#4 variable

[abidahsy]

Obrolan Warung Kopi - Episode 1

Semua dimulai dari pertanyaan ini:

Mana yg lbh menarik, cewek kaya atau cewek cantik?

Lalu dijawab: What if i say, cewe smart

Selanjutnya kita bahas tentang cewek yang smart apakah berpotensi mudah membelot?

Makna membelot di sini adalah cewek smart bukankah akan jadi lebih sulit diatur, terlalu banyak bertanya, dan paling buruk adalah bisa mudah selingkuh?

Perlu dipisahkan dulu konteksnya, kalau yang dimaksud membelot adalah yang seperti itu, berarti yang dibahas adalah soal pemahaman dan karakternya. Bukan soal smartnya.

Jadi, mau cewek itu smart atau engga, ya potensi membelot akan tetap ada.

Gue awalnya berpikir bahwa kalau cewek gak smart, potensinya lbh manut dan nurut, padahal blm tentu.

On the other hand, jd cewek smart tetap bisa berattitude baik juga kok. Jangan manfaatin ke- smart-annya buat ngelakuin hal hal membelot (karena dengan gitu, malah terkesan gak smart)

Well, berarti yang dicari: cewek solehah?

Jawabannya gini:

Ga cuma soal itu. Di konteks pasangan, guidence ya yg 4 variable itu. Agamanya, fisiknya, nasabnya, ekonominya. Fadzfar bidzatiddin.

Di redaksi yg lain, ada yg nyebut nasab ada yg ditulis hasab. Nasab itu kan ttg silsilah keluarga, Hasab itu lebih ke karya besar dari keluarganya.

Krn itu mempengaruhi, potensi keluarga kita nanti.

Trs, kenapa nabi SAW mention soal harta? Its not about how much u have, how much u can earn, its about the capabality to take control of it. Engga pelit, ga boros, mampu manage. Mampu kalkulasi. Melek investasi.

Awalnya, kukira soal harta ini lebih ke how much we have to make a life becomes easier, tp ternyata lebih bahas soal capability.

Di atas semua itu. 4 hal tadi bukan jadi goals. Nikah bukan biar sama yg cantik, biar kaya.

4 hal itu jadi tools. Goalsnya? Ridha Allah.

Menarik juga, karena gue selama ini mikirnya bahwa 4 hal itu adalah benefit yang akan lo dapatkan setelah nikah, jd secara gak langsung itu jadi alasan dan tujuan pernikahan. It turns out ultimate goalnya adalah dapet Ridho Allah ya, bukan (hanya) nikmatin semua benefit itu.

Tambahnya lagi,

U can take it as benefit juga. Pasti lah. Itu filter jg biar imannya kejaga. Gamau jg kan dapet yg agamanya masalah, tujuan nikahnya malah ga sampe.

Tp kita yg beriman kan, apapun yg kita dapet. Mau benefit, atau defisit. Ga berhenti disitu.

Dapet nikmat kita syukur, dapet ujian kita sabar. Sabar, syukur itu jalan, tujuannya buat dapet ridha Allah.

Di nikah misalnya, kita dapetin dengan guidence yg benar, lewat jalur yg bener. Cara bersyukurnya kemudian, ya maksimalin potensi yg ada buat Allah. In many ways.

Yes, couldn't agree more.

[onlymelonlyy]

the wise and the heart

[paldogangsaan]

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the ending of the umbrella academy is frustrating on several levels but primarily bc it feels like the the showrunner was watching an entirely different show than the rest of us and this quote proves it. more under the cut bc the post is a bit long

the show wasn't about them being superheroes, it's literally a metaphor for childhood trauma and how it manifests in adulthood. reginald treated the umbrellas like weapons, never even gave them NAMES, and now they struggle to live as people with their own autonomy. the point was never that they were superheroes, that's quite literally the LEAST important part of the show! all their superheroes days are from when they were children!! the show focuses on the fallout of that!!! it's about how the umbrellas don't have coping mechanisms for what happened in their childhood and they keep ending the world because of their inability to work through their trauma. we've seen time and time again that they're borderline incapable of empathizing with each other, and they blame each other for coping 'wrong' and having different traumas despite having the same parent. and somehow the show ended with them being the problem bc they're inherently evil and their births are wrong rather than, you know, the person that abused them in the first place being the problem

like ?? reginald literally and metaphorically created the umbrellas. he released the marigold, he bought them from their birth parents, he raised them into his weapons. the way he treated them in their childhood/developmental years shaped them into who they are, and the world keeps ending because they blame each other rather than the real villain: the abuser. ending the show with them realizing this, thus breaking the cycle, and killing/erasing their abuser so he can't hurt them or anyone else makes much more sense thematically. if they erase him and he never releases the marigold, they still lose their powers and they technically never exist bc he doesn't create them. those versions of them we've seen for the past 3 seasons don't exist anymore bc they were never traumatized and raised to be soldiers by reginald. ending the show with the timeline restored and the umbrellas living different lives (bc they weren't only born from the marigold, they were also born from their mothers) would've still been the tragedy blackman wants. they're not siblings, they don't have powers, they're not superheroes, everything we saw them go through for 3 seasons technically doesn't matter bc it didn't happen to these versions of them, and they don't exist as famous public figures that'll be remembered for something grand. they're just regular people. this ending works because, again, they're not inherently evil. they don't need to atone for the crime of being born. the problem isn't that their very existence is wrong. the problem is that an egotistical fuckface decided to use them as accesories (he literally BOUGHT THEM from their parents) for his own gain and gave them the tools (powers and/or trauma) to cause harm. if reginald was, like, normal and not a piece of shit, he wouldn't have chosen to raise a bunch of children into weapons, traumatize them, and then release them into the world after years of denying them autonomy and barely even treating them as people and think hm this is fine. and by how the first season's flashbacks played out, it seemed like he never even planned to let them leave the academy, meaning he literally saw them as little soldiers that only existed for him. point is, if reginald hadn't intervened with their lives, if he had never existed, the world wouldn't have ended.

the ending message of the show as of right now doesn't come off as 'are u a superhero if no one knows you exist 🤓☝️' it comes off as 'you were born wrong. your birth destroyed everything and the world would be a safer place if you (the abused child raised to be a weapon by your fucking asshole of a parent) had never existed'. and what kind of a message is that.

[redo-rewind-if]

Sorry for the lack of snippets lately, I figured since it's so close to release that I wouldn't do anymore atm but... I couldn't resist sharing some of this scene lol.

[my-current-obsession]

I decided to post a tier list of my thoughts of all the routes in various otomes that I’ve played. I was inspired to do this because I just finished Norn9, and while I’ll admit that upon finishing the game I have SEVERAL issues with the story as a whole and a few routes in particular, I did love Akito and Heishi enough to add them to my favorite routes of all time, and I’ll definitely return to the game every now and then just to replay those two, if nothing else. Looking forward to the fandisc, too!

I’d be happy to talk about my feelings in depth for basically any otome or specific route, if you’re curious. My absolute favorites are Code: Realize, Collar x Malice, Taisho x Alice, and Even if Tempest.

[boycritter]

i don’t like how i’ve been feeling. :(

[transarsonist]

[essektheylyss]

I have about 800 words left to write tonight but I am already at record daily stats for at least the past couple months and thank FUCK.

[starfiyah]

its crazy how having just a taste of research success can instantly improve my whole mood :) now i’m like should i go out tomorrow? should i get back in the dating scene?? should i buy flowers for every person on the street???

[dykethang]

i need to like. hire someone to explain jamovi to me. they keep telling us and i can easily navigate Basics (like. descriptives and factors and such for cronbach's alpha and plots and whatever) but jesus christ i do Not understand how to compute and transform my variables. why is coding required. why doesn't it just do it

[lingeringscars]

Last week of classes, one final paper due Tuesday, one in person final next Thursday, and then 10 days in Scotland + a reflection papar and I am done with a full course load.

If you couldn't tell from the polls, I am trying to build a schedule for the summer as I continue on this PhD path. I still have a lot to do, but my week to week load will drop substantially in the coming months, so I should be able to actually Exist as a person.

[amazinglyegg]

Fawkes

Fawkes is an intelligent and well-spoken super mutant who was imprisoned by the other super mutants for being "an anomaly". He spent his time imprisoned studying history, literature, and science on a terminal in his cell before escaping.

Equipped with his gatling laser and a ripped vault suit

Strength 9, Endurance 8, Agility 5

Notes: Fawkes has a powerful weapon, his natural strength as a super mutant, and his hightened intelligence to his advantage. However he is potentially lacking first-hand combat experience and his large frame and lack of armor makes him a target.

Danse

Danse is a Brotherhood Paladin and the commanding officer of the Brotherhood of Steel unit "Recon Squad Gladius". He is a well-respected officer with a strong hatred for super mutants, ghouls, and synths.

Equipped with a laser rifle and a BOS uniform (no power armor)

Strength 5, Endurance 8, Agility 10

Notes: Danse has been trained by the Brotherhood of Steel and has first person experience fighting in harsh conditions, including combat against super mutants. However he is not wearing power armor and has a weaker weapon than Fawkes, leaving him vulnerable.

Location and time of the battle are not specified but do not impact either character in a notable way (ie, they are both equally knowledgable on their surroundings and neither are caught off guard at the time of the fight). They are not allowed to call for backup, use items other than their weapon and clothes, or flee to a secondary location. Talking through their problems and coming to a truce is an acceptable outcome, however this will be their first time interacting and they know no further information about each other than what is readily apparent.

[kiyomitakada]

i am going to scream (wip rambling in the tags)

[lesser-mook]

Elizabeth Comstock

I hold this character in very high regard.

The way the story smoothly transitioned her into central character focus, after making her retrieval the actual goal/game objective of the first act of the story, then a carefree NPC, then things got more interesting, she started showing more sides to her than just "uwu waifu mode". She was dynamic. Very slick.

She's a better developed Eleanor, tho Eleanor was also a cool character who pulled strings too.

Actually, deadass?

A lot of the Bioshock ladies one way or another was (co-/independently) lowkey running shit or making moves.

Sofia Lamb, Bridget Tenebaum

Julie Langford, R.Lutece

Eleanor Lamb, Daisy "mfing" Fitzroy

Fuck that "girlboss" shit.

These ladies were beyond that, they were professionals, experts in their individual fields. From Biology, Quantum Physics, to social psychology, to just knowing how to lead.

They were qualified, not strong FEMALE characters, just solid CHARACTERS. Without the derivative labels. Love that shit when it’s done right.

And some of em are npc's, not even that deep, most prolly forgot some were in the game, but they were cool.

Usually you got characters just doing shit perfect nowadays because they:

Believed in themselves

Or somebody told them how special they were all along

Vs these Bioshock characters have ***credentials***, Hollywood needed more of that energy in the writers room. Still do.

In a poetic sense, Elizabeth, with all that power+knowledge, was like the accumulation of all of those characters before & technically after her, for both better and for worse.

Cause she, our dear Elizabeth, did some questionable shit to get what she wanted sometimes.

Just like Daisy has no stranger to bloodshed, nor Sofia. They're flawed, that's why they're believable. They're not perfect little angles who represent some feminist overtone, while they guys look like idiots.

Everyone, one way or another, has issues. Welcome to BIOSHOCK, enjoy your stay.

Thus, the beginning and end of Bioshock, Anna Dewitt. (Hopefully Bioshock 4 doesn't fuck up what was &/is still a open and shut & done /complete story.)

This character is pretty decent.

It's a crime she's not more appreciated on "female character" game lists. Likely too much good writing and not enough midriff, fanservice, waifu mode, D.I.D, & skintight clothes for the peons to project onto.

Infinite didn't vibe with me at first, I actually did NOT like it when finished (Still have my complaints, entirely with the enemy designs & lack of boss diversity) but "Burial At Sea" was just a trigger moment where I really looked back at what I just played & how overqualified Elizabeth is but still grounded:

Full circle, I'm a sucker for well executed time loops (because it's quantum shenanigans Bioshock 1-3 technically isn't a paradox) or perpetual cycles that don't make me roll my eyes.

Probably played BAS: Part 2 more times than I did the first game.

And as of 2025, I have played both Infinite & BAS combined more than the first 2 games and technically the 2nd game is my favorite, protector trials and everything.

And while Bioshock Infinite is not a better game than Bioshock 2, Bioshock 2 is not packing the story that Bioshock Infinite has, Bioshock 2 doesn't have Elizabeth, the quantum lore, the twins, the parallels.

Technically you playing the games over and over again is a canon event in the story itself in meta.

The difference between a girl and woman is "blood", jfc RIP to the homegirl, she was about that life to the end. Won't spoil who died tho, if you know, then you know. Play the game.

Since Levine (original Bioshock writer) is NOT on the project of the 4th game (And for a very understandable, even respectable reason to boot) but for some reason the 4th is being made anyway, this is screaming studio mandate than it is an organic "necessity" for the story.

Which is just MATRIX4-GREED all over again: Sure the first 3 was a complete story, but WHAT IF? We made a 4th one for no fucking reason at all?

It's a complete story, not sure where they want to take it beyond that.

All they gotta do is just fit it in after Bioshock 2 chronologically & follow Eleanor maybe or something, or what the heck is Jack up to?

Both are questions we actually don't need answers to tbh, but I sincerely hope Bioshock 4 doesn't fuck up the loop or the point of the original games frfr.

[echidnana]

just watched alien romulus!!!! really loved it omg we were worried it would suck but we loved it

[funeralprocessor]

I feel like a lot of my creative writing/worldbuilding projects result from me falling in love with the potential shitty things don't live up to/explore