#| Out of Courage

[the-sycophant]

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[canisalbus]

✦ Coffee Shop AU ✦

[acepalindrome]

Much like Welcome to Nightvale, I feel like a lot of people have forgotten just how big and influential Yuri on Ice was. It fully broke into the mainstream. It was everywhere. Evgenia Medvedeva, the top female figure skater in 2016 and 2017, had YOI plushies thrown to her on the ice and wore a Victuuri tshirt to an interview. Japanese pair skaters Miu Suzaki and Ryuichi Kihara skated to the YOI theme at the fucking Pyeongchang 2018 Olympics. The Olympics. Canadian ice dancer Joseph Johnson did the ‘J.J. Style’ hand symbol in the kiss and cry. Johnny Weir made me cry by talking about how he wished the homophobic world of figure skating he experienced could have been more like the kinder world of Yuri on Ice.

There were cameos and references to it everywhere. Everyone was talking about it. People who had never watched anime were watching it. It was so big it crashed Crunchyroll and Tumblr. Twice. And all that for what was at its core, a queer love story that helped pave the way for more queer stories to come.

[king-k-ripple]

[francesderwent]

Taylor Swift really wrote an album with the thesis “a man who tells you he loves you and lives together with you in a committed relationship for six years but never ever proposes is essentially the same as a man who tells you he loves you to get you into bed and then ghosts you a couple weeks later”

[guardian-of-soho]

Aziraphale is a guardian.

We left him at the end of s1 with the knowledge that apocalypse was still coming. He'd saved the world for that day, but Heaven was still bent on destroying it. The ones with the power to burn everything were still inescapably loveless. It really looked like he and Crowley alone of all the Earth-walking beings would fight for the world.

And he loves the world so much. The opening scenes of him in the record shop, buying his Shostakovich 78s? The warmth toward Maggie and her music and her heart? The generosity, and the delight in the shared understanding, and the pleasure in the discovery that he could make her life better? That he could spare her pain, give her a little more time with her joys? He knows how fragile those are.

He wants to give that to the whole world.

He wants to believe he can lift the doom hanging over them all, banish it permanently. He is desperate to believe it. Even if he wasn't longing so fervently to be seen, approved, affirmed by God's word (I was so undone by his jealousy as he watched Job speak to her) -- even without that I can't imagine him not wavering at Heaven's offer, faced with the chance that he could use all Heaven's might to guard the world again and get it right this time.

And then he's offered that power with apparent warmth, and feigned approval, and the shameless claim that at last they understand. They hear what he's been trying desperately to tell them as long as he's lived in the world. They're telling him that he's finally made his point -- that they are proud he's tried so hard for so long.

So -- the ending is shattering. It is maddening. It's utterly unfair on Crowley. And I didn't see it coming, and yet.

Aziraphale is a guardian. He really will have to see for himself that power won't love what's good; there is no way to make the world safe forever.

[sprinklehere]

"I LOVE PURPLE CHARACTERS" - Me, whose favorite color is pink.

I FORGOT TO SAY THIS BUT: DO NOT SPAM IN THE REPLIES AND REBLOGS "wHeRe'S _____????" "YoU fOrGoT ______!!1!1!1!1!" I FIND IT EXTREMELY ANNOYING AND I DON'T WANT TO DEAL WITH THOSE KINDS OF REPLIES, THANK YOU.

[systarkitty]

hapy 2014 tumblr!!!!!! ^_^_^_^_^

[puppyeared]

Alex and my farmer Cosmo (he/him)

[the-sycophant]

Getting to Know You

Roleplayer Name Behold! I am the mighty & powerful Yurim Kiel. Yurim is fine. Marlowe is...okay, I will respond to it.

Pronouns She/Her

Muse Ñ̴̨̘̮̥͖͍͆͒̄a̷̡͓̩̣̮̤̥̮͑̊̊̉m̶̢̺̺̯̬̆̂͑̐͜e̸̺͉̠̮͖͉̪̾̌͝ Miss Marlowe Morning, divine servant of Menphina and holy Companion, blessing upon the world and those that walk it. Marlowe is...okay, she'll respond to it.

Preferred Communication n/a? I tend to be a bit more quiet/reserved at first, definitely introverted, but my DMs/discord are always open, in-game too if you're able to catch me between my sweet sweet pvp

Experience I have been roleplaying for quite a bit of time, but for FFXIV only about a year or so. Would like more practice in-game, for sure.

Preferred Roleplay Type I don't know what this means, 'type', but I am fine with discord, docs, or in-game, w/e. Like most things, it depends on my writing partners & what they want as I can be pretty flexible. Same goes for themes or vibes, I'm open to discussion & plotting as much as I am just going with the flow.

Pet Peeves & Dealbreakers I'm very easygoing as long as you treat me like I'm a person (which I definitely am a human person). Mostly just respect my time. Dealbreakers...idk man.

Plots or Memes Anything. Plots, memes, pvp, me just dropping things in your inbox that makes me think of your ocs without saying anything else, ya know

Long Replies or Short Replies No preference. Can do novella style or short form, whatever fits the situation/RP partner. You want to feel nice it is to finally have your fingers loose, all tired from wielding the blade all those years? How the length of wheat catches on the callouses of your command, sweat beading on your skin from the warmth of the sun as you're walking towards your wife and child, great! If you want a few sentences, awesome. Just give me something to work with, please, and I will do the same for you...don't make me shoulder the entire RP, I'm not strong enough, nor skilled enough. Maybe consistent one word or one sentence replies are a dealbreaker...hmmm...

Best Time to Write I mean whenever I have the energy, I guess :v but I do fancy a bit of writing before bed. I find it very relaxing. For regular RP...I am PST & sometimes I've got folks lined up & scheduled during the week, but... just ask I guess? What's the worse that'll happen?

Are You Like Your Muses? In some ways. In some ways not. (: -----------------------------------------------------

Tagged by (TY!!) || @musesofawolf Tagging || No one! That's right, I don't want to know any of y'all!

[raycatzdraws]

A Linked Universe meets The Dark Crystal AU! I don't even remember what started it at this point. I remembered that the Dark Crystal and Age of Resistance are things I like, blinked, and woke up three days later with an AU and a bunch of art.

The designs and the story are a wip and for fun so expect a lot of variation! (I have a few different beginnings, ideas for different designs, etc)! :D

In addition to #linked universe I'll be using the tags #the dark crystal lu au and #courage of the dark crystal!

[myststone]

Primordial

Wisdom

Courage

and Power

[pucksandpower]

Happy belated Pride Month to Ralf Schumacher ❤️

[wolfram-but-art]

this has been done before but i'm acutally obsessed with him so i won't apologise

reblogs > likes :P

reference photo i used

there's also a version of my drawing without the goggles but i didn't like it, i could post it if anyone wants to see it tho

[merakiui]

a silly shoujo concept with jade where he picks up your notebook after you've left it in class. resourceful eel that he is, he flips through the pages out of curiosity. he's certain he'll just find your notes or doodles you've made out of boredom, but it never hurts to pry just a little. he won't tell a soul if he finds anything embarrassing. certainly not!

to his surprise, he finds a bucket list of sorts, which details all of the things you hope to accomplish by the end of your time at nrc. you're quite methodical about this list. there are academic goals. personal goals. social goals. you've checked some of them off: do well on this year's midterm. commit to an exercise routine. make more friends. etc. etc.

but then he happens upon the romantic goals. things like holding hands, kissing, cuddling, going on dates, sharing meals... he reads through every item on this specific list and finds himself blushing like a lovestruck maiden. it's not because of the nature of this list but, rather, the notes you've made in the margin: possible people to try this with: jade leech?

and his name is the only one you've written! :O is this...an indirect love confession? do you have feelings for him? is now a good time to hopefully try to kindle a deeper bond with you after he's spent so much time pining from the sidelines??????

tl;dr - jade wants to be the one to complete the goals on your romance list, but you're too prideful (and suspicious of him) to admit you'd ever think of him in such a light! that's too embarrassing! too much opportunity to be exploited. and jade's a bit of a shameless coward.

so he decides there's only one solution: he's going to try to court you. the mer way. the human way would be much too obvious, after all. ^^;;;;