#4 variable

[abidahsy]

Obrolan Warung Kopi - Episode 1

Semua dimulai dari pertanyaan ini:

Mana yg lbh menarik, cewek kaya atau cewek cantik?

Lalu dijawab: What if i say, cewe smart

Selanjutnya kita bahas tentang cewek yang smart apakah berpotensi mudah membelot?

Makna membelot di sini adalah cewek smart bukankah akan jadi lebih sulit diatur, terlalu banyak bertanya, dan paling buruk adalah bisa mudah selingkuh?

Perlu dipisahkan dulu konteksnya, kalau yang dimaksud membelot adalah yang seperti itu, berarti yang dibahas adalah soal pemahaman dan karakternya. Bukan soal smartnya.

Jadi, mau cewek itu smart atau engga, ya potensi membelot akan tetap ada.

Gue awalnya berpikir bahwa kalau cewek gak smart, potensinya lbh manut dan nurut, padahal blm tentu.

On the other hand, jd cewek smart tetap bisa berattitude baik juga kok. Jangan manfaatin ke- smart-annya buat ngelakuin hal hal membelot (karena dengan gitu, malah terkesan gak smart)

Well, berarti yang dicari: cewek solehah?

Jawabannya gini:

Ga cuma soal itu. Di konteks pasangan, guidence ya yg 4 variable itu. Agamanya, fisiknya, nasabnya, ekonominya. Fadzfar bidzatiddin.

Di redaksi yg lain, ada yg nyebut nasab ada yg ditulis hasab. Nasab itu kan ttg silsilah keluarga, Hasab itu lebih ke karya besar dari keluarganya.

Krn itu mempengaruhi, potensi keluarga kita nanti.

Trs, kenapa nabi SAW mention soal harta? Its not about how much u have, how much u can earn, its about the capabality to take control of it. Engga pelit, ga boros, mampu manage. Mampu kalkulasi. Melek investasi.

Awalnya, kukira soal harta ini lebih ke how much we have to make a life becomes easier, tp ternyata lebih bahas soal capability.

Di atas semua itu. 4 hal tadi bukan jadi goals. Nikah bukan biar sama yg cantik, biar kaya.

4 hal itu jadi tools. Goalsnya? Ridha Allah.

Menarik juga, karena gue selama ini mikirnya bahwa 4 hal itu adalah benefit yang akan lo dapatkan setelah nikah, jd secara gak langsung itu jadi alasan dan tujuan pernikahan. It turns out ultimate goalnya adalah dapet Ridho Allah ya, bukan (hanya) nikmatin semua benefit itu.

Tambahnya lagi,

U can take it as benefit juga. Pasti lah. Itu filter jg biar imannya kejaga. Gamau jg kan dapet yg agamanya masalah, tujuan nikahnya malah ga sampe.

Tp kita yg beriman kan, apapun yg kita dapet. Mau benefit, atau defisit. Ga berhenti disitu.

Dapet nikmat kita syukur, dapet ujian kita sabar. Sabar, syukur itu jalan, tujuannya buat dapet ridha Allah.

Di nikah misalnya, kita dapetin dengan guidence yg benar, lewat jalur yg bener. Cara bersyukurnya kemudian, ya maksimalin potensi yg ada buat Allah. In many ways.

Yes, couldn't agree more.

[thedreadvampy]

sometimes I forget that my experience has been. um. not 'your experiences are not universal' vibes but more like 'your experiences are EXTREMELY atypical'

[paldogangsaan]

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the ending of the umbrella academy is frustrating on several levels but primarily bc it feels like the the showrunner was watching an entirely different show than the rest of us and this quote proves it. more under the cut bc the post is a bit long

the show wasn't about them being superheroes, it's literally a metaphor for childhood trauma and how it manifests in adulthood. reginald treated the umbrellas like weapons, never even gave them NAMES, and now they struggle to live as people with their own autonomy. the point was never that they were superheroes, that's quite literally the LEAST important part of the show! all their superheroes days are from when they were children!! the show focuses on the fallout of that!!! it's about how the umbrellas don't have coping mechanisms for what happened in their childhood and they keep ending the world because of their inability to work through their trauma. we've seen time and time again that they're borderline incapable of empathizing with each other, and they blame each other for coping 'wrong' and having different traumas despite having the same parent. and somehow the show ended with them being the problem bc they're inherently evil and their births are wrong rather than, you know, the person that abused them in the first place being the problem

like ?? reginald literally and metaphorically created the umbrellas. he released the marigold, he bought them from their birth parents, he raised them into his weapons. the way he treated them in their childhood/developmental years shaped them into who they are, and the world keeps ending because they blame each other rather than the real villain: the abuser. ending the show with them realizing this, thus breaking the cycle, and killing/erasing their abuser so he can't hurt them or anyone else makes much more sense thematically. if they erase him and he never releases the marigold, they still lose their powers and they technically never exist bc he doesn't create them. those versions of them we've seen for the past 3 seasons don't exist anymore bc they were never traumatized and raised to be soldiers by reginald. ending the show with the timeline restored and the umbrellas living different lives (bc they weren't only born from the marigold, they were also born from their mothers) would've still been the tragedy blackman wants. they're not siblings, they don't have powers, they're not superheroes, everything we saw them go through for 3 seasons technically doesn't matter bc it didn't happen to these versions of them, and they don't exist as famous public figures that'll be remembered for something grand. they're just regular people. this ending works because, again, they're not inherently evil. they don't need to atone for the crime of being born. the problem isn't that their very existence is wrong. the problem is that an egotistical fuckface decided to use them as accesories (he literally BOUGHT THEM from their parents) for his own gain and gave them the tools (powers and/or trauma) to cause harm. if reginald was, like, normal and not a piece of shit, he wouldn't have chosen to raise a bunch of children into weapons, traumatize them, and then release them into the world after years of denying them autonomy and barely even treating them as people and think hm this is fine. and by how the first season's flashbacks played out, it seemed like he never even planned to let them leave the academy, meaning he literally saw them as little soldiers that only existed for him. point is, if reginald hadn't intervened with their lives, if he had never existed, the world wouldn't have ended.

the ending message of the show as of right now doesn't come off as 'are u a superhero if no one knows you exist 🤓☝️' it comes off as 'you were born wrong. your birth destroyed everything and the world would be a safer place if you (the abused child raised to be a weapon by your fucking asshole of a parent) had never existed'. and what kind of a message is that.

[redo-rewind-if]

Sorry for the lack of snippets lately, I figured since it's so close to release that I wouldn't do anymore atm but... I couldn't resist sharing some of this scene lol.

[my-current-obsession]

I decided to post a tier list of my thoughts of all the routes in various otomes that I’ve played. I was inspired to do this because I just finished Norn9, and while I’ll admit that upon finishing the game I have SEVERAL issues with the story as a whole and a few routes in particular, I did love Akito and Heishi enough to add them to my favorite routes of all time, and I’ll definitely return to the game every now and then just to replay those two, if nothing else. Looking forward to the fandisc, too!

I’d be happy to talk about my feelings in depth for basically any otome or specific route, if you’re curious. My absolute favorites are Code: Realize, Collar x Malice, Taisho x Alice, and Even if Tempest.

[cybergothvox]

"Whats your timezone"

I mean I can tell you but if you think you can use that to figure out when I'm going to br awake let me dissuade you of that right now. Even I dont know when I'm going to be awake. I mean I can give you a prediction but it's like being a weather man, I can only guess for a few days out and I'm only 40% confident in my answer

[transarsonist]

[essektheylyss]

I have about 800 words left to write tonight but I am already at record daily stats for at least the past couple months and thank FUCK.

[starfiyah]

its crazy how having just a taste of research success can instantly improve my whole mood :) now i’m like should i go out tomorrow? should i get back in the dating scene?? should i buy flowers for every person on the street???

[lingeringscars]

Last week of classes, one final paper due Tuesday, one in person final next Thursday, and then 10 days in Scotland + a reflection papar and I am done with a full course load.

If you couldn't tell from the polls, I am trying to build a schedule for the summer as I continue on this PhD path. I still have a lot to do, but my week to week load will drop substantially in the coming months, so I should be able to actually Exist as a person.

[amazinglyegg]

Fawkes

Fawkes is an intelligent and well-spoken super mutant who was imprisoned by the other super mutants for being "an anomaly". He spent his time imprisoned studying history, literature, and science on a terminal in his cell before escaping.

Equipped with his gatling laser and a ripped vault suit

Strength 9, Endurance 8, Agility 5

Notes: Fawkes has a powerful weapon, his natural strength as a super mutant, and his hightened intelligence to his advantage. However he is potentially lacking first-hand combat experience and his large frame and lack of armor makes him a target.

Danse

Danse is a Brotherhood Paladin and the commanding officer of the Brotherhood of Steel unit "Recon Squad Gladius". He is a well-respected officer with a strong hatred for super mutants, ghouls, and synths.

Equipped with a laser rifle and a BOS uniform (no power armor)

Strength 5, Endurance 8, Agility 10

Notes: Danse has been trained by the Brotherhood of Steel and has first person experience fighting in harsh conditions, including combat against super mutants. However he is not wearing power armor and has a weaker weapon than Fawkes, leaving him vulnerable.

Location and time of the battle are not specified but do not impact either character in a notable way (ie, they are both equally knowledgable on their surroundings and neither are caught off guard at the time of the fight). They are not allowed to call for backup, use items other than their weapon and clothes, or flee to a secondary location. Talking through their problems and coming to a truce is an acceptable outcome, however this will be their first time interacting and they know no further information about each other than what is readily apparent.

[kiyomitakada]

i am going to scream (wip rambling in the tags)

[thxnks4themrms]

Version 1 expect I messed up 😭😭😭

[echidnana]

just watched alien romulus!!!! really loved it omg we were worried it would suck but we loved it

[zvaigzdelasas]

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[funeralprocessor]

I feel like a lot of my creative writing/worldbuilding projects result from me falling in love with the potential shitty things don't live up to/explore