworkers for any suggestions on how I could improve/make things easier for them. Any other suggestions?

I have never worked anywhere that had a "Team Lead" position. So I can't say with experience.

My daughter works at the bread bowl place and when they made her a team lead all they told her was that she needed to train new people and know policies and procedures 100% and they were suppose to give her a $2 raise. But her and a friend started at the same time, made team lead at the same time, but he got the $2 and she got $1.50 and had to fight for almost a year for the .50.

Since her getting the title she has not trained the new people (the new hires have) and she is treated like a normal part timer. She has also said most of the people working are team leads.

-Rodney

[invinciblerodent]

I was so close to submitting a bug report to Larian, but apparently, it was one of the THREE VERY MINOR, MOSTLY COSMETIC MODS I have installed that fucking BROKE Astarion's personal quest.

after talking to- and accepting Raphael's deal to kill the orthon (with Astarion in the party ofc), the game apparently decided to update the "The Pale Elf" quest to say that Raphael refused to reveal anything, and that we were going to have to get the details from Cazador.

.....Which I obviously didn't notice right away (because I thought I knew what it said, why would I have checked, you know), so I went off to fuck around and level up before I would have gone into the mausoleum.

Four hours later we were all level 8, so I decided to go and kill the orthon, and get the ball rolling before I would have gone to Moonrise later tonight. Only Astarion didn't want to talk afterwards (no "that was very nice" dialogue), and Raphael never showed, even after two long rests in a row.

Good thing I did a hard save right before speaking to Raphael, because even after reloading right there and reattempting that conversation in any way I could think of, I got the same result. Bugged quest. I removed all companions from the party besides Astarion ("maybe Karlach's extended dialogue overwrites something"), I tried all possible dialogue options ("maybe I rejected him by accident somehow"), did that conversation another four bloody times, nothin'.

Only tried disabling the mods as a last ditch effort (should've tried earlier, my b), and it fucking worked.

Why "purchaseable camp clothes", "gold weight zero", or one measely hair pack I'm not even actively using would break the game in such a profound way and waste my life like this is beyond me.........

........................... but I am a little bit miffed now.

[deviantartdramahub]

I will continue to regarding to him and i will not stopping: https://www.tumblr.com/deviantartdramahub/736654402685894656/httpswwwtumblrcomdeviantartdramahub736582675?source=share

"I'm not apart of the women who has issues with you or richard. But I am the one who was a watcher, got tired of his behavior and reported him and got him banned."

Oh yeah? If i won't find your da channel soon, I will continue to search soon and you will not stop me, His behavior didn't do a illegal arts and yet you wanna send the link about me. How about you shut up until his behavior must be change.

"Do you honestly think that he will leave those he has issues with alone? Do you think that he will just block and ignore?"

Do you also honestly think that you would have to get away with reporting his social media account? Never, He will be NOT reported on deviantart and youtube. He can stay this site whatever the fuck he want to, And yes they will block and ignore him on deviantart. But expect for the report because it's getting annoying to reporting furries user, And i don't give a fuck about your speech.

"I don't believe that he will leave it alone. So, why should anyone else."

I do believe that you should leave his social media channel alone. So, You gonna continue to attack me for some bullshit.

"To the mod: He legit admitted to creating a "unfinished secret da account" , him creating a new account after being banned the first time (which he has said many times he's been banned). He's breaking dA rules."

To you: Aren't you annoying him by calling him a breaking dA fucking rules? He doesn't talking about his bullshit drama pass and he already read the rules of deviantart < You don't understand man (His tumblr account will never banned). So, You wanna reporting his tumblr account too just like deviantart, You wanna get away with this situation? He will rebuilt his unfinished deviantart channel and you won't find his channel, Bitch! And i will also find your mine soon until the links will be found soon. :D

"Knowing him, he will do something to raise suspension to his new account, call out users he has issues with OR harass them and get found out and reported yet again."

Nope, You wouldn't find his channel and that's final, he cannot be call out if he still hate his dA drama. You are super monster when you got him banned from deviantart, Psychopath..... Next time, Don't ever fucking find him on dA.

Given recent events, you wouldn't be wrong.

[hellfireconfessions]

This is the post that I was mentioning in my message in that discord. While this might not have been intended to be IRL names, it can be read either way. No matter what is being said on this tumblr, my information has been shared. You don’t have to believe me, but I know Mari has had subbmission talking about my IRL info because they reached out to me (Which I am grateful for). It is only the doxxer’s fault, but messages like the one pictured above did not help. I was upset when Hellfire was being shut down. Going into that chat and saying what I said was not the best choice, however people make mistakes when upset. Hellfire was killed by everyone, not just staff. Mistakes were made on both sides. I can only speak for myself, but I never purposefully targeted, punished, or harassed anyone. I wanted to make hellfire a better place. I followed the SOP and the Rules to the letter regarding member interaction and reports. Yes, I am a blunt person. Yes, I have a hard time seeing gray areas. But everything I was doing as Staff, I was doing in hope to make hellfire a better place. 

Mod edit: I had assumed that post was about current staff discord names since even i didn’t know them all and figured they wanted to know which current staff were responsible (disregarding how higher staff were the ones making decision, lot of people just blame staff as a whole for it) that was defiiiinnitely an oversight on my part 

[evil-iliamae]

Gonna continue to regarding anonymous man from @deviantartdramanow : https://www.tumblr.com/deviantartdramahub/736654402685894656/httpswwwtumblrcomdeviantartdramahub736582675?source=share

"I'm not apart of the women who has issues with you or richard. But I am the one who was a watcher, got tired of his behavior and reported him and got him banned."

I am also tired of your bullshit behaviour too because you are such a annoying person like her, Do you know why? You are worse than ilia and evie which she can't attack me, Do me a fucking favor bitch.

"Do you honestly think that he will leave those he has issues with alone? Do you think that he will just block and ignore?"

Do you also honestly think you wanna continue to reporting his social medi account? Never, I am not letting you reporting him so you will only block and ignore him on deviantart. Bitch.

"I don't believe that he will leave it alone. So, why should anyone else."

Yes it might be leave him alone on deviantart, So, Try attack me with your bullshit inbox.

"To the mod: He legit admitted to creating a "unfinished secret da account" , him creating a new account after being banned the first time (which he has said many times he's been banned). He's breaking dA rules."

To you: Can you just shut the fuck up about breaking dA FUCKING rules? Too many times you already said that but continue to lying. He can stay in this site whatever the fuck he wants to and you are not a boss of him,

"Knowing him, he will do something to raise suspension to his new account, call out users he has issues with OR harass them and get found out and reported yet again."

Oh yeah? I will found out if it was you or not, If you did not reporting him! Then who? If you did, I am gonna know your social media account soon until i will finally surgery on tumblr sooner. She also harassing him first so why the fuck are you trying to attack him? Leave 16 years old boy alone you monster.

[icantbelieveitsnotmeta]

Basic Info!

My name is Odessa, it is a pleasure to meet you! This is my own little information corner, and you are welcome to come and go as you please. However, there are some basic rules and regulations that come with the territory.

1. I will not tolerate bullying of any kind. This includes but is not limited to; threats, making fun of builds, picking on people that have seemingly stupid questions, and any other form of negative talk that comes into my space. Anon will not protect you. I know my way around my little hellsite and I will find you and report you. This is the one rule you must follow. This is a safe space for Genshin players who get confused, lost, or just need a little help, and I will not have that compromised by an elitist discord mod who thinks they’re hot shit.

2. There is no such thing as a stupid question! Whether it be about artifacts, talents, or general world exploration, just hit me with ‘em! We all have to start somewhere, and whether you’re AR 20 or 60, sometimes you just need some help.

3. I do not like the META. I believe that for the most part it is a toxic community that pushes damage over having fun and I personally do not wish to waste my time farming for stuff to go with the META. If you are into META, that’s fine, but I must ask you to not comment on builds saying the build isn’t META, but if it is to offer constructive criticism I welcome you with open arms. As such, none of my builds are for the META, they are just for fun. Keep that in mind when looking at the builds.

4. I will not be recommending anything having to do with CRIT Rate or CRIT DMG. It’s not like I necessarily dislike those stats or what they do, I just don’t feel comfortable with the idea of having to rely on CRIT hits when I’m trying not to die to Raiden’s weekly boss, you feel me? I enjoy consistency, and unless you have over 100% CRIT Rate (which you have to be really lucky on artifact rolls to get and is overall extremely difficult to attain) CRIT hits aren’t consistent.

5. Overall, have a good time. These builds are only recommended. If you have a build that works for you, keep using it. Don’t change it because I said so.

Rules for the askbox

1. I will say it again: No bullying of any kind is tolerated. There is a difference between banter and straight up insults. I welcome you to banter, but remember to keep it respectful.

2. I will do any character any way as long as it makes sense. That means no Hydro Itto, no Geo Archon Xiao, nothing like that. I also will never do any builds for Keqing on principal.

3. I am all for building supports as a DPS. Go wild.

4. I will also do team comps with individual builds! For example, you want a team with Alhaitham, Yao Yao, Xinqiu, and Yanfei, I’ll make them each a build and even detail how they work with each other. Even if the team doesn’t work I’ll try my best.

5. I always source my sites and references! They will all be linked at the bottom of each post.

6. I will also answer questions about exploration, puzzles, and even lore. Nothing is off the table! (WARNING: Be careful when asking about the lore. I will never shut up about it)

[murasaki-sama]

So, gonna rant for a minute into the void.

I just got banned from a discord server, and man, am I hurt. Like, really hurt. Sad, angry, all mixed up, you name it.

See, the main problem is this one other member of the server. They were going through some hard times, and I tried to comfort them. But i find empty platitudes like “everything will get better” and “it will be okay” to be annoying and frustrating, so I tried to be a bit real and say something like “things could get worse, but they will hopefully get better”. And this person was like “what you said was really painful, can you give me some space?” (this a day after blocking me and ignoring me). And I was like, sure?

Then, a day or two later, they were having a problem and talking about it in the food and health chat, and I had an answer; wanting to be helpful, because I knew they were going through hard times, and because I knew they had blocked me they could not see my normal posts, I tagged them. I figured, one comment, they’d see, did not have to reply, and could keep going on with their day.

But they reported me to a mod.

The mod got on my case about “not giving them space” as they requested. Okay, so no more being helpful, got it.

Well, I did my best.

Thing is, this discord server has these things called Food Checks, where those of us struggling to eat get tagged by everyone doing the food check, generally 3-5 times a day, and we, and anyone else in the server, reports on what we ate. Its a good reminder to eat. While, this other person, me, and a third person (who I am pretty sure also has me blocked, but has not made an issue of it or told me why), have all asked to be tagged.

You can see the issue already. If I do a food check I can either 1) not tag a person who has requested it, which everyone else in the server can see, and makes me look like a jack ass, or 2) tag a person who has asked me to give them space, and potentially look like a jack ass to that one person. While, I’ve tagged them twice before in food checks and have not been told anything, because they are food checks and I tag everyone who is currently requesting it.

While I guess they reported it again, because I woke up this morning to be told I was banned.

What? You say. Two times I failed to give one person space on a large server and I was banned? Yeah, I was surprised too. The mod also quoted two long conversations from like Dec/Jan, where “we struggled to get any response from you that indicated a willingness to adjust for our community“, so they could make it seem like its more than just one person has a problem with me, but its still BS.

See, the previous conversations? Two jokes I made didn’t hit right. The first was a joke about a dog who didn’t look like a dog, and the second was a joke about a book by the author who the server is dedicated to - the author herself is there, and she was not offended by the joke - but other people in the server were like “she could be offended by this joke who dare you” sooooo?

But like, jokes not hitting is not something that needs change. Its a cultural miscommunication or misunderstanding that only needs understanding from both sides that their cultural and personal experiences are different and the things they think are funny are and can be different. The thing is, the people in this server seem to think that ANY and ALL miscommunications are the result of FLAWS IN ONE PERSON (the person who annoyed or offended someone else, never the person who got offended out of nowhere), and that that person must change their communication drastically. This is wrong, and greatly so, and creates a very toxic atmosphere.

Also, I did demonstrate a willingness to change? I talked it out with them until I figured out that the tone of the comments, and the inability of everyone to read the tone was largely the problem, and therefore I should try to use tone indicators (like tumblr does in parenthesis), and that I would do so. That was a willingness to change! But I refuse to admit my joke wasn’t funny for anyone ever and I am so sorry to have offended all of reality, when sorry, in certain circles my jokes were funny, and the author herself wasn’t offended how could they even justify the whole damn argument on that issue?

Anyway, so now I’m banned, I lost a whole circle of friends I was just beginning to really click with, and now I am back to only my family to talk to. I am going to on the verge of tears all day, and I don’t even know what I can do about it. Is there anything to do? Do I want to bother? Is a problem with what seems like 2 or 3 members of the community worth losing the entire community over? (especially if at least one or two of those members are mods?)

Will anyone even notice I’m gone?

[olderthannetfic]

this isn't related to the racism and AO3 debate, but mentions of discord reminded me of something I saw when lurking.

I'm in a server where there are several people who Mod elsewhere. The subject of underage users came up. I'm very neutral on that. Teenagers will be in fandom and will want to see nsfw content. I did, as did a lot of people. One person was convinced they would be reported to literal authorities if someone under 18 was in their server and lied to get access to NSFW channels, to the point where this Mod said that they would "video call the suspected minor to see if their face matched their ID, and needed the id to show the person's age."

They 100% thought they were in the right and that asking anyone online to video call and show ID to prove they weren't lying was acceptable. There was one other user who was going "what the fuck is wrong with you" but this Mod dug in their heals and didn't think there was an issue. To them, the only issue was the thought that a teenager lied about their age to see NSFW content on discord... which they admitted to having done on AO3 and ff . net. This was awhile ago now but I remembered it suddenly and am still completely horrified.

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I never did get into the restricted part of aestheticism.com because fuck no, I'm not sending someone my ID.

[heather-ouo]

Taking over

SAGAU! Jean x Shapeshifter! Gender neutral! Reader

Warning!: taking over identity, usage of Chloroform, rude words, bad English writing?, workaholics, no proofread

The hidden god of Teyvat is Jean’s s/o? Only some few people and the mods know but you never know the creator would do all Jean’s work just for a normal date huh?

You the shapeshifter needs something that’s belong to the person you want to turn to, just like Jean’s ribbon where she ties her hair.

But shapeshifting to animals? No problem just need to remember how they looks like k?

Current people who knows

Lisa

Part 2, part 3, part 4

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“ Jean is been like months you need to take a break for real this time! You are literally ruining your heath at this point! ”

You shouted at your girlfriend who has her head buried in her paper work. Years of dating Jean knowing she rarely goes on a “ normal ” break but was interrupted by a knight running towards her or that time she can’t stand of leaving her office knowing the workloads

“ (y/n) you know the Favonius would in a mess if I take a break, naps would fine.”

Jean answered while signing paper works, you let a sigh of defeat and walked towards her desk you place a cup of tea which you had “ special ” made for her.

The blonde nodded and take the cup in one hand without looking and drink all of it.

“ wait a min… why am I feeling dizzy out of the sudden?”

Jean looked up and meets your (e/c) eyes while smiling mischievously,

“ (y/n) you wo-wouldn’t ……”   

*thud*

. . .

“ Heh, looks like Lisa’s advice worked but it seems I put too much..”

The (h/c) mumble to them self as they remove the feather pen from jean’s right hand, carry Jean in bride style and closing the door behind them.

“ your gr- I mean (y/n) you finally get Jean out of her office huh?”

You looked towards where sound source come from, Lisa the Librarian one hell crazy woman if you forget to return books on time she will chase all the way down until she gets the book back.

“ Yea all thanks to your advice Lisa, do you mind give the whole schedule of Jean’s work? ” 

You ask as you pulled out your serenitea pot removing the cover, smoke slowly surrounding around you and Jean, the librarian give a hum in reply 

“ I’ll put it on her desk, but are you really gonna walk around and do her works as Jean? ”  

She gives you a worried look knowing the blonde girl has a very heavy workload.

“ I know but i might as well clear up her schedule tomorrow so we have a proper date instead of being interrupted over and over again.”

You answered as smoke started to be thicker and thicker giving a smile at the librarian before taking off to your house in the pot. Rushing went to the house literally kick the door open and put jean in bed of her specially made room from you.

Untie Jean’s ribbon from her hair then you tie the ribbon in your hair tie it up in horse tail, looking at your self in mirror that’s beside you seeing the hair and the eyes color start to change to Jean’s, you went out towards your room that’s across Jean’s room changing in Jean’s headmaster outfit.  ( you have her spare outfit don’t ask how )

Checking the mirror one last time before teleport to the headmaster office and start your day as jean, well lets say the moment you sit down a knight rush in slamming the door in the process.

“ Headmaster jean! We have an emergency at the gate! ”

“ Tell me about it while we are on the way. ”

You tell the knight while getting up from the seat, the knight nodded as the two of you head out of the headquarter.

“ Report from the knights at the gate it is said that some abyss mages managed lured in an Eye of the Storm at the bridge and a kid is hurt in the process as the other knights, the librarian Lisa and the dark night hero trying to defend it, we have retreated citizens that’s near the gate.”

Nodded in response you rush to the gate give out demand to shut the gate, rushing towards the enemy as Lisa and Dliuc start to perform their bust towards enemies around them, you quickly summon your sword and use gale blade to cause overload knocking out the abyss mages and make the storm enemy to crush into the ground, take this as a chance the trio deal it with last swing.

Seeing the enemy fade to dust as the claymore user stab his claymore on the ground looking at Favonius knight, Lisa and you, let a sigh.

“ You knights of Favonius are unless, needed the headmaster to help you out? can’t believe y-”

The shapeshifter cut him off and do a Monstatd style salute 

“ I thank you on behalf of the Favonius Darknight Hero but I have a lots of work load to do maybe next time.”

Darknight Hero look at you with an shock expression watching you walk back and tell the knights everything is clear, wait for the gate to open to rushing back to archon knows where.

Heading back to the headquarter office with Klee who was caught red-handed blasting fishes and using bombs for how long archon knows, the shapeshifter let out a sigh letting Klee to go to her grounded room, went back to the headmaster’s office you cringe at paperworks you saw on desk lets said you spend half of the day inside.

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Part 2, part 3, part 4

Angst or fluff?

[cooldeltaworld-blog]

People are dumb. Sometime, extremely dumb. Am I saying Shandale is dumb? Maybe. Maybe not. But I do wish to point out that Blue person has a point: You are having two completely different discussion with completely different purpose. Dio person seem to just want to talk about the lore while that Eevee person and Green person is bringing up Nazis. This is to say that this is a very bad discussion considering no one is listening to no one.

-Now, I also wish to point out that a lot of said discussion as the name/avatar blanked out which render the validity of the source a bit... muddy. You also did that to my post which is a bit weird? I dunno, I really wanted to point that out.

"As of July, [...]"

Hello, we are in the Spooky Scary Skeleton season and nearly in the month before the season of "All I Want for Christmas is You". I still have no clue if they have decided to change opinion.

-I also also wish to point out that them speaking about Nabattean not being human? Still valid. Not saying that their genocide is good or anything. In fact, genocide is very bad and should never happen but Nabattean are big immortal dragon that can pretty much ravage city if left unchecked. So like, since they aren't exactly human, they don't exactly fit the Universal Human Rights. Should they be a part of it? Yes! Absolutely! But that's beyond the scope of the discussion methink.

"I had my reservations posting the screenshots for this very reason, but I ultimately decided to do so because the server sat by and did nothing."

They're a mod in the Edelgang server. What do you want the server to do? Get picket and protest? Vote for a new mod at the next election? The server ain't exactly a democrary. It's a Discord server. If people want to leave, they can at any time. If they don't like this mod, they can just take their friend and found a new Discord server.

"Their behavior now, when called out for what they said, is not to say that they have moved on from holding such views; it is the exact same as it was before, that it was "taken out of context." That response has a clear implication: if they were in context, they would be fine."

And 1+1=2, that's how logic work. Or math, but you get the point.

"That is not the response of someone who no longer holds such views, but of someone who is in fact still holding them and/or will still defend them. Even after being told by those directly affected by this rhetoric that the context does not matter."

I am both blind and cannot read but from my understanding of the screenshot, it seems that Shandale agree that Jewish are people and should be treated with care and respect, like any people in this world, therefore disagreeing with Nazis? You kinda lost me there to be honest.

"Shandale's response, and the response of the server overall, has alleviated any regret I may have had in posting them; they have proven that they have not gotten better and that they think they're above reproach."

I mean, I don't know what you do with your time but like... These are months old screenshot with some of them dating back from the beginning of the year. If you really wanted to make a change, you can always report them on discord? I dunno, doing what seem to be a crusade on tumblr seem kinda unnecessary? Sorry, I'm just lazy at heart.

I don't want to come off as rude when I say this, I just want to be clear: the fact that these messages were ever said in this server, that they were said with no action from the mod team, and that they are still, currently, within the server, is a significant problem.

The fact that the response from the server, as of right now, is to try to demonize the person pointing to the elephant in the room and to not do anything about the ones who said the Nazi rhetoric, is a significant problem.

And as seen in this reblog, shandale is not above outright lying about what had happened. They told someone - and likely others - that they would have addressed the problem had someone pointed it out to them. There were multiple people who continuously pointed out the problems with what they were saying, and those people were talked down to and sometimes even outright silenced. And shandale had only said to the reblogger that they would have stopped... after they had repeated the Nazi rhetoric.

From that reblogger (Green and Blue Redacted aren't in Edelgang, Red Redacted is another mod of Edelgang):

As of July, shandale still had these beliefs, which at least one other mod knew about that, and still nothing was done. Their response to being directly told that this was Nazi rhetoric by people of Jewish decent (because both TheEeveeTamer and Green Redacted are of Jewish decent) was "but the Nabateans aren't literally human though" and "it's being taken out of context though" - completely missing the point, if not outright ignoring it intentionally.

Their behavior now, when called out for what they said, is not to say that they have moved on from holding such views; it is the exact same as it was before, that it was "taken out of context." That response has a clear implication: if they were in context, they would be fine. That is not the response of someone who no longer holds such views, but of someone who is in fact still holding them and/or will still defend them. Even after being told by those directly affected by this rhetoric that the context does not matter.

I had my reservations posting the screenshots for this very reason, but I ultimately decided to do so because the server sat by and did nothing. Shandale's response, and the response of the server overall, has alleviated any regret I may have had in posting them; they have proven that they have not gotten better and that they think they're above reproach.

I hope in the future that what you say will become true, but as of right now I have no reason to believe that it is

[flameohotwife]

I lurk on Discord and on Tumblr. I like your stories and those of some others. There are people I dealt with in other Discords so I keep quiet. We've never interacted. I wanted to get in on the story club but the time didn't work for me.

Anyway, I'm a little disappointed seeing you chummy with some real losers. Maybe you don't know that some of the people you interact with have wrecked the atla and are liars and frauds, like the person who said the right things when another person was accused of stealing their fic but privately told people that the person *did* steal from them and was annoying and they were glad they were gone but wished it had happened in a way where they didn't have to feel sorry for them? What about the author who said they didn't know why fans of theirs were saying racist things but then accused an innocent person of leaving anonymous hate on their story, resulting in more racist things being said? What about the person who DM'd someone asking to sext and when they said no, dropped a dick pic and then acted like nothing ever happen? What about the author writing a Fire Nation slurpfest who has said anti Black and anti Asian things and then scolded people who got offended for being offended by their racism? Oh and a lot of those people left too.

Why are you friends with any of these people?

There's so much other story stuff you can interact with that don't come from liars, racists and perverts. Do you have any sympathy for the person who got lied on and is still called a story stealer to this day? Do you have any sympathy for the people who got run out of fandom by racism? Do you have any sympathy for the person who reported the dick pic as sexual harassment to the so called moderator and was told that it wasn't their problem? Then the server stopped existing all of the sudden, which was convenient.

You're better than this.

I know you probably won't answer any of these things but you should.

Hi, anon. I want to thank you for bringing all of this up. This is gonna get long so I'm going to continue under a cut.

Some of these things I knew about and some of them I didn't, either because they were before my time in this server or because they happened elsewhere and I wasn't privy to the information. I do, actually, have a lot of sympathy for the victims in these situations, though I understand (from your ask here and from past interactions with friends) how my attempts at being diplomatic might make it seem like I support the actions of the perpetrators. I do not.

I would also like to point out that just because I am cordial with someone in a public discord, where I am also a mod (and was asked to mod because I was already calling people out without escalating the situation), does NOT necessarily mean that we are "friends." I will show kindness to everyone if I can but that server is also full of a wide variety of ages, including actual children. I am not going to be an asshole and I especially have to toe the line as a mod between calling out disrespectful/racist/sexist/homophobic/whatever behavior and being disrespectful myself. I am always hyper aware of the words I am using and the connotations they could have, though I know I have made mistakes. But I would hesitate to call most of the people there my friends.

The fandom has had... a LOT of issues recently, and the ones you listed are not even all of them. I do know and understand how my responses may seem enabling or supportive of the people who have hurt others, and though that was never my intention, I know that effect matters more than intent, so I apologize if I have hurt you in this way. You wouldn't be the first person; I have lost a friend over this recently as well and it still hurts to know that I caused them pain this way. Please remember that you and I are only seeing half of any given interaction at a time. People have or are in private servers where they may flesh things out more fully, or people may be DMing with others... we never really know someone online and can't truly know their heart or their motivations or anything else.

Racism, sexism, etc. have NO PLACE in fandom, and neither do any of the things you mentioned above. It is so important that we ALL call these behaviors out when we see them. I do tend to see these things as incidents rather than as indicative of the whole person who has done something, as a result of my professional training. I personally believe that people can learn and change and do better, which means that I (and I do NOT under any circumstances think anyone else has to subscribe to this) tend to allow them opportunities to change and show growth. I call out the behavior when I see it, but I don't then hold it against the offending person afterward AS LONG AS they aren't acting that way anymore (however my tolerance lessens with each offense). I know I have been in the wrong before. I know I have hurt others as well.

Ultimately, anon, after these incidents occur they often aren't brought up again, so I (and anyone else who joined the server after the fact) have no idea what really went down. It's hard to know about things that happened before your time in a server/fandom, unless they're still talked about, and most of this isn't. As a good friend told me, "If there's anything we all should have learned is that you should never assume in online fandom, and never outsource "bettering the fandom" if you are unwilling to do it yourself." And I think that's really it right there.

Truly, anon, I am sorry. You say you think that I'm "better than this," but I'm human, too. I'm trying. Please feel free to DM me if you want to talk about this further.