#;;Bias lists

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

[kijeu]

HAN JISUNG ⟡ 221009 sbs inkigayo - case 143

[hongjoongpresent]

My scared boy 🥺

[artianaiolanthe]

Tagged by @retiredficwriter

Rules: Make a poll with five of your all-time favorite characters and then tag five people to do the same. See which character is everyone's favorite!

This one is gonna be hard ^^;;

"Is it the Characters or the version of them that live in your head" Yes next question

Runners up that I scrapped for the sake of 5 total include Cheryl Mason, Hazel Levesque, Festivia Butterfly, and Priya Sravasti. If I had one more I could just post this twice lol

Tagging @bitegore @ziracona @tandoori-frost aaaand. Idk whoever else would like to, only if you want

[hobiskneecap]

Stray Kids Fic Recs

(I tried to only tag authors once cuz I didn’t want to fill up your notifs 🥲💕)

Ot8

Fluff

reaction said/scenarios/headcanons

“Asking for a pillow to cuddle with when you stay over as a prank” - @ppiri-bahng

“I just wanna be yours” - @tzuyusluv

s: where they kiss you

“soft moments with skz at 3am” - @cosmic-railwayxo

“injured and don’t tell them” - @dreamescapeswriting

“playing with skz’s hair” - @sunboki

“soft moments with them” - @blue-jisungs

“skz habits that shine through when they get comfy with you” - @maxidentscene

“sitting in skz lap” - @chocotonez

Smut

reactions/scenarios/headcanons

“stray kids’ secret dirty fantasies” - @multifandomfantasies

“fingering headcanons” - @cookiewrites

“phone sex/sexting headcanons” - @ cookiewrites

“fluffy and smutty Christmas headcanons” - @binniesbobastay

Hyung Line

Fluff

Angst/Hurt

“they call you clingy” - @yangfleurs

okay this hurt my feelings :’)

Smut

“favorite positions” - @chrswolfie

Bangchan

Fluff

4:59 am - @thevampywolf

“02:39 pm” - @jjuniehao

Angst/Hurt

being soft after an argument - @eoieopda

Smut

“you’re all I need” - @lesblino

“[23:53]” - @changlix-mp4

“chan’s rooms” - @idyllicallycharming

“proud” - @moved-to-webcorelino

“[2:36]” - @tasteleeknow

Leeknow

Fluff

Fics

“sweet tooth” - @lino-nyangi

cat dad Lino - @gimmeurtmi

Angst/Hurt

“the silent lover” - @jinnify

Smut

Fics

“pussy cat”- @ lino-nyangi

“minho’s baking class” - @strayngesparkyds

“angels in bodycons” - @charmercharm3r

“strawberries” + Han - @ tasteleeknow

“zipper” - @ tasteleeknow

“bite me.” - @tasteracha

“observe” + Jeongin - @sereneseulgi

reactions/scenarios/headcanons

“aftercare with minho” - @ tasteracha

him controlling a vibrator while you watch a movie - @ lino-nyangi

overwhelmed with softdom!minho - @ lino-nyangi

“showers during a thunderstorm” - @stayboba

Changbin

Fluff

fics

reactions/scenarios/headcanons

“boyfriend headcanons” - @mazeinthemiroh

Smut

Fics

“🏷️ dom!changbin” - @planet-dusk

reactions/scenarios/headcanons

“Changbin discovering he has a manhandling and size kink” - @fluffylino

Hyunjin

Fluff

Smut

“SATURN.” - @seospicybin

(this also has fluff and sad stuff in it, but it’s so beautifully written pls read this)

“PLUTO” - @ seospicybin

(SO SO SO SO GOOD!! 2 parts plus an epilogue and it made me cry.)

“messy” - @bitsauur

“pretty when you beg” - @hyuninlixr

Han

Fluff

“mattress testing” - @ blue-jisungs

Smut

“oral - squirting” - @ planet-dusk

“strawberries” + Leeknow - @ tasteleeknow

Felix

Fluff

Fics

reactions/scenarios/headcanons

smau/texts

“Boyfriend Texts” - @starrgaziinggg

Smut

“Strawberry Milk” - @bangchanswolfpelt

first time - @sluttywonwoo

“quiet lovemaking” - @lixiesol

dry humping w/ sub!Felix - @ tasteleeknow

“doll” - @chvnssecret

Seungmin

Fluff

“sleepy seungmin” - @rachalixie

Smut

“saving up” - @mp3chan

(fluffy too even though it’s under smut :’)

Jeongin

Fluff

fics

smau/texts

“boyfriend texts” pt. 2 - @ starrgaziinggg

Angst/Hurt

“not worthy enough” - @hyunverse

Smut

exhibitionism - @ charmercharm3r

“observe” + Leeknow - @ sereneseulgi

[pandemic-info]

Reposting via a redditor; re:

Is there a sound argument for why people aren’t taking this seriously?

Why do they think that way? https://essaysyoudidntwanttoread.home.blog/2022/10/09/why-do-they-think-that/? 7 psychological defense mechanisms used to downplay covid https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1737582325779624059.html? How to hide a pandemic https://howtohideapandemic.substack.com/p/how-to-hide-a-pandemic Cognitive Dissonance & Ableism https://www.tiktok.com/@fka.monstersincooperated/video/7360285749574421802 Anti-social punishment https://www.tiktok.com/@creative.neurospice/video/7269910082769653038 NYT: Why People Fail to Notice Horrors Around Them (helplessness & habituation) https://archive.is/wVL85 [article about the ongoing right to avoid infection. ... how people just can't really face reality due to death anxiety] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/side-effects/202309/how-to-socialize-during-a-pandemic Increased risk-taking behavior during the COVID-19 pandemic: psychological underpinnings and implications https://www.scielo.br/j/rbp/a/TPpQKTwfqTH5Q8qKghRkWpf/?format=pdf&lang=en Cognitive Biases https://www.instagram.com/p/C8TdduJMtKH/ We’ve Hit Peak Denial. Here’s Why We Can’t Turn Away From Reality https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/weve-hit-peak-denial-heres-why-we-cant-turn-away-from-reality/ Difficulties in Understanding Population Risk versus Individual Risk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2X_HRfJpio&list=LLkcwJR5kj80dAQNAT83d1NQ&t=2522s

See also:

Normalcy bias

Semmelweis reflex

Just-world fallacy

Survivorship bias

Compassion fatigue

Sunk cost fallacy

Learned helplessness

Informational social influence

Ableism

Nihilism

[7nsomnia]

favorite hairstyle/color per member 💇‍♀️ for anon

[filthyguts]

I 🖤 malefailures

[seungkwan-s]

he has the key to my heart 🔑❤️

[kyeomies]

[babbymochiiii]

⊹₊ ⋆ᯓ★ 𝐒𝐓𝐑𝐄𝐄𝐓 𝐑𝐀𝐂𝐄𝐑! 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐊 𝐋𝐄𝐄 𝐌.𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓

ᯓ★ welcome to the official street racer! mark lee m.list! here you will find all the works that correspond with this au series! little ramble posts regarding the series

ᯓ★ tags will be mentioned in each post! (if you wish to join, don't be afraid to comment on this post!)

ᯓ★ please do not copy, edit, or plagiarize my works!

ᯓ★ all posts are in chronological order!

✩ˊ˗ Temporary Flag Girl: part 1 (comedy, 1.6k words)

✩ˊ˗ Back Again: part 2 (comedy, 1.2k words)

✩ˊ˗ Street Racer! Mark Lee: part 3 (nsfw, angst, etc. 7.4k words)

✩ˊ˗ Part 4 (tba)

[magpie-lu-aside]

What are some songs that you guys associate with the chain/specific LU characters? I want to expand mine (cuz it's mostly Four and Time) for when I write fics, but I'm also just genuinely curious.....

[dollopheadedmerlin]

For Science

[hongjoongpresent]

Somin in every performance video - ring the alarm

[emyn-arnens]

I've put together a list of some new and old favorites of mine for @genworkjune. Please leave a kudo and comment if you enjoy these!

A Crown of Bones by @thescrapwitch (G, Celegorm & his brothers, Celegorm & Aredhel, 4.2k):

Maitimo and Makalaurë have been lost in the disastrous parlay with Morgoth, and the crown now falls to Tyelkormo. He is greedy and selfish and brash, everything that a Noldor king should not be. Many expect that he will not be up to the task. They are wrong.

A Missive in all Goodwill by @actual-bill-potts (G, Finrod & Galadriel, Finrod & Beren, Finrod & Thingol, 3.3k):

From beloved to bereft: a chronicle of Finrod Felagund's last days as the King of Nargothrond.

Clearer than Clear Water by StarSpray (G, Goldberry, 2.2k):

The world begins with starlight and clear water. The River-daughter opens her eyes to see the stars as shimmering streaks blurring together. It is such a delightful sight that she reaches for them, and gasps when her hand breaks out of the water into cool air. The River-daughter, from her awakening to the sun's first rising.

Hearth Fire by @dreamingthroughthenoise (G, Fëanor & Findis, 1.5k):

They will have a home to return to. Findis and Feanor speak before the Flight of the Noldor and share in their grief the best they can.

The Last Queen of Númenor by NevillesGran (G, Tar-Míriel & Eärendil, 2.1k, major character death):

The Mariner's Star hung low as Tar-Miriel walked out of Armenelos, lower and brighter than she had ever seen it. This was right: it was an omen of the death of kings. Miriel would meet her death on the Holy Mountain, Meneltarma. That was the last decision remaining to her. She was almost too tired to enjoy it, but she had made it nonetheless.

Mercy by @cuarthol (T, Celegorm & Finrod, 3k):

Celegorm has many lessons to teach, not all of them expected or wanted. Finrod has learned the lesson, but perhaps not the one Celegorm thought he was teaching.

More, More, More by @sallysavestheday (G, Aredhel & Fëanor, ~600 words):

Fëanor tolerates most of his brothers' children. Aredhel, however, he enjoys.

Mother Wolf by @hobbitwrangler (T, Aredhel, Eöl, and Maeglin, 2.1k, graphic depictions of violence):

Aredhel breaks free.

Phantasm by ncfan (G, Aredhel & Maeglin, 1k):

Her child never cries, and he always seems to know when she's coming.

plundered her and stripped what remained by @swanmaids (M, Aerin & OFC, 2.2k, rape/non-con):

When Brodda and his men took Aerin’s hall, they enslaved all of her household and Brodda took Aerin to wife. The morning before the wedding, Aerin’s handmaiden dresses her in her bridal garments.

The Spinner by @searchingforserendipity25 (G, Galadriel, Earwen, Finarfin, and Míriel, 1k):

Nerwen was very young, when first she asked her father to teach her how to work the spinning wheel.

Things Yet to Be by @polutrope (G, Finrod & Turgon, 1.4k):

Young Finrod reflects on memory, foresight, and storytelling as he recounts the experience of a vision he had as an infant.

Threads by @slightnettles (G, Finduilas & Edhellos & OFC, 1k):

A ficlet on foresight & Finduilas.

Thus our hearts burn, oh brother mine by @melestasflight @runawaymun (G, Fëanor & Fingolfin, 1k):

Remember no grievance, as if we were not made to grieve one another, to wound each other as no one else could. For I knew you as deeply as I knew my own self. And could anyone else hurt us better than we hurt ourselves? - Fëanor and Fingolfin reunite in Arda Healed.

your veins are empty of dust by @echo-bleu (G, Nerdanel & her sons, Nerdanel & Anairë, 1.7k):

Anairë finds her late one day in her workshop, surrounded by slabs of stone larger than her. Nerdanel is hammering forcefully at one of them, the barest hints of an elven shape already taking form in the marble. Bitter, stinging tears run down her cheeks and into her collar, and her arms ache with exhaustion. The body is only barely sketched, but the face is already chiselled, smooth curves and angular cheekbones. Fëanáro emerges out of the marble, looking like he’s about to take life. (Across the sea, her sons lead a funeral.)

[smilesflower]

such a heartthrob...