#🐾┆HammerHelp

[hammersys]

✦　˚ A list of Grounding Techniques and more!

The STOPP method ―

S - Stop; Just pause for a moment

T - Take a breath; Notice as you breathe in and out slowly. Try the box/triangle method.

O - Observe; What thoughts are going through your head? What are you feeling?

P - Pull back; Put things in perspective. What's the big picture? What are the facts?

P - Proceed; Think about what you're going to do next carefully. Do what is effective.

The NOW method ―

Notice your focus of attention. What are you thinking about? What's on your mind?

2. Observe yourself and tell yourself what you're doing. Examples;

I am sitting

I am looking

I am watching

3. Wise mind: Where should I focus on now?

The balloon method ―

Sit comfortably, with your eyes close and your spine straight. Bring your attention to your breathing.

Imagine that you have a balloon in your tummy. Everytime you breathe in, the balloon inflates. Everytime you breathe out, the balloon deflates.

Think about what you feel; Your stomach rising up and down, the sound of your breaths.

Thought or worries may come out, and that's okay. Don't judge yourself for having them. When they do, acknowledge them, let them drift by, and turn your attention back to the balloon. You can also notice things; Sounds, smells, etc. Again, bring your attention back to your breathing. You don't have to do anything with your thoughts.

Instead of a balloon, you can imagine other things; A flower blowing in the wind, or a dragon's wings flapping in the air- Anything that can help you focus. If the balloon method doesn't work, make it the flower or dragon method! Personalise it to what helps you.

Affirmations ―

I'm safe.

I am not in danger right now.

This is temprary.

This will pass.

Feelings and thoughts come and go.

I will be okay.

It will be okay.

I am strong.

It doesn't feel okay, but it is.

I am enough.

Other Information/Help ―

Accept your situation:

Do not talk down to yourself! You are not unreasonable or dramatic, and there is nothing you should be ashamed of. You are allowed to feel (intense) emotions and you are allowed to show them. Don't always stuff your feelings away or tell yourself that you can't feel them, you don't have to have certain emotions in certain situations! You are feeling these emotions, and that's what we need to continue.

Make a safe space:

To prevent further triggers, start to make a safe space for yourself. In case you are in a location that has triggered something, leave and go to a safe place. Make it as comfortable as possible.

Think about each of your senses:

Sound - Is it a busy road, or is it too quiet? Do you need earphones and/or earplugs? Do you want to turn up music, or ambience sounds?

Sight - Is the room dark, or is it light? Do you want all of the lights on, or do you want to be in a dark room? Would you rather have a little light (nightlight, LEDs)?

Touch - Would you like to touch something, such as a stim toy or stress toy? Would you like to be touched (A weighted blanket, or a hug)? Do you need to change into soft clothing, would you like a soft blanket to stay warm? Would you like sensory such as water?

Smell - Would you like a scented candle, or maybe a scented plushie? Maybe you would like to make some food, or you'd like to smell something that calms you down.

Taste - Would you like to have something to chew on? Would you like to have some gum to chew or something to drink? What kinds of foods/drinks do you like the taste of?

Address the trigger (if necessary/Optional)

Once you have calmed down, review what has happened; What was the trigger? Was it a situation, a place, a smell, or a thought?

Analyzing or reviewing isn't necessary! If you feel you've already calmed down, there's no obligation to do this.

Ask yourself questions about the trigger. Some questions could be:

What are your worries about the trigger?

How do you feel after the trigger? (Your emotion, state of body, etc).

Did you feel any physical/mental reactions to your trigger?

What would you like to change? Is there anything to work on?

Reward yourself!

Remain positive! This moment was rough, but you've managed to get through- Reward yourself! Get something nice to eat, treat yourself to a nice relaxing movie/gaming night- Or buy yourself hobby-related things!

Listed below will be some breathing gifs you can use;

BEFORE YOU COMMENT:

Everybody can use my resources, but keep discourse/syscourse out of our comments. Our anti-endo tag exists for personal interaction. Asks are anti-endo, etc, but as I've said, resources are for all.

[hammersys]

"I thought we were all supposed to have a fresh start here. I can't change the past."

✦　˚ Welcome to my blog!

My name is Rody/Bigby, but I also go by Jayce. I use all pronouns, and I'm genderfluid/Bisexual. I'm very fond of writing and frequently do this in my free time- So, I've decided to make a blog where I post stuff related to it! On top of that, I'm aiming to be a safe space for systems, otherkins, ageres, and more.

✦ What's this blog about?

Fanfics—I will write fics about characters, plots, and more when requested (as long as these abide by the rules)! These fics can be simple one-part or multiple-parts, depending on the request.

Safe space—I will post resource lists, mention safe/informational accounts, and more on this blog! I will also be open for asks, vents (as long as they abide by the rules), etc.

Tips/Help—I will post tips about how to deal with mental and/or physical problems; Breathing exercises, handy apps, manuals, schedules, etc! You can always send me requests for help and/or explanations.

Socializing/Making friends—I wish to make more friends on Tumblr, so please come and say hi!

✦ Rules:

No NSFW fics: This blog will be strictly sfw, and I won't post anything NSFW-related.

No callout asks on my blog: Drama, syscourse and more are not allowed on this blog and will be ignored/deleted when noticed.

If I don't know the media, my fics can be inaccurate: There are sooo many types of media all over Tumblr, and it's impossible to know them all! Of course I will try to get familiar with a piece of media before writing about it, but don't expect a perfectly cooked fic about a media I've just found out about.

Don't just ask for 'pt.2s': When writing, I don't always plan on extra parts- If I do, an indicator will be at the bottom of the fic. If there's no indicator, that means there's no reason for you to ask about a part 2.

I am allowed to deny questions/requests/asks: Everybody has boundaries, me included. If I don't want to do something, I won't.

Telling me about your situation is fine, but don't make it too personal: If you are struggling, I understand talking to somebody can be nice. But, I am not a trained professional, nor will I allow myself to get completely involved in someone's stuff. Talk to a professional instead of me.

Be kind: This blog is a safe space, please contribute to making it feel like one! Hate, call-outs, etc, will not be tolerated.

I am a multi-shipper: I'm okay with a lot of ships, but not all. Things such as incest, selfcest, and proship are not allowed. I am allowed to refuse to write about ships.

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